Ever wonder why you keep having the same fights about money, the kids, or even just feeling ignored? My guest, marriage therapist and Christian wives coach Beatriz Vargas says there are five core questions behind every argument in marriage.
Borrowing from renowned attachment-theory expert Sue Johnson's model, these questions can transform even the most hopeless-feeling, disconnected relationships. Beatriz explains how knowing these questions beforehand is a game-changer, and she also shares her powerful personal story of walking through marital struggle, separation, and ultimately, restoration.
Beatriz and I break down how every marital conflict, big or small, boils down to one of five foundational questions every spouse is asking—often without even realizing it.
We’re talking:
Why feeling valued, needed, and cherished is non-negotiable for a healthy marriage
How to recognize and break free from the “roommate syndrome” so many couples fall into
The role of prayer and honest self-reflection when things seem hopeless
How over-spiritualizing can sometimes get us stuck—and what healthy vulnerability looks like instead
Practical ways to talk through arguments and change the narrative in your relationship
Whether you’re the wife who feels like she’s carrying it all, or the spouse worried that you’re growing further apart, this conversation is for you. Beatriz Vargas even shares exactly where you can download the five core questions to bring these breakthrough conversations to your own marriage.
If you’re ready for real talk with real hope for rebuilding trust, connection, and love—even when it feels impossible—press play now!
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Download the Five Core Questions for Every Marriage: thegracefueledwife.com/questions
Connect with Beatriz Vargas on all platforms at The Grace Fueled Wife
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