Forget Compatibility! Great Relationships Require Intentionality - with Dr. Joli Hamilton - Part 2


Everyone wants to find someone they’re compatible with, but what if we’re looking at this the wrong way?  Dr. Joli Hamilton is our guest for part two of this conversation. Do opposites really attract? Is it true that we create our compatibility? And if so, how does intentionality play a role? The truth is, we are different. And when you decide that being different is not only okay but preferred, you’ll unlock another dimension in your relationship.



You can’t force your partner to be the same as you. Love is about flourishing and growing and being who you were meant to be. Sadly, Dr. Hamilton reminds us, that often the things you wish you could project on your partner or spouse are the things you wish you could own about your own life. That is a deep revelation! What have you been disowning about yourself that you need to reclaim? Own it. Don’t ask your partner to take on these things.


High Functioning Couples


Joli and I also discussed the roles in high functioning couples. Often, power struggles occur because of a lack of intentionality in conversations and structure. “Some people think relationships should be really easy or really hard, and these two people are usually married to each other,” says Dr. Hamilton. That’s going on Instagram today!


Have a Vision for Your Marriage/Relationship


The Bible says, “Where there is no vision, the people cast off restraint” (Proverbs 29:18). Having a vision (or purpose statement, as Joli calls it), is vital to a healthy relationship. Without knowing where you’re headed, you’re bound to run around in circles, get frustrated, and ultimately “cast off restraint.” Another way to say this is that you’ll lose the fight for your relationship. You might stay together, but you’ll be distant at best. So, create a purpose or vision statement today.



At the end of the day, when you’re ready to up-level your relationship, all it takes is deciding. “Love is a learnable skillset,” Joli says. Stop groping around in the dark and decide to create compatibility by intentionality.



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Links Mentioned in this Episode

Get real with The Curiosity Date
Get Joli’s book: Project Relationship: The Entrepreneurs Action Plan for Passionate, Sustainable Love

Join the Real Relationship Talk / Christian Marriages & Relationships Facebook Community!







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Forget Compatibility! Great Relationships Require Intentionality - with Dr. Joli Hamilton - Part 2
Everyone wants to find someone they’re compatible with, but what if we’re looking at this the wrong way?  Dr. Joli Hamilton is our guest for part two of this conversation. Do opposites really attract? Is it true that we create our compatibility? And if so, how does intentionality play a role? The truth is, we are different. And when you decide that being different is not only okay but preferred, you’ll unlock another dimension in your relationship.
 
You can’t force your partner to be the same as you. Love is about flourishing and growing and being who you were meant to be. Sadly, Dr. Hamilton reminds us, that often the things you wish you could project on your partner or spouse are the things you wish you could own about your own life. That is a deep revelation! What have you been disowning about yourself that you need to reclaim? Own it. Don’t ask your partner to take on these things.
 
High Functioning Couples
Joli and I also discussed the roles in high functioning couples. Often, power struggles occur because of a lack of intentionality in conversations and structure. “Some people think relationships should be really easy or really hard, and these two people are usually married to each other,” says Dr. Hamilton. That’s going on Instagram today!
 
Have a Vision for Your Marriage/Relationship
The Bible says, “Where there is no vision, the people cast off restraint” (Proverbs 29:18). Having a vision (or purpose statement, as Joli calls it), is vital to a healthy relationship. Without knowing where you’re headed, you’re bound to run around in circles, get frustrated, and ultimately “cast off restraint.” Another way to say this is that you’ll lose the fight for your relationship. You might stay together, but you’ll be distant at best. So, create a purpose or vision statement today.
 
At the end of the day, when you’re ready to up-level your relationship, all it takes is deciding. “Love is a learnable skillset,” Joli says. Stop groping around in the dark and decide to create compatibility by intentionality.
 
Be sure to listen to the full episode by clicking the episode link.
 
 
Links Mentioned in this Episode
<ul><li><a href='http://jolihamilton.com/'>Get real with The Curiosity Date</a></li>
</ul>
<ul><li><a href='https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08KVMV8WT'>Get Joli’s book: Project Relationship: The Entrepreneurs Action Plan for Passionate, Sustainable Love</a> 
</li>
</ul>
<ul><li><a href='https://www.facebook.com/groups/christianmarriagesandrelationships'>Join the Real Relationship Talk / Christian Marriages & Relationships Facebook Community!</a></li>
</ul>
 
 
 
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Forget Compatibility! Great Relationships Require Intentionality - with Dr. Joli Hamilton - Part 2
Everyone wants to find someone they’re compatible with, but what if we’re looking at this the wrong way?  Dr. Joli Hamilton is our guest for part two o...

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