We've all been given some bad marriage advice from well-meaning folks. But what if that bad marriage advice is ruining your intimacy? My guest, Monica Tanner, and I discuss what helpful marriage advice couples should focus on instead. Monica shares wisdom from her upcoming book, Bad Marriage Advice, and how this relates to intimacy. Let's stop the crazy cycle and lean into the hard truths and practical steps needed to create lasting intimacy and connection in marriage.

Key Takeaways:
Bad Marriage Advice (And Why It Backfires):
You'll laugh and commiserate about the terrible marriage clichés we’ve all heard—like "happy wife, happy life," "don’t go to bed angry," and more.
The Power of the Pause:
The wisdom of taking a break during heated moments instead of forcing a late-night resolution. 
Intimacy Isn’t Automatic—It’s Cultivated:
Intimacy was not always present in our marriages and has required time, personal growth, and intentionality to develop.
Debunking the “You’ve Changed” Myth:
Change is natural. The key is staying curious and engaged with your partner’s growth rather than resenting natural changes.
From Lazy Communication to Loving Curiosity:
You just have to listen to this one to grab the nuggets
Collaboration Over Compromise:
Using real-life examples, Monica and Dana model what it looks like to approach differences (early bird/night owl dynamics, for instance) with teamwork rather than resentment or forced compromise.

Quotable Moments:
“At the root of all the bad marriage advice is lazy communication.” – Monica Tanner
“There is no greater investment of your time than building a marriage that is healthy and whole.” – Dana Che

Resources Mentioned:
Monica Tanner’s Website & Book Info: monicatanner.com
Dana Che’s Free Intimacy Series Guide: danache.com/intimacyseries

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We've all been given some bad marriage advice from well-meaning folks. But what if that bad marriage advice is ruining your intimacy? My guest, Monica Tanner, and I discuss what helpful marriage advice couples should focus on instead. Monica shares wisdom from her upcoming book,&nbsp;Bad Marriage Advice, and how this relates to intimacy. Let's stop the crazy cycle and lean into the hard truths and practical steps needed to create lasting intimacy and connection in marriage.
Key Takeaways:
<ul>
<li>Bad Marriage Advice (And Why It Backfires): You'll laugh and commiserate about the terrible marriage clich&eacute;s we&rsquo;ve all heard&mdash;like "happy wife, happy life," "don&rsquo;t go to bed angry," and more.</li>
<li>The Power of the Pause: The wisdom of taking a break during heated moments instead of forcing a late-night resolution.&nbsp;</li>
<li>Intimacy Isn&rsquo;t Automatic&mdash;It&rsquo;s Cultivated: Intimacy was not always present in our marriages and has required time, personal growth, and intentionality to develop.</li>
<li>Debunking the &ldquo;You&rsquo;ve Changed&rdquo; Myth: Change is natural. The key is staying curious and engaged with your partner&rsquo;s growth rather than resenting natural changes.</li>
<li>From Lazy Communication to Loving Curiosity: You just have to listen to this one to grab the nuggets</li>
<li>Collaboration Over Compromise: Using real-life examples, Monica and Dana model what it looks like to approach differences (early bird/night owl dynamics, for instance) with teamwork rather than resentment or forced compromise.</li>
</ul>
Quotable Moments:
<ul>
<li>&ldquo;At the root of all the bad marriage advice is lazy communication.&rdquo; &ndash; Monica Tanner</li>
<li>&ldquo;There is no greater investment of your time than building a marriage that is healthy and whole.&rdquo; &ndash; Dana Che</li>
</ul>
Resources Mentioned:
<ul>
<li>Monica Tanner&rsquo;s Website &amp; Book Info: <a href="https://monicatanner.com/">monicatanner.com</a></li>
<li>Dana Che&rsquo;s Free Intimacy Series Guide: <a href="https://danache.com/intimacyseries">danache.com/intimacyseries</a></li>
</ul>
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Ever wish there was an "easy" button for marriage? Or that you just had someone who understands the struggle?&nbsp;Rebuilding Us is a top-rated marriage podcast to help you restore intimacy, rebuild trust, and renew hope in your marriage. Join marriage coach Dana Che, who's been married to her hubby, Shaun, for 25 years as she guides couples on the journey toward restoration and connection.
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A marriage podcast to help couples rebuild trust and rediscover genuine intimacy in their marriages. Sharing lessons from her 25-year marriage, marriage coach & speaker Dana Che will help you heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean effective marriage advice and tools from Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures will take you on a transformative journey to a happier and healthier marriage, through faith-based principles. 

With relevant relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring marriages with lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment. No Christian clichés over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.

The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking for marriage enrichment, 'Rebuilding Us' will help guide your way.

New episodes drop every Tuesday & Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!

My new book is out! Get Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples wherever books are sold! 

Tried and True is a marriage guide for couples facing pressure—disappointment, unmet expectations, seasons of delay, or conflict. Drawing from twelve flawed biblical couples, this book helps you understand what your trials are revealing—and how God can use them to strengthen your covenant and your connection.

A marriage podcast to help couples rebuild trust and rediscover genuine intimacy in their marriages. Sharing lessons from her 25-year marriage, marriage coach &amp; speaker Dana Che will help you heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean effective marriage advice and tools from Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures will take you on a transformative journey to a happier and healthier marriage, through faith-based principles.&nbsp;
With relevant relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring marriages with lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment. No Christian clich&eacute;s over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.
The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking for marriage enrichment, 'Rebuilding Us' will help guide your way.
New episodes drop every Tuesday &amp; Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!
My new book is out! Get <a href="https://danache.com/triedandtrue" data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://danache.com/triedandtrue&amp;source=gmail&amp;ust=1767879070424000&amp;usg=AOvVaw3Lc8E5zya32sng_mUFZb4t">Tried and True: Marriage Advice from 12 Imperfect Biblical Couples</a>&nbsp;wherever books are sold!&nbsp;
Tried and True is a marriage guide for couples facing pressure&mdash;disappointment, unmet expectations, seasons of delay, or conflict. Drawing from twelve flawed biblical couples, this book helps you understand what your trials are revealing&mdash;and how God can use them to strengthen your covenant and your connection.

We've all been given some bad marriage advice from well-meaning folks. But what if that bad marriage advice is ruining your intimacy?