From unmet expectations to trust issues and loneliness in marriage, this episode exposes eight conversations you're likely avoiding in your marriage and how it's causing the disconnection gap to widen. I open up with a personal story about my own struggles with fear and avoidance (including a wild trip to the urgent care!), and how these emotions often hold us back from tackling topics that really matter.

The Conversations You're Likely Avoiding in Your Marriage:


Unmet Expectations: Many couples never openly discuss what they thought marriage would look like—and how reality has shifted those expectations.


Resentment: Sometimes prayer isn’t enough if you’re still nursing bitterness, unforgiveness, or past hurts. You can’t heal what you refuse to acknowledge.


Boundaries: Every relationship needs boundaries—even healthy ones. Yet many avoid discussing what’s acceptable, what’s not, and where limits should be set.


Disappointments: Small disappointments can quietly unravel intimacy if left unspoken. Instead of confronting them, we let them fester.


Loneliness in Marriage: There’s no lonelier place than a disconnected marriage, but admitting this vulnerability is often avoided.


Trust Issues: Especially after betrayal or big mistakes, couples might choose not to re-visit trust conversations for fear of reopening wounds or “rocking the boat.”


Conversations About the Future: Many avoid talking about end-of-life issues, financial planning, retirement, and other future-focused topics.


Celebrating Wins: Sometimes, couples even avoid sharing their successes if there’s secret competition or fear of triggering jealousy.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode: 

Get my FREE Conversation Starters for Couples in Conflict 

Get your FREE 5-Day Tried and True Devotional in anticipation of my new book release!

Other helpful Rebuilding Us podcast episodes:

5 Boundaries Every Marriage Needs

How to Approach Difficult Conversations with Confidence

When Marriage is Harder than You Ever Expected

From unmet expectations to trust issues and loneliness in marriage, this episode exposes eight conversations you're likely avoiding in your marriage and how it's causing the disconnection gap to widen. I open up with a personal story about my own struggles with fear and avoidance (including a wild trip to the urgent care!), and how these emotions often hold us back from tackling topics that really matter.
The Conversations You're Likely Avoiding in Your Marriage:
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Unmet Expectations: Many couples never openly discuss what they thought marriage would look like&mdash;and how reality has shifted those expectations.
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Resentment: Sometimes prayer isn&rsquo;t enough if you&rsquo;re still nursing bitterness, unforgiveness, or past hurts. You can&rsquo;t heal what you refuse to acknowledge.
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Boundaries: Every relationship needs boundaries&mdash;even healthy ones. Yet many avoid discussing what&rsquo;s acceptable, what&rsquo;s not, and where limits should be set.
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Disappointments: Small disappointments can quietly unravel intimacy if left unspoken. Instead of confronting them, we let them fester.
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Loneliness in Marriage: There&rsquo;s no lonelier place than a disconnected marriage, but admitting this vulnerability is often avoided.
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Trust Issues: Especially after betrayal or big mistakes, couples might choose not to re-visit trust conversations for fear of reopening wounds or &ldquo;rocking the boat.&rdquo;
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Conversations About the Future: Many avoid talking about end-of-life issues, financial planning, retirement, and other future-focused topics.
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Celebrating Wins: Sometimes, couples even avoid sharing their successes if there&rsquo;s secret competition or fear of triggering jealousy.
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Resources Mentioned in this Episode:&nbsp;
Get my <a href="https://danache.com/conversationstarters">FREE Conversation Starters for Couples</a> in Conflict&nbsp;
<a href="https://danache.com/tried-and-true-book">Get your FREE 5-Day Tried and True Devotional </a>in anticipation of my new book release!
Other helpful Rebuilding Us podcast episodes:
<a href="https://danache.com/marriage-podcasts/49-5-boundaries-every-marriage-needs-young-married-series/">5 Boundaries Every Marriage Needs</a>
<a href="https://danache.com/marriage-podcasts/356-how-to-approach-difficult-conversations-with-confidence-sweet-repeat/">How to Approach Difficult Conversations with Confidence</a>
<a href="https://danache.com/marriage-podcasts/384-when-marriage-is-harder-than-you-ever-expected-tried-and-true/">When Marriage is Harder than You Ever Expected</a>

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Ever wish there was an "easy" button for marriage? Or that you just had someone who understands the struggle?&nbsp;Rebuilding Us is a top-rated marriage podcast to help you restore intimacy, rebuild trust, and renew hope in your marriage. Join marriage coach Dana Che, who's been married to her hubby, Shaun, for 25 years as she guides couples on the journey toward restoration and connection.
Each episode includes real-life stories, practical strategies, and faith-filled insights to help you reignite love, deepen commitment, and create a thriving, joy-filled relationship. Say goodbye to Christian clich&eacute;s&mdash;Dana&rsquo;s relatable, no-nonsense approach (with a touch of humor!) will keep you coming back week after week.&nbsp;
Whether you&rsquo;re healing from infidelity, seeking stronger communication, or simply longing for a closer bond, this podcast equips you with the tools and encouragement to rebuild not just your relationship but yourself.&nbsp;
Let the rebuild begin! &nbsp;
**New episodes drop every Tuesday and Friday. Subscribe now and take the first step toward your best marriage yet.

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A marriage podcast to help couples rebuild trust and rediscover genuine intimacy in their marriages. Sharing lessons from her 25-year marriage, marriage coach & speaker Dana Che will help you heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean effective marriage advice and tools from Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures will take you on a transformative journey to a happier and healthier marriage, through faith-based principles. 

With relevant relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring marriages with lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment. No Christian clichés over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.

The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking for marriage enrichment, 'Rebuilding Us' will help guide your way.

New episodes drop every Tuesday & Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!

A marriage podcast to help couples rebuild trust and rediscover genuine intimacy in their marriages. Sharing lessons from her 25-year marriage, marriage coach &amp; speaker Dana Che will help you heal your past and find hope for your future as you glean effective marriage advice and tools from Dana Che and her guests. These episodic adventures will take you on a transformative journey to a happier and healthier marriage, through faith-based principles.&nbsp;
With relevant relationship strategies, heartfelt stories, and uplifting messages of hope, aimed at inspiring marriages with lasting joy, intimacy, and fulfillment. No Christian clich&eacute;s over here! Dana's tell-it-like-it-is yet warm humor will endear you to come back every single week.
The first letter in "us" is "u," so "rebuilding us" is also about rebuilding u (you). Whether you're seeking reconciliation, restoration, or simply looking for marriage enrichment, 'Rebuilding Us' will help guide your way.
New episodes drop every Tuesday &amp; Friday. Subscribe today so you don't miss a single one!

From unmet expectations to trust issues and loneliness in marriage, this episode exposes eight conversations you're likely avoiding in your marriage and how it's causing the disconnection gap to widen.

8 Conversations You're Likely Avoiding in Your Marriage & How It's Widening the Distance (Tried and True)

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