I'm getting more famous at my daughter's school, so that's pretty exciting. Like I've talked about concepts at our school, I could you know. I've talked about the way that people date at that age, so they like barely even talk to each other and they just say they're dating. It's like the activity of the chase, of the label of dating seems to be what they're interested in. Like I think so and so likes me. I like this person, my friend likes that person. Two days later, Oh, did you speak to that person? Do you want gonna make a quote unquote plan? Not a play date? They're too old for that. And then your kid will be like, no, what do you mean. No, two days ago you liked them, two days ago they liked you. Like it's fleeting. But anyway, whenever I talk about that stuff on here, my daughter says her whole school is obsessed with this podcast. So we have tween fans because I've mentioned and they'll be like, that's me. So I'm doing a shout out to my daughter and her cool friends and saying, I'm watching you guys, and I know that when you guys go to those bat mitzvahs every Saturday night that they're nightclubs. This is the craziest thing ever, This this freaking scam. I could not buy my daughter's clothes ever. Again, I don't need to. She gets a pair of sweatpants and a sweatshirt at about mitzvat every single weekend, and it's like they're going to nightclubs. They get home at midnight. It's like party time for me. I get to be home being pajamas, you know, air fry something, and my daughter gets home at midnight and it's like checks the box because not only does it entertain her. On the Saturday Sunday, they're they're freaking like like stuck to the bed like fruit roll ups, like they don't want to do anything, and they've been activated and had an activity half the day Saturday. You don't have to entertain them because they're getting ready. It's like these are this is a great racket like for us, like these Saturday night every night parties for these kids seemed like a pain in the ass, maybe because of the driving, but try to work that out with friends in car pools. But like the nature of your kid basically going to a legal, underaged fun, no alcohol nightclub and they're starting to get ready at like three or four. So Saturday is like a wash and have to do much and then Sunday they're they're jello, and Saturday they're entertained. Like you could check off your whole social calendar like week in one shot. So I'm all for that shit. So I've realized that when people die, people want to take ownership of it. So have you ever seen the news when something happens and I was there, I was right there, and I spoke. I spoke to them Tuesday and this morning, Like people want to own the death of someone. And sadly, when someone tragically dies, which I've experienced someone that I've known for years tragically passing away, that people from different eras, in different stages of this person's life want to crawl out of the woodwork and own the death, like I grew up with this person, or I saw them, or i'd them, or we were close, or I know their wife, or I built their house or I you know, made their invitations, or I saw them or I go to their It's really interesting and people really want to stamp the death. They're part of it. And I realized because I lost someone several years back that people also want to own how things are done. I've noticed, like where someone's buried, what this person would want? And many times people think of themselves like themselves, other people think of themselves, And are you supposed to think of yourself? The survivors supposed to think the people who are still living? Is everyone's supposed to think about them? Are you supposed to honor the wishes of the person that died? Because often you see people arguing, and they're the people that are alive arguing about what they want, what they think the person would want if something wasn't resolved, And that's why people should get things resolved versus what did that person? What did that person communicate what they wanted? And what type of person would they be and what would they want? So like people will have funerals that are big parties that might indicate that that's something that the person who passed wants or has said that they wanted. But are you supposed to honor the living because that might not be their style? So what if the person who passed was really outgoing and liked the action and like the light and would like something a little more sassy and a little more public and a little more fun or are you supposed to think of that person's kids or family or spouse and what they want because they're still alive, and what type of funeral they want. And it's really crazy because you really watch it like the Hunger Games and everybody trying to own death, their stamp on what it should be and how it should be done and what it really means and what really happened and what they would want. And I find it to be very grabby. I've heard stories about family members opening the safe during the shiva fighting over someone, you know, the things that they left behind and who they'd want them to go to. Because recently, I did something to honor someone who had passed away on my social media and that person's childhood, best best friends and people very close to this to the person who passed for their entire life were reaching out to me saying it was beautiful and it was amazing, and that he would have loved that because he likes a little action, and the fact that, like you know, there were some famous people commenting on it, that he would have loved it. But what if other members of his family, They themselves are more private, and it's not something that they would want. Are you honoring what the family and friends of decades past and you know, for the last forty years or thirty years, those people connected to this person who passed. Are you honoring what they would want and listen to them? Or are you listening to newer friends and family you know what I mean, like like someone's maybe like second or third wife or kids that are younger, Like who are you honoring? You know? How do you make those decisions about who gets to decide what something is supposed to be? I just you know, because let's just say that somebody that it was an unexpected passing. How would people around know who to listen to and who to answer who's the authority on how things should go? It's interesting because this is us dealt with that issue. And Mandy Moore had decided ahead of time. She made everything clear that she wanted Kate to make the decisions, and they all tried to retrade and discuss that after trying to make excuses, she didn't realize life would be this harder, that it would be this difficult to tetra and in the end, Kate made a decision. But then Kevin had a decision that trumped that, and Kate, who was ultimately the decision maker, agreed with it, but it was ultimately her decision. So someone should appoint the person who gets to decide matters surrounding their death what they should be. Is it your kids are going to decide? Is it someone you married, is it a parent? Is it your best friends? Like? Who knows? It's morbid to think about what you have to think about it? What I want, what Brin wants, what Paul wants, what you know other family members want? What a best friend would think? Like, what would I want? Very interesting,

I'm getting more famous at my daughter's school, so that's pretty exciting. Like I've talked about concepts at our school, I could you know. I've talked about the way that people date at that age, so they like barely even talk to each other and they just say they're dating. It's like the activity of the chase, of the label of dating seems to be what they're interested in. Like I think so and so likes me. I like this person, my friend likes that person. Two days later, Oh, did you speak to that person? Do you want gonna make a quote unquote plan? Not a play date? They're too old for that. And then your kid will be like, no, what do you mean. No, two days ago you liked them, two days ago they liked you. Like it's fleeting. But anyway, whenever I talk about that stuff on here, my daughter says her whole school is obsessed with this podcast. So we have tween fans because I've mentioned and they'll be like, that's me. So I'm doing a shout out to my daughter and her cool friends and saying, I'm watching you guys, and I know that when you guys go to those bat mitzvahs every Saturday night that they're nightclubs. This is the craziest thing ever, This this freaking scam. I could not buy my daughter's clothes ever. Again, I don't need to. She gets a pair of sweatpants and a sweatshirt at about mitzvat every single weekend, and it's like they're going to nightclubs. They get home at midnight. It's like party time for me. I get to be home being pajamas, you know, air fry something, and my daughter gets home at midnight and it's like checks the box because not only does it entertain her. On the Saturday Sunday, they're they're freaking like like stuck to the bed like fruit roll ups, like they don't want to do anything, and they've been activated and had an activity half the day Saturday. You don't have to entertain them because they're getting ready. It's like these are this is a great racket like for us, like these Saturday night every night parties for these kids seemed like a pain in the ass, maybe because of the driving, but try to work that out with friends in car pools. But like the nature of your kid basically going to a legal, underaged fun, no alcohol nightclub and they're starting to get ready at like three or four. So Saturday is like a wash and have to do much and then Sunday they're they're jello, and Saturday they're entertained. Like you could check off your whole social calendar like week in one shot. So I'm all for that shit. So I've realized that when people die, people want to take ownership of it. So have you ever seen the news when something happens and I was there, I was right there, and I spoke. I spoke to them Tuesday and this morning, Like people want to own the death of someone. And sadly, when someone tragically dies, which I've experienced someone that I've known for years tragically passing away, that people from different eras, in different stages of this person's life want to crawl out of the woodwork and own the death, like I grew up with this person, or I saw them, or i'd them, or we were close, or I know their wife, or I built their house or I you know, made their invitations, or I saw them or I go to their It's really interesting and people really want to stamp the death. They're part of it. And I realized because I lost someone several years back that people also want to own how things are done. I've noticed, like where someone's buried, what this person would want? And many times people think of themselves like themselves, other people think of themselves, And are you supposed to think of yourself? The survivors supposed to think the people who are still living? Is everyone's supposed to think about them? Are you supposed to honor the wishes of the person that died? Because often you see people arguing, and they're the people that are alive arguing about what they want, what they think the person would want if something wasn't resolved, And that's why people should get things resolved versus what did that person? What did that person communicate what they wanted? And what type of person would they be and what would they want? So like people will have funerals that are big parties that might indicate that that's something that the person who passed wants or has said that they wanted. But are you supposed to honor the living because that might not be their style? So what if the person who passed was really outgoing and liked the action and like the light and would like something a little more sassy and a little more public and a little more fun or are you supposed to think of that person's kids or family or spouse and what they want because they're still alive, and what type of funeral they want. And it's really crazy because you really watch it like the Hunger Games and everybody trying to own death, their stamp on what it should be and how it should be done and what it really means and what really happened and what they would want. And I find it to be very grabby. I've heard stories about family members opening the safe during the shiva fighting over someone, you know, the things that they left behind and who they'd want them to go to. Because recently, I did something to honor someone who had passed away on my social media and that person's childhood, best best friends and people very close to this to the person who passed for their entire life were reaching out to me saying it was beautiful and it was amazing, and that he would have loved that because he likes a little action, and the fact that, like you know, there were some famous people commenting on it, that he would have loved it. But what if other members of his family, They themselves are more private, and it's not something that they would want. Are you honoring what the family and friends of decades past and you know, for the last forty years or thirty years, those people connected to this person who passed. Are you honoring what they would want and listen to them? Or are you listening to newer friends and family you know what I mean, like like someone's maybe like second or third wife or kids that are younger, Like who are you honoring? You know? How do you make those decisions about who gets to decide what something is supposed to be? I just you know, because let's just say that somebody that it was an unexpected passing. How would people around know who to listen to and who to answer who's the authority on how things should go? It's interesting because this is us dealt with that issue. And Mandy Moore had decided ahead of time. She made everything clear that she wanted Kate to make the decisions, and they all tried to retrade and discuss that after trying to make excuses, she didn't realize life would be this harder, that it would be this difficult to tetra and in the end, Kate made a decision. But then Kevin had a decision that trumped that, and Kate, who was ultimately the decision maker, agreed with it, but it was ultimately her decision. So someone should appoint the person who gets to decide matters surrounding their death what they should be. Is it your kids are going to decide? Is it someone you married, is it a parent? Is it your best friends? Like? Who knows? It's morbid to think about what you have to think about it? What I want, what Brin wants, what Paul wants, what you know other family members want? What a best friend would think? Like, what would I want? Very interesting,