Let JLo and Ben live! Their love story is playing out for the public, we can talk about it, but come on. They're human. Plus, an anti-socialite summer with Bryn and focusing on what really matters.
Without going too deeply into it. And this is not for the sake of gossip, So we have to really understand that. I have been thinking about Jennifer Lopez and Beneffleck a little bit. First of all, she's had a time of it. We know that, Like it's not been her favorite year, I'm sure for many reasons. But it's the relationship I'm thinking about. And I think that in hearing so many different people talk about them, I don't think people talk about celebrities as human beings. I think people must assume that celebrities are superhuman in some way, like that there's something different, and there is something different, and they do have a different maybe drive or determination or desire for fame or love or workaholic or obsessive or perfectionist or money, want money, or whatever it is. But I think people aren't thinking about the time it takes to invest into a relationship, right, Like think about parenting and your kids, Like you get out what you put in and you see that around you. It's the best formula ever and relationships. You know, if it's important to you, it's important to me, the time you put in you get out. You may not want to at the time, and it may be a time in your life you're not there or you know, you may just not be in love. But these two pined over each other for years, madly in love. Now. Ben Affrica is an admitted addict. I believe Jennifer Lopez is probably a work or success or fame or you know, adoration or like vanity or something. You know, like she's she's definitely got that drive and you have to be in some regard to be at that level. And you see you see a difference in certain people. You see a difference energetically in Kim Kardashian then Courtney Kardashian. They're just not the same person. And you see that Courtney Kardashian is really what it seems like from the outset as a celebrity. She's chosen to check out a bit. She's really invested in her parenting. You see that she's invested in her health, she's invested in her marriage. She's very invested in her relationship. And you can see that while in the beginning it must have been really fun and there's a wedding and the attention and the making out and all that stuff. Now it's settled a little because she has a young child, she has multiple children, and you simply cannot succeed at parenting and relationship if you're trying to fit fifty pounds of shit in a five pound bag. I'm sure that Courtney and Chloe have different struggles than Kim as it pertains to parenting, as it pertains to success and fame. So I say this because I noticed, as just a person watching two public people that when Jennifer and Ben got together, you know, they had been pining away for each other for years, and they got together, and that passion must have been so exciting. He was probably in the wrong relationship, she was in the wrong relationship, and it's really exciting, and you think someone's going to save you and make all your dreams come true, and thinking about each other for all those years must have been extremely passionate, and when they got together, it must have been really passionate. And then you're on the high of that it's happening, and you think, I've remembered the beginning of certain relationships, thinking love's going to conquer all and to can cure the world, and we're never going to be a part more than one night, and all these proclamations, and you just think you're one person and you want to do everything together. And they had that, and you could see that, but they were She was dying to express and profess and convey and let us know how successful this relationship was. Like that takes a lot of effort. Having done it on reality television, I realized it strips you and you also were kind of on a high from what the public thinks too, like they're involved in it, and we were very much involved in How great did it feel that everybody was talking about them and they got together after twenty five years and the loves of each other's lives and all that, and then she's emoting and sorry, and then they were It was the middle. I just kept from I kept thinking about the fact that it was the middle of the summer, like July and August, in the sweltering heat, and I remember she was wearing like wide leg jeans and like either Milan or Paris or some like metropolis in the heat, and I was thinking, that looks so hotid it also looks exhausting, and it doesn't seem like this guy like this guy doesn't seem like he wants to be emoting in that way publicly. And there are many famous, really famous people that are under the radar, Like you really don't see George Clooney in them all that much. If they're promoting something. You see David Beckham and Victoria But like people, Julia Roberts maintains a level of privacy, so does Jennifer Anison, and they live in like La, you know. But some people manage to not be that public. Ryan Gosling's figured it out. You don't have to be in the public eye even being in La, you know, or New York. I've been through all of this and I'm not nearly as public as any of these people. But there are people that choose to be private. But they I'm gonna to say they because he went along with it, He's not a mummy. Chose to be extremely public the whole way through on the boat making out. Then we come into a movie. While that movie that she spent twenty million dollars on takes a lot to produce, a lot of time, a lot of money, a lot of choreography. Then they did the documentary of the making of that movie, then launching an album, then launching a tour, going to Dulca Gabona, going to the met gala, going to the movie premiere, going to Venice, to that fashion week like Paris. Fact. I'm telling you if I right now knew that on June sixth, June sixth, I had a little party like on the like it almost in the metpacking district. I think it was like a Diane von Furstenberg and Barry Diller were doing like a party and the I don't know where the high line or something, I don't know, just like music. I was having anxiety. Now that's not the metal or anything even remotely like what Jennifer Lopez says every day to get decked out for. But like I already was like, no, I'm not gonna want to go. I don't want to sit down and hear make up for an hour and a half. I don't want to have to put an outfit on it. I don't want to go out on a get my picture taken. I don't want to go same thing. This movie, this great movie's coming out. I think it's m Night Shamali on the watchers. I'm excited. I got the invitation. I'm like, oh my god, yay. And it's a movie premiere, but like it's not now what j Lo and Ben were doing with each of there. He had a movie, she had a movie. I have a movie. It was it was five hundred things. And for me, I just cancel the Watcher because I don't. I want to just walk on the beach and be free and have gray hair. And I don't want to deal and I don't, so I do nothing, and I still don't want to do that. I want to be with my daughter. I want to not miss anything. I want to be there every minute that I have her experience her games, and and I just want to be there and being there with her, and then also being in a relationship that also takes an effort and balance. You know, you've got to be there for your kids, and you want to be a good partner if you're in a long distance relationship or if you have a career where you have to travel, or the other per I'm just gonna say, there can really only be one peacock in a relationship. I don't think Ben wanted to be a peacock, you know, but he's some version of a peacock. He's an artist, so he's going and doing the dunkin donuts. You know he's doing that commercial that's going to take work. He's going to do something in addition. That shoot I think was a Charlie Demilia shoot. And he had his own movies and he's got his own How in the hell do you expect somebody to have a successful relationship? Oh, I forgot. I think they have six kids between them, maybe more, maybe five. They have more than four children between them. So you've got all of this shit. You're hosting the mechl you're doing a movie, you're doing a movie about a movie you do, and you're gonna have a relationship and your complicated personalities. How could it be possible? Someone needs to be like the more chill balanced one. But also sometimes that person who's chill doesn't want to deal with a circus. They don't want every second to have to wait two and a half hours for their partner to get ready, and everything's a show and everything's a spectacle and everything's public. I did that for years because I was broke. I never want to do that again. I get off for TV shows all the time. I don't want to do that because I don't have to be on that dog and Pony show. Yes, that last week. Oh a book, Oh my god, I want to do a book. I don't want to do another book. I don't want to do a book tour. I don't want to put on six outfits and go do the morning show tour. And I'm so much less busy in that way than these people. I don't know how anyone would expect anyone in that situation to succeed. And I bring up George Clooney and them all because you can see that they're really like spending time with their kids. They pick their spots when they're going out. They're not not three hundred and sixty four days a year in a full grind while trying to do the rest of it. I feel that it's impossible, and I think it's something so we don't care about. If we don't care about celebrities, to talk about ourselves, like the game starts to move fast. You start to take on obligations. You start to say yes. You start to say yes to the school events, to the making the costume. You're going to the Little Cross games. Your husband needs something, you have to support him at work. You're trying to start your own business, you're trying to be there for your kids. Someone's upset, you're doing college applications, you're picking up like that. Think about how exhausted you are from that, and you're the giving tree. And then you're a relationship suffers because all you're talking about is kids in soccer and all that stuff. And it's not sexy anymore either, because no one wants to hear the other person constantly mired in what they do. So I just find that relationships are really hard, you know, and it's terrible to criticize, like people are criticizing like whatever, criticizing him and her like it's just two people that can have it all. Would it even be fair? They both have these seventeen kids, nineteen careers, forty two charities, skits, money, houses, kids, and it's all just going swimmingly. Well, it'd be impossible. It's impossible. Brand will be with me most of the summer. She'll go to a sports camp for like a week and a lot of this is when I think this is more of like a Hampton's Long Island and Jewish communities things, to be honest, but people ship their kids off camp and I don't understand it because sum are so fleeting and so short, and I know it's good confidence building or structure or independence. I can't imagine school being over, having like one or two weeks in the Hampton's are like feeling sunny and doing things, and then your kids being away the whole summer at camp and they come back and it's a scramble. Because it used to be that they come back and they have a couple of weeks before school. But now these kids' sports in high school they start like two weeks before school, which I find to be such a violation because like, wait, now you're fucking with my summer too, which happens with every holiday weekend with all these club teams too, Like they're relentless these sports. They just don't care about anybody's time and anybody's vacation in anybody's summer. So I just I think I'd be broken hard. She can go. I've said to her a bunch of times, you want to go anywhere? Thank God she doesn't want to go, because I just like being with her. That's our time. It's not time with school. It's time. We can go clamming near our house. We can go vegetable picking, we can go wakeboarding, we can go take the jeep to Montak like it's an experience. I can't wait to go with her this weekend and explore and walk on the beach and go swimming like I just love the freestyle summer. I really do. I'm a person who loves just like being in the water all the time and my hair being gross and like a real freestyle. I don't like the socialite stuff. I don't like the events. I don't care about any of that. I just want to be in the water and like feeling, feeling healing from the beach. So I'm super excited. So I'm finding that the more I talk to people my age, people are really starting to question their own choices, careers, relationships, financial situations, a little purpose and like retirement and careers. So let me, let me, let me get into it. So I have friends that are evaluating their marriages, like they have kids, the kids you know left for college and their home now. And you realize, you just know, you've You're at a certain age where some people around you have gotten sick, people have passed. You have a greater appreciation for youth and health, and you value people are evaluating their relationships while some people really want to grow old with someone. It's a lot of insecurity. It's sometimes financial security. Sometimes you worry if something ever happens to you. Someone's there, but what do you do in the meantime Because a lot of people that are rushed to get married, they wanted the whole package. Now they're sitting there saying, I don't know who this person is and I don't know how to connect to them, and this is my time now, Like how am I going to use it? You know, for some people to glow up, for some people it's an affair. For some people to divorce. For some people it's leaning in closer to your partner. I just mean it's a very instrumental, interesting time. I'm hearing from a lot of people. And then also it's in my body to not want to do certain things, Like it's no it used to be that I would say I didn't want to do it, but like I'd agree to it. And then now it's so relentless you almost feel like you're an old person that's crotchety. It's like, no, I'm not doing that? Why because I don't want to? How's that? Like you get a little you get a little belligerent because you just know the time is so precious and you don't want to do anything or be anywhere that you don't really enjoy. You feel like it's a violation. So it's a very interesting time. People at this age don't want to be in the same grind unless they're just addicts, like workaholics, which is a thing, but they just they're trying to find a way to extricate while still earning if you can and making sure you're secure. But it's just like time is of the essence to everybody now,