Filler is the devil...but Botox? Different Story. Plus: How to GET YOUR POWER BACK (yes, even you, doormat)
I just want to talk about filler because I've seen some stuff online about it, and I've seen people dispelling the rumor that filler stays there forever, and filler stays there forever like you. That's why people's faces get really fucked up because it's just sitting inside your face, and the people who are saying that it doesn't stay there forever are in some way on their own or adjacent to someone selling filler. So even plastic surgeons will say it to you in private, but they won't say it to you publicly because they are thrown so much business from dermatologists that make their living off of filler. Like most people, like you know, makeup artists aren't making their big money if they have big brands off of doing makeup. They're making their big, big, giant money off of the brand, off of the So if you're a dermatologist, you know, picking someone's pimple is not where you're making your money. It's your products and all that other stuff, and you and your filler and those botoxes. So they live off of those lasers and fillers, et cetera. So know who you can trust with the dermatologists, which is not many, by the way at all, and know that that filler is the devil. That filler is the devil. But botox is different to me. Botox I'm not counting. I mean the stuff where it puts like that shit inside botox I do believe dissolves. And the reason I know that is because botox saved my jaw. That's really primarily why botox is important to me is the reduction of my jaw muscles because they had been built up like bicep curls and changed my Facebook that I broke my jawbone or removed my job on if that's possible. That sounds quite painful and drastic. So people are fucking crazy. Another thing I think you have to try this is back to dating trust the process in dating. One thing is people are like, I'm single and they want to go meet someone, and you're grabbing onto somebody as if it's not the most important decision of your life or one of you know. I mean, whether you're gonna have kids is an important decision, But like relationship, who you're gonna spend your life with, your bed, with your your heart, with your body with that's really important. And people somehow think I'm ready to start dating and that they have to be snatched up three months later. Anything good takes waiting and it's hard to be patient. But if you're working a quality versus quantity model, and I've never really subscribed to this, I've jumped into relationships and I, for the first time in my life at this age, realize too soon. Because think about anybody who loses a tremendous amount of weight that's really gonna change their life and their body now where they're gonna look crazy and it's gonna, you know, get gained all back. But like when they do it right, it's something that lasts their whole life. If you rush to meet someone just because you're feeling insecure or like you just want to be in something, think about all the good opportunities and options you're passing up on by making a decision out of fear. Like I think, if you're dating, and you're proactively dating, meaning you're having either a matchmaker or on a dating app or having everyone set you up or whatever you're going into you know, chat rooms, whatever your means is, going out every night, meeting people, getting people's numbers, whatever your means is. But if you're dedicated to meeting someone, I think you need to give yourself six months. Six months is light like a year before you lock anything down, because it's such an important decision. And also, if anyone's setting you up, someone might still be in something, someone might be in a transition. What if an amazing person you know just wasn't available right then, but you're being patient means that they come later. It's just something I think you have to trust the process. And these matchmakers that come on my podcast say like it could take them months to introduce people to someone. Some of them charge hundreds of thousands of dollars to get people like let's say ten guys, right, But some of them wait five months, six months to introduce someone to one person and they never get them the ten guys. The person paid the seven hundred thousand dollars, but they introduce them to their perfect life partner based on what they wanted. So you have to be your own matchmaker, no different than being your own publicist. There's no majestic formula to being a matchmaker. They go on LinkedIn, they go on the apps, they go to events, they meet people, they network, they give cards. They're just a representative. They're like a dating agent. So do that for yourself and get a little dating committee. Get your friends, get a couple of people you may have blind spots, ask the advice. Get like two to three people that you ask these questions and they'll give you the truth and be your own matchmaker. But be proactive about it, like it's just something so important. Should not be like a rush job. And I think so many people do that. That's fine if you want to get laid, go on these apps and go, but not to like rush into a relationships because the first person who treats you nicely, you know, you jump into a relationship with because then you're in the wrong car. And I've done that so many times. And when I go back to trusting the process. Think about an executive search. Are you looking for any basic dope? If you are not looking for any basic dope, think about an executive search. Let's say the CEO of Apple has left or a big company and they have to replace this guy. You think they're just going for any schnook to replace this man or woman, like just any schmoke. Let's let's go look around anybody. Let's look on the want ads and see if this person wants to replace the CEO of Apple. Right, what they're gonna do is carefully do vetting, interviewing. They're gonna go do research. They're going to look through LinkedIn, They're going to look through a lot of different places. They're gonna go word of mouth, they're gonna do some due diligence, and then they're gonna still try and trial and error. So you're doing your own executive search. You're not just like jumping into a position or allowing some and also take the position like you're some fucking want dad in the back of a newspaper, Like the five guys come in over the course of a couple of months, and you're just gonna one of them. You're gonna compare those five, and that's gonna be the entire buffet of the universe. Anything good doesn't come easy. I will go back to this. If it doesn't make you feel good, don't do it. That means if being with someone, if the way they're texting you, if the way they're calling you, for the way they're making you feel, if you know, you could maybe make a small tweak with some communication, but if it ultimately is really you know, I have these girls that'll call me and they'll be like no one. He called last week and he said we go next week on a trip to Europe. Then he ended up saying we're only gonna go to the Catskills for three days. And I hear the scrap voice, like it's like scraps. I'm like, who are you Like you're taking scrape You're like the way you're talking, it's talking like you're like a dog at the door that's waiting for your little pieces of meat. The way you're talking about this guy who may as a little bit of a little bit of money, or you're feeling vulnerable, you're feeling insecure, you're at a certain age like stop that right now, do not take scraps or scrubs. Be alone in that case, like be alone, go back to the drawing board. But like I hear this all the time with girls like calling their friends to like try to justify things that are basic math. You're like, we do know the two plus two? He goes four. So I'm treats you like shit and you're just sort of accepting that you gotta get out of your own way. And also you can always get the ball back. You can always get your power back, even if you are the doormat that's making bad decisions and feeling bad about yourself because you're being a little desperate, being a little needy, Like it's giving that you're like a little bit of like the wounded bird. Pull that shit together, that'll surprise that person more. You know, that person that you're texting with who's kind of blowing you off or like calling you last minute. You're accepting scraps thinking you're gonna somehow majestically get them if you just shut down and act to them the way that you act with people that you're not interested in, Like you forget to text back. Sometimes you're not that you know, obsessed with it. You're just like, oh sorry, trying to be kind. You don't care. You be nice to them, not nice, it doesn't matter to you. You're not overthinking every comma and semi colon. That's how you have to be with the people that you do like like be super nice, but you're not like overthinking it. Respond right away, then next time, respond not away. But you can shut down too. You can shut the fuck down and reset or just get out of there, and then you can just get your power back where you'll just feel good like, okay, you got the last words. Someone treated and it's never to lay. You could be a doormat. Someone could cheat on you. You could be a doormat, and you could realize on a delay, what am I doing? This person disrespecting me and I'm not respecting myself. You could pull your bootstrips up. Then anytime you can do it. It's like starting to eat healthier, exercise. You don't have to do it on a timeline right away. You may be on a delay, so do it when, but you could just you could do it very late and then get that power back. Walk back to after, walk to dock to the after