Below, which is Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez below got commitment tattoos. Does that make you think immediately that it's going to work or does that make you think immediately that it's not going to work. I root for them because I root for love, and I love a story, and I love them coming around again and all that. But I want to know if commitment tattoos like giant giant crazy weddings makes me think divorced because I remember back in my time when we were all twenty five and twenty six and the whole group was getting married. The people who had the crazy million dollars at a control weddings, those are the ones that got divorced. The soonest, so the Megan Fox and the machine gun so big, so much, you know. But then Courtney and Travis I've been together. I mean, but it's funny because I think they've been been together for a while. Because they've been together for like two years. It feels like they've been together for twenty years. So I guess you can't know. But in my experience, the bigger it's like when someone really wants to show you how much money they have, they usually don't really have a lot of money. The people that really have money, you're not hearing about it and you just know. So I feel like that about relationships. So people that know that they're very public and that are going to publicly share commitment tattoos. That feels a little bit like going to Italy and July when you get together and walking through paparazzi groups where you know they'll be. So I don't know what side I'm on it. Part of me says, they've been together for a minute this time around, So if they had gotten the tattoos in the very beginning, that would have been questionable. But now that it's been a while, that makes it better and seem more like they're going to be together for a while. But I'll say I guarantee you. I think Paul and I thought about getting tattoos in the beginning, and not even like the total beginning, actually our second beginning, because we had a relationship, broke up and then got back together, and that was the time that we thought about that. Now we would if I call Paul right now and ask him if he wants to get a tattoo, I mean he would get a tattoo for me. But like it's not something we're really talking about that much now. So I feel like that's the kind of thing that you do when your relationship still has the new car smell. There are some people, I think years ago Tamera on The Housewives got a tattoo with her husband on the Housewives, which of course is where you would do that sort of thing, and then they got them removed in their respective new relationships. So what do you think about tattoos? Also here I go again about the age. I know there's no age, but like it just doesn't feel like a very in your fifties thing to do. It feels like a very in your twenties and maybe thirties type things to do. If any of my friends who are over fifty or like, we're gonna get tattoos. People in Hollywood don't want to be thought of is in their fifties. They just want to be sort of like age. But I don't know if that's only about plastic surgery. Like I've considered plastic surgery and will get plastic surgery, but I still think I'm very open about my age, and age isn't just about what you look like. It's how you dress and how you present yourself and how you talk and you know all that stuff. And I was going to say, there's nothing wrong with wanting to be young, or is there is there something wrong with being seventy acting forty? Like? Is there something wrong with a seventy five year old wearing a thong? Or It's like everyone could say do what, do what you want to do to each their own, but you know you're gonna judge, So is there something wrong with the seventy five year all wearing a thong? I want to talk about place of yes attitude at work. I had an experience working with someone and the first thing that they would always say, not with the word no, but with the vibe was no, Like you say, hey, I want to do this. I just spoke to whoever, and I think this is an amazing idea, And you own the company and you're the president, you're the founder, you're the one paying everyone's checks, and this is how they I don't know the thing is that's really challenging because of that, and I'm not sure and I'm thinking and now I don't want or have yes people around me because that is worse than what I'm talking about, Because you want pushback. You want creative minds, you want thought partners, you want crowdsourcing partners. But there's something to be said for someone who always and you know who this is in some way and even sometimes in friends, in relationships, in people that you're working with on the PTA, coworkers, whatever, that person that doesn't come from a place of yes, meaning if it's got. If I've come to somebody that I work with to say I want to get this done, it can get done. I'm not asking. There's times and I'm like, hey, is this crazy? Or do you think we could do this? Or what do you think of this idea? Then it's open. But when I come on, I'm like him, so I want to do this, and I think you need to send this person this and just send an email that says this, Oh yeah, I don't know because I think that that and I'm not sure and I don't place. I didn't. I don't care about the sauce. That's all sausage. That's how the sausage gets made. That's the weeds. I don't want to serve me the sausage cooked because I already know that it's possible, and it's a tonal thing like, oh, okay, I will get into that right now. And then if come back to you and ran against a brick wall for many reasons or something went on, no problem, But I don't like an initial place of no. And it really is something that you may not even realize is happening at work and in relationships and friendships, because it's just something that may not be the word no, but it's tonal. It happened, It can happen in a restaurant, Hey, is there any way to get Like Paul my fiance, it doesn't like stuff all over his food, So he might say, is there any way to get the roast of potatoes instead of the scalop potatoes? Now, that's not even a good example, because that's a hard one to do if you don't have roast potatoes. It takes forty five minutes. I'm talking about something like can I get a simple plain chicken? Or can I get it whatever? But and the server, oh, well yeah, they usually don't and I and then okay, well could you go ask them? Then they ask him, they come back like, no problem, Like we don't need that little four play of no. Let's just start with yes and get excited and if it doesn't work out, it still doesn't work out. But we don't want to start with no. That's like starting a hike with a big, heavy pack on your back. Let me know if you have experienced that. So I'm fortunate enough to go to good hotels, and I often think about the types of places that I like to go, and they're not always the fanciest, they're not always the most expensive because I don't like too much service. I want to know if you are, if you vacation, and what you like and want on a vacation, Like do you want your ass kiss twenty four hours a day? Do you want someone talking to you and serving you and coming up to you? And I don't mean like you can't find someone to get a drink, that's bad service. I just mean like someone's available but not really at your beck and call when you're on vacation. What a restaurant as a fine line between picking up your dish when you're done at a restaurant, like clearing and like you still have an asparaged spear in your mouth and someone's grabbing the plate. You know, Like there's a fine line between picking up addition and everybody else hasn't eaten yet and leaving a pile of gross plates on the table for a long time. Like same thing when you see someone like in fancy restaurant, they're like standing right over you behind, and you feel like they can hear everything. There's a fine line between how much you want to transact. I'm not a transactional person. I don't like to return things because I don't want to get into a conversation and have some sort of a debate. I don't like to transact a lot. I don't know what that's from. It sounds crazy like Paul will do most of the transacting in our relationship. He'll do the interacting and talking. Let's say you're calling to get room service. I'll invariably forget that I'm even on the phone. It's been going on, I'll forget that I'm even on the phone, and then I'll forget what the conversation isn't forget what I ordered. Like he's just better at that sort of thing, But I'm better at if like this needs to get done. We need to get the ticket changed four ways, not six hundred dollars non refundable fees, Like I'm better at like that kind of like I'm good at the fine eggling like American race transacting if it involves some like big dilemma, Like I said, I don't like to return things. If there's an issue with like something something was was fake, or there's some sort of quagmire within the return, then it's really me. But like a just normal transactional return, I'm not the girl. If there's a if there's a serious problem that involves like some algorithm to change playing seats and get a refund and something like that, that's me. Paul will be reading the fine print on the contract. I will be finding loopholes around that. Another thing about getting to be a certain age, you become less selfish. Well, you become more selfish because you want to do what you want to do and you know that time is valuable in it's a commodity. But you become less selfish because you're really about your kids. You think about your kids, and your life changes because your kids, not just because you pick up and drop off and what they're doing and that you love them and that you know you're spending a lot of time with them, but the way that you're living, the healthy way that you're living is no longer so you can look good and be hot or for me and like be superficial about it. Your health and your sleep and your wellness is because you want to be around for your kids and to be healthy and not get sick for your kids. Because when I get sick, like I have this thing called pots and my blood pressure crashes and I'm very dehydrated, and I it's a little dangerous and I have some health issues, I think about my daughter, like that's what I think about. I don't really think about myself. So when I make healthy changes to my sleep, to my consumption, to my eating, etc. To my living, to my stress level, it's really for my daughter and for just I don't want to say fear, but yes, fear and caution about wanting to be healthy for her for her like for her to be around longer. And also when you have a child later. I'd my daughter in late thirties, which isn't even that late in my mind, but for many people it is. You think of things differently.

Below, which is Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez below got commitment tattoos. Does that make you think immediately that it's going to work or does that make you think immediately that it's not going to work. I root for them because I root for love, and I love a story, and I love them coming around again and all that. But I want to know if commitment tattoos like giant giant crazy weddings makes me think divorced because I remember back in my time when we were all twenty five and twenty six and the whole group was getting married. The people who had the crazy million dollars at a control weddings, those are the ones that got divorced. The soonest, so the Megan Fox and the machine gun so big, so much, you know. But then Courtney and Travis I've been together. I mean, but it's funny because I think they've been been together for a while. Because they've been together for like two years. It feels like they've been together for twenty years. So I guess you can't know. But in my experience, the bigger it's like when someone really wants to show you how much money they have, they usually don't really have a lot of money. The people that really have money, you're not hearing about it and you just know. So I feel like that about relationships. So people that know that they're very public and that are going to publicly share commitment tattoos. That feels a little bit like going to Italy and July when you get together and walking through paparazzi groups where you know they'll be. So I don't know what side I'm on it. Part of me says, they've been together for a minute this time around, So if they had gotten the tattoos in the very beginning, that would have been questionable. But now that it's been a while, that makes it better and seem more like they're going to be together for a while. But I'll say I guarantee you. I think Paul and I thought about getting tattoos in the beginning, and not even like the total beginning, actually our second beginning, because we had a relationship, broke up and then got back together, and that was the time that we thought about that. Now we would if I call Paul right now and ask him if he wants to get a tattoo, I mean he would get a tattoo for me. But like it's not something we're really talking about that much now. So I feel like that's the kind of thing that you do when your relationship still has the new car smell. There are some people, I think years ago Tamera on The Housewives got a tattoo with her husband on the Housewives, which of course is where you would do that sort of thing, and then they got them removed in their respective new relationships. So what do you think about tattoos? Also here I go again about the age. I know there's no age, but like it just doesn't feel like a very in your fifties thing to do. It feels like a very in your twenties and maybe thirties type things to do. If any of my friends who are over fifty or like, we're gonna get tattoos. People in Hollywood don't want to be thought of is in their fifties. They just want to be sort of like age. But I don't know if that's only about plastic surgery. Like I've considered plastic surgery and will get plastic surgery, but I still think I'm very open about my age, and age isn't just about what you look like. It's how you dress and how you present yourself and how you talk and you know all that stuff. And I was going to say, there's nothing wrong with wanting to be young, or is there is there something wrong with being seventy acting forty? Like? Is there something wrong with a seventy five year old wearing a thong? Or It's like everyone could say do what, do what you want to do to each their own, but you know you're gonna judge, So is there something wrong with the seventy five year all wearing a thong? I want to talk about place of yes attitude at work. I had an experience working with someone and the first thing that they would always say, not with the word no, but with the vibe was no, Like you say, hey, I want to do this. I just spoke to whoever, and I think this is an amazing idea, And you own the company and you're the president, you're the founder, you're the one paying everyone's checks, and this is how they I don't know the thing is that's really challenging because of that, and I'm not sure and I'm thinking and now I don't want or have yes people around me because that is worse than what I'm talking about, Because you want pushback. You want creative minds, you want thought partners, you want crowdsourcing partners. But there's something to be said for someone who always and you know who this is in some way and even sometimes in friends, in relationships, in people that you're working with on the PTA, coworkers, whatever, that person that doesn't come from a place of yes, meaning if it's got. If I've come to somebody that I work with to say I want to get this done, it can get done. I'm not asking. There's times and I'm like, hey, is this crazy? Or do you think we could do this? Or what do you think of this idea? Then it's open. But when I come on, I'm like him, so I want to do this, and I think you need to send this person this and just send an email that says this, Oh yeah, I don't know because I think that that and I'm not sure and I don't place. I didn't. I don't care about the sauce. That's all sausage. That's how the sausage gets made. That's the weeds. I don't want to serve me the sausage cooked because I already know that it's possible, and it's a tonal thing like, oh, okay, I will get into that right now. And then if come back to you and ran against a brick wall for many reasons or something went on, no problem, But I don't like an initial place of no. And it really is something that you may not even realize is happening at work and in relationships and friendships, because it's just something that may not be the word no, but it's tonal. It happened, It can happen in a restaurant, Hey, is there any way to get Like Paul my fiance, it doesn't like stuff all over his food, So he might say, is there any way to get the roast of potatoes instead of the scalop potatoes? Now, that's not even a good example, because that's a hard one to do if you don't have roast potatoes. It takes forty five minutes. I'm talking about something like can I get a simple plain chicken? Or can I get it whatever? But and the server, oh, well yeah, they usually don't and I and then okay, well could you go ask them? Then they ask him, they come back like, no problem, Like we don't need that little four play of no. Let's just start with yes and get excited and if it doesn't work out, it still doesn't work out. But we don't want to start with no. That's like starting a hike with a big, heavy pack on your back. Let me know if you have experienced that. So I'm fortunate enough to go to good hotels, and I often think about the types of places that I like to go, and they're not always the fanciest, they're not always the most expensive because I don't like too much service. I want to know if you are, if you vacation, and what you like and want on a vacation, Like do you want your ass kiss twenty four hours a day? Do you want someone talking to you and serving you and coming up to you? And I don't mean like you can't find someone to get a drink, that's bad service. I just mean like someone's available but not really at your beck and call when you're on vacation. What a restaurant as a fine line between picking up your dish when you're done at a restaurant, like clearing and like you still have an asparaged spear in your mouth and someone's grabbing the plate. You know, Like there's a fine line between picking up addition and everybody else hasn't eaten yet and leaving a pile of gross plates on the table for a long time. Like same thing when you see someone like in fancy restaurant, they're like standing right over you behind, and you feel like they can hear everything. There's a fine line between how much you want to transact. I'm not a transactional person. I don't like to return things because I don't want to get into a conversation and have some sort of a debate. I don't like to transact a lot. I don't know what that's from. It sounds crazy like Paul will do most of the transacting in our relationship. He'll do the interacting and talking. Let's say you're calling to get room service. I'll invariably forget that I'm even on the phone. It's been going on, I'll forget that I'm even on the phone, and then I'll forget what the conversation isn't forget what I ordered. Like he's just better at that sort of thing, But I'm better at if like this needs to get done. We need to get the ticket changed four ways, not six hundred dollars non refundable fees, Like I'm better at like that kind of like I'm good at the fine eggling like American race transacting if it involves some like big dilemma, Like I said, I don't like to return things. If there's an issue with like something something was was fake, or there's some sort of quagmire within the return, then it's really me. But like a just normal transactional return, I'm not the girl. If there's a if there's a serious problem that involves like some algorithm to change playing seats and get a refund and something like that, that's me. Paul will be reading the fine print on the contract. I will be finding loopholes around that. Another thing about getting to be a certain age, you become less selfish. Well, you become more selfish because you want to do what you want to do and you know that time is valuable in it's a commodity. But you become less selfish because you're really about your kids. You think about your kids, and your life changes because your kids, not just because you pick up and drop off and what they're doing and that you love them and that you know you're spending a lot of time with them, but the way that you're living, the healthy way that you're living is no longer so you can look good and be hot or for me and like be superficial about it. Your health and your sleep and your wellness is because you want to be around for your kids and to be healthy and not get sick for your kids. Because when I get sick, like I have this thing called pots and my blood pressure crashes and I'm very dehydrated, and I it's a little dangerous and I have some health issues, I think about my daughter, like that's what I think about. I don't really think about myself. So when I make healthy changes to my sleep, to my consumption, to my eating, etc. To my living, to my stress level, it's really for my daughter and for just I don't want to say fear, but yes, fear and caution about wanting to be healthy for her for her like for her to be around longer. And also when you have a child later. I'd my daughter in late thirties, which isn't even that late in my mind, but for many people it is. You think of things differently.