Dear Ally….

Published Dec 18, 2024, 4:26 AM

Rachel spoke out years ago about her experiences with James Kennedy, but no one listened. Now, she hopes Ally and others will.

Juliette is back discussing some of the most talked about headlines, including the latest on this story and Tom Sandoval’s recent drama with girlfriend Victoria. 

 

Okay, welcome back to another episode of Going Rogue. It's Juliette Harris and we have so many headlines to cover today. It is the wild wild West of VPR and public relations. It's just wild. So we're gonna dig into it. We're going to go through the headlines. One of the things I did want to obviously point out is one of the ones we're going to talk about is James Kennedy and the alleged domestic violence claims, etc. And we're going to talk about sort of the timeline that's gone on with that, and then we're going to talk about Tom and Victoria, and we're going to talk about some of the old stuff. So there's a lot going on. So I'm gonna start. I'm gonna start with Tom and Victoria and then we'll get into the James Kennedy of it all. So the first headline is from page six and US Weekly talking about Tom Sandoval deleting Victoria Lee Robinson's photos. And then there has been these breakup rumors, and actually it started with Victoria posting first. So Victoria posted this sort of cryptic message about a tiger not changing its stripes and him loving his friends, more basically saying it's true, and then to Sandoval got on and said how wrong she was, how wrong Victoria was, and that supposedly she was calling him as he went on live, and then she backtracks and puts out an apology. So let's dig into that a little bit, because I've got a couple of opinions, a couple of theories, and the rumors are all over the bravosphere, so so let's kind of dig into them a little bit. First of all, from a humane standpoint, whether Victoria was right or wrong, whether she was feeling emotional, whether he did do something. She took to social media to write about it, she took a public There's two sides to that. When you're having a dispute in a relationship, it doesn't need to be public. Keep it between the two people right now. On the nice side, she's a woman in a relationship that felt wrong, something was wrong, so you know, she needs some support from the boyfriend and some help and assistance in getting through that or over the other side. But instead he went to the public and brought it to our attention. We're you know, let's dig into that because I there's a couple of theories going around, right. Is it a distraction for the James headlines? Is it a pr move to say, let's take some of the heat off over here on James and let's just have a drama over here with Tom and Victoria. Or is it that really they're so attention starved that they needed the headline because they're addicted to the headlines and used to having the headlines, and they wanted a headline, and it was let's, you know, let's let's pay pay attention over here. It's too quiet for us right now. Or is it a strategy of getting another scandal? All? Is it? Is it going to be another scandal? Is there a cheating? Is there something attached to it that they're trying to make into scandal? All? Two point zero? I don't know. I throw that out to you guys, anybody the insiders that might have the know all of them are plausible. The one thing that is a little alarming to me is that, you know, I don't agree with them going and putting their dirty laundry on the internet. Yes, they're reality people, or he is anyway, and she's probably trying to be public figures. Really, you know, unless they're trying to make the headlines. Shouldn't put their dish out there. They just don't need to. So that's what makes me think there's more things behind it. The other thing that makes me a little bit uncomfortable is her rush to this big, in depth apology. We've seen Sandoval over the years and over the seasons being a gaslighter and putting a lot of pressure on these girls, And when I read that apology, it made me think more that she was gas lit into doing it than she really wanted to do it. Because even if she jumped to a conclusion that was incorrect, did she really need to make a public apology? Do you really need to do that? You know, it's opinion. Again, they're not filming for a reality show. They're not on a reality show right now. Yes, his image could take the damage, and so, you know, I under stand it, but I just feel like it was unnecessary all the way around. Keep your for your own sanity, keep the relationship stuff off offline if it's real, of course, if it's for for playing out for her human consumption, for a popular fan consumption, well that's that's what they're doing. But I did get a very uncomfortable feeling about her apology that rather than heart felt, that it was more about fear and gaslighting and that would be a pattern for him. So there we have Tom and Victoria. All right, let's talk about the James Kennedy situation. Just to remind people or catch people up. I'm gonna give you the timeline. First and foremost, that was the reported arrest of James Kennedy for domestic violence. Then there was James deny aile of the domestic violence, saying that it was a misunderstanding, saying that the cops overreacted and leaning into it and saying that he is going to investigate them for wrongdoing. Which wow, when you're going to lean into something, there you go. But the cops said no, and they released the report and the thing which I recognize for some listeners this could be triggering, so be aware that's what we're talking about. So Court comes out and says that the female in the altercation, which everybody is assuming is Ali. I don't think it's been I mean her, she did come out, so I do think it was. It's now we can say that it was Ali. But Ali or the female supposedly told the police that James picked her up and threw her to the ground. Well, not sure how you deny that and how you now are going to investigate the police when somebody when a female reports that kind of violence. Of course, the police are going to take someone into custody. They're going to make sure she's safe, that it doesn't happen again. So I don't know how you turn that into the police's fault. So that is going to be very interesting. So then the next thing that happens is Ali says she's okay and she wants people to respect her privacy. And then the interesting thing is the jobs the workplace for James Kennedy. Some places retracted it, but the one place that he just did didn't. Now that is an interesting thing. There's two sides to that in my opinion. Number one, maybe it was just too late, But I mean, I don't I just don't know. Prior to the police report coming out, I understand people not necessarily canceling there's an accusation, there was a defense of the reporting of the crime or the domestic violence charge, and so before there's evidence and proof and et cetera. I understand some people maybe sticking by it. But then once it comes out and says the police report says that she reported he picked her up and threw it to the ground. I don't know how somebody continues to move forward and then at the end of the day, that speaks more about the kind of person that would still employ somebody like that. So that's where I think that's problematic. But it does look that like they're reporting that the Vegas residency has put a pin in it. I think people are going to wait and see what happens, and rightfully so if he did that, nobody's going to want to support support him. Then the next report was that Ali moved out into an airbnb, and what I find interesting is that the paps were there that could they could have been called, or they could have been staking out their house since it happened, but the paparazzi caught him helping her move stuff into a car and she was moving, supposedly moving to an airbnb with her parents. What I find great about that are two things. Number One, for anybody, they need space and time away to clear their head and really think what's happening. I will remind people that when we went through this with Tom and Rachel, Tom wouldn't give Rachel the time and space she needed, and he continued to gaslight her, which clouded her judge it judgment and you know, put things off for her and confused her. And if if you go back and listen to the Rachel Goes Rogue episode with Doctor Saltz, which is just fascinating, and one of the things is the gaslighting for these these women and men of abuse of domestic violence, they are twisted around, They're they're gaslet they're manipulated. Their self worth comes into question and they no longer can decide what is They don't trust their judgment. So for Ali going to be with her parents, that are people that I would assume care about her. They clearly got her out of the house and got her into this airbnb. If she can distance herself to think clearly without the noise of somebody telling you you're horrible one moment that they love you the next, and she can listen to people she trusts, then hopefully she's going to find a path away. I think both James and stand of All both have patterns. And we've watched it on television. This isn't an opinion, this is what we've seen on TV. We've seen time and time again the way that they throw somebody over the bus for somebody else, how they verbally brate people. So I think those are pretty significant red flags for people to to look at. So I know that it's really horrible to talk about a potential victim that may or may not be ready to talk about it, but I think in this situation, they did put everything out there on television, and this is more about James and Tom than it is about the actual women at this moment, because we've seen it, episode after episode, year after year, all of these things happening. So I think we're all hopeful that that Ali is going to do what she needs to do to stay safe, get safe. James Kennedy did actually post a statement which is I am committed to making meaningful changes in my life. I'm taking time to focus on my so variety personal growth and being present for my loved ones. Navigating challenging moments is not easy, but I'm determined to learn, grow and move forward with the incredible support system around me. So this is very interesting because it's not taking any blame or accountability or any admission of guilt, which obviously you have to do because if any sort of criminal charges or any charges are put forward, you don't want to have to have admitted to that. So he is acknowledging that he needs to make changes. He is somewhat blaming it on the sobriety, where as I said earlier, he has had these outbursts while he was sober too, So this isn't, in my opinion, just as sober and alcohol or substance abuse issue. This is an anger management and mentality and you know root cause that needs quite a bit of work, you know, determined to learn, grow and move forward. Great. I'm in support of all of that and the support system around him. I'm just hoping he's not referring to all the enablers that keep telling him everything's peachy and everything's fine and he doesn't need to do anything and brush it under the rug. So I'm not sure who that support system is. Obviously, we wish him the best and we really hope that he does the real meaningful work. If Rachel was having anxiety and you know, challenges within herself, and she was in an inpatient system for four months, I would certainly hope that James takes that kind of time and effort and work to make any sort of change on himself. And in my opinion, if he takes less than you know, a couple months at an inpatient scenario, and he's only going to do once a week outpatient or a week or two weeks in a rehab, that's not going to be enough. If I'm not a professional in this area. But I just you know, we're talking about years and years and years that we've watched him unwind on people, and I am glad he is taking some sort of accountability that he needs to make change, although we've heard that before also Sober California Sober. I don't know, but I wish him the best, and I hope he commits and actually makes a change. I hope that Ali, you know, focuses on herself, and I still feel that all of the neighborers around him need to take accountability for this too. Along these lines, the next headline was Rachel Levis recalling her sickening response to the abuse from ex fiance James Kennedy, and she says specifically the amount of times I convinced myself that the abuse I endured by James Kennedy, Georgio or Georgia. I don't know how you say it was A misunderstanding is sickening. Levis captioned her Grid post directing her nearly six hundred thousand followers to listen to that April twenty third episode of Rachel Go's Rogue podcast with doctor Kale Salves, and she says, if you listen, this is the pdf sent to me by my therapist I was referencing, she wrote, and she actually put the PDF up, which was great because I think the thing that is fascinating is these these people that are abusers. They select a victim, right, they select a partner based on the fact that they think they're going to be able to control them, and then then they use all these tactics to control them. And it's the gaslighting of you know, yelling and screaming and abusive language, to the love bombing and overdose of how much they love you and they would never hurt you. And doctor saltzk goes into a lot of this, and the reason Rachel wanted to really talk about it is because she didn't know what abuse was. And it's highly likely that somebody like Ali who's young and you know, may not understand all the different types of abuse. Basically, in that episode, Rachel talks about how she thought, you know, unless you're punching her in the face, grabbing or throwing her to the ground. Throwing her to the ground, she's thinking, that's not abuse, just being yelled at the end of the day, that is manipulative abuse. And it twists the victims up so that they don't know they no longer trust their own judgment. And if somebody's a really good manipulator, they stop you from trusting the people around you and isolate you, so you really question your ability to make a judgment. So I think, I think for Rachel, and I don't want to speak for her, but I guess one of the things I have seen is a lot of people coming out and saying, you all judged her, you jumped on the bandwagon, over scanneda all, but none of you listened when she was trying to tell you about James, and we saw her break down have an anxiety attack on camera. We didn't know some of the other things that were happening happening off screen. Although her and her mother talked about things with the dog and all these other things, nobody wanted to listen to that. They only wanted to hate her for the scandal, and that's kind of the position that everybody took, and it's heartbreaking when you look back. And I'm going to get into a little bit more of that in a moment. The next headline is Alie telling friends she's okay and safe. You know, her friends are saying that, and she's saying she's definitely safe and not in danger. I don't know how you bounce off from lifted me up and threw me to the ground to I'm safe. That's not something that I understand. I understand the rationale and the way that she's thinking and why it's really important that the people that she trusts and loves get that through to her. But under no circumstances is it ever okay to pick somebody up and throw them on the ground, or lay hands on another person in an angry in an inappropriate way. So it'll be very interesting to see how this plays out. It could be another pr move would be, you know, for him to go to an anger management class and check into some short term facility, which I find so ironic because when Rachel checked herself in for four months to a live in facility, she got trashed and raked over the coals that it was a pr stunt or that she didn't need help when she'd been dealing with this for years on television and broke down on television before scanned of all, and then Scannival was icing on the cake for her. But yet Jax, you know, he goes in for two weeks and supposedly is fixed. I don't know. And then if James were to go, I'm gonna do this, and do that and do this. It takes a long time to undo these things for all of us, whatever hang ups and problems we all have, you just don't undo it in a day. So if they're serious about doing the work, they're gonna really need to put in the work and the time. I know, there was a big controversy about that movie called This Ends with Us, and I wasn't gonna watch it, and then I did. And the one thing I wanted to share, and I don't want to really spoil the movie for people that haven't seen it, but the end of that movie makes everything that we're talking about abundantly clear. So I highly recommend it for people to watch because it speaks it speaks a lot to that, and it's just even the short part of the whole whole movie is very clarifying for people. So I really encourage that. Okay, So I have a personal pet peeve with this whole thing and now and it's coming more to light with all of you fans. Actually, before I go there, there's another headline that's been coming out that is h two other headlines. One is the two te's talking about what they saw at the I think it was the MTV movie the MTV Awards, the Movie Awards, I think, and afterwards they said they needed to separate Ali and James back then and now everybody they it was funny. They said in the podcast recently that they didn't realize how many people had actually seen them there and how many people had heard them mention it. But now it's all coming back around, so I believe they're kind of even talking about it at this very moment on their podcast. Somebody just texted me that they're bringing it up. So I find that interesting too, because look, I think the biggest thing in these scenarios too, is the responsibility that people feel. Rachel felt that, I'm sure Ali feels it right now. Too. It's this responsibility that you don't want to get the other person in trouble. I don't want them to go to jail. It doesn't matter that they harmed me, it doesn't matter that you know what they're doing to me. Somehow, I'm secondary in that situation because I don't want them to get in trouble. It's a very big burden for these young people to carry, and that's what they do. They hold on to it and put that other person's value above themselves because they've been beaten down in their mind. So again, I recommend that movie. I recommend listening to the two Te's podcast where they talk about this and this one is really disturbing, and for those you die hard fans, I'd love to hear what you have to think about this and what you have to say, because there's happened in twenty fifteen, and here we are going into twenty twenty five with the Me Too movement making a very big impact and difference on people. In twenty fifteen, la La and James slept together and Laala came out and said that she was blind drunk, and when she came to she saw the condom and she knew something had happened, but James did not ripe at that point. I don't think that this was as much in the forefront as it is now. And I'm talking about me too, and you know, consent and all these sort of things. She went on the Nick Ritchie's show and talked about it, and again she took accountability. She blamed herself. And so my question to everybody is here we are going into twenty twenty five. If your friend had sex with you, or you had sex with when you were black out, drunk and not coherent, who bears the responsibility? Is that? Is that a responsible way for a friend to treat you? And I assume maybe he was drunk too. I don't know. I'm not giving him the benefit of doubt. Don't get me wrong. I'm just saying I don't know all the circumstances. She didn't say that in this interview. She talked all about what you know. She started the interview by saying that he didn't ape her, but yet goes into all of the specifics, and the specifics might say otherwise today. So I pose that question to all you fans. How you feel about that? I'd like to hear people's opinions, and then it leads into my rant, which looking at all of these things, looking at what happened with all of the women on the show, and let's use Kristen's accounting of what happened, and all of these people knew it. I'm talking about Lisa, I'm talking about La La, I'm talking about Sheena, I'm talking about Arianna. I'm talking about every one of the cast members that knew the kind of person that James Kennedy has been over the years, and how Lisa has gone on to numerous shows defending him, always taking the sides of the men over the women. When is enough enough? When are people responsible? Where is women's code of looking out for each other? I mean, forget the network production, all the other people that saw the things that we saw, and more so, let's use Kristin and James. They filmed. So my understanding is James pushed and I believe it struck her and pushed her, and then she got up and struck James. And then they only aired the part where this is per Kristen. They only aired the part art that she struck him, so changing the narrative, and she came and she's spoken out, that's publicly everywhere. But yet at that point, shouldn't he have been fired for that? And should he not be coming back? And should people be warning every other woman that dates him or you know, this is the part that is really frustrating to me. And then again, all these cast members have had all these relationships and slept with each other, and you know, Laala and Marianna in the backseat of a car, all these things, but the venom that everybody took out on Rachel and said nobody felt one ounce of protection towards her. We know, we've seen the headlines about La La. We've seen the headlines about Kristen. We've seen the headlines about Logan doing him and then dropping the suit because I believe he assaulted him, so there was a headline and then and then it was he retracted the suit. But how many warnings does it take before the responsible party is saying no is enough. Don't we don't want to put him in a situation with other young women. I don't get it. And then all these women dogpile on Rachel for making a dumb, horrible decision because she's slept with somebody else, somebody else's boyfriend, which again in their twenties, lots of people do. Not one person said, Wow, she's just come off of a really abusive relationship, or forget the scandal all of it. When she was crying and having breakdowns over James, not one person was coming to her saying, wow, get out of this relationship. I don't know. It's mind blowing to me, these supposed friends. I'm sorry. I've risked a lot of friendships over the years saying that's not right. And if you choose to stop being my friend because I'm telling you you're being abused, or he's sleeping with somebody else, or what he's doing to so be it, then make that choice, because I'm gonna still do the right thing. So all of these people, I guess men and women. Nobody stood up for these people. Nobody stood up for Kristen, Nobody stood up for Rachel. I don't know that anybody's standing up for Ali right now. I just don't understand it. I'm sorry, but that is something I do not get. So I pose to everybody. I think, at the end of the day, somebody that is assaulting people verbally and physically should not be allowed to set foot on a television set, and that goes back to the reality reckoning. You know, these people should have protection, they should have ethical and moral protections from these people that are supposed to be their friends, but nobody's stepping up. So I find this fascinating. And then from a pr standpoint, if you're the show, if you're about to launch a new show and you're trying to distance yourself from the old show, what do you do? Do you keep embracing these people? Do you keep making excuses for them? That doesn't fly anymore? Entering into twenty twenty five doesn't fly anymore. So well, look, I find this fascinating. It will be interesting to see what pattern comes next. Is Ali rewarded or promised her own television show so that she backs up and backs off? I believe in Bethany's interview, Rachel broached that about Kristen, and then I find it fascinting. Kristen's got all these opportunities and she's back on a show. I am not knocking Kristen by any means. And Kristin I give all sorts of props to because she continued to stand her ground when it came to James all the rest of everybody else. I don't know. I don't know. I think it's a pr nightmare. I think that everybody's got to wait and see what happens next. A lot is on poor Ali's shoulders. That is a lot of responsibility, and I'm sure she's getting a lot of pressure from people behind the scene. I'm sure she has her own pressures in her head if this is her livelihood, and you know, and I'm sure she loves him right, So love has nothing to do with it in this situation. Unfortunately it does for the bad decision making, but it's not enough to keep you going and keep you safe. So I will end this by saying there are many more headlines and layers yet to come, and I hope that Ali is safe and gets the help that she needs. And I hope that people go back and listen to that podcast with Rachel and doctor Saltz, because it is very much worth listening to, whether you're suffering from some sort of abuse or whether somebody you know is, because there are so many things that we don't think about. We say, why does she stay, why doesn't she leave? Why does she still support him? A lot gets explained in that episode about how the mental aspect is paralyzing for people and that's why they don't leave or take action. So I highly encourage everybody to go back and listen to too. Oh actually, one last thing too, Nick Bile's wife. Now, we've all know that Nick Vile has really come down on Rachel for many many things. And you know he's a shock jock, so he likes to get his two cents into everything, and I hate him giving him airtime right now. But his wife came out and talked about what she suffered in a domestic violence abusive situation on her own and showed sympathy towards Rachel and Kristen. And so I find that should be a fascinating conversation in their household, right, two different varying opinions. I'd love to be a fly on the wall for that or I'm sure they will come out and talk about it. And maybe Nick Carty has haven't seen that yet. So all right, I think that's it for me for today. I think we have a lot to stay tuned and watch. I hope we all send up prayers for Ali and look, I even feel sorry for James. He needs to go get help. But he needs long term help, not short term help. I'm sure he doesn't choose to be like this and doesn't want to be like this, but he needs to go and get help. No more excuses. Take action, take responsibility the people that you love and the people that you've heard, and go make a real change for the networks and the production companies and the shows. You know. I think enough's enough on that too. This isn't okay. We're heading into twenty twenty five. Women's right so already at an all time low. Let's protect the women in our lives and stand up and say no. Use your viewership as your currency and say no, we're not going to We're not going to allow this anymore. And I really hats off to a lot of the bloggers and the people out there that are calling it and finding the clips and supporting enough of this is enough. There's a ton of people out there in the Bravosphere that are calling this out and putting it to light, and to you, I commend you. All Right, Well that's it for me, getting off my soapbox. I hope this was somewhat interesting and that you'll tune in because there's there's never This is the gift that keeps on giving. Vandrbunt Rules is not going away anytime soon. The dramas the outcome of this alone, whatever is unfolding with Tom and Victoria, there's still a lot work, so make it a great week, Happy holidays, and until next time,