Kate Bowler, Ph.D. is a 4x New York Times bestselling author, award-winning podcast host, and professor at Duke's Divinity School. She was diagnosed with stage IV cancer at just 35 years old and while she was in treatment (and not expected to survive), she wrote two best-selling memoirs. Her latest book, "Have a Beautiful Terrible Day" is out now! Today she shares:
Toxic Positivity — what it is, how we got here, and why forcing a positive mindset is so unhelpful.
What is the right balance of optimism? 
How to live in the contrast of our lives (the beautiful + terrible)
What went through her mind when she was diagnosed with stage IV cancer at 35 years old and given just two years to live. 
How surviving her cancer diagnosis changed her outlook on…everything.
What NOT to say to people who are going through a life altering experience.
What we miss out on when we try to see the golden thread going through everything in our lives.
Why happiness is an industry and how to avoid the pitfalls of "good vibes only"
The role of luck in our lives
What is true mental health? ("Mental health is not having positive emotions - it's having the appropriate emotion at the right time.")

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Grab a copy of her new book  here!

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Kate Bowler, Ph.D. is a 4x New York Times bestselling author, award-winning podcast host, and professor at Duke's Divinity School. She was diagnosed with stage IV cancer at just 35 years old and while she was in treatment (and not expected to survive), she wrote two best-selling memoirs. Her latest book, "Have a Beautiful Terrible Day" is out now! Today she shares: <ul class="ul1"> <li class="li2">Toxic Positivity — what it is, how we got here, and why forcing a positive mindset is so unhelpful.</li> <li class="li2">What is the right balance of optimism? </li> <li class="li2">How to live in the contrast of our lives (the beautiful + terrible)</li> <li class="li2">What went through her mind when she was diagnosed with stage IV cancer at 35 years old and given just two years to live. </li> <li class="li2">How surviving her cancer diagnosis changed her outlook on…everything.</li> <li class="li2">What NOT to say to people who are going through a life altering experience.</li> <li class="li2">What we miss out on when we try to see the golden thread going through everything in our lives.</li> <li class="li2">Why happiness is an industry and how to avoid the pitfalls of "good vibes only"</li> <li class="li2">The role of luck in our lives</li> <li class="li2">What is true mental health? ("Mental health is not having positive emotions - it's having the appropriate emotion at the right time.")</li> </ul> Follow Kate <a href="https://www.instagram.com/katecbowler/?hl=en">here.</a> Grab a copy of her new book <a href="https://katebowler.com/books/have-a-beautiful-terrible-day/"> here</a>! TIKTOK SHOP (<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8vfjUno/">QUESTION EVERYTHING CARD GAME</a>)

Behind every headline is a person + a deeper story. Question Everything with journalist Danielle Robay cuts through social media buzz to uncover the voices, ideas, and cultural moments that shape how we see the world. Each week, she asks bold questions that challenge assumptions and reveal the nuance behind the narratives, inviting you to look closer at the world, and at yourself. Because there's always more to the story.
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Danielle is also the creator of the bestselling QUESTION EVERYTHING card game series, which has sparked connection and conversation in thousands of living rooms around the world. She's also the co-executive producer (alongside Reese Witherspoon) and host of Bookmarked by Reese's Book Club. With her signature curiosity—dubbed "The Queen of Questions"—and a background in political science, Danielle brings both heart and rigor to every conversation. A Gloria Steinem Fellow and mentee of Larry King, she's carried forward a legacy of curiosity and connection, interviewing icons from Taylor Swift to Malala Yousafzai in more than 8,000 hours of elevated conversation.

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Toxic Positivity: What's Real vs. What's Forced? with Kate Bowler

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What does it mean to practice love when fear is loud and life feels out of control?In this special Valentine’s Day episode of Question Everything, we’re talking about love (just not in the way you might expect). Danielle sits down with bestselling author and spiritual teacher Marianne Williamson for a conversation about miracles, fear, forgiveness, and what it really means to return to love in our everyday life. Marianne’s 1992 book A Return to Love, famously championed by Oprah Winfrey, has changed the way millions of people think about relationships, spirituality, and personal growth. In this episode, Marianne explains how the idea of “miracles” is far more practical than mystical, and why our shared purpose is more simple than any of us could have ever imagined. Together, Danielle and Marianne explore how to take ownership of your inner world even when the outer world feels out of control.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to choose love over fear in difficult moments
Finding clarity and peace during uncertain times
Simple daily habits that help you reconnect with love
How to lift your vibrational energy, even when the world feels overwhelming and scary
The difference between understanding spiritual ideas and putting them into practice in our everyday life
The difference between manifestation and magic
How to live with more intention and less fear
Understanding the root cause of feeling stuck
Why personal growth begins with changing how you see yourself and your place in the world
How to make a big spiritual shift that will have an impact on your life



Follow Marianne Williamson on Instagram @mariannewilliamson

 

Check out Marianne’s book A Return to Love

 

Book Recommendation: Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke

What does it mean to practice love when fear is loud and life feels out of control? In this special Valentine&rsquo;s Day episode of Question Everything, we&rsquo;re talking about love (just not in the way you might expect). Danielle sits down with bestselling author and spiritual teacher Marianne Williamson for a conversation about miracles, fear, forgiveness, and what it really means to return to love in our everyday life. Marianne&rsquo;s 1992 book A Return to Love, famously championed by Oprah Winfrey, has changed the way millions of people think about relationships, spirituality, and personal growth. In this episode, Marianne explains how the idea of &ldquo;miracles&rdquo; is far more practical than mystical, and why our shared purpose is more simple than any of us could have ever imagined. Together, Danielle and Marianne explore how to take ownership of your inner world even when the outer world feels out of control.
In this episode, you&rsquo;ll learn:
<ul>
<li>How to choose love over fear in difficult moments</li>
<li>Finding clarity and peace during uncertain times</li>
<li>Simple daily habits that help you reconnect with love</li>
<li>How to lift your vibrational energy, even when the world feels overwhelming and scary</li>
<li>The difference between understanding spiritual ideas and putting them into practice in our everyday life</li>
<li>The difference between manifestation and magic</li>
<li>How to live with more intention and less fear</li>
<li>Understanding the root cause of feeling stuck</li>
<li>Why personal growth begins with changing how you see yourself and your place in the world</li>
<li>How to make a big spiritual shift that will have an impact on your life </li>
</ul>
Follow Marianne Williamson on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mariannewilliamson/?hl=en">@mariannewilliamson</a>
&nbsp;
Check out Marianne&rsquo;s book <a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/a-return-to-love-reflections-on-the-principles-of-a-course-in-miracles-marianne-williamson/9b2404e51ed3bd51">A Return to Love</a>
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Book Recommendation: <a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/letters-to-a-young-poet-rainer-maria-rilke/c68a68aa622d7cb2">Letters to a Young Poet</a> by Rainer Maria Rilke

Practicing Love in a Fear-Filled World With Marianne Williamson

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What is etiquette in the modern age? In this episode of Question Everything, Danielle speaks with with two modern etiquette authorities: Elaine Swann, the expert the New York Times calls “The Emily Post of the Digital Age,” and Sarah Jane Ho, Netflix host and host of the Mind Your Manners podcast, as well as an Eastern wellness expert. Together, they unpack how we have lost decorum, what’s actually going on with our social skills, and why “just be yourself” might be the worst advice we’ve ever normalized. From dating, weddings, and group chats to social media, power, and belonging, this conversation is a sharp, funny, and deeply human look at how to move through the world with more confidence, clarity, and grace. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why etiquette isn’t dead—but why it feels more confusing than ever
Have we lost decorum?! And why?
Why “just be yourself” became bad advice in a socially complex world
Solution to our social skills feel rusty after the pandemic and life online
How social media and digital life changed the rules of behavior
The hidden rules of modern dating 
What’s actually considered rude now
The wedding etiquette arms race and what couples really owe their guests
Who pays the biggest social price for bad manners (and why)
The difference between being polite and being a pushover
How to set boundaries, tell the truth, and still be gracious
The small habits that make people feel respected, comfortable, and at ease

Book Links (via Bookshop.org — always support independent bookstores):

Mind Your Manners by Sara Jane Ho

Elaine Swann’s Book of Modern Etiquette by Elaine Swann

 

Follow the Guests:

Sara Jane Ho — Instagram, TikTok

Elaine Swann — Instagram, TikTok 

 

Learn More:

Elaine Swann’s Etiquette School: The Swann School of Protocol

Sara Jane Ho’s Personal Care Brand: Antevorta 

 

Book Recommendations

Book recommendation from Sara Jane Ho: Manifest Now By IDIL Ahmed 

Book recommendation from Elaine Swann: Safe People by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

What is etiquette in the modern age? In this episode of Question Everything, Danielle speaks with with two modern etiquette authorities: Elaine Swann, the expert the New York Times calls &ldquo;The Emily Post of the Digital Age,&rdquo; and Sarah Jane Ho, Netflix host and host of the Mind Your Manners podcast, as well as an Eastern wellness expert. Together, they unpack how we have lost decorum, what&rsquo;s actually going on with our social skills, and why &ldquo;just be yourself&rdquo; might be the worst advice we&rsquo;ve ever normalized. From dating, weddings, and group chats to social media, power, and belonging, this conversation is a sharp, funny, and deeply human look at how to move through the world with more confidence, clarity, and grace. In this episode, you&rsquo;ll learn:
<ul>
<li>Why etiquette isn&rsquo;t dead&mdash;but why it feels more confusing than ever</li>
<li>Have we lost decorum?! And why?</li>
<li>Why &ldquo;just be yourself&rdquo; became bad advice in a socially complex world</li>
<li>Solution to our social skills feel rusty after the pandemic and life online</li>
<li>How social media and digital life changed the rules of behavior</li>
<li>The hidden rules of modern dating&nbsp;</li>
<li>What&rsquo;s actually considered rude now</li>
<li>The wedding etiquette arms race and what couples really owe their guests</li>
<li>Who pays the biggest social price for bad manners (and why)</li>
<li>The difference between being polite and being a pushover</li>
<li>How to set boundaries, tell the truth, and still be gracious</li>
<li>The small habits that make people feel respected, comfortable, and at ease</li>
</ul>
Book Links (via Bookshop.org &mdash; always support independent bookstores):
<a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/mind-your-manners-how-to-be-your-best-self-in-any-situation-sara-jane-ho/3a6bb1a2a6e81ddb?ean=9780306832833&amp;next=t&amp;&amp;utm_source=google&amp;utm_medium=cpc&amp;utm_campaign=dsa_nonbrand&amp;utm_content=%7Badgroupname%7D&amp;utm_term=aud-1187518993648:dsa-19959388920&amp;gad_source=1&amp;gad_campaignid=12440232635&amp;gbraid=0AAAAACfld42-Iw60lD0wrbJIRHUI82nBf&amp;gclid=CjwKCAiAs4HMBhBJEiwACrfNZWzDPIgx_hKOoN4q2Gi2dGtZiO9fn4wSglBj2D2uzTHFeKqlTTXN5BoCdiwQAvD_BwE">Mind Your Manners by Sara Jane Ho</a>
<a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/elaine-swann-s-book-of-modern-etiquette-elaine-swann/48542d7187db7da5">Elaine Swann&rsquo;s Book of Modern Etiquette by Elaine Swann</a>
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Follow the Guests:
Sara Jane Ho &mdash; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sarajaneho/?hl=en">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@sarajaneho?lang=en">TikTok</a>
Elaine Swann &mdash; <a href="https://www.instagram.com/elaineswann/?hl=en">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@elaineswann">TikTok</a>&nbsp;
&nbsp;
Learn More:
<a href="https://swannschool.com/">Elaine Swann&rsquo;s Etiquette School: The Swann School of Protocol</a>
Sara Jane Ho&rsquo;s Personal Care Brand: <a href="https://antevortalabs.com/collections/shop-all">Antevorta</a>&nbsp;
&nbsp;
Book Recommendations
Book recommendation from Sara Jane Ho: <a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/manifest-now-idil-ahmed/4d76da1e51bbe299?ean=9781732388505&amp;next=t&amp;">Manifest Now</a> By IDIL Ahmed&nbsp;
Book recommendation from Elaine Swann: <a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/safe-people-how-to-find-relationships-that-are-good-for-you-and-avoid-those-that-aren-t-dr-henry-cloud/974b7721334c3166?ean=9780310345794&amp;next=t&amp;">Safe People</a> by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

The Social Rules Everyone Broke (And Why We’re All So Awkward Now)

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Jeannie Mai, host, style icon, mother, and one of the most recognizable voices in daytime television, opens up about her early Bay Area life that shaped her long before the spotlight. From leaving home at 14 and surviving sexual abuse, to learning how to reinvent, and soften without losing her edge, Jeannie reflects on the cost of becoming who the world sees + the courage it took to become who she actually is. Now in a new chapter she calls 'becoming', Jeannie talks honestly about divorce from her former husband Jeezy, motherhood, co-parenting, faith, healing, and what it really means to rise from the ashes. In this episode, Jeannie shares:
What she learned from navigating instability at a young age, and how it influenced her approach to love and healing
The community of women that rallied around her during her toughest moment.
How survival skills can quietly become limitations in adulthood
The difference between intensity vs. intimacy (and how chaos can masquerade as love)
How to recognize when you’re performing love instead of living it
Why being single can be “the most prized piece of land you’ll ever inherit”
Why divorce feels like “experiencing death alive”
Why the end of love often marks the beginning of real self-work
What “doing the work” actually looks like after divorce
Why healing requires time alone, but not isolation
The role of movement, strength, and progress in healing
Why not taking things personally is an emotional superpower
Jeannie opens up about the labels people love to slap on women (“divorced,” “single,” “46,” “mom”) + why they’ll never tell the full story
Why children don’t exist to heal us, but often reflect us
The tearful moment her daughter mirrored back words Jeannie had only ever prayed silently
How she loves to show up + surprise her friends
How to redefine healthy love without closing yourself off
How faith evolves when you stop asking and start listening

Follow Jeannie on Instagram @thejeanniemai and on her YouTube. 

Book recommendation: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.

Jeannie Mai, host, style icon, mother, and one of the most recognizable voices in daytime television, opens up about her early Bay Area life that shaped her long before the spotlight. From leaving home at 14 and surviving sexual abuse, to learning how to reinvent, and soften without losing her edge, Jeannie reflects on the cost of becoming who the world sees + the courage it took to become who she actually is. Now in a new chapter she calls 'becoming', Jeannie talks honestly about divorce from her former husband Jeezy, motherhood, co-parenting, faith, healing, and what it really means to rise from the ashes. In this episode, Jeannie shares:
<ul>
<li>What she learned from navigating instability at a young age, and how it influenced her approach to love and healing</li>
<li>The community of women that rallied around her during her toughest moment.</li>
<li>How survival skills can quietly become limitations in adulthood</li>
<li>The difference between intensity vs. intimacy (and how chaos can masquerade as love)</li>
<li>How to recognize when you&rsquo;re performing love instead of living it</li>
<li>Why being single can be &ldquo;the most prized piece of land you&rsquo;ll ever inherit&rdquo;</li>
<li>Why divorce feels like &ldquo;experiencing death alive&rdquo;</li>
<li>Why the end of love often marks the beginning of real self-work</li>
<li>What &ldquo;doing the work&rdquo; actually looks like after divorce</li>
<li>Why healing requires time alone, but not isolation</li>
<li>The role of movement, strength, and progress in healing Why not taking things personally is an emotional superpower</li>
<li>Jeannie opens up about the labels people love to slap on women (&ldquo;divorced,&rdquo; &ldquo;single,&rdquo; &ldquo;46,&rdquo; &ldquo;mom&rdquo;) + why they&rsquo;ll never tell the full story</li>
<li>Why children don&rsquo;t exist to heal us, but often reflect us</li>
<li>The tearful moment her daughter mirrored back words Jeannie had only ever prayed silently</li>
<li>How she loves to show up + surprise her friends</li>
<li>How to redefine healthy love without closing yourself off</li>
<li>How faith evolves when you stop asking and start listening</li>
</ul>
Follow Jeannie on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thejeanniemai/?hl=en">@thejeanniemai</a> and on her <a href="https://www.youtube.com/c/HelloHunnaywithJeannieMai">YouTube</a>.&nbsp;
Book recommendation: <a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-body-keeps-the-score-brain-mind-and-body-in-the-healing-of-trauma-bessel-van-der-kolk-m-d/9e63236863805513?utm_source=google&amp;utm_medium=cpc&amp;utm_campaign=dsa_nonbrand&amp;utm_content=%7Badgroupname%7D&amp;utm_term=aud-2151538068632:dsa-19959388920&amp;gad_source=1&amp;gad_campaignid=12440232635&amp;gbraid=0AAAAACfld4331xwUmYRn_8eNturPRM6Ny&amp;gclid=Cj0KCQiA6Y7KBhCkARIsAOxhqtMW3gaZdDsOInURGwYM5OYOJ0bA566AGJs6bRuog1v9yoOqM-pa-HwaAqWBEALw_wcB">The Body Keeps the Score</a> by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.

Mistaking Chaos for Love: Jeannie Mai on Healing + Becoming

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Toxic Positivity: What's Real vs. What's Forced? with Kate Bowler

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