Can heartbreak change who you are forever? Or is the real challenge making sure it doesn't? In this episode of QUESTION EVERYTHING, Danielle sits down with writer, storyteller, and Love Island USA: Aftersun host Tefi Pessoa for an unforgettable conversation about heartbreak, healing, and the version of yourself you lose after being hurt. Most people think heartbreak is about grieving another person. Tefi argues it's often about grieving the person you were before they broke your trust, the version of yourself that loved easily, believed people, and wasn't afraid to hope. Together, Danielle and Tefi explore how to move through heartbreak without becoming cynical, why protecting your tenderness matters more than protecting your pride, and how to heal without losing yourself in the process.
What she's learned from her own heartbreak.
Why love is still worth believing in after being hurt.
How to keep heartbreak from hardening your heart.
How she refuses to compromise who she is in relationships.
Why she turns to her "tribe" before ending a relationship.
What we're often really mourning after a breakup.
How to recognize the traits in someone that are unlikely to change.
When it's worth listening to friends who tell you, "You can do better."
What it's like navigating heartbreak in the public eye.
Why there's courage in choosing an ordinary, authentic life.
How men and women often experience heartbreak differently.

Tefi’s Book Recommendation: Fantastic Mr. Fox by Roald Dahl.

Follow Tefi on TikTok.

Listen to Tefi’s podcast Tefi Talks here,

Can heartbreak change who you are forever? Or is the real challenge making sure it doesn't? In this episode of QUESTION EVERYTHING, Danielle sits down with writer, storyteller, and Love Island USA: Aftersun host Tefi Pessoa for an unforgettable conversation about heartbreak, healing, and the version of yourself you lose after being hurt. Most people think heartbreak is about grieving another person. Tefi argues it's often about grieving the person you were before they broke your trust, the version of yourself that loved easily, believed people, and wasn't afraid to hope. Together, Danielle and Tefi explore how to move through heartbreak without becoming cynical, why protecting your tenderness matters more than protecting your pride, and how to heal without losing yourself in the process.
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<li aria-level="1">What she's learned from her own heartbreak.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why love is still worth believing in after being hurt.</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to keep heartbreak from hardening your heart.</li>
<li aria-level="1">How she refuses to compromise who she is in relationships.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why she turns to her "tribe" before ending a relationship.</li>
<li aria-level="1">What we're often really mourning after a breakup.</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to recognize the traits in someone that are unlikely to change.</li>
<li aria-level="1">When it's worth listening to friends who tell you, "You can do better."</li>
<li aria-level="1">What it's like navigating heartbreak in the public eye.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why there's courage in choosing an ordinary, authentic life.</li>
<li aria-level="1">How men and women often experience heartbreak differently.</li>
</ul>
Tefi&rsquo;s Book Recommendation: Fantastic Mr. Fox by Roald Dahl.
Follow Tefi on <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@hellotefi?lang=en">TikTok</a>.
Listen to Tefi&rsquo;s podcast Tefi Talks <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tefi-talks/id1829793986">here</a>,

There are celebrity interviews, and there are life-changing conversations. On Question Everything, you get both. Journalist Danielle Robay has a rare gift: she makes people feel safe + seen enough to tell the truth. Every week, she draws out the stories the world's most fascinating people rarely get to tell– the heartbreaks, the risks, the controversies, the beliefs they had to unlearn to become who they are and every now and then, their thoughts on the Bravoverse. You'll come for their story. You'll leave rethinking your own.

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Danielle is also the creator of the bestselling QUESTION EVERYTHING card game series, which has sparked connection in thousands of living rooms around the world, and the co-executive producer and host of Bookmarked by Reese's Book Club, alongside Reese Witherspoon. Dubbed "The Queen of Questions," she brings both heart and rigor to every conversation — a background in political science, a Gloria Steinem Fellowship, and a mentorship under Larry King, whose legacy of curiosity and connection she's carried forward across more than 8,000 hours of interviews with icons from Taylor Swift to Malala Yousafzai.

There are celebrity interviews, and there are life-changing conversations. On Question Everything, you get both. Journalist Danielle Robay has a rare gift: she makes people feel safe + seen enough to tell the truth. Every week, she draws out the stories the world's most fascinating people rarely get to tell&ndash; the heartbreaks, the risks, the controversies, the beliefs they had to unlearn to become who they are and every now and then, their thoughts on the Bravoverse. You'll come for their story. You'll leave rethinking your own.
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Danielle is also the creator of the bestselling QUESTION EVERYTHING card game series, which has sparked connection in thousands of living rooms around the world, and the co-executive producer and host of&nbsp;Bookmarked by Reese's Book Club, alongside Reese Witherspoon. Dubbed "The Queen of Questions," she brings both heart and rigor to every conversation &mdash; a background in political science, a Gloria Steinem Fellowship, and a mentorship under Larry King, whose legacy of curiosity and connection she's carried forward across more than 8,000 hours of interviews with icons from Taylor Swift to Malala Yousafzai.

QUESTION EVERYTHING

Behind every headline is a person + a deeper story. Question Everything with journalist Danielle Robay cuts through social media buzz to uncover the voices, ideas, and cultural moments that shape how we see the world. Each week, she asks bold questions that challenge assumptions and reveal the nuance behind the narratives, inviting you to look closer at the world, and at yourself. Because there's always more to the story.
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Danielle is also the creator of the bestselling QUESTION EVERYTHING card game series, which has sparked connection and conversation in thousands of living rooms around the world. She's also the co-executive producer (alongside Reese Witherspoon) and host of Bookmarked by Reese's Book Club. With her signature curiosity—dubbed "The Queen of Questions"—and a background in political science, Danielle brings both heart and rigor to every conversation. A Gloria Steinem Fellow and mentee of Larry King, she's carried forward a legacy of curiosity and connection, interviewing icons from Taylor Swift to Malala Yousafzai in more than 8,000 hours of elevated conversation.

Tefi Pessoa: Can Heartbreak Change Who You Are Forever?

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