Ever shared something vulnerable and immediately wished you could take it back? That sinking feeling has a name: the vulnerability hangover. Harvard Business School professor and behavioral scientist Dr. Leslie John joins Danielle to unpack the surprising science of self-disclosure, why we often regret what we don't say more than what we do, and how revealing a little more, at work, in dating, and in friendship, can actually deepen trust, strengthen relationships, and change the way we connect. In this episode Dr. John shares:

• Why we regret what we hide more than what we reveal
• The science behind trust and human connection
• How to know if you're oversharing—or simply being honest
• Why vulnerability feels so uncomfortable
• The psychology of revealing secrets
• How social media has changed the way we share our lives
• The difference between authentic vulnerability and performative sharing
• Why revealing a little more can improve your relationships
• The "Goldilocks Principle" of self-disclosure
• How to have difficult conversations without saying too much
• What to share on first dates (and what to save for later)
• How vulnerability can make you a better leader at work
• Why you should only list a few personality traits on your dating profile.
• Why reciprocity is the key to building deeper friendships
• Practical advice for overcoming the fear of opening up
• How to tell if someone is revealing to connect, or revealing to perform.
• Why relationships should be built "like a fire," slowly, one reveal at a time.
• The biggest first-date red flag: skipping straight to trauma dumping.

Dr. John’s Book Recommendations: Difficult Conversations and Unreasonable Hospitality

Grab a copy of Dr. John’s book, Revealing: The Underrated Power of Oversharing, here.

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