Men are more lonely, more disconnected, and more unsure of who they’re supposed to be than we’ve seen in generations. And while the data is alarming, what often gets lost is how this is actually showing up in real life: on dates, in relationships, and in the expectations men and women are navigating every day. In this episode, Danielle speaks with Dr. Gary Barker, a leading global researcher on men and masculinity, to unpack what’s actually going on. From the cultural forces shaping modern manhood, to how it’s showing up in dating and relationships. Plus, the surprising TV show Gary points to as a model of healthy masculinity. Gary also unpacks:
Why modern masculinity feels more confusing than ever
The loneliness epidemic among men, and why it’s getting worse
Why so many men feel blamed for systems like patriarchy and the Me Too movement
The difference between calling men out vs calling men in (and why it matters)
Why accountability alone isn’t working, and what’s missing
How men actually benefit from gender equality and a safer world for women
What role women play in reshaping masculinity, and where the line is
The emotional labor gap in relationships, and why women tend to carry more
The growing disconnect in modern dating, and why many women feel misaligned
How dating apps and comparison culture are changing expectations for men
The biological conversation we avoid: testosterone, male sexuality, and agency
Why men are also wired for care, connection, and emotional bonding (not just aggression)
The sources from which boys learn masculinity: mainly media, culture, peers, and family
Why pop culture (like The Pitt) is starting to show healthier versions of masculinity
Why no country, not even Scandinavian countries with progressive policies, has fully figured this out
What it actually looks like to raise boys differently in today’s world
The link between masculinity, violence, and school shootings in the U.S.

Follow Dr. Gary Barker’s organization Equimondo on Instagram

Book recommendation: Father Time by Sarah Hrdy

Men are more lonely, more disconnected, and more unsure of who they&rsquo;re supposed to be than we&rsquo;ve seen in generations. And while the data is alarming, what often gets lost is how this is actually showing up in real life: on dates, in relationships, and in the expectations men and women are navigating every day. In this episode, Danielle speaks with Dr. Gary Barker, a leading global researcher on men and masculinity, to unpack what&rsquo;s actually going on. From the cultural forces shaping modern manhood, to how it&rsquo;s showing up in dating and relationships. Plus, the surprising TV show Gary points to as a model of healthy masculinity. Gary also unpacks:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why modern masculinity feels more confusing than ever</li>
<li aria-level="1">The loneliness epidemic among men, and why it&rsquo;s getting worse</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why so many men feel blamed for systems like patriarchy and the Me Too movement</li>
<li aria-level="1">The difference between calling men out vs calling men in (and why it matters)</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why accountability alone isn&rsquo;t working, and what&rsquo;s missing</li>
<li aria-level="1">How men actually benefit from gender equality and a safer world for women</li>
<li aria-level="1">What role women play in reshaping masculinity, and where the line is</li>
<li aria-level="1">The emotional labor gap in relationships, and why women tend to carry more</li>
<li aria-level="1">The growing disconnect in modern dating, and why many women feel misaligned</li>
<li aria-level="1">How dating apps and comparison culture are changing expectations for men</li>
<li aria-level="1">The biological conversation we avoid: testosterone, male sexuality, and agency</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why men are also wired for care, connection, and emotional bonding (not just aggression)</li>
<li aria-level="1">The sources from which boys learn masculinity: mainly media, culture, peers, and family</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why pop culture (like The Pitt) is starting to show healthier versions of masculinity</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why no country, not even Scandinavian countries with progressive policies, has fully figured this out</li>
<li aria-level="1">What it actually looks like to raise boys differently in today&rsquo;s world</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">The link between masculinity, violence, and school shootings in the U.S.</li>
</ul>
Follow Dr. Gary Barker&rsquo;s organization Equimondo on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/equimundo_org">Instagram</a>
Book recommendation: <a href="https://portersquarebooks.com/book/9780691238791">Father Time</a> by Sarah Hrdy

Behind every headline is a person + a deeper story. Question Everything with journalist Danielle Robay cuts through social media buzz to uncover the voices, ideas, and cultural moments that shape how we see the world. Each week, she asks bold questions that challenge assumptions and reveal the nuance behind the narratives, inviting you to look closer at the world, and at yourself. Because there's always more to the story.
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Danielle is also the creator of the bestselling QUESTION EVERYTHING card game series, which has sparked connection and conversation in thousands of living rooms around the world. She's also the co-executive producer (alongside Reese Witherspoon) and host of Bookmarked by Reese's Book Club. With her signature curiosity—dubbed "The Queen of Questions"—and a background in political science, Danielle brings both heart and rigor to every conversation. A Gloria Steinem Fellow and mentee of Larry King, she's carried forward a legacy of curiosity and connection, interviewing icons from Taylor Swift to Malala Yousafzai in more than 8,000 hours of elevated conversation.

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Is This a Men’s Crisis—or a Human One? With Dr. Gary Barker

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Peptides are everywhere. Ozempic won't leave the headlines. And social media seems determined to convince us that the next health breakthrough is only one purchase away. So what's actually worth paying attention to? In this episode, Danielle welcomes celebrity trainer, nutrition scientist, and bestselling author Harley Pasternak for an unfiltered conversation about the biggest wellness trends dominating the internet right now. From peptides and Ozempic to detoxes, supplements, fiber-maxxing, and celebrity health culture, Harley breaks down what's backed by science, what's overhyped, and what's potentially dangerous. In this episode, you'll learn:
Why Harley says most peptides being promoted online are essentially an uncontrolled experiment on human beings
The surprising reason he trusts Ozempic and GLP-1s, but remains deeply skeptical of most other peptides
The scary reality of what's actually being found inside many peptides sold online
Why "Big Pharma doesn't want you to know" is often a red flag, not a revelation
The wellness trend Harley says has absolutely no evidence behind it
How social media created a generation of people taking supplements they can't explain
Why Harley changed his mind about Ozempic after years of opposing it
The concept of "food noise" and what GLP-1s may actually be doing inside the brain
The shocking reason Harley walked away from The Biggest Loser before it became a hit
Why focusing on weight loss can make you less healthy (and what to focus on instead)
The Viktor Frankl quote that completely changed Harley's approach to health, happiness, and success
The lesson about weight loss that most busy people miss
Why intermittent fasting may be a lot less revolutionary than you've been led to believe
The one form of exercise Harley believes every woman should prioritize—even if she hates it
What working with Jessica Simpson, Megan Fox, Halle Berry, and the Kardashians taught Harley about discipline and success
In a world obsessed with hacks, shortcuts, and miracle solutions, what Harley says actually works

Make sure to follow Harley on Instagram @harleypasternak 

Check out Harley’s latest book The Carb Resethere

Peptides are everywhere. Ozempic won't leave the headlines. And social media seems determined to convince us that the next health breakthrough is only one purchase away. So what's actually worth paying attention to? In this episode, Danielle welcomes celebrity trainer, nutrition scientist, and bestselling author Harley Pasternak for an unfiltered conversation about the biggest wellness trends dominating the internet right now. From peptides and Ozempic to detoxes, supplements, fiber-maxxing, and celebrity health culture, Harley breaks down what's backed by science, what's overhyped, and what's potentially dangerous. In this episode, you'll learn:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why Harley says most peptides being promoted online are essentially an uncontrolled experiment on human beings</li>
<li aria-level="1">The surprising reason he trusts Ozempic and GLP-1s, but remains deeply skeptical of most other peptides</li>
<li aria-level="1">The scary reality of what's actually being found inside many peptides sold online</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why "Big Pharma doesn't want you to know" is often a red flag, not a revelation</li>
<li aria-level="1">The wellness trend Harley says has absolutely no evidence behind it</li>
<li aria-level="1">How social media created a generation of people taking supplements they can't explain</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why Harley changed his mind about Ozempic after years of opposing it</li>
<li aria-level="1">The concept of "food noise" and what GLP-1s may actually be doing inside the brain</li>
<li aria-level="1">The shocking reason Harley walked away from The Biggest Loser before it became a hit</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why focusing on weight loss can make you less healthy (and what to focus on instead)</li>
<li aria-level="1">The Viktor Frankl quote that completely changed Harley's approach to health, happiness, and success</li>
<li aria-level="1">The lesson about weight loss that most busy people miss</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why intermittent fasting may be a lot less revolutionary than you've been led to believe</li>
<li aria-level="1">The one form of exercise Harley believes every woman should prioritize&mdash;even if she hates it</li>
<li aria-level="1">What working with Jessica Simpson, Megan Fox, Halle Berry, and the Kardashians taught Harley about discipline and success</li>
<li aria-level="1">In a world obsessed with hacks, shortcuts, and miracle solutions, what Harley says actually works</li>
</ul>
Make sure to follow Harley on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/harleypasternak/?hl=en">@harleypasternak&nbsp;</a>
Check out Harley&rsquo;s latest book The Carb Reset <a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-carb-reset-store-less-fat-burn-the-rest-and-harness-the-power-of-carbs-to-lose-weight-harley-pasternak-m-sc/07527dc496682ba1">here</a>

Peptides, Ozempic, Lies + Health Hacks: What Actually Works? with Harley Pasternak

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Women entered the workforce. We got the degrees. We built careers. So why do so many of us still feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and like we're falling behind? In this episode of Question Everything, economist, professor, and author Corinne Low helps us unpack the hidden economics of modern womanhood, from invisible labor and unequal leisure time to the surprising role our relationships play in our ability to become who we want to be. Corinne and Danielle explore what "having it all" actually means, why choosing a partner may be one of the most important decisions we'll ever make, and whether women are still making trades inside a social contract we never agreed to. Because this conversation isn't really about chores, marriage, or even economics. It's about a bigger question: What does becoming look like for us—and what are we willing to trade to get there? In this episode, you'll learn:
Why women still perform trillions of dollars of unpaid labor every year
What 400 extra hours a year could mean for our careers, health, creativity, and happiness
Why equality at work didn't automatically create equality at home
The hidden reason so many ambitious women feel perpetually exhausted
Why Corinne says choosing a partner is one of the most important economic decisions we'll ever make
The surprising quality that's sexier than "sexy" in a long-term relationship
How invisible labor affects ambition, career growth, and self-worth
Why resentment often starts with time, not money
The trap many couples fall into when one person's goals take priority over the other's
Corinne's argument that a happy marriage requires both people to be self-actualized
Why "having it all" may be the wrong question entirely
The tradeoffs every woman is making (whether she realizes it or not)
How modern relationships can either accelerate or limit who we're becoming
A question Danielle couldn't stop thinking about: What would you do with ten extra weeks of your life every year?

Make sure to pick up a copy of Corinne’s book Having It All, here.

Follow Corinne on Instagram here.

Women entered the workforce. We got the degrees. We built careers. So why do so many of us still feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and like we're falling behind? In this episode of Question Everything, economist, professor, and author Corinne Low helps us unpack the hidden economics of modern womanhood, from invisible labor and unequal leisure time to the surprising role our relationships play in our ability to become who we want to be. Corinne and Danielle explore what "having it all" actually means, why choosing a partner may be one of the most important decisions we'll ever make, and whether women are still making trades inside a social contract we never agreed to. Because this conversation isn't really about chores, marriage, or even economics. It's about a bigger question: What does becoming look like for us&mdash;and what are we willing to trade to get there? In this episode, you'll learn:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why women still perform trillions of dollars of unpaid labor every year</li>
<li aria-level="1">What 400 extra hours a year could mean for our careers, health, creativity, and happiness</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why equality at work didn't automatically create equality at home</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden reason so many ambitious women feel perpetually exhausted</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why Corinne says choosing a partner is one of the most important economic decisions we'll ever make</li>
<li aria-level="1">The surprising quality that's sexier than "sexy" in a long-term relationship</li>
<li aria-level="1">How invisible labor affects ambition, career growth, and self-worth</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why resentment often starts with time, not money</li>
<li aria-level="1">The trap many couples fall into when one person's goals take priority over the other's</li>
<li aria-level="1">Corinne's argument that a happy marriage requires both people to be self-actualized</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why "having it all" may be the wrong question entirely</li>
<li aria-level="1">The tradeoffs every woman is making (whether she realizes it or not)</li>
<li aria-level="1">How modern relationships can either accelerate or limit who we're becoming</li>
<li aria-level="1">A question Danielle couldn't stop thinking about: What would you do with ten extra weeks of your life every year?</li>
</ul>
Make sure to pick up a copy of Corinne&rsquo;s book Having It All, <a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/having-it-all-what-data-tells-us-about-women-s-lives-and-getting-the-most-out-of-yours-corinne-low-phd/3f0b995b3c02af41?utm_source=google&amp;utm_medium=cpc&amp;utm_campaign=dsa_nonbrand&amp;utm_content=%7Badgroupname%7D&amp;utm_term=aud-1187518993648:dsa-19959388920&amp;gad_source=1&amp;gad_campaignid=12440232635&amp;gbraid=0AAAAACfld42h3vW2CTSS2nS7ueRz5Qrqe&amp;gclid=Cj0KCQjw_vnQBhCxARIsADcZyxJnqkqSk7lEnCkfIFVWwl9gDEeO13kXzCit_rnGRA1VMOgspI_C4_kaAjkSEALw_wcB">here</a>.
Follow Corinne on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/corinnelowphd/?hl=en">here</a>.

The Lie Behind "Having It All" + the Real Gender Gap Nobody Talks About With Corinne Low

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What if the version of success you’ve been chasing was inherited, not consciously chosen? In this episode, Brooke Taylor, former Google Marketing Lead turned career coach and author argues that many ambitious women are unknowingly suffering from what she calls “the success wound”: the belief that our worth has to be earned through achievement. From elite schools to prestigious careers, we’re taught to chase accomplishment as the path to freedom. But what happens when you finally get there… and still feel empty? Brooke opens up about how her own success nearly destroyed her career at Google and shattered her sense of self. She also details why achievement can become a coping mechanism, how comparison quietly shapes our identities, and why so many outwardly successful women are falling apart behind the scenes. Brooke shares:
Why high achievers often feel empty after “making it”
The hidden psychological cost of tying self-worth to achievement
Why success can quietly become a coping mechanism
The breaking point that led Brooke to leave Google and completely reevaluate her life
What Healing the Success Wound reveals about burnout, ambition, and identity
The difference between healthy ambition and trauma-driven hustle
The five types of unfulfilled achievers: Grinder, Pleaser, Hider, Seeker & Work Hard Play Hard
Why outward success doesn’t guarantee inner fulfillment
The surprising reason high-achieving women experience more anxiety and burnout
How perfectionism keeps women stuck playing small
Why curiosity (not confidence) may be the real key to healing
Why learning to make decisions with only 51% certainty can transform your confidence and self-worth
The dangerous lie behind “I’ll relax once I get through this season”
How to stop using productivity to prove your worth
Practical ways to rebuild self-worth without losing your ambition

Follow Brooke on Instagram @brookevtaylor

Be sure to check out Brooke’s book Healing the Success Woundhere

What if the version of success you&rsquo;ve been chasing was inherited, not consciously chosen? In this episode, Brooke Taylor, former Google Marketing Lead turned career coach and author argues that many ambitious women are unknowingly suffering from what she calls &ldquo;the success wound&rdquo;: the belief that our worth has to be earned through achievement. From elite schools to prestigious careers, we&rsquo;re taught to chase accomplishment as the path to freedom. But what happens when you finally get there&hellip; and still feel empty? Brooke opens up about how her own success nearly destroyed her career at Google and shattered her sense of self. She also details why achievement can become a coping mechanism, how comparison quietly shapes our identities, and why so many outwardly successful women are falling apart behind the scenes. Brooke shares:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why high achievers often feel empty after &ldquo;making it&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">The hidden psychological cost of tying self-worth to achievement</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why success can quietly become a coping mechanism</li>
<li aria-level="1">The breaking point that led Brooke to leave Google and completely reevaluate her life</li>
<li aria-level="1">What Healing the Success Wound reveals about burnout, ambition, and identity</li>
<li aria-level="1">The difference between healthy ambition and trauma-driven hustle</li>
<li aria-level="1">The five types of unfulfilled achievers: Grinder, Pleaser, Hider, Seeker &amp; Work Hard Play Hard</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why outward success doesn&rsquo;t guarantee inner fulfillment</li>
<li aria-level="1">The surprising reason high-achieving women experience more anxiety and burnout</li>
<li aria-level="1">How perfectionism keeps women stuck playing small</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why curiosity (not confidence) may be the real key to healing</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why learning to make decisions with only 51% certainty can transform your confidence and self-worth</li>
<li aria-level="1">The dangerous lie behind &ldquo;I&rsquo;ll relax once I get through this season&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to stop using productivity to prove your worth</li>
<li aria-level="1">Practical ways to rebuild self-worth without losing your ambition</li>
</ul>
Follow Brooke on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/brookevtaylor/">@brookevtaylor</a>
Be sure to check out Brooke&rsquo;s book Healing the Success Wound <a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/healing-the-success-wound-align-your-ambition-find-lasting-career-fulfillment-and-end-the-cycle-of-never-enough-brooke-taylor/4d7461464b866da6?ean=9780306836107&amp;next=t&amp;utm_source=google&amp;utm_medium=cpc&amp;utm_campaign=%7Bcampaignname%7D&amp;utm_content=6443417794&amp;gad_source=1&amp;gad_campaignid=16235479093&amp;gbraid=0AAAAACfld40RFQUvK6DtWPZK1DMguUsyQ&amp;gclid=CjwKCAjwidXQBhAZEiwA4egw6FEDYbKPB5S40uHDbZp1O5C-25zVngbBN1UvB38XL0PlE9RuVN6S0RoCo6QQAvD_BwE">here</a>

Why High-Achieving Women Can Still Feel Empty With Brooke Taylor (ex-Google)

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