Cat Lantigua is a first-generation Dominican-American author, community architect, podcast host and creative strategist helping to build spaces that foster soul-centered conversations and a sense of belonging. Today she joins PRETTYSMART to share all about her new book "Build It and They Will Come - A Guide to Architecting Intentional Community." She Shares:
How she learned to embrace herself as a kid even though she felt she was always standing out.
How she manifested friendships that really allowed her to be herself. 
Why it's so important to leave room for spontaneity and get out of your routine if you're looking to expand your community or become a different version of yourself.
What led her to create the Goddess Council and bring people together in community.
Why everyone is lonelier than we realize. 
Why we need to get back to caring about other people's pain. 
How social media has made us forget that we are all human beings and her tips to get off line and into IRL.
Her top tips for hosting a get together. 
Why you have to push through the awkwardness of putting yourself out there (and off of your phone!) 
Why true friendship and a community you feel safe in won't happen until you really practice self love. 

Follow Cat on Instagram @cat.lantigua 

Her book "Build It And They Will Come." is available  here!

Cat Lantigua is a first-generation Dominican-American author, community architect, podcast host and creative strategist helping to build spaces that foster soul-centered conversations and a sense of belonging. Today she joins PRETTYSMART to share all about her new book "Build It and They Will Come - A Guide to Architecting Intentional Community." She Shares: <ul class="ul1"> <li class="li2">How she learned to embrace herself as a kid even though she felt she was always standing out.</li> <li class="li2">How she manifested friendships that really allowed her to be herself. </li> <li class="li2">Why it's so important to leave room for spontaneity and get out of your routine if you're looking to expand your community or become a different version of yourself.</li> <li class="li2">What led her to create the Goddess Council and bring people together in community.</li> <li class="li2">Why everyone is lonelier than we realize. </li> <li class="li2">Why we need to get back to caring about other people's pain. </li> <li class="li2">How social media has made us forget that we are all human beings and her tips to get off line and into IRL.</li> <li class="li2">Her top tips for hosting a get together. </li> <li class="li2">Why you have to push through the awkwardness of putting yourself out there (and off of your phone!) </li> <li class="li2">Why true friendship and a community you feel safe in won't happen until you really practice self love. </li> </ul> Follow Cat on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/cat.lantigua/?hl=en">@cat.lantigua </a> Her book "Build It And They Will Come." is available <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Build-They-Will-Come-Architecting/dp/B0CZHPSFM8/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2E1EO4Y677YAK&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.mnmC_-xzTLeQV5hw6Sf--e6b5HtiN114BryoCqABBXVAwRw3R0Qa4Uv0twMeLf7T_Gt3QtH_N1SkEk9_Z1v6IrxS9WvN8u0rV6Nf1WLB_u973rE-tHPIu_eLoGsIl8wW8Bh7BBBQh6axccvDAkptLU2M4_iXKa0-hpg1xX6guMoKrRknW0ozwu97K2vsicxyfduFtdtB1sKXJ36iS7boGGoP5MseVFDlYcq1bzJ_q5E.-yVlFWpqDrvGmiEWfDbJrpPdGM_TmEDX7r4pxRn_ieA&dib_tag=se&keywords=build+it+and+they+will+come&qid=1721840824&sprefix=build+it+and+they+will+com%2Caps%2C108&sr=8-1"> here!</a>

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How to Build the Community You Desire: with Cat Lantigua

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We all move through the same world, but we don’t all notice the same things. In this episode, Danielle speaks with visual artist Daniel Arsham about what it actually means to pay attention, and how refining that skill can shape not just your worldview, but your creativity and success. From choosing to live inside a 90-square-foot space in his own studio to building a global career spanning art, fashion, and design, Arsham’s life is a case study in the art of perception. Today, his work sits at the intersection of culture and luxury, collaborating with brands like Dior, Porsche, Tiffany & Co., and Pokémon, with sculptures that sell for millions and exhibitions that draw thousands across multiple continents. This conversation goes beyond aesthetics and into something deeper: how we train ourselves to notice, what we filter out, and how those choices quietly shape what we create, a philosophy he explores further in his new memoir, Future Relic. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Daniel’s take on the art of noticing, and how photography first taught him that a camera is not just for documenting the world, but for framing a personal way of seeing it.
The idea behind failure as a creative necessity.
Why Daniel says success often comes down to being willing to fail longer than most people are comfortable with.
How his humble beginnings at his Greenpoint studio became a key lesson in his career.
Why Daniel wanted his memoir Future Relic to focus so heavily on process, detours, and setbacks 
What Daniel considers his clearest public failure, and why most creative disappointments matter far less than they feel like they do in the moment.
The story of Daniel building a full-scale cardboard replica of Emmanuel Perrotin’s gallery inside his studio as a way of pitching himself. 
The changing value of handmade work in an increasingly digital and AI-driven world
Daniel’s take on taste, which he says is developed through exposure, travel, and experience, not something you are simply born with.

Follow Daniel on Instagram and make sure to check out his book Future Relic 

We all move through the same world, but we don&rsquo;t all notice the same things. In this episode, Danielle speaks with visual artist Daniel Arsham about what it actually means to pay attention, and how refining that skill can shape not just your worldview, but your creativity and success. From choosing to live inside a 90-square-foot space in his own studio to building a global career spanning art, fashion, and design, Arsham&rsquo;s life is a case study in the art of perception. Today, his work sits at the intersection of culture and luxury, collaborating with brands like Dior, Porsche, Tiffany &amp; Co., and Pok&eacute;mon, with sculptures that sell for millions and exhibitions that draw thousands across multiple continents. This conversation goes beyond aesthetics and into something deeper: how we train ourselves to notice, what we filter out, and how those choices quietly shape what we create, a philosophy he explores further in his new memoir, Future Relic. In this episode, you&rsquo;ll learn:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Daniel&rsquo;s take on the art of noticing, and how photography first taught him that a camera is not just for documenting the world, but for framing a personal way of seeing it.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The idea behind failure as a creative necessity.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why Daniel says success often comes down to being willing to fail longer than most people are comfortable with.</li>
<li aria-level="1">How his humble beginnings at his Greenpoint studio became a key lesson in his career.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why Daniel wanted his memoir Future Relic to focus so heavily on process, detours, and setbacks&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">What Daniel considers his clearest public failure, and why most creative disappointments matter far less than they feel like they do in the moment.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The story of Daniel building a full-scale cardboard replica of Emmanuel Perrotin&rsquo;s gallery inside his studio as a way of pitching himself.&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">The changing value of handmade work in an increasingly digital and AI-driven world</li>
<li aria-level="1">Daniel&rsquo;s take on taste, which he says is developed through exposure, travel, and experience, not something you are simply born with.</li>
</ul>
Follow Daniel on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/danielarsham/">Instagram</a> and make sure to check out his book <a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/future-relic-failures-disasters-detours-and-how-i-made-a-career-as-an-artist-daniel-arsham/e290d48f529a07e5">Future Relic&nbsp;</a>

You're Not Failing Long Enough To Be Successful With Artist Daniel Arsham

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We like to believe we know who we are. But what if the version of yourself you’ve been living as… isn’t actually you? In this episode of Question Everything, Danielle sits down with bestselling author and therapist Katherine Woodward Thomas to explore the hidden stories shaping our identities, our relationships, and the patterns we can’t seem to break. Katherine, best known for coining the term “conscious uncoupling,” is back with a deeper question: not just how we separate from others, but how we separate from the outdated versions of ourselves we’ve been living inside. This conversation challenges the idea that healing is only about looking backward, and introduces a new way of thinking about identity, growth, and what it actually takes to change your life. In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why you may still be living inside a story you formed as a child
The concept of “source fracture stories” and how they shape your identity
Why many self-help approaches keep us stuck in analysis instead of actual transformation
How we can recreate our biggest wounds in present-day relationships
The subtle ways we reinforce beliefs like “I’m not good enough” or “I’m not wanted”
A simple practice for speaking to yourself in a way that interrupts anxiety and spiraling
How to recognize when you’re operating from reaction vs. consciously creating your life
Why healing isn’t just about understanding your past, but changing your future
The difference between your “wounded self” and your “wise self”
How to interrupt emotional patterns in real time with one simple question
Why Katherine says beliefs are formed in relationships, and must be transformed in them
The role of identity in manifestation 
Tools for understand what you are uniquely coded for 
How to begin shifting into a new version of yourself
The power of asking: What am I assuming is true?

Follow Katherine on Instagram and make sure to check out her book What’s True About You

Book recommendation:The Game of Life and How to Play It by Florence Scovel Shinn 

We like to believe we know who we are. But what if the version of yourself you&rsquo;ve been living as&hellip; isn&rsquo;t actually you? In this episode of Question Everything, Danielle sits down with bestselling author and therapist Katherine Woodward Thomas to explore the hidden stories shaping our identities, our relationships, and the patterns we can&rsquo;t seem to break. Katherine, best known for coining the term &ldquo;conscious uncoupling,&rdquo; is back with a deeper question: not just how we separate from others, but how we separate from the outdated versions of ourselves we&rsquo;ve been living inside. This conversation challenges the idea that healing is only about looking backward, and introduces a new way of thinking about identity, growth, and what it actually takes to change your life. In this episode, you&rsquo;ll learn:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Why you may still be living inside a story you formed as a child</li>
<li aria-level="1">The concept of &ldquo;source fracture stories&rdquo; and how they shape your identity</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why many self-help approaches keep us stuck in analysis instead of actual transformation</li>
<li aria-level="1">How we can recreate our biggest wounds in present-day relationships</li>
<li aria-level="1">The subtle ways we reinforce beliefs like &ldquo;I&rsquo;m not good enough&rdquo; or &ldquo;I&rsquo;m not wanted&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">A simple practice for speaking to yourself in a way that interrupts anxiety and spiraling</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to recognize when you&rsquo;re operating from reaction vs. consciously creating your life</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why healing isn&rsquo;t just about understanding your past, but changing your future</li>
<li aria-level="1">The difference between your &ldquo;wounded self&rdquo; and your &ldquo;wise self&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to interrupt emotional patterns in real time with one simple question</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why Katherine says beliefs are formed in relationships, and must be transformed in them</li>
<li aria-level="1">The role of identity in manifestation&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">Tools for understand what you are uniquely coded for&nbsp;</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to begin shifting into a new version of yourself</li>
<li aria-level="1">The power of asking: What am I assuming is true?</li>
</ul>
Follow Katherine on <a href="https://www.instagram.com/katherinewoodwardthomas/?hl=en">Instagram</a> and make sure to check out her book <a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/what-s-true-about-you-7-steps-to-move-beyond-your-painful-past-and-manifest-your-brightest-future-katherine-woodward-thomas/670ab03995862f0f">What&rsquo;s True About You</a>
Book recommendation:<a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-game-of-life-and-how-to-play-it-a-prosperity-classic-florence-scovel-shinn/28c9effb253e9f4c">The Game of Life and How to Play It</a> by Florence Scovel Shinn&nbsp;

The Hidden Story Running Your Life With Katherine Woodward Thomas (Therapist) 

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Dany Garcia has built one of the most powerful portfolios in entertainment, but her path there was anything but smooth. Before she became the chairwoman, entrepreneur, and strategic force behind some of Hollywood’s biggest names, she was a 13-year-old girl who decided she was going to build wealth and create a life for herself. From selling men’s suits as a teenager to leaving Merrill Lynch to start her own firm, to architecting the career of Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson (even after their divorce), Dany has spent her life questioning the rules about power, ambition, and success. But behind the empire is a story of setbacks, rejection, and reinvention. Dany believes that there is no big life without losses, and that the willingness to keep showing up after failure is the real difference between people who dream big and people who build big.

In this episode of Question Everything, Dany opens up to Danielle about the lessons that shaped her: childhood expectations, career risks, painful losses, and the mindset that helped her rebuild again and again. Dany shares:
The rule she broke that changed her life: “The red carpet is only for celebrities.”
How she decided at 13 years old that she was going to create wealth.
Selling men’s suits at 16 and the early lessons that shaped her business mindset.
Meeting Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson in college — and later becoming the architect of his career.
Why she continued working with Dwayne professionally even after their divorce.
What she learned from walking into Hollywood boardrooms where people didn’t take her seriously.
The painful realization that the system she helped build might never give her the recognition she expected.
The moment she decided to stop waiting for her “turn” and create her own platform.
Why she believes winning and losing are inseparable when you’re building a big life.
Becoming a competitive bodybuilder in her 40s and what athletics taught her about resilience.
The philosophy behind her brand Dany Garcia’s Donny Moss and advancing the human experience.
What she does better than almost anyone else in business.
How success has evolved from money and ambition to culture, sustainability, and impact.

Follow Dany @DanyGarcia to stay updated on her latest ventures, including DANIMÁS, The Garcia Companies, Seven Bucks Productions, the UFL, and more.

Book Recommendation: Power vs. Force by David R. Hawkins

Dany Garcia has built one of the most powerful portfolios in entertainment, but her path there was anything but smooth. Before she became the chairwoman, entrepreneur, and strategic force behind some of Hollywood&rsquo;s biggest names, she was a 13-year-old girl who decided she was going to build wealth and create a life for herself. From selling men&rsquo;s suits as a teenager to leaving Merrill Lynch to start her own firm, to architecting the career of Dwayne &ldquo;The Rock&rdquo; Johnson (even after their divorce), Dany has spent her life questioning the rules about power, ambition, and success. But behind the empire is a story of setbacks, rejection, and reinvention. Dany believes that there is no big life without losses, and that the willingness to keep showing up after failure is the real difference between people who dream big and people who build big.
In this episode of Question Everything, Dany opens up to Danielle about the lessons that shaped her: childhood expectations, career risks, painful losses, and the mindset that helped her rebuild again and again. Dany shares:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">The rule she broke that changed her life: &ldquo;The red carpet is only for celebrities.&rdquo;</li>
<li aria-level="1">How she decided at 13 years old that she was going to create wealth.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Selling men&rsquo;s suits at 16 and the early lessons that shaped her business mindset.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Meeting Dwayne &ldquo;The Rock&rdquo; Johnson in college &mdash; and later becoming the architect of his career.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why she continued working with Dwayne professionally even after their divorce.</li>
<li aria-level="1">What she learned from walking into Hollywood boardrooms where people didn&rsquo;t take her seriously.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The painful realization that the system she helped build might never give her the recognition she expected.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The moment she decided to stop waiting for her &ldquo;turn&rdquo; and create her own platform.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why she believes winning and losing are inseparable when you&rsquo;re building a big life.</li>
<li aria-level="1">Becoming a competitive bodybuilder in her 40s and what athletics taught her about resilience.</li>
<li aria-level="1">The philosophy behind her brand Dany Garcia&rsquo;s Donny Moss and advancing the human experience.</li>
<li aria-level="1">What she does better than almost anyone else in business.</li>
<li aria-level="1">How success has evolved from money and ambition to culture, sustainability, and impact.</li>
</ul>
Follow Dany <a href="https://www.instagram.com/danygarciaco/?hl=en">@DanyGarcia</a> to stay updated on her latest ventures, including DANIM&Aacute;S, The Garcia Companies, Seven Bucks Productions, the UFL, and more.
Book Recommendation: <a href="https://bookshop.org/p/books/power-vs-force-david-r-hawkins-md-phd/09de859ad671e197">Power vs. Force by David R. Hawkins</a>

Dany Garcia: The Bigger the Loss, The Bigger the Life

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How to Build the Community You Desire: with Cat Lantigua

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