In this episode of the Powerful Stories Podcast we sat down with best-selling author, Sonia Bestulic. They met when Sonia joined Tory’s Business Attraction program in 2020. Sonia has just launched her third book – ‘Flourish for Mums- 21 ways to thrive with self-care and acceptance.’ She understands the juggle of life as a wife, mother of 3 and businesswoman. ‘Every day is different and it is always changing. Coming to the point of accepting that was liberating’ says Sonia ‘I needed to embrace the fact that I am learning and growing just as my children are – so let’s do this together’.

In Sonia’s book she says, ‘Life is only a reflection of what we allow ourselves to see.’ Sonia, has worked with thousands of mothers, over 20 years, as a speech pathologist. She has seen three main challenges that stop mothers from flourishing. ‘78% of mothers put off looking after their own health as they are in a mindset that our children and family come first’ says Sonia. ‘Mother’s guilt is real.’ Society has placed unrealistic expectations on Mum’s ‘which results in them not feeling good enough.’ The third challenges arises when we bring in work. ‘It actually changes a woman’s perception of time – the feeling that there is not enough time to fit it in.’

So, what do mothers truly want? Happiness and health for their children. To nurture a positive relationship we need warmth, care, support and quality time. ‘The most fundamental relationship we have is the one with ourselves. If our children witness us practicing self-care, we are modelling to them a crucial life skill.’ So, we need to prioritise ourselves first and we need to create a personal mission statement to step into alignment with what we value. ‘For me it’s empowering positive change, and that filters through with what goes on at home as well.’ Sonia quotes Jack Cornfield- “It’s not about perfecting yourself; it is perfecting your love.” It is a powerful statement. Sonia believes ‘you should be living your life powered and fuelled by love and not guilt.’

Once a year, Tory does a friends and family detox where she reflects on those who have had a positive impact on her life. ‘We’ve got to choose our company wisely’ says Sonia ‘It is important to be selective because it is an act of self-care. When you are surrounded by people who authentically build you up it feels like the sky is the limit.’

So, sit back and enjoy this powerful story with the extraordinary Sonia Bestulic.

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