In this episode, I talk with my good friend and greatest mentor for personal growth and self-awareness, Dave Rossi—appearing for his fifth time on the podcast, a new record, in the B.rad studio during his tour for his new book, Alphas Die Early: For the Man on a Mission — And the Women Who Love Him.

The book is so rich and deep, and I strongly urge you to read it—it can be life changing, as it has been for me. I had the great privilege of contributing to the book, and every time I talk to Dave, it’s like a 10-hour therapy session packed into a short conversation, where you get these awakenings and ideas that can help you navigate every single day.

We discuss the rise of what Dave calls the Omega man—a new, evolved definition of masculinity—and the central argument of Alphas Die Early: that the traditional Alpha male model, driven by dominance, control, competition, and relentless achievement, is ultimately destructive. The very traits that create success in business and status—stress, emotional suppression, ego, and constant striving—can also lead to burnout, poor health, and shortened lifespan.

Dave explains the shift toward leading from self-awareness, emotional control, authenticity, and purpose, emphasizing inner calm over constant pressure, authenticity over performance, vulnerability over emotional suppression, and sustainable purpose over endless achievement. It really comes down to this: the traits that help men win in modern society can also destroy them—unless they evolve toward a more balanced, self-aware way of living and leading.

Finally, our conversation ends with me throwing a few "Rossi-isms" back at him—ideas and notes I’ve taken from our many conversations that really stick with me and continue to shape how I think and show up day to day, and Dave shares his perspective on each of them.

 

TIMESTAMPS:

The traits that help men win in modern society can also destroy them unless they evolve toward a more balanced, self-aware way of living and leading. [01:54]

Society is taking a whole new look at masculinity. We don't understand what it means to be Alpha. [08:06]

Being masculine wasn't a behavior 80 years ago like it is today. [12:39]

Learn to not be reactive to pushes that come at from others. Learn about what triggers you. [16:55]

Gratitude stops the landslide of negative thinking. [22:43]

We're all biologically driven to be Alpha, but then in real life, we learn to cope. [24:42]

Every day is going to be another opportunity to get triggered. [28:52]

You shouldn't have to compete to survive. When you are competing, it isn't really you, it's your identity or your ego that is competing. [32:50]

When you develop your awareness of your reactions, you can begin to slow down and develop techniques. [40:50]

Brad and Dave talk about a coaching method and how it works or doesn't work. [47:22]

Apologies are nice but sometimes they don't satisfy.  Compassion for the person you hurt is very effective. The only true apology is a changed behavior. [53:33]

It's not the events that makes us angry, it is the belief in them that does. With that awareness, you can chose your behavior. [56:11]

In the business world the same sense of the need to survive exists. [01:01:21]

Are you doing things for the right reasons? [01:11:13]

Do you have to be successful to like what you do? [01:21:40]

Are you stuck with your desires and don't know how to get what you want? [01:22:13]

We have to stop looking at the rest of the world as our example for success. [01:27:53]

Don't react to emotions. They're not the truth. Emotions cannot exist without thought. [01:29:23]

It is important to let people with whom you deal what your preferences are, what you think, what you want, your values, your principles. [01:34:42]

You don't have to let go of your beliefs to accept somebody else's. [01:38:14]

 

LINKS:
Brad Kearns.com
BradNutrition.com - 20% OFF Your First Order!
B.rad Superdrink – Hydrates 28% Faster than Water—Creatine-Charged Hydration for Next-Level Power, Focus, and Recovery
NEW: B.rad Real Rad Gummies - Creatine + Nootropics for Focus, Motivation, Performance, and Recovery!
B.rad Whey Protein Superfuel - The Best Protein on The Planet!
Brad’s Shopping Page
BornToWalkBook.com
B.rad Podcast – All Episodes
Peluva Five-Toe Minimalist Shoes
Alphas Die Early
The Imperative Habit

 

We appreciate all feedback, and questions for Q&A shows, emailed to podcast@bradventures.com. If you have a moment, please share an episode you like with a quick text message, or leave a review on your podcast app. Thank you!

Check out each of these companies because they are absolutely awesome or they wouldn’t occupy this revered space. Seriously, I won’t promote anything that I don't absolutely love and use in daily life:

B.rad Nutrition: Premium quality, all-natural supplements for peak performance, recovery, and longevity; including the world's highest quality whey protein! Get 20% OFF your first order!

Peluva: Comfortable, functional, stylish five-toe minimalist shoe to reawaken optimal foot function. Use code BRADPODCAST for 15% off!

Jaspr Air Scrubber: Ultra high-performance air purifier - blows other air filters away! Save $400 on your unit with code BRAD.

Get Stride: Advanced DNA, methylation profile, microbiome & blood at-home testing. Hit your stride the right way, with cutting-edge technology and customized programming. Save 10% with the code BRAD.

Online educational courses: Numerous great offerings for an immersive home-study educational experience

Primal Fitness Expert Certification: The most comprehensive online course on all aspects of traditional fitness programming and a total immersion fitness lifestyle. Save 25% on tuition with code BRAD!

#bradpodcast

In this episode, I talk with my good friend and greatest mentor for personal growth and self-awareness, Dave Rossi&mdash;appearing for his fifth time on the podcast, a new record, in the B.rad studio during his tour for his <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Alphas-Die-Early-Mission-Women/dp/1923223798">new book</a>, Alphas Die Early: For the Man on a Mission &mdash; And the Women Who Love Him.
The book is so rich and deep, and I strongly urge you to read it&mdash;it can be life changing, as it has been for me. I had the great privilege of contributing to the book, and every time I talk to Dave, it&rsquo;s like a 10-hour therapy session packed into a short conversation, where you get these awakenings and ideas that can help you navigate every single day.
We discuss the rise of what Dave calls the Omega man&mdash;a new, evolved definition of masculinity&mdash;and the central argument of Alphas Die Early: that the traditional Alpha male model, driven by dominance, control, competition, and relentless achievement, is ultimately destructive. The very traits that create success in business and status&mdash;stress, emotional suppression, ego, and constant striving&mdash;can also lead to burnout, poor health, and shortened lifespan.
Dave explains the shift toward leading from self-awareness, emotional control, authenticity, and purpose, emphasizing inner calm over constant pressure, authenticity over performance, vulnerability over emotional suppression, and sustainable purpose over endless achievement. It really comes down to this: the traits that help men win in modern society can also destroy them&mdash;unless they evolve toward a more balanced, self-aware way of living and leading.
Finally, our conversation ends with me throwing a few "Rossi-isms" back at him&mdash;ideas and notes I&rsquo;ve taken from our many conversations that really stick with me and continue to shape how I think and show up day to day, and Dave shares his perspective on each of them.
&nbsp;
TIMESTAMPS:
The traits that help men win in modern society can also destroy them unless they evolve toward a more balanced, self-aware way of living and leading. [01:54]
Society is taking a whole new look at masculinity. We don't understand what it means to be Alpha. [08:06]
Being masculine wasn't a behavior 80 years ago like it is today. [12:39]
Learn to not be reactive to pushes that come at from others. Learn about what triggers you. [16:55]
Gratitude stops the landslide of negative thinking. [22:43]
We're all biologically driven to be Alpha, but then in real life, we learn to cope. [24:42]
Every day is going to be another opportunity to get triggered. [28:52]
You shouldn't have to compete to survive. When you are competing, it isn't really you, it's your identity or your ego that is competing. [32:50]
When you develop your awareness of your reactions, you can begin to slow down and develop techniques. [40:50]
Brad and Dave talk about a coaching method and how it works or doesn't work. [47:22]
Apologies are nice but sometimes they don't satisfy.&nbsp; Compassion for the person you hurt is very effective. The only true apology is a changed behavior. [53:33]
It's not the events that makes us angry, it is the belief in them that does. With that awareness, you can chose your behavior. [56:11]
In the business world the same sense of the need to survive exists. [01:01:21]
Are you doing things for the right reasons? [01:11:13]
Do you have to be successful to like what you do? [01:21:40]
Are you stuck with your desires and don't know how to get what you want? [01:22:13]
We have to stop looking at the rest of the world as our example for success. [01:27:53]
Don't react to emotions. They're not the truth. Emotions cannot exist without thought. [01:29:23]
It is important to let people with whom you deal what your preferences are, what you think, what you want, your values, your principles. [01:34:42]
You don't have to let go of your beliefs to accept somebody else's. [01:38:14]
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LINKS:
<ul>
<li><a href="https://bradkearns.com/podcast-index/">Brad Kearns.com</a></li>
<li><a href="http://bradnutrition.com/">BradNutrition.com - 20% OFF Your First Order!</a></li>
<li><a href="https://a.co/d/3pVVl9w">B.rad Superdrink &ndash; Hydrates 28% Faster than Water&mdash;Creatine-Charged Hydration for Next-Level Power, Focus, and Recovery</a></li>
<li><a href="https://a.co/d/00WIESpY">NEW: B.rad Real Rad Gummies - Creatine + Nootropics for Focus, Motivation, Performance, and Recovery!</a><a href="https://a.co/d/00WIESpY"></a></li>
<li><a href="about:blank">B.rad Whey Protein Superfuel - The Best Protein on The Planet!</a></li>
<li><a href="https://bradkearns.com/shop/">Brad&rsquo;s Shopping Page</a></li>
<li><a href="http://borntowalkbook.com/">BornToWalkBook.com</a></li>
<li><a href="https://bradkearns.com/podcast-index/">B.rad Podcast &ndash; All Episodes</a></li>
<li><a href="https://peluva.com/?view=cro-id28570">Peluva Five-Toe Minimalist Shoes</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Alphas-Die-Early-Mission-Women/dp/1923223771/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IAL6J8BFUDC0&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.XkeB9oEzatfpPz307G1AO-ECD7LMp2D5vS2VwdYGl_CZij2ef74Xyjsuvo3jxFtndPU0iwi7LSz_oBSFVV4YTPSPoeFfR6XB_nHUAW2sj2_K13OOoKCcKwHvJG-f1GnJ5_Fswk7aJQHTX20-0oXVKXsb0lhxWrIpanwNJRU4ayK0tYUO2jfvMfVdkxo1TjqLui0zE4ikGVBLUNWWBodOOzqV1KqXieScEkbDOkDKMkQ.NpEW0Ep4-CxaGnQnKOE-O_DH9b0avsl7BqMBb7piQd8&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=Alphas+Die+Early&amp;qid=1775248677&amp;sprefix=alphas+die+early%2Caps%2C182&amp;sr=8-1">Alphas Die Early</a></li>
<li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Imperative-Habit-Non-Spiritual-Practices-Spiritual/dp/B0D5F71556/ref=sr_1_1?crid=10Q1QYSQGUWEL&amp;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.Ikj0n5B2CPjAg0xbxJBKb7dEWyq7_aAOee9mdMRUh7qRVSA2cHPa6QDB2Is61vGr0nGr45_GFLNDrUly_5BC_c-99I5k7dcruqYbfnSC47yxmmWVPwsR5cr8hJHjsG9kferG1LFlzq5dhMjquYBrpsGZ24KnUaPrFMU8kl47t1rgaUn__S2dBRw3LjWZd3f9W9Zt4yr4c5VbBU3bJ9qRpuwxBvRldBxZRKeSMgIaSuo.TRqqSZEvHd1k38G1gNj0ks3h8JvKuZidYGVgCrOIZDY&amp;dib_tag=se&amp;keywords=The+Imperative+Habit&amp;qid=1775248791&amp;sprefix=the+imperative+habit%2Caps%2C179&amp;sr=8-1">The Imperative Habit</a></li>
</ul>
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We appreciate all feedback, and questions for Q&amp;A shows, emailed to <a href="mailto:getoveryourselfpodcast@gmail.com">podcast@bradventures.com</a>. If you have a moment, please share an episode you like with a quick text message, or leave a review on your podcast app. Thank you!
Check out each of these companies because they are absolutely awesome or they wouldn&rsquo;t occupy this revered space. Seriously, I won&rsquo;t promote anything that I don't absolutely love and use in daily life:
<a href="http://bradnutrition.com/?utm_source=brad-kearns-news.beehiiv.com&amp;utm_medium=referral&amp;utm_campaign=brad-kearns-news-dismantling-the-modern-fitness-lie">B.rad Nutrition:</a> Premium quality, all-natural supplements for peak performance, recovery, and longevity; including the world's highest quality whey protein! Get 20% OFF your first order!
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<a href="https://jaspr.co/products/airscrubber?rfsn=8682396.a9fad4">Jaspr Air Scrubber:</a> Ultra high-performance air purifier - blows other air filters away! Save $400 on your unit with code BRAD.
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<a href="https://bradventures.thinkific.com/collections?utm_source=brad-kearns-news.beehiiv.com&amp;utm_medium=newsletter&amp;utm_campaign=brad-kearns-news-dismantling-the-modern-fitness-lie">Online educational courses:</a>&nbsp;Numerous great offerings for an immersive home-study educational experience
<a href="https://www.primalhealthcoach.com/brad/?utm_source=brad-kearns-news.beehiiv.com&amp;utm_medium=newsletter&amp;utm_campaign=brad-kearns-news-dismantling-the-modern-fitness-lie">Primal Fitness Expert Certification</a>: The most comprehensive online course on all aspects of traditional fitness programming and a total immersion fitness lifestyle. Save 25% on tuition with code BRAD!
#bradpodcast

Join Brad Kearns, New York Times bestselling author, world #1 ranked masters 60+ high jumper, Speedgolf world record holder, and former world #3 ranked pro triathlete, in pursuing peak performance with passion throughout life. Brad delivers an engaging mix of step-by-step education on important health topics like staying fit, strong and powerful as you age; transforming diet to lose body fat and increase energy; sort through hype and misinformation to make simple, sustainable lifestyle changes; and broaden your perspective beyond a fit body to experience happy relationships, nonstop personal growth, and ultimately sail to 100 with a happy, healthy, long life. Let’s explore beyond shortcuts, hacks, and crushing competition to laugh, have fun, appreciate the journey, and not take ourselves too seriously. It’s time to B.rad!

 

Join Brad Kearns, New York Times bestselling author, world #1 ranked masters 60+ high jumper, Speedgolf world record holder, and former world #3 ranked pro triathlete, in pursuing peak performance with passion throughout life. Brad delivers an engaging mix of step-by-step education on important health topics like staying fit, strong and powerful as you age; transforming diet to lose body fat and increase energy; sort through hype and misinformation to make simple, sustainable lifestyle changes; and broaden your perspective beyond a fit body to experience happy relationships, nonstop personal growth, and ultimately sail to 100 with a happy, healthy, long life. Let&rsquo;s explore beyond shortcuts, hacks, and crushing competition to laugh, have fun, appreciate the journey, and not take ourselves too seriously. It&rsquo;s time to B.rad!
&nbsp;

Brad Kearns, NY Times bestselling author and world #1 masters age 60+ high jumper, offers a fun and diverse mix of interviews with leading authors and health experts, and  how-to shows for peak performance, weight loss, personal growth, and longevity