Rebroadcast: Did you know that the #1 longevity factor is not your diet or the quality of your sleep, but the health (or dysfunction) of your long-term romantic relationship? 

Yes, according to Dr. John Gray, it doesn’t matter how much you’re exercising or how healthy your lifestyle is—if your romantic relationship is a source of stress or unhappiness in your life, then that will inevitably take a toll on your health and affect your longevity.

In this rebroadcast of one of my favorite shows ever with Dr. John Gray, you will learn why most women lose their attraction to men after they open up about their feelings (and how to achieve intimacy while keeping a healthy emotional balance in your relationship), the actions you can avoid that tank your partner’s testosterone, what happens when a woman slides into the masculine role in a relationship, why Dr. John says: “Anytime you’re arguing with a woman, you’re afraid,” what causes men’s estrogen levels to rise, why men need to watch the way they exit to their “cave,” and why women have to watch out for how they pursue their man into his cave, and so many more helpful insights that you can apply to your relationships.

Enjoy this informative and helpful show with Dr. John Gray, who offers this sage advice: “Don’t let your fears control your behavior. Look at them, listen to them. Try to understand them…then take action, without letting your fears control you.”

 

TIMESTAMPS:

The number one longevity factor of all is the quality of one's romantic relationships or lack thereof. [00:38]The male's major assignment is to be the kung fu master remaining calm, cool, and collected at all times. And the female's main relationship assignment is to express everything as a preference rather than complain. [03:04]

Some women lose their attraction to a man if he starts sharing his feelings. [06:40]

When you have anger, you don’t let it control you. That is the key to being masculine. [08:16]

Sex drive is very important to a man. Whenever you do something dangerous, the testosterone goes up. [11:45]

There is a societal problem with boys’ testosterone when there is no male role model. [14:14]

When the man has more needs than the woman, she becomes the man. [16:07]

If a woman is more emotional, she will be more orgasmic. [20:19]

Men need to minimize as a source of stress reduction. [23:52]

Women don’t realize that they have controlling behavior, and women don’t usually understand why men feel controlled. [25:18]

You can’t look to your partner for everything. [29:48]

Yes but, yes buts are common answers to solutions. If you are not having great sex, clearly there is a communication problem. [34:23]

Nobody wants to be criticized. A response can be “I hear you” rather than “I’m sorry.” [39:17]

There’s always something to be upset about. [46:45]

She will not be able to hear a word you say if she doesn't feel heard herself. [51:16]

How can you not take it personally? [53:59]

Your testosterone level fluctuates depending on how often you have sex. [59:30]

It is important to find balance between your feminine and masculine side. [01:10:03]

John talks about the process of grieving. [01:15:43]

 

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MarsVenus.com
John Gray Podcast – Healing Strained Relationships
John Gray Podcast – Regain Magic Quickly
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
The Hacking of the American Mind

 

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Rebroadcast: Did you know that the #1 longevity factor is not your diet or the quality of your sleep, but the health (or dysfunction) of your long-term romantic relationship?&nbsp;
Yes, according to Dr. John Gray, it doesn&rsquo;t matter how much you&rsquo;re exercising or how healthy your lifestyle is&mdash;if your romantic relationship is a source of stress or unhappiness in your life, then that will inevitably take a toll on your health and affect your longevity.
In this rebroadcast of one of my favorite shows ever with Dr. John Gray, you will learn why&nbsp;most women lose their attraction to men after they open up about their feelings (and how to achieve intimacy while keeping a healthy emotional balance in your relationship), the actions you can avoid that tank your partner&rsquo;s testosterone, what happens when a woman slides into the masculine role in a relationship, why Dr. John says: &ldquo;Anytime you&rsquo;re arguing with a woman, you&rsquo;re afraid,&rdquo; what causes men&rsquo;s estrogen levels to rise, why men need to watch the way they exit to their &ldquo;cave,&rdquo; and why women have to watch out for how they pursue their man into his cave, and so many more helpful insights that you can apply to your relationships.
Enjoy this informative and helpful show with Dr. John Gray, who offers this sage advice: &ldquo;Don&rsquo;t let your fears control your behavior. Look at them, listen to them. Try to understand them&hellip;then take action, without letting your fears control you.&rdquo;
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TIMESTAMPS:
The number one longevity factor of all is the quality of one's romantic relationships or lack thereof. [00:38]The male's major assignment is to be the kung fu master remaining calm, cool, and collected at all times. And the female's main relationship assignment is to express everything as a preference rather than complain. [03:04]
Some women lose their attraction to a man if he starts sharing his feelings. [06:40]
When you have anger, you don&rsquo;t let it control you. That is the key to being masculine. [08:16]
Sex drive is very important to a man. Whenever you do something dangerous, the testosterone goes up. [11:45]
There is a societal problem with boys&rsquo; testosterone when there is no male role model. [14:14]
When the man has more needs than the woman, she becomes the man. [16:07]
If a woman is more emotional, she will be more orgasmic. [20:19]
Men need to minimize as a source of stress reduction. [23:52]
Women don&rsquo;t realize that they have controlling behavior, and women don&rsquo;t usually understand why men feel controlled. [25:18]
You can&rsquo;t look to your partner for everything. [29:48]
Yes but, yes buts are common answers to solutions. If you are not having great sex, clearly there is a communication problem. [34:23]
Nobody wants to be criticized. A response can be &ldquo;I hear you&rdquo; rather than &ldquo;I&rsquo;m sorry.&rdquo; [39:17]
There&rsquo;s always something to be upset about. [46:45]
She will not be able to hear a word you say if she doesn't feel heard herself. [51:16]
How can you not take it personally? [53:59]
Your testosterone level fluctuates depending on how often you have sex. [59:30]
It is important to find balance between your feminine and masculine side. [01:10:03]
John talks about the process of grieving. [01:15:43]
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Join Brad Kearns, New York Times bestselling author, world #1 ranked masters 60+ high jumper, Speedgolf world record holder, and former world #3 ranked pro triathlete, in pursuing peak performance with passion throughout life. Brad delivers an engaging mix of step-by-step education on important health topics like staying fit, strong and powerful as you age; transforming diet to lose body fat and increase energy; sort through hype and misinformation to make simple, sustainable lifestyle changes; and broaden your perspective beyond a fit body to experience happy relationships, nonstop personal growth, and ultimately sail to 100 with a happy, healthy, long life. Let’s explore beyond shortcuts, hacks, and crushing competition to laugh, have fun, appreciate the journey, and not take ourselves too seriously. It’s time to B.rad!

 

Join Brad Kearns, New York Times bestselling author, world #1 ranked masters 60+ high jumper, Speedgolf world record holder, and former world #3 ranked pro triathlete, in pursuing peak performance with passion throughout life. Brad delivers an engaging mix of step-by-step education on important health topics like staying fit, strong and powerful as you age; transforming diet to lose body fat and increase energy; sort through hype and misinformation to make simple, sustainable lifestyle changes; and broaden your perspective beyond a fit body to experience happy relationships, nonstop personal growth, and ultimately sail to 100 with a happy, healthy, long life. Let&rsquo;s explore beyond shortcuts, hacks, and crushing competition to laugh, have fun, appreciate the journey, and not take ourselves too seriously. It&rsquo;s time to B.rad!
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Brad Kearns, NY Times bestselling author and world #1 masters age 60+ high jumper, offers a fun and diverse mix of interviews with leading authors and health experts, and  how-to shows for peak performance, weight loss, personal growth, and longevity

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