Sarah’s Day’s Backhanded 'Thank You', Rachael Finch & the School Cross Country Race & Abbie Chatfield’s Semi Soft Launch

Published May 28, 2024, 2:32 PM

Sarah’s Day had divided opinions after sharing an unusual thank you message to her 1.2 million Instagram followers. 

Rachael Finch’s behaviour at her eight-year-old daughter’s school’s cross-country running race has sparked debate. 

Saffron Barker has issued a warning to her ex, Louis Rees-Zammit’s, new girlfriend. 

And Abbie Chatfield’s Semi Soft Launch. 

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Hello and welcome to Outspoken. It's your dose of the hottest influencer and pop culture news twice a week. Coming up on today's show, Sarah's Day's backhanded thank You, Rachel Finch's bizarre behavior at her daughter's running race, and Abby Chatfield's semi soft launch. The first influencer Chelsea Ivy has nagged our hometown of Adelaide. The twenty three year old made the move to Adelaide late last year after her AFL player boyfriend Avane Soldo was traded from Richmond to Port Adelaide. So at the time, Chelsea ruffled local feathers when she wrote on Instagram about the move to be honest, can't say I ever thought I would ever move to Adelaide. I've never been to Adelaide before, so I actually have no idea what to expect, and I hear so many mixed reviews. It's not forever, but who knows. I could end up loving it, excited for a new chapter and to meet some new people. So spoiler alert, she did not love it. Just seven months on, Chelsea announced her sixty six thousand followers she's leaving Adelaide to live in Dubai. By herself, so she is set to follow in her dreams and be a flight attendant for Emirates.

I want to know is there more to this?

Is there a breakup brewing on the horizon, or is he fine with her just jetting off? Well, her followers did say what is going on with a Varn and she confirmed that apparently he has no issues with her move and would do long distance. She wrote, he had to move to Adelaide for his career and to be honest, it's been a struggle for me. It's not just for me permanently. Temporarily is fine, but long term in Australia, I think Melbourne or Gold Coast are for me, maybe even Sydney.

Now.

I found that interesting because initially back in November she said that there was no way she would entertain doing long distance. I also wonder how does poor Adelaide.

Football club feel about this.

Because she's basically earmarking it saying Adelaide is not a long term thing for me or a Vann. Yeah, but they're very young. She's only twenty three. Potentially this will cause a split. It's a bit of a slap in the face to the wives and girlfriends of the Port Adelaide football Club because they would have been her designated besties for the last couple of months. She's just basically gone, this is shit. Well, maybe they were rubbed up a little bit the wrong way because she is famous for declaring that she is the hottest wag after she attended the Richmond Best and Ferris. I'm kind of excited for her though, that she is now focusing on her career and she's making a big move for her Why should she stay on Adelaide if it's not the right decision for her career path.

Oh definitely.

I do think it's very refreshing that she is focusing on her own career. I'm just pissed off for Adelaide because originally Chelsea's move to Adelaide triggered this war of words between two high profile newspaper columbusts. So there was a Melbourne based columnus called Jackie Epstein who questioned whether Chelsea would be able to settle for the low energy lifestyle of Adelaide, whereas Adelaide based Kara Jung hit back, labeling Epstein's piece as a petty little quipe and said residents of Adelaide rolled their eyes and smiled at the poor misconception. So it is FROs that I feel like a whole bunch of journalists from the East Coast have jumped onto this narrative and saying, oh, yeah, we told you Adelaide is shit, and.

All the kids are treating me very nice.

It's great.

Gee.

I can't wait till I go to hikes.

Look, don't you say that? Don't you ever see that?

Sarah's day divided opinions when she shared an unusual thank you message to her one point two million Instagram followers. The controversial fitness influencer took a break while cooking with her kids to share a written statement saying how grateful she was for her current work life balance. She wrote, since having two kids, I've gotten so much better at balancing life and work, saying no to opportunities, and allowing myself time to just enjoy being a mum. I truly am so glad. I worked harder than ever from twenty thirteen to twenty twenty, setting me and my family up with businesses, passive income streams, and systems to be able to have a work life balance. I just want to thank you for supporting me. My channel my projects. Without you, I would have probably been a primary school teacher and forced to put my kids into daycare as soon as my maternity leave was up. I am so so aware of how lucky I am and just want to thank you for allowing me to be what I've always wanted, a stay at home mum. I'd love to unpack Sarah's message a bit more because it caused such a stir in our Facebook community. So on one hand, people felt like her thank you was a slap in the face to primary school teachers as well as working mums who had no other choice but to send their children to daycare, while others believed she was simply trying to thank her followers for giving her the financial freedom to stay at home with her kids.

Oh don't know where do you guys sit on this?

I think this comes.

Down to Sarah's inability to communicate properly with her followers. Her execution was off, and because of that, her message opened itself up to interpretation. And I've always found Sarah's tone on social media to be quite condescending. And when you add to the mix the statement being written rather than voiced, ag again added a level of interpretation. And I'm pretty sure it wasn't her intention to upset her followers, but I can see how it came across as backhanded and tone death. It kind of seemed like a bit of a humble brag, and an insensitive one at that, because I think it is quite clear that she is quite removed and out of touch with her audience, who are working class, and as a country at the moment, we are in an economic climate where families can no longer live on just one sole income, and the majority of Sarah's audience would be working mums who have no option but to send their kids to childcare.

So it's sort of laying this level of guilt on them.

Oh, well, you're not in this position where you can be this hands on stay at home yet like me, because you didn't set yourself up. But I don't think she necessarily meant that. I don't think she meant it how it came across.

I don't think she did either.

I actually genuinely want to thank my followers for being there for me, and I think there's also been kind of a bit of demand from people for Sarah to be a bit grateful to her audience, So I felt felt like she thought she was doing the right thing but putting up this message, And where she's got it wrong is the disk to school teachers, like acting as if school teachers it's the low of the load to have that job.

That's what I took from it.

In terms of this thank you message, it is quite rare that we hear Sarah thank her followers, and it did come off the back of her lashing out at some of her followers recently over fertility comments. So I think she thought, Okay, I've got to put something out that makes me look grateful, but again she's just missed them up. I back to the school teacher comment. I don't think she was trying to be offensive to school teachers. I think what she does a lot of the time is she centers only her experience in it.

Because for a bit of background, in.

Her early days of YouTube, she was starting to be a primary school teacher and she ended up dropping out of UNI to pursue her influencing career. So for her being a teacher and not following her dream would have been a step back for her. So she was trying to send to herself in it. But I think she was unaware of how it came across to people who are primary school teacher. If I was a primary school teacher and I read that, I'd be like, fuck off.

So you don't even understand the.

Work that goes into it, and you didn't complete your degree, That's what I'd be thinking. Well, coming from two parents who are teachers, and I have the utmost respect for them and their profession and what they do, and it is one of the hardest jobs in the world. And I think if you didn't have this knowledge that she was training to be a primary school teacher and almost made it, you'd be like, why is she having.

A crack of teachers?

Yeah, And that's the issue with influencers, because if you haven't been following her for ten years, you wouldn't actually have that presumed knowledge. I do think it's also interesting that in the space of a year, Sarah has gone from referring to herself as a CEO of three different businesses to a stay at home mum, and I do wonder if this change is due to the trad wife trend we're seeing currently on TikTok. The trend is linked to Christianity and Sarah over the last couple of years, has been a lot more vocal about her faith. The ironic thing is the reality is, just like the trad wife trend on TikTok, these aren't traditional stay at home mums because traditionally mums that stay at home aren't paid and therefore their role has always been significantly undervalued. But Sarah, like the tradwives you see on TikTok, like Narah Smith, earn a lot of money from sharing content about their lives and being mums online. So it's ironic that she thanked her audience for allowing her to be a stay at home mum. But then she also said later on oh and I spent three hours filming myself cooking at Lasagna, Well, that's your job. I think there would be a lot of envy from mums at home watching her because she has the capacity to dip in and out of these projects, and you know, if she gets bored of the mum life, she can jump in and you know, have a shoot day where she's filming her own active where or she can jump into the kitchen and film it. She lives this very aspirational life in a beautiful mansion. So I think that there is already a bit of envy there from her audience. As you touched on before, Kate, I find this move away from hustle culture so interesting because as a society, we were told you've got to work hard, you've got to have a side hustle whole girl boss there. Yeah, and that was very much pushed by Sarah and Kurt. And now that it's become cool to have this slower lifestyle, to put yourself and your mental health first and your family, now she's saying, oh, I'm actually not the sea of all these companies.

I'm a stay at home mum.

I think it's all about her trying to be relatable to her audience. But what she's overlooked is she isn't just your traditional stay at home mum. She is in a very privileged position where she can pick and choose what she does and look after her kids whenever she wants.

I think it comes down to virtue signaling.

And unfortunately, amongst this, she's also tried to throw in a humble brag, which hasn't gone down. Well.

Okay, here we go for second downhill.

Can they can the ah Rachel Finch's behavior at an eight year old daughter's school cross country running race has sparked debate. Prior to the race starting, the former Mixed Universe contender was finding it difficult to keep her emotions under wraps. Let's throw to what she said.

Across country tom Oh, my gosh, I think I'm I'm more nervous than I'm running to the first checkpoint.

I'm about to throw off. I'm reading all these feelings back when I used to do it.

Now. If that panting wasn't bad enough, things got worse when Rachel started filming herself screaming words of encouragement as she ran behind her daughter during the race. She captured the vision on her Instagram story crazy cam. Let's throw to the audio.

Okay, here we go, first second downhill, sucking the.

Air in the air?

Go go guy, what's sucked.

It?

Well done.

I first saw people talking about this online before seeing the video, and at first I was like, Oh, she's probably just one of those supportive parents, but this was next level. I don't understand how this school let her run behind her child during the race. Surely it would have been really off putting for the other kids. Her daughter ended up coming twelfth out of one hundred, which is a pretty good achievement, but I mean there would have been a ton of kids coming up from behind her. Can you imagine the other moms they're seeing this video, They're like, why the hell is she allowed at the school?

On the course?

My favorite bit was that she was out of breath, but she's like.

Suck it in, come on, keep going.

I mean, good on her for being interested in what her child's doing, but I don't know, it.

Just seemed a bit bisy.

You can imagine when you went to school, if you think back, those over the top moms, they'd be the sort of mums that would be doing their kids assignment.

Come on, it's a little too interested, isn't it.

It seems like she's vicariously living through her child because this seemed to be one of her dreams.

Oh, it was very difficult to watch.

It seems like this kid has a lot of pressure on her to do well, and I'm surprised that you would go and share this on social media. Rachel did end up writing an update, as you said, Sophie. She said that her daughter placed twelfth out of one hundred girls and achieved her best time and best performance. She also wrote the best I've seen her try. Ever, she struggled and wanted to walk, but overcame it and kept going. She probably had no choice, So.

Mom's standing, they get up.

Yeah.

She then went on to say, it's never about the placing for us. What we care about is the commitment to their work and effort. What you put in is what you get out. So proud of her, had to hold back a gazillion tears. I would be pretty pissed off if I was a parent at this school and I'm at work, and yeah, I'm very excited for my child to be competing in this race, but I'm thinking, well, no, wonder my child didn't poll so well when they've got the advantage of having their mum there breathing down their neck telling them to keep going.

Well.

This isn't the first time Rachel's parenting has been put under the spotlight. Last month, some of her followers accused her of giving her children disordered eating, labeling her an arm and mum. So for those whose TikTok algorithm hasn't served them up this term yet, it is a negative term for a mum who has bought into diet culture, so they normally have an obsession with healthy eating and body image, and this usually flows on to the daughter's body image too. Now, these accusations came off the back of a video Rachel shared cooking naked burgers for her children. So Rachel used lettuce cups instead of burger buns. Now, Rachel hit back, labeling the commentary as hilarious and said trolls wouldn't complain if she fed her kid's fast food. She said, gee whiz, it's funny.

You know.

They wouldn't blink an eye if I ordered cheeseburgers and fries from a fast food chain and put that on the table. But homemade naked burgers full of vegetables would create psychological damage.

Go figure.

I tend to see where she's coming from with that, though, because that's one meal, that's a healthy option. Yeah, but this is off the back of so Rachel's personal brand is very much rooted in the fitness and wellness space, and she does have her own wellness brand called Kissed Earth, and she sells supplements and powders, and often on her Instagram story she is sharing very healthy recipes and promoting her products at the same time. So maybe it was this positioning of trying to sell a product, well.

What's wrong with kids eating healthy?

I mean, I actually do think it's a form of abuse to only put fast food down your child's mouth. Yet, as she's saying here, people don't blink an eye at that. It's difficult because there are some families who are struggling and they might put stuff on the table for their kids that might not be as healthy as what Rachel Finch is able to afford.

But I also agree with you, Sophie.

I can't stand when people shame others for being healthy and cooking home cooked meals for their kids. It is tough because a lot of the time it does turn into mom shaming and people are putting a microscope over every single thing that the individual does, which is also difficult. And I think that a lot of families have different rituals they you know, the parents have different backgrounds. So obviously for Rachel, health and fitness is important to her. Of course she's going to be feeding her kid's healthy food. I think TikTok is a clear example of this because on one side of the algorithm you've got these videos of mum's, usually American mums, sharing what they're feeding their kid and it's like very highly processed food, and they're getting completely abused in the comments section saying how it's child abused. And then you've also got the side of the internet where Rachel Finch is serving naked burgers to her kids and everyone's like, oh my god, just let them live, give them a real burger.

That photo, we didn't think it was really cog centric.

Abby Chatfield has taken the humble Soft launch upper notch. While some people share a sneaky photo of their partner's arm at dinner or their silhouette at the beach, Abby has shared a photo of her face next to her boyfriend's crotch. Now, I do want to point out he was fully clothed. He was wearing shorts at the time she captured the photo Semisoft launch, and she was referencing both the relationship status and the state of his appendage. I laughed so much when I saw this photo. It is so on brand for Abby. Yeah, it's got her sense of humor all over it, and the Blue Tick Brigade was out inforced to congratulate her. So Master Chef's Khan Ong wrote, Oh my effing god, Oh my effing God, can you send me the full raging hard launch in the DMS.

Thanks.

Some fans called the post comedy gold, with one saying it's the best announcement ever and that Abby should try stand up comedy, while some question whether her partner was indeed semisoft in the photo, with one writing why does it look hard then, to which Abbi responded because he has a huge clock. We talk a lot about influencer soft launches on this podcast, but I have never seen anything like this. It was quite divisive, so some followers, of course, were offended by it. One person labeled it as gross, and another accused Abby of being a bad.

Influence on young girls now.

Abby of course responded saying sorry, we're having fun in Mexico and in love Chuck. She did also respond on her story shortly after, saying that she was shocked by the response to her post.

Here's what she said.

Okay, listen to everyone. I just want to clarify something that photo. We didn't think it was really cockcentric. We just thought it was like I'm near. We just written article. We really didn't think that it was like cock. We just thought it was like a funny pun because we happened to take a photo of me next to my boyfriend's.

You to say it was corny once.

It was corny.

Wow, Well, she didn't leave anything to the imagination. Just then.

He made me wondering, who does the crotch actually belong to?

All the semi hard penis in the photo?

Yeah, so it does belong to Adam Hyde, who is in Peaking Duck and he releases his music under the name Kelly Holidays, So I'm not do we call him Adam or Kelly Adam. Well, she did mention back on her podcast in March that she had begun dating someone and everyone was trying to guess, and she was talking about how happy she was and that she'd actually known him for a couple of years. She has that he's emotionally intelligent, and they seem like a very good pairing. They look like a brother and sister couple because they are actually in a couple of photos together on Abby's Instagram. So they were hanging out at the Grand Prix and they looked very cute together. So he has long, thick, curly hair. They look very similar. Now, Adam did actually comment under the soft Launch photo saying whose cock is that they seem to have the same sense of human Yeah, well they're clearly having a lot of fun teasing this relationship. Abby ended up posting a video of her in a bikinis dancing and miming to a Peaking Duck song and wrote, heard this random song from this random new ep and felt inspired to create a little something from Mexico.

Does anyone know the artist?

Someone help if somebody ever supplied you over And then you think to yourself, oh my god, he looks so in love with his next girlfriend. Guys just patiently said that, because you know he's going to do the same thing.

Saffron Barker has issued a warning to her ex Lewis Reese. Zammit's new girlfriend, the Chiefs recruit soft launched his relationship with a sports illustrated model two months after he split from the British YouTuber. Rather than feeling upset, though Saffron admitted she felt satisfied knowing the woman was set to receive the same treatment she did. This breakup is the breakup that keeps on giving. I can't believe they've only been broken up for two months. So much has gone on since, and they broke up when Saffron allegedly found out that Lewis was cheating on her whilst he was at an NFL training camp, and this played out heavily on TikTok, with Saffron miming to break up songs and her mamager Wendy going rogue in the comment section, calling Lewis out. What we have all been waiting for, though, is Saffron to drop the dirty details all receipts on a dating podcast, and so far she hasn't gone into exactly what went down, but the cracks do seem to be forming though. With news that Lewis has moved on with another social media star, it is clear that he has a type. So his new girlfriend is twenty three year old Xandra Pole, who has one point two million followers on TikTok. She's most popular for her get Ready with Me videos and also for being a DJ in Miami.

Now. I don't know if you've seen her, but.

She looks very similar to Saffron and this couple have been spotted exploring Lewis's new hometown in Kansas.

City, so assuming she is American as well.

Yes, she's from Miami, so they visited an amusement park and randomly, their first photo together is them on a roller coaster.

Just what you want. They're not usually the most flattering images.

But she did look pretty good.

Didn't he take Saffron to some amusement park over Christmas time as well?

It seems to be his go to date.

Well, he seems like a big kid, so that doesn't surprise me. It's clear that this amusement park wanted to cash in on the fact that this was going to be the couple's softwaunched.

Well, they made it.

A soft launch because they plasted this image of them on the roller coaster all over their social media accounts, and the two of Us company that the couple also traveled in seemed to want to get in on the action because they also posted a photo of the pair looking very loved up on social media. I'd been kissed off if I was them, especially if I wanted to keep this relationship under wraps. Yeah, but they were at an amusement park, out in public. They wanted to be seen. Perhaps they got free tickets and the amusement park said, oh, can we share your photo. Well, they're definitely getting a lot of attention for it because The mainstream media have obviously picked up on this story, and journalists are already writing stories saying meet the new Kansas City Chief. Player's girlfriend now, Xandra is also fresh out of a relationship. So she was dating a fellow TikToker who was also a DJ, and they broke up after three years together. So maybe she's just looking to meet new people. I don't know if this is actually as serious as everyone's making it out to be. Is there any talk online about whether the relationship with this girl has crossed over with Saffron because there was so much talk of Lewis cheating on her over in America. I mean, I think it's clear that the pair have just met on RAYA. He wasn't following her before. I don't think that this was any sort of overlap because straight after the breakup he was moving quickly and sliding into other girls dms and adding new girls and liking I think.

He's just a player.

Yeah.

Well, it's quite clear that Saffron originally wasn't very happy when she found out this news, but she has put a spin on it on her own dating podcast.

This is what she said, if somebody ever succluted you over and then you think to yourself, oh my god, he looks so in love with his next girlfriend, and he's this, and he's that, and oh my god, a compan if he's found someone else. Guys just patiently sat there because you know he's going to do the same thing. If you could sit there satisfied knowing he will do the.

Same thing, Yeah, the same thing to every person.

Now, this was actually in response to a listener question, but it's fairly obvious that she was inadvertently referring to the recent news. It's becoming clear that Saffron wants to set the record straight about this relationship, because as soon as the breakup became public, she was mocked for being the overly eager one because she got a tattoo with his initials on it when they'd only been together for a couple of months. She made this AI video of their future babies. She was talking about moving to the US with him, and now I think that she wants to show that he's actually the one that love bombed her. So she has actually put it out there on her podcast that he was saying that he planned to propose to her at the sixth month mark of their relationship.

Here's what she said.

I was adam at my exoy. Wasn't with a very long was going to propose to me? Yeah, very quickly, wasn't he. I we were together for about six months, so in my eye, and I know, yeah new seriously, and so when we well got the news we got it was a very big shock faracter, I can assure you, because I thought I was going to about six months. Well, if he was in the country, I probably would have been. So I don't know, because I've always had the attitude of if you know, you know, why do you have to wait years?

I don't get it.

That was always my attitude.

What a fuck you from Saffron. This made me feel really sorry for her, especially Sophie. You mentioned all of the craps she's copped after this breakup. It's obvious that this guy has been love bombing her, and perhaps that's what he's doing to his new girlfriend. She wants the new girlfriend to be aware of just how serious they were. She's clearly bothered by it, as anyone would be. Oh, if you think you're going to be marrying the guy you know, of course you're going to be pissed off about it, and you'd be wanting to stamp your authority over it, and also to let all the trolls know that you weren't just reading too much into it.

What's the best?

Saffron thought that she was getting proposed to in the Mawdives because her and Lewis had booked a treat and they were supposed to be celebrating after this training camp that he was on, and she spoke a lot about in the lead up to Valentine's Day? How can you believe Lewis didn't know how to get rose pedals in a hotel room.

So it's almost like she had.

This vision in her head of she's getting proposed to in the Maldives. It's going to be so picture perfect for TikTok, and then can you imagine finding out that your partner allegedly cheated on you.

She's actually taken it quite well.

I thought that she would have been a bit more down in the dumps, and it looks like she may be moving on with a German basketball so fans have spotted her liking and commenting on Brandon Titcher's posts. Did you get excited that his name's Brandon? Like your partner I did because listen.

This will not.

I am a big fan of Saffron Barker. She probably is my favorite influencer after Molly May. I just love because of the invention of Raya, all of these influencers are now dating these international sports players. Well, I mean she loves a long distance relationships. If she's in the UK, he's in Germany. That's not too far away. This could be quite perfect.

Well, that's why we're going to leave today.

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