Today, Jay reflects on the lessons about love he wishes he had known in his twenties. He examines how movies, media, and cultural narratives have long shaped unrealistic expectations about romance, often equating love with grand gestures, nonstop excitement, and fairy tale endings. Jay challenges these ideas, by showing that true love is not constant fireworks, but a balance of peace, stability, and passion. He explains how the thrill is often mistaken for attraction, and how the calm that comes from trust and consistency is actually the real foundation of a healthy relationship, even if often mistaken for boredom.

 

Jay also explores the critical role of self-awareness and boundaries in fostering meaningful relationships. He discusses how love without boundaries can cause you to lose yourself, and how repeating familiar emotional patterns from the past can keep you stuck in cycles that feel comfortable but are ultimately harmful. Through relatable examples, Jay highlights the importance of defining emotional non-negotiables, paying attention to how a partner handles boredom and conflict, and understanding the influence of attachment styles. Jay emphasizes that successful relationships are not about finding someone perfect, but about choosing a partner who is willing to heal, grow, and face challenges together.

 

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Set Boundaries Without Pushing Love Away

How to Handle Conflict Without Ruining a Relationship

How to Recognize the Difference Between Lust and Love

How to Break Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

How to Choose Patience and Healing in Relationships

 

Finding real love isn’t an end goal, it’s an ongoing journey you take with intention, compassion, and patience. It’s something you build over time through quiet moments, healthy boundaries, and a commitment to grow, both on your own and together.

 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

 

Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.

 

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:13 Everything You Need to Know About Love

04:12 #1: Chemistry Does Not Equal Compatibility

09:19 #2: Love Without Boundaries is Self Abandonment

12:25 #3: How They Handle Boredom Tells You Everything

14:25 #4: Conflict Doesn't Ruin Relationships, Avoidance Does

16:44 #5: The Thrill is Temporary, Steady Love is Lasting

20:57 #6: How Does Your Partner's Attachment Style Affect You?

23:01 #7: What Feels Familiar Isn’t Always What’s Right

Today, Jay reflects on the lessons about love he wishes he had known in his twenties. He examines how movies, media, and cultural narratives have long shaped unrealistic expectations about romance, often equating love with grand gestures, nonstop excitement, and fairy tale endings. Jay challenges these ideas, by showing that true love is not constant fireworks, but a balance of peace, stability, and passion. He explains how the thrill is often mistaken for attraction, and how the calm that comes from trust and consistency is actually the real foundation of a healthy relationship, even if often mistaken for boredom.
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Jay also explores the critical role of self-awareness and boundaries in fostering meaningful relationships. He discusses how love without boundaries can cause you to lose yourself, and how repeating familiar emotional patterns from the past can keep you stuck in cycles that feel comfortable but are ultimately harmful. Through relatable examples, Jay highlights the importance of defining emotional non-negotiables, paying attention to how a partner handles boredom and conflict, and understanding the influence of attachment styles. Jay emphasizes that successful relationships are not about finding someone perfect, but about choosing a partner who is willing to heal, grow, and face challenges together.
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In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Set Boundaries Without Pushing Love Away
How to Handle Conflict Without Ruining a Relationship
How to Recognize the Difference Between Lust and Love
How to Break Unhealthy Relationship Patterns
How to Choose Patience and Healing in Relationships
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Finding real love isn&rsquo;t an end goal, it&rsquo;s an ongoing journey you take with intention, compassion, and patience. It&rsquo;s something you build over time through quiet moments, healthy boundaries, and a commitment to grow, both on your own and together.
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With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">here</a>.
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:13 Everything You Need to Know About Love
04:12 #1: Chemistry Does Not Equal Compatibility
09:19 #2: Love Without Boundaries is Self Abandonment
12:25 #3: How They Handle Boredom Tells You Everything
14:25 #4: Conflict Doesn't Ruin Relationships, Avoidance Does
16:44 #5: The Thrill is Temporary, Steady Love is Lasting
20:57 #6: How Does Your Partner's Attachment Style Affect You?
23:01 #7: What Feels Familiar Isn&rsquo;t Always What&rsquo;s Right

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

Stop Confusing Chemistry for Compatibility! (THIS Shift Will SAVE You from Wasting Time in the WRONG Relationships)

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