Have you ever let someone just be themselves?

How do you remind yourself what’s in your control?

Today, Jay  sits down with best-selling author and motivational speaker Mel Robbins to discuss her revolutionary “Let Them Theory.” Mel introduces a powerful mindset tool designed to help listeners take control of their thoughts, actions, and emotions while letting go of what they cannot control. This conversation dives into the heart of personal growth, resilience, and building a life centered on peace and purpose.

Mel begins by explaining the core of the “Let Them Theory,” which is about recognizing the limits of control. She emphasizes the importance of letting others be who they are, accepting situations as they unfold, and redirecting focus to what’s within your power. Through vivid examples, Mel demonstrates how this approach can reduce stress, strengthen relationships, and reclaim wasted energy.

Jay and Mel also explore the emotional weight of unmet expectations and the difference between “Let It Go” and “Let Them.” Mel shares how this subtle shift in mindset fosters empowerment rather than passivity. They also discuss the complexities of adult friendships and how they evolve over time. Mel introduces the three pillars of adult friendship—proximity, timing, and energy—and explains how these factors influence the ebb and flow of connections.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Identify What You Can Control

How to Handle Stressful Situations at Work

How to Set Boundaries with Difficult People

How to Let Go of Unmet Expectations

How to Manage Toxic Relationships Effectively

How to Build Meaningful Adult Friendships

How to Reclaim Energy Wasted on Others

Remember, you don’t need to have it all figured out. Start small. Say "let them" to release what’s draining you and "let me" to reclaim your energy and choices.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

Visit https://jayshettyshop.com - 100% of Proceeds are donated to National Alliance on Mental Illness. NAMI is the nation’s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness.

What We Discuss:


01:47 What is the “Let Them” Theory


04:40 The Significant Difference Between “Let Them” and “Let Me”


06:49 Stop Obsessing Over Things You Can’t Control


14:03 People Only Change if They Want to


21:59 How Do You Let Difficult People Be


26:31 Learn to Value Your Time and Energy


35:10 Two Things that Truly Define Love


42:12 Let People Gossip About It


46:34 Don’t Expect Too Much From Others


58:22 You Aren’t Unlovable, Let Them


01:01:12 Let Them Lie to You, It’s Their Truth


01:04:17 Why is Adult Friendship Difficult?


01:12:35 The Hardest Way to Practice the “Let Them” Theory

Episode Resources:


Mel Robbins | Website


Mel Robbins | Instagram


Mel Robbins | YouTube


Mel Robbins | TikTok


The Mel Robbins Podcast


The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can’t Stop Talking About

Have you ever let someone just be themselves?
How do you remind yourself what&rsquo;s in your control?
Today, Jay&nbsp; sits down with best-selling author and motivational speaker Mel Robbins to discuss her revolutionary &ldquo;Let Them Theory.&rdquo; Mel introduces a powerful mindset tool designed to help listeners take control of their thoughts, actions, and emotions while letting go of what they cannot control. This conversation dives into the heart of personal growth, resilience, and building a life centered on peace and purpose.
Mel begins by explaining the core of the &ldquo;Let Them Theory,&rdquo; which is about recognizing the limits of control. She emphasizes the importance of letting others be who they are, accepting situations as they unfold, and redirecting focus to what&rsquo;s within your power. Through vivid examples, Mel demonstrates how this approach can reduce stress, strengthen relationships, and reclaim wasted energy.
Jay and Mel also explore the emotional weight of unmet expectations and the difference between &ldquo;Let It Go&rdquo; and &ldquo;Let Them.&rdquo; Mel shares how this subtle shift in mindset fosters empowerment rather than passivity. They also discuss the complexities of adult friendships and how they evolve over time. Mel introduces the three pillars of adult friendship&mdash;proximity, timing, and energy&mdash;and explains how these factors influence the ebb and flow of connections.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Identify What You Can Control
How to Handle Stressful Situations at Work
How to Set Boundaries with Difficult People
How to Let Go of Unmet Expectations
How to Manage Toxic Relationships Effectively
How to Build Meaningful Adult Friendships
How to Reclaim Energy Wasted on Others
Remember, you don&rsquo;t need to have it all figured out. Start small. Say "let them" to release what&rsquo;s draining you and "let me" to reclaim your energy and choices.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
Visit <a href="https://jayshettyshop.com">https://jayshettyshop.com</a> - 100% of Proceeds are donated to National Alliance on Mental Illness. NAMI is the nation&rsquo;s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness.
What We Discuss:
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01:47 What is the &ldquo;Let Them&rdquo; Theory
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04:40 The Significant Difference Between &ldquo;Let Them&rdquo; and &ldquo;Let Me&rdquo;
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<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
06:49 Stop Obsessing Over Things You Can&rsquo;t Control
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<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
14:03 People Only Change if They Want to
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21:59 How Do You Let Difficult People Be
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26:31 Learn to Value Your Time and Energy
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35:10 Two Things that Truly Define Love
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42:12 Let People Gossip About It
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46:34 Don&rsquo;t Expect Too Much From Others
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58:22 You Aren&rsquo;t Unlovable, Let Them
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01:01:12 Let Them Lie to You, It&rsquo;s Their Truth
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<li dir="ltr" aria-level="1">
01:04:17 Why is Adult Friendship Difficult?
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01:12:35 The Hardest Way to Practice the &ldquo;Let Them&rdquo; Theory
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Episode Resources:
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Mel Robbins | <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/">Website</a>
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Mel Robbins | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/">Instagram</a>
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Mel Robbins | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/c/melrobbins">YouTube</a>
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Mel Robbins | <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@melrobbins">TikTok</a>
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<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002">The Mel Robbins Podcast</a>
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<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Let-Them-Theory-Life-Changing-Millions/dp/B0DFMZMKFJ/?_encoding=UTF8&amp;pd_rd_w=Rp7as&amp;content-id=amzn1.sym.bc3ba8d1-5076-4ab7-9ba8-a5c6211e002d&amp;pf_rd_p=bc3ba8d1-5076-4ab7-9ba8-a5c6211e002d&amp;pf_rd_r=132-8121315-7594942&amp;pd_rd_wg=OVMET&amp;pd_rd_r=8ae51e79-e6c5-4904-8848-02949c09243c&amp;ref_=aufs_ap_sc_dsk">The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can&rsquo;t Stop Talking About</a>
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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

Mel Robbins: How to Use the ‘Let Them Theory’ (A Life Changing Mindset Hack That 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About)

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