Do you think your “type” limits you?

What’s one unrealistic dating expectation you’ve had?

Today, Jay welcomes back one of the most insightful voices in modern dating and relationships, Stephan Speaks. If you’ve been searching for clarity in love, struggling with self-worth in dating, or wondering why you keep attracting the wrong partners, this conversation is a must-listen.

Jay and Stephan kick off by breaking down one of the biggest struggles in today’s dating world—the negative perception of men and women. They explore how sensationalized online narratives and personal biases shape our beliefs about relationships, often distorting reality. Stephan explains how social media and exaggerated dating horror stories create unnecessary fear and distrust, making it harder for people to embrace love. 

If you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck in a cycle of failed relationships, Stephan reveals that understanding yourself first is the key to finding the right partner. He emphasizes three critical factors: first, accepting the differences between men and women instead of resisting them; second, knowing yourself before entering a relationship, as many people struggle because they aren’t even clear on what they truly need; and third, prioritizing healing, because unresolved pain from past experiences will continue to affect every new connection. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Stop Letting Dating Myths Mislead You

How to Attract the Right Partner by Knowing Yourself

How to Heal Before Your Next Relationship

How to Communicate With a Closed-Off Partner

How to Break the Cycle of Failed Relationships

If you’ve felt frustrated, discouraged, or like love just isn’t in the cards for you, remember this: the right relationship isn’t something you chase, it’s something you attract by becoming the best version of yourself.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:28 The Difference Between Average Men and Women

11:30 Why Men Often Don't Date Ambitious Women

17:28 Understand Who Your Partner Really Is

23:55 Negative Perception of Men When Dating

28:52 Coveting the Desirables

32:27 How to Not Love Bomb Your Partner

40:32 If He Wanted to He Could

43:59 Emotional Maturity in Relationships

48:28 Always Be Open to Connection

53:34 Insecurities and Jealousy

01:01:15 How Do You Initiate Open Communication?

01:09:56 All Is Not Lost in Breakups

01:17:35 The Right Person at the Wrong Time

01:22:43 Every Dating Relationship is a Process

Episode Resources:

Stephan Speaks | Website

Stephan Speaks | TikTok

Stephan Speaks | Instagram 

Stephan Speaks | Youtube

Stephan Speaks | LinkedIn

Stephan Speaks | Books

Do you think your &ldquo;type&rdquo; limits you?
What&rsquo;s one unrealistic dating expectation you&rsquo;ve had?
Today, Jay welcomes back one of the most insightful voices in modern dating and relationships, Stephan Speaks. If you&rsquo;ve been searching for clarity in love, struggling with self-worth in dating, or wondering why you keep attracting the wrong partners, this conversation is a must-listen.
Jay and Stephan kick off by breaking down one of the biggest struggles in today&rsquo;s dating world&mdash;the negative perception of men and women. They explore how sensationalized online narratives and personal biases shape our beliefs about relationships, often distorting reality. Stephan explains how social media and exaggerated dating horror stories create unnecessary fear and distrust, making it harder for people to embrace love.&nbsp;
If you&rsquo;ve ever felt like you&rsquo;re stuck in a cycle of failed relationships, Stephan reveals that understanding yourself first is the key to finding the right partner. He emphasizes three critical factors: first, accepting the differences between men and women instead of resisting them; second, knowing yourself before entering a relationship, as many people struggle because they aren&rsquo;t even clear on what they truly need; and third, prioritizing healing, because unresolved pain from past experiences will continue to affect every new connection.&nbsp;
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Stop Letting Dating Myths Mislead You
How to Attract the Right Partner by Knowing Yourself
How to Heal Before Your Next Relationship
How to Communicate With a Closed-Off Partner
How to Break the Cycle of Failed Relationships
If you&rsquo;ve felt frustrated, discouraged, or like love just isn&rsquo;t in the cards for you, remember this: the right relationship isn&rsquo;t something you chase, it&rsquo;s something you attract by becoming the best version of yourself.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free Monk Mode newsletter. Subscribe&nbsp;<a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">here</a>.
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:28 The Difference Between Average Men and Women
11:30 Why Men Often Don't Date Ambitious Women
17:28 Understand Who Your Partner Really Is
23:55 Negative Perception of Men When Dating
28:52 Coveting the Desirables
32:27 How to Not Love Bomb Your Partner
40:32 If He Wanted to He Could
43:59 Emotional Maturity in Relationships
48:28 Always Be Open to Connection
53:34 Insecurities and Jealousy
01:01:15 How Do You Initiate Open Communication?
01:09:56 All Is Not Lost in Breakups
01:17:35 The Right Person at the Wrong Time
01:22:43 Every Dating Relationship is a Process
Episode Resources:
Stephan Speaks | <a href="https://www.stephanspeaks.com/">Website</a>
Stephan Speaks | <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@stephanspeaks">TikTok</a>
Stephan Speaks | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stephanspeaks">Instagram</a>&nbsp;
Stephan Speaks | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPBO9gLGy8ujsJ7xjARI7ow">Youtube</a>
Stephan Speaks | <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanlabossiere">LinkedIn</a>
Stephan Speaks | <a href="https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B005LKNVQ4/allbooks?ingress=0&amp;visitId=e3145331-46ce-48b6-9b96-a4620d55d253">Books</a>

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

LOVE EXPERT Stephan Speaks: 7 Ways You are Blocking Yourself From Meeting Your Soulmate (Change Your Patterns to Find the ONE)

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/c98073a7-7e12-406d-b705-b2800026efb7/transcript

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