Do you feel like you need to prove yourself?

Who do you think you’re trying to impress?

Today, Jay sits down with his close friend Lilly Singh for a transformative and deeply honest in-person conversation at the Ellie Caulkins Opera House in Denver. Known for being a trailblazer in digital media and late-night television, Lilly reflects on the hidden challenges behind being “the first”, from navigating cultural expectations to battling loneliness and self-doubt. Lilly shares how much of her early success was driven by the need to prove her worth to others, and how she is now shifting toward proving herself right instead of chasing outside validation.

Together, Jay and Lilly explore the inner voices we all carry, from the critic to the voice of compassion, emphasizing the importance of practicing daily self-care to balance high standards with grace. Lilly shares her personal rituals such as journaling, naming her inner voices, and reframing failure as growth, while Jay emphasizes the transformative power of reflecting on the past as proof of resilience. Together, they remind us that even in moments of pressure and imperfection, we are not defined by our accomplishments but by the person we are becoming.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Turn Failure Into Growth

How to Quiet Your Inner Critic

How to Practice Daily Self-Compassion

How to Live with Your Inner Voices

How to Stop Chasing Outside Validation

Every challenge you’ve faced so far has proven that you are stronger than you think, and every step forward is a reminder that you are capable of creating a life that feels true to you.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

03:20 Growing Up Without Options

09:28 Realizing You Always Have a Choice

17:37 Committing to a Life of Growth

19:01 Learning to Stop Self-Blame

21:56 Breaking Free from Unrealistic Standards

27:55 Why Good Enough Is Enough

31:26 Living Alongside Self-Criticism

36:47 You Are More Than What You Do

41:32 Finding Strength in Past Resilience

44:42 Proving to Yourself You Can

48:25 Why Women Aren’t Taught About Their Bodies

52:40 Past, Present, and Future Reflections

59:39 Friendship That Stands the Test of Time

Episode Resources:

Lilly Singh | YouTube

Lilly Singh | Instagram

Lilly Singh | Facebook

Lilly Singh | TikTok

Lilly Singh | Books

Do you feel like you need to prove yourself?
Who do you think you&rsquo;re trying to impress?
Today, Jay sits down with his close friend Lilly Singh for a transformative and deeply honest in-person conversation at the Ellie Caulkins Opera House in Denver. Known for being a trailblazer in digital media and late-night television, Lilly reflects on the hidden challenges behind being &ldquo;the first&rdquo;, from navigating cultural expectations to battling loneliness and self-doubt. Lilly shares how much of her early success was driven by the need to prove her worth to others, and how she is now shifting toward proving herself right instead of chasing outside validation.
Together, Jay and Lilly explore the inner voices we all carry, from the critic to the voice of compassion, emphasizing the importance of practicing daily self-care to balance high standards with grace. Lilly shares her personal rituals such as journaling, naming her inner voices, and reframing failure as growth, while Jay emphasizes the transformative power of reflecting on the past as proof of resilience. Together, they remind us that even in moments of pressure and imperfection, we are not defined by our accomplishments but by the person we are becoming.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Turn Failure Into Growth
How to Quiet Your Inner Critic
How to Practice Daily Self-Compassion
How to Live with Your Inner Voices
How to Stop Chasing Outside Validation
Every challenge you&rsquo;ve faced so far has proven that you are stronger than you think, and every step forward is a reminder that you are capable of creating a life that feels true to you.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
03:20 Growing Up Without Options
09:28 Realizing You Always Have a Choice
17:37 Committing to a Life of Growth
19:01 Learning to Stop Self-Blame
21:56 Breaking Free from Unrealistic Standards
27:55 Why Good Enough Is Enough
31:26 Living Alongside Self-Criticism
36:47 You Are More Than What You Do
41:32 Finding Strength in Past Resilience
44:42 Proving to Yourself You Can
48:25 Why Women Aren&rsquo;t Taught About Their Bodies
52:40 Past, Present, and Future Reflections
59:39 Friendship That Stands the Test of Time
Episode Resources:
Lilly Singh | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfm4y4rHF5HGrSr-qbvOwOg">YouTube</a>
Lilly Singh | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/lilly">Instagram</a>
Lilly Singh | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/LillySingh/">Facebook</a>
Lilly Singh | <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@lilly">TikTok</a>
Lilly Singh | <a href="https://lillysinghbook.com/">Books</a>

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

Lilly Singh: Stop Trying to Prove Yourself to Everyone Else! (#1 Mindset Shift to Build REAL Confidence & Self-Worth)

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