What do you think is the biggest dating mistake people make?

Have you ever chased someone who wasn’t right for you?

In today’s episode, Jay welcomes relationship coach, teacher, and podcast host Jillian Turecki to break down the biggest dating mistakes people make. They dive into why relying too much on dating apps can lead to burnout, how the fear of rejection holds you back, and why being single is often better than staying in the wrong relationship.

Jillian unpacks why we’re drawn to people who don’t want us while ignoring those who do. She explains how past relationship patterns, toxic dynamics, and a false sense of intimacy create cycles that keep us stuck. They also explore the fine line between honesty and oversharing, how to repair trust after dishonesty, and self-reflection exercises to heal after a breakup.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

The 3 biggest dating mistakes and how to fix them.

Why relying on dating apps alone can hurt your love life.

How the fear of rejection and loneliness affect attraction.

Why do we chase people who ignore us?

When honesty becomes oversharing in relationships.

How to repair trust and reflect after a breakup.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in dating or struggled with attraction patterns, this episode will help you break unhealthy cycles and make better choices in love.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty.

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What We Discuss: 

00:00 Intro 

02:03 Dating: 3 Biggest Mistakes

05:39 The Fear Of Rejection 

09:47 Choice In Love

13:36 The Fear Of Being Alone

14:41 The Attraction Paradox

21:37 It All Begins With You

32:00 Find Other Things Attractive

42:48 Telling The Truth Vs Being Too Honest

46:45 Repair Not Being Truthful In A Relationship

56:30 Choice In Love 2

01:01:10 It's All In Your Head

01:04:52 Reflect With Your Partner

01:09:14 Self Reflection Exercises After A Breakup

01:12:13 Jillian on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Jillian Turecki |It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life

Jillian Turecki | Linkedin

Jillian Turecki | Website

Jillian Turecki | YouTube

Jillian Turecki | Instagram

Jillian Turecki | Facebook

Jillian Turecki | Tiktok

What do you think is the biggest dating mistake people make?
Have you ever chased someone who wasn&rsquo;t right for you?
In today&rsquo;s episode, Jay welcomes relationship coach, teacher, and podcast host Jillian Turecki to break down the biggest dating mistakes people make. They dive into why relying too much on dating apps can lead to burnout, how the fear of rejection holds you back, and why being single is often better than staying in the wrong relationship.
Jillian unpacks why we&rsquo;re drawn to people who don&rsquo;t want us while ignoring those who do. She explains how past relationship patterns, toxic dynamics, and a false sense of intimacy create cycles that keep us stuck. They also explore the fine line between honesty and oversharing, how to repair trust after dishonesty, and self-reflection exercises to heal after a breakup.
In this episode, you&rsquo;ll learn:
The 3 biggest dating mistakes and how to fix them.
Why relying on dating apps alone can hurt your love life.
How the fear of rejection and loneliness affect attraction.
Why do we chase people who ignore us?
When honesty becomes oversharing in relationships.
How to repair trust and reflect after a breakup.
If you&rsquo;ve ever felt stuck in dating or struggled with attraction patterns, this episode will help you break unhealthy cycles and make better choices in love.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty.
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe&nbsp;<a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">here</a>.
What We Discuss:&nbsp;
00:00 Intro&nbsp;
02:03 Dating: 3 Biggest Mistakes
05:39 The Fear Of Rejection&nbsp;
09:47 Choice In Love
13:36 The Fear Of Being Alone
14:41 The Attraction Paradox
21:37 It All Begins With You
32:00 Find Other Things Attractive
42:48 Telling The Truth Vs Being Too Honest
46:45 Repair Not Being Truthful In A Relationship
56:30 Choice In Love 2
01:01:10 It's All In Your Head
01:04:52 Reflect With Your Partner
01:09:14 Self Reflection Exercises After A Breakup
01:12:13 Jillian on Final Five
Episode Resources:
Jillian Turecki | <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Begins-You-Truths-About-Change/dp/0063374366">It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life</a>
Jillian Turecki | <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/jillian-turecki-033794a5?utm_source=share&amp;utm_campaign=share_via&amp;utm_content=profile&amp;utm_medium=android_app">Linkedin</a>
Jillian Turecki | <a href="https://www.jillianturecki.com/">Website</a>
Jillian Turecki | <a href="https://youtube.com/@jillianonlove?si=MujfV6iVZsZ9RGLq">YouTube</a>
Jillian Turecki | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jillianturecki?igsh=Mnh4djZsNjFxbXZq">Instagram</a>
Jillian Turecki | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/16Ekhv9oMK/">Facebook</a>
Jillian Turecki | <a href="https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMksPLhD8/">Tiktok</a>

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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

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My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

Jillian Turecki: 3 Biggest Dating Mistakes You’re Making (Stop Chasing Love That’s Not For You)

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