How do you know if someone’s really right for you?

 

Has there ever been a time you thought someone was right for you but turned out wrong?

 

Today, Jay brings together four of today’s most insightful voices on love and relationships, Vanessa Van Edwards, Jillian Turecki, Sadia Khan, and Lori Gottlieb, for a deep and honest look at what it really takes to find meaningful connection in the modern world. They share how our signals, habits, and self-perception shape our experiences in dating far more than luck or timing ever could. Vanessa breaks down the subtle science of attraction, and why confidence and openness often matter more than appearance. Jillian helps us face our fear of rejection, reminding us that love isn’t about finding “the one,” but about choosing and growing with someone intentionally.

 

Sadia and Lori take us deeper, showing how self-esteem, honesty, and emotional maturity determine who we allow into our lives. Sadia challenges the patterns that keep us stuck with the wrong people, while Lori highlights the courage it takes to speak our truth and set boundaries early on. Together, their insights form a roadmap for dating that feels healthy, grounded, and real.

 

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Build Confidence Through Body Language

How to Date Without Burning Out

How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection

How to Choose the Right Person, Not the Perfect One

How to Stop Choosing Emotionally Unavailable People

How to Be Honest About What You Want in Love

 

Love isn’t something that happens by accident, it’s something you learn to create with intention. Every experience, whether it leads to a spark or a lesson, brings you closer to understanding what you truly need and deserve.

 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty.

 

Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.

 

Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast 

 

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:50 The Flirtation Signals You’re Missing

09:19 The Three Biggest Dating Mistakes

13:32 Rejection is Like a Muscle 

16:37 You Shouldn’t Rush Real Love

21:17 The Fear of the Unknown in Relationships

22:22 Who You Give Your Energy To Shapes Your Love Life

24:29 Why Are We Drawn to Emotionally Unavailable People? 

26:01 The Real Reason You’re Struggling to Find a Partner

27:49 Are Your Standards Too High?

29:16 Is It Ever Okay to Ghost?

30:52 The Power of Being Honest About What You Want

32:47 Your Present Habits Reveal Your Relationship’s Future

How do you know if someone&rsquo;s really right for you?
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Has there ever been a time you thought someone was right for you but turned out wrong?
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Today, Jay brings together four of today&rsquo;s most insightful voices on love and relationships, Vanessa Van Edwards, Jillian Turecki, Sadia Khan, and Lori Gottlieb, for a deep and honest look at what it really takes to find meaningful connection in the modern world. They share how our signals, habits, and self-perception shape our experiences in dating far more than luck or timing ever could. Vanessa breaks down the subtle science of attraction, and why confidence and openness often matter more than appearance. Jillian helps us face our fear of rejection, reminding us that love isn&rsquo;t about finding &ldquo;the one,&rdquo; but about choosing and growing with someone intentionally.
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Sadia and Lori take us deeper, showing how self-esteem, honesty, and emotional maturity determine who we allow into our lives. Sadia challenges the patterns that keep us stuck with the wrong people, while Lori highlights the courage it takes to speak our truth and set boundaries early on. Together, their insights form a roadmap for dating that feels healthy, grounded, and real.
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In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Build Confidence Through Body Language
How to Date Without Burning Out
How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection
How to Choose the Right Person, Not the Perfect One
How to Stop Choosing Emotionally Unavailable People
How to Be Honest About What You Want in Love
&nbsp;
Love isn&rsquo;t something that happens by accident, it&rsquo;s something you learn to create with intention. Every experience, whether it leads to a spark or a lesson, brings you closer to understanding what you truly need and deserve.
&nbsp;
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty.
&nbsp;
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">here</a>.
&nbsp;
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! <a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast">https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</a>&nbsp;
&nbsp;
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:50 The Flirtation Signals You&rsquo;re Missing
09:19 The Three Biggest Dating Mistakes
13:32 Rejection is Like a Muscle&nbsp;
16:37 You Shouldn&rsquo;t Rush Real Love
21:17 The Fear of the Unknown in Relationships
22:22 Who You Give Your Energy To Shapes Your Love Life
24:29 Why Are We Drawn to Emotionally Unavailable People?&nbsp;
26:01 The Real Reason You&rsquo;re Struggling to Find a Partner
27:49 Are Your Standards Too High?
29:16 Is It Ever Okay to Ghost?
30:52 The Power of Being Honest About What You Want
32:47 Your Present Habits Reveal Your Relationship&rsquo;s Future

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

Jays Must Listens: You’re Approaching Dating Wrong! (Use THIS Blueprint to Attract the RIGHT Person) Ft. Vanessa Van Edwards & Jillian Turecki

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