Manifesting love isn’t about attracting the right person, it’s about being ready for the love you’re asking for.

Today, Jay challenges the way people have been told to manifest love. Rather than focusing on affirmations, visualization, or waiting for the perfect person to arrive, Jay reframes manifesting as an internal process of alignment. He explains that love doesn’t appear simply because someone wants it badly enough, it shows up when beliefs, emotional availability, habits, and identity are aligned to support a healthy relationship.

Drawing from psychology and attachment theory, Jay explains why chemistry alone can often be misleading. He unpacks how feeling emotionally safe, knowing your worth, and staying grounded shape attraction far more than intensity or butterflies ever could. When chaos feels exciting and calm feels unfamiliar, Jay explains, it’s often because the nervous system is drawn to what feels familiar, not what is healthy. Jay shares that Manifesting love actually means learning to choose consistency alongside chemistry, clarity over confusion, and emotional availability over emotional pursuit without lowering standards or losing self-respect.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Manifest Love Without Chasing It

How to Become Emotionally Available for the Right Relationship

How to Regulate Your Nervous System Before Dating

How to Stop Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns

How to Create Environments Where Love Can Find You

How to Make Space for Love to Stay

Trust that the work you’re doing matters. Love grows when you do. And when your life finally has room for it, love won’t feel confusing or exhausting, it will feel safe, steady, and real.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:02 Attract the Relationship That Matches Your Growth

02:29 Principle #1: Emotional Availability

05:53 Principle #2: Identity Shapes Attraction

09:26 Principle #3: Proximity and Probability

12:04 Principle #4: Nervous System Compatibility

15:57 Principle #5: Standards Versus Defenses

20:00 Four Things to Focus on to Manifest Love

Manifesting love isn&rsquo;t about attracting the right person, it&rsquo;s about being ready for the love you&rsquo;re asking for.
Today, Jay challenges the way people have been told to manifest love. Rather than focusing on affirmations, visualization, or waiting for the perfect person to arrive, Jay reframes manifesting as an internal process of alignment. He explains that love doesn&rsquo;t appear simply because someone wants it badly enough, it shows up when beliefs, emotional availability, habits, and identity are aligned to support a healthy relationship.
Drawing from psychology and attachment theory, Jay explains why chemistry alone can often be misleading. He unpacks how feeling emotionally safe, knowing your worth, and staying grounded shape attraction far more than intensity or butterflies ever could. When chaos feels exciting and calm feels unfamiliar, Jay explains, it&rsquo;s often because the nervous system is drawn to what feels familiar, not what is healthy. Jay shares that Manifesting love actually means learning to choose consistency alongside chemistry, clarity over confusion, and emotional availability over emotional pursuit without lowering standards or losing self-respect.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Manifest Love Without Chasing It
How to Become Emotionally Available for the Right Relationship
How to Regulate Your Nervous System Before Dating
How to Stop Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns
How to Create Environments Where Love Can Find You
How to Make Space for Love to Stay
Trust that the work you&rsquo;re doing matters. Love grows when you do. And when your life finally has room for it, love won&rsquo;t feel confusing or exhausting, it will feel safe, steady, and real.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">here</a>.
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:02 Attract the Relationship That Matches Your Growth
02:29 Principle #1: Emotional Availability
05:53 Principle #2: Identity Shapes Attraction
09:26 Principle #3: Proximity and Probability
12:04 Principle #4: Nervous System Compatibility
15:57 Principle #5: Standards Versus Defenses
20:00 Four Things to Focus on to Manifest Love

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

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