Do you want to know the secret to know if your chemistry will last? 

Are you wondering why you can't move on from your ex?

If you have questions about love and relationships, this episode is for you. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is back. Esther is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Esther’s TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts.

If you've ever wondered when a relationship is worth saving or why we grieve after a breakup, Esther has incredible insights to share that you can apply to your own relationship. Let's discover the power of accountability in relationships and how it can trigger positive change. We discuss the art of turning conflict into connection. Also, we uncover the negative effects of losing curiosity and how it impacts our connections.

The conversation also fearlessly tackles the topics of betrayal, lack of trust, and the intersection of relationships, technology, and mental health. Get ready for a fascinating exploration of the narratives that shape our relationships, the dynamics between rationalists and romantics, and what truly makes a real relationship.

In this interview, you’ll learn:
How to turn conflicts into genuine connection
Why relationships often fail
How to save your correct relationship
What to do after a breakup
How to boost trust and confidence in a relationship

It is truly a thought-provoking and heartfelt journey into the essence of human connection.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

Thank you to Soho Works 10 Jay in Dumbo for hosting us for this episode.

What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:12 When is a Relationship Worth Saving?
03:51 Why Do We Grieve After a Breakup?
05:14 Accountability in Relationships Can Trigger Change
10:00 How to Turn Conflict Into Connection 
14:10 People Try to Overcome Fear by Gaining Control
17:14 The Negative Effects of the Loss of Curiosity
22:09 Blaming the Other Doesn’t Solve Anything
27:21 How to Make Your Partner Feel Important 
29:10 Other Mediums to Express What You’re Unable to Say
36:01 Do New Things Together
38:08 There are Lingering Feelings that Stays Even After Breakup
41:53 We All Fear Betrayal and Lack of Trust
43:35 How to Value and Protect Your Relationship
50:50 The Real Story Before and After Betrayal
55:33 The Intersection of Relationships, Technology, and Mental Health
01:01:50 The False Relationship Narrative that Failed us
01:04:22 The Rationalists and the Romantics
01:06:23 What Makes for a Real Relationship?
01:10:04 Diversifying Long-Term Relationships
01:15:55 Your Partner’s Opinion Matters
01:21:11 The Real Definition of Self Confidence
01:24:59 We Are Drawn to People We Don’t Want to Become
01:28:03 Where Should We Begin A Game of Stories with Esther Perel

Episode Resources:
Esther Perel | Website
Esther Perel | Twitter
Esther Perel | Instagram
Esther Perel | YouTube
Esther Perel | Facebook
Esther Perel | Books
Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Do you want to know the secret to know if your chemistry will last? 
Are you wondering why you can't move on from your ex?
If you have questions about love and relationships, this episode is for you. Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is back. Esther is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Esther’s TED Talks have garnered more than 40 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena. Esther is also the host of the hit podcast Where Should We Begin? which is available on Apple Podcasts.
If you've ever wondered when a relationship is worth saving or why we grieve after a breakup, Esther has incredible insights to share that you can apply to your own relationship. Let's discover the power of accountability in relationships and how it can trigger positive change. We discuss the art of turning conflict into connection. Also, we uncover the negative effects of losing curiosity and how it impacts our connections.
The conversation also fearlessly tackles the topics of betrayal, lack of trust, and the intersection of relationships, technology, and mental health. Get ready for a fascinating exploration of the narratives that shape our relationships, the dynamics between rationalists and romantics, and what truly makes a real relationship.
In this interview, you’ll learn:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">How to turn conflicts into genuine connection</li>
<li aria-level="1">Why relationships often fail</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to save your correct relationship</li>
<li aria-level="1">What to do after a breakup</li>
<li aria-level="1">How to boost trust and confidence in a relationship</li>
</ul>
It is truly a thought-provoking and heartfelt journey into the essence of human connection.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
Thank you to Soho Works 10 Jay in Dumbo for hosting us for this episode.
What We Discuss:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">00:00 Intro</li>
<li aria-level="1">02:12 When is a Relationship Worth Saving?</li>
<li aria-level="1">03:51 Why Do We Grieve After a Breakup?</li>
<li aria-level="1">05:14 Accountability in Relationships Can Trigger Change</li>
<li aria-level="1">10:00 How to Turn Conflict Into Connection </li>
<li aria-level="1">14:10 People Try to Overcome Fear by Gaining Control</li>
<li aria-level="1">17:14 The Negative Effects of the Loss of Curiosity</li>
<li aria-level="1">22:09 Blaming the Other Doesn’t Solve Anything</li>
<li aria-level="1">27:21 How to Make Your Partner Feel Important </li>
<li aria-level="1">29:10 Other Mediums to Express What You’re Unable to Say</li>
<li aria-level="1">36:01 Do New Things Together</li>
<li aria-level="1">38:08 There are Lingering Feelings that Stays Even After Breakup</li>
<li aria-level="1">41:53 We All Fear Betrayal and Lack of Trust</li>
<li aria-level="1">43:35 How to Value and Protect Your Relationship</li>
<li aria-level="1">50:50 The Real Story Before and After Betrayal</li>
<li aria-level="1">55:33 The Intersection of Relationships, Technology, and Mental Health</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:01:50 The False Relationship Narrative that Failed us</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:04:22 The Rationalists and the Romantics</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:06:23 What Makes for a Real Relationship?</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:10:04 Diversifying Long-Term Relationships</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:15:55 Your Partner’s Opinion Matters</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:21:11 The Real Definition of Self Confidence</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:24:59 We Are Drawn to People We Don’t Want to Become</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:28:03 Where Should We Begin A Game of Stories with Esther Perel</li>
</ul>
Episode Resources:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Esther Perel | <a href="https://www.estherperel.com/">Website</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Esther Perel | <a href="https://twitter.com/EstherPerel">Twitter</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Esther Perel | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/estherperelofficial/">Instagram</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Esther Perel | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4eN7PS9mi8__4EYxy6VpFw">YouTube</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Esther Perel | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/esther.perel/">Facebook</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Esther Perel | <a href="https://www.amazon.com/stores/Esther-Perel/author/B001IGJWEU?ref=ap_rdr&amp;store_ref=ap_rdr&amp;isDramIntegrated=true&amp;shoppingPortalEnabled=true">Books</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/where-should-we-begin-with-esther-perel/id1237931798">Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel</a></li>
</ul>

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

Esther Perel: The #1 Secret to Know if Your Chemistry Will Last & Why You’re Addicted to Your Ex

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