What if everything you’ve been told about success is missing one key ingredient, how deeply you care? 

Jay sits down with David Grutman, one of the most influential names in global hospitality, who built a world-renowned empire from the ground up. Together they unpack a powerful idea that challenges conventional wisdom: what if the real secret to success isn’t detachment, but deeply caring? From his early days as a bartender to creating iconic experiences that shape culture, David reveals how taking things personally, your work, your relationships, and every detail of what you put into the world, can become a driving force for growth. While most people are taught to brush things off, David chose the opposite, turning mistakes, rejection, and feedback into fuel to sharpen his craft and raise his standards.

Jay highlights how David’s success wasn’t built on titles or transactions, but on genuine human connection. From remembering a guest’s drink to building long-term relationships with artists and entrepreneurs, David reveals that real influence comes from adding value without expectation. Jay reflects on how many people chase quick wins or surface-level networking, but true impact lies in playing the long game, showing up consistently, investing in others, and creating meaningful experiences that people never forget.

In this episode you'll learn:

How to Turn Mistakes Into Growth

How to Build Relationships That Last

How to Make People Feel Seen and Valued

How to Build Confidence Without a Title

How to Give Feedback That Actually Works

How to Stay Grounded While Winning

Every setback carries a lesson, and every interaction is an opportunity to build something meaningful. When you focus on adding value, staying curious, and giving your best, you begin to create momentum that others can feel.

If you’re ready to level up how you show up in life and relationships, don’t miss David Grutman’s latest book, Take It Personal. Pre-order your copy today, visit: https://zandoprojects.com/books/take-it-personal-hardcover 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:11 Why You Should Take It Personal

05:26 The Small Details That Make People Feel Seen

07:48 The Real Path to Self-Improvement

08:47 Turning Anger Into Growth

09:55 How to Give Feedback That Actually Works

11:22 Creating a 10/10 Customer Experience

12:41 Every Day Is a New Opportunity

14:20 Always Bet on Yourself

16:14 Building Something From Nothing

18:06 The Power of Genuine Relationships

21:33 Does Networking Actually Work?

24:09 How to Play the Long Game 

28:31 The Truth About Real Success

31:10 Lessons From a Difficult Childhood

32:36 Becoming the Parent You Needed

33:57 Balancing Ambition and Family Life

35:12 Evolving Into Your Next Chapter

38:01 The Power of Being a Connector

39:35 Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset

41:27 Check Your Ego at the Door 

43:36 Staying Grounded While Winning

45:38 The Strength of a True Partnership

48:23 What Makes a Truly Great Idea?

50:19 What Makes Someone Worth Betting On?

51:40 Learning to Slow Down and Reflect

52:52 Finding Joy in the Present Moment

54:17 The One Rule to Live By: Just Be Good

56:14 David in Final Five 

Episode Resources:

Website | https://groothospitality.com/ 

Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/davegrutman/ 

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/davidgrutman/ 

X | https://x.com/DaveGrutman 

What if everything you&rsquo;ve been told about success is missing one key ingredient, how deeply you care?&nbsp;
Jay sits down with David Grutman, one of the most influential names in global hospitality, who built a world-renowned empire from the ground up. Together they unpack a powerful idea that challenges conventional wisdom: what if the real secret to success isn&rsquo;t detachment, but deeply caring? From his early days as a bartender to creating iconic experiences that shape culture, David reveals how taking things personally, your work, your relationships, and every detail of what you put into the world, can become a driving force for growth. While most people are taught to brush things off, David chose the opposite, turning mistakes, rejection, and feedback into fuel to sharpen his craft and raise his standards.
Jay highlights how David&rsquo;s success wasn&rsquo;t built on titles or transactions, but on genuine human connection. From remembering a guest&rsquo;s drink to building long-term relationships with artists and entrepreneurs, David reveals that real influence comes from adding value without expectation. Jay reflects on how many people chase quick wins or surface-level networking, but true impact lies in playing the long game, showing up consistently, investing in others, and creating meaningful experiences that people never forget.
In this episode you'll learn:
How to Turn Mistakes Into Growth
How to Build Relationships That Last
How to Make People Feel Seen and Valued
How to Build Confidence Without a Title
How to Give Feedback That Actually Works
How to Stay Grounded While Winning
Every setback carries a lesson, and every interaction is an opportunity to build something meaningful. When you focus on adding value, staying curious, and giving your best, you begin to create momentum that others can feel.
If you&rsquo;re ready to level up how you show up in life and relationships, don&rsquo;t miss David Grutman&rsquo;s latest book, Take It Personal. Pre-order your copy today, visit: <a href="https://zandoprojects.com/books/take-it-personal-hardcover">https://zandoprojects.com/books/take-it-personal-hardcover</a>&nbsp;
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
JAY&rsquo;S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX
Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe</a> &nbsp;
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! <a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast">https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</a>&nbsp;
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:11 Why You Should Take It Personal
05:26 The Small Details That Make People Feel Seen
07:48 The Real Path to Self-Improvement
08:47 Turning Anger Into Growth
09:55 How to Give Feedback That Actually Works
11:22 Creating a 10/10 Customer Experience
12:41 Every Day Is a New Opportunity
14:20 Always Bet on Yourself
16:14 Building Something From Nothing
18:06 The Power of Genuine Relationships
21:33 Does Networking Actually Work?
24:09 How to Play the Long Game&nbsp;
28:31 The Truth About Real Success
31:10 Lessons From a Difficult Childhood
32:36 Becoming the Parent You Needed
33:57 Balancing Ambition and Family Life
35:12 Evolving Into Your Next Chapter
38:01 The Power of Being a Connector
39:35 Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset
41:27 Check Your Ego at the Door&nbsp;
43:36 Staying Grounded While Winning
45:38 The Strength of a True Partnership
48:23 What Makes a Truly Great Idea?
50:19 What Makes Someone Worth Betting On?
51:40 Learning to Slow Down and Reflect
52:52 Finding Joy in the Present Moment
54:17 The One Rule to Live By: Just Be Good
56:14 David in Final Five&nbsp;
Episode Resources:
Website | <a href="https://groothospitality.com/">https://groothospitality.com/</a>&nbsp;
Facebook | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/davegrutman/">https://www.facebook.com/davegrutman/</a>&nbsp;
Instagram | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/davidgrutman/">https://www.instagram.com/davidgrutman/</a>&nbsp;
X | <a href="https://x.com/DaveGrutman">https://x.com/DaveGrutman</a>&nbsp;

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

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My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

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