Bob Parsons ON: How to Be Present & Not Fear the Future

Published Apr 3, 2023, 7:00 AM

Today, I sit down with Bob Parsons to talk about overcoming adversities. Bob shares how his war veteran trauma affected his personal life and what he did to overcome it, his journey into starting his business and finding success, and finally having found his purpose in life to always make a difference whenever he can. 

Bob Parsons is best known for being the founder of GoDaddy. Bob sold a majority stake in 2011 in a deal that valued the company at $2.3 billion. Currently, Bob is the CEO and founder of YAM Worldwide, which is home to his entrepreneurial ventures in the fields of motorcycles, golf, real estate, finance, marketing, innovation, and philanthropy. YAM Worldwide includes companies such as PXG and Scottsdale National Golf Club. Bob is also a US Marine Corps Vietnam veteran, and is widely recognized for his entrepreneurial and philanthropic efforts. 

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What We Discuss:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 03:18 How can we learn to quantify the worst things in our life?
  • 06:45 Dealing with PTSD alone and the symptoms that come with it
  • 11:14 Having the remarkable ability to disassociate and using it your advantage
  • 12:25 The trick to becoming a successful businessman and what history can teach us
  • 15:56 Top 3 things to focus on when you want to start your own business
  • 18:25 The GoDaddy story - how it started, success, and making a difference
  • 25:42 What have been the biggest failures in your life?
  • 26:38 Tapping into psychedelics to help deal with self reform
  • 32:29 Believe in yourself and always have fun
  • 38:39 Bob on Final Five   

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Worry belongs to tomorrow, Regret belongs to yesterday. Happiness as you're in now. I learned during the war had a thing. I learned to quantify the worst thing, and quite often the worst thing, it's not so bad. The best selling author and post the number one healthy wellness podcast. Hey everyone, welcome back to Unpurposed, the number one health podcast in the world. Thanks to each and every one of you that come back every week to listen, learn and grow. And I am so excited to be talking to you today. I can't believe it. My new book Eight Rules of Love is out and I cannot wait to share it with you. I am so so excited for you to read this book, for you to listen to this book. I read the audiobook. If you haven't got it already, make sure you go to eight Rules of Love dot com. It's dedicated to anyone who's trying to find, keep, or let go of love. So if you've got friends that are dating, broken up, or struggling with love, make sure you grab this book. And I'd love to invite you to come and see me for my global tour Love Rules. Go to j shedytour dot com to learn more information. About tickets, VIP experiences and more. I can't wait to see you this year. Now you know, my mission here is to introduce you to a vast array of individuals, people who've lived really unique lives, had incredible experiences, who can then share with us their guidance, their insight, their wisdom that they've gained along that path. And today's guest is Bob Parsons, best known for being the founder of GoDaddy. Bob sold a majority stake in twenty eleven in a deal that valued the company at two point three billion dollars. Currently, Bob is the CEO and founder of YAM Worldwide, which is home to his entrepreneurial ventures in the fields of motorcycles, golf, real estate, finance, marketing, innovation, and philanthropy. Yam Worldwide includes companies such as PXG and Scottsdale National Golf Club. Bob is also a US Marine Corps Vietnam veteran, which we'll dive into his story today, and Bob is also widely recognized for his entrepreneurial and philanthropic efforts. Please welcome to the show, Bob Parsons. Bob, it is great to have you here. Real pleasure to be here, Jay, I kind of tell you yeah, And I remember meeting you and it was at your beautiful facility at PHG in Scottsdale, and it was a really fine evening. It was myself, you were there having dinner. I was traveling with Will Smith at the time. Nick Jonas was there. We all kind of just bumped into each other over dinner, and I remember just how gracious you were, how kind you were, what a beautiful interaction we all had that evening. It's really special. Plays I remember meeting you guys, and you know, and Will and Necker tool my absolute favorite people, and I knew a little bit about you, and you know, just to meet you as just your knees guy to be around joy, Well, thank you. That's very kind of you. And I was just saying to your team outside that that was the first time I'd ever actually played golf. So I don't play, but that was the first time I'd ever played golf. I had one of your coaches that was working with me for a couple of days. I came back to LA and I started looking for a coach because I got really into it that weekend. Will got me a really nice set of clubs from the course too, that were fitted for me and made for me. And I couldn't find a coach as good as the ones you had at PXT. So now I need to come back more often to get some lessons. Well we're there, thank you. Well, Bob, I want to dive straight in to your journey and to really dive into your work that you're doing today. And I think I was really blown away to hear about your time as a marine, and I'd like to start there. Well, you know, when I enlisted in the Marine Corps, I did so mostly because I had two friends of mine asked me to join them. They were we were in our senior year of high school and they were going to visit with the Marine Corps recruiter and asked me if i'd go along with them, and I did. You know, as we spent time with the Marine Corps recruiter, he eventually had us in the palm of his hands. I mean this was during the height of the Vietnam War in nineteen sixty eight. I listed one month and walking through a village at night, I was on the point team and the point man he stepped over a trip wire, missed it and I hit it, and that thing blew and I got shrapnel both of my legs and my left elbow, and I was meta fact out. I left on a stretcher. So you know, the thoughts that I took back from that is I think I learned to think one day at a time, and I looked to quantify the worst thing that could possibly happen. That's got me through a number of businesses. I've built three businesses now I'm working on the third, all from scratch. And you know, when you do a startup, startup, you have a lot of good days and a lot of bad days, and sometimes, you know, the good days or euphoric, and the bad days look like armageddon. So you know, how you think really matters. And I learned during the war how to think. I learned to quantify the worst thing, and quite often the worst thing. When you sit down and you quantify, it's not so bad. But if you you know, if you look at the worst thing, it's this big dark room full of bad things that could happen, then it looks like far worse than it actually is, and then it becomes debilitating. Yeah, I mean, that's such a powerful reflection hearing that from you, based on the experiences that you went through. Often we hear that idea, but sitting with you here today, listening to in person, I can feel just how real that idea is for you. I love what you said about facing one day at a time. I think a lot of our anxiety, a lot of our pain, a lot of our stress is based on what could happen in twelve months exactly, yeah, or what happened twelve months ago. And what you're saying is, well, actually, when you take one day at a time, that feels manageable and solvable, even in such extreme situations. Well, and you know, one day at a time is something you can do something about, right, because it's there, You know, to be worried about a year from now, there's not much you can do until it's a year from now, and then it becomes one day at a time. Yeah. I often thought that worry belongs to tomorrow, regret belongs to yesterday, happiness as here and now. That's so powerful. Wow. And then when you came back, and you come back and you're experiencing depression, you're experiencing of course all stress, the trauma that comes from living in that way. For a month. I mean, how did your parents react to that? Before we get onto how you reacted to it? I mean, I mean, well, how did your parents feel? I grew up in a in a different kind of house. I grew up in a in a blue collar neighborhood in East Baltimore, and mom and dad were both compulsive gamblers and they weren't very good at it. Now, I wouldn't trade my mom and dad for any two on the planet. I loved them to pieces, but didn't pay a lot of attention to me. And I wasn't actually home that much, so they never noticed. They never noticed, and a lot of it, which a lot of it is I just kept to myself. You know, my symptoms were and as I was home, they got worse, and they got worse, and they got worse. And when I say that, I mean over forty nine years, the symptoms with me was I didn't want to go places. I didn't want to be with groups. You know, no matter who the group was, I never felt like I belonged because I'd be there and I'd have this just this picture of the stuff that we did. I mean, and it just never leaves you. And of course nobody else is dealing with that kind of stuff. So you're definitely are different, right, So that's, you know, one of the things. A quick temper is another thing. People would describe me as man one of the most intense people they've ever met. Now they're crying. When I got into that, it was always by myself, nobody be around. But there was good things too, and the good things where when I went to college. When I came back, I worked as a laborer in a steel mill at Bethlehem Steel and I did that for a year, and then the University of Baltimore had a special deal for veterans where my high school grades didn't matter. Thank goodness, I didn't have to take the entrance exams right, and I could go on the GI bill, which I did. I went studied accounting, literally, I mean, as fate would have it. It was the first major in the book. What is this? They said, you go with math? I said, yeah, as good as anything. You're interested in business, Yeah, you should try accounting. And I did, and I wound up by graduating with a Bachelor of Science and Accountancy magna cum laude. Wow, congratulations, I'd have never done that without the Marine Corps never ever ever took the CPAZ and passed it the first time. Got a job where I would travel. I mean, my life is full of just see coincidences. You know where. I was working for Commercial Credit Leasing Corp. And this is back in nineteen seventy five. They send me to Redwood City to schedule the assets to this leasing company they want to buy. I finish, I have twelve hours until the flight. I wind up on Stanford Campus at the bookstore because I'd always like to like to read, and so four and I buy a book on programming in the Basic language, and uh, I read enough of that during the layover and on the flight, wrote my first programs and then got good at it. Bought and the company that I worked for had a dumb terminal that happened to run the basic computer language. And then I taught myself Pascal and then C and then C plus plus and I started my first business, which was parts of technology, and I wrote all the code for that. And I when I was working there, I worked forty hours stant now sixty hours stets sixty hours at a time. I come to work Monday morning, worked through Tuesday morning, worked through Wednesday morning, and at about eight o'clock at night, I'd start to hallucinate. After about sixty hours, I'd hear stuff to win there, maybe see move that I know didn't and I'd go back, go to sleep, come back, you know, after eight hours in a shower and a little actually little workout, do it again. And that's how that company got off the ground. I put forty thousand dollars into that company and I sold it into it for sixty four million. That was my first business. Wow. Yeah, you know, most people like just reintegrating into society, like just kind of surviving seems to be a natural challenge because of the extreme events that people go through. How did you navigate that? When you were talking about some of the challenges you had when you came back, like how did you even just start finding your way again? Because it can be so disassociating, it can be so disconnected, well, you know, using that term disassociate, disassociating. There was a time where I don't seen a psychiatrist for a good while, and she said told me one of the things that that has helped me get through the war and also helped me in business. She says, you have a remarkable ability to disassociate and where I developed that. I don't know. One of the blessings that I have is I don't worry about anything at all. I just don't worry. And that has been one of the things that to me, just helped bring out the joy of my life. You know what joy there was. I mean, that's beautiful toy here. That's what an incredible gift to have to not worry. That's very special. When you started learning and teaching yourself these coding languages and you started building this company, what was your level of business experience at the time or technology experience at the time, and how did you even figure out what you wanted to build. I think there's so many people today. I just I literally was just at the Tech University in Monterey, mex A. Fifty percent of the people from that university going to become entrepreneurs, and so it's a really phenomenal institution. But one of the biggest questions I saw that young people have is, Jay, how do I know if I'm doing the right thing or I don't know what I'm building or what should I focus on. I feel like now there's so much choice that people feel paralyzed by the amount of options they have. I had a degree in accountancy, so I understood the record keeping a business, right all right. I started a little business which was more of a bookkeeping business than anything where I'd work with these small businesses. Some were taverns, one was a flower shop. One of my favorites was a pest controls Best Control. The guy's name was Fat Willie. I learned a lot from him, keep tracking, the way he would keep track of things, and and I, you know, and it got to the point whereover, you know, over you know, a few years, I could, you know, start doing the records of a business and I could tell you if they'd succeed or not. And anyhow, using those little things that I learned there, you know, That's what I did when I launched my business. And then plus I learned, you know, I learned like, for example, I read during the Civil War, right during the Civil War in the Union, there was General McClellan who really trained and organized the Union army, but he could not move them into battle, just couldn't do it right. And then so so Lincoln fired him and put Grant there. And Granting care how they were organized. The enemies over there go there, right, that's that's that's what he did. And actually the right way is a mixture of the two, right, So I learned that from them. I learned from John D. Rockefeller that the guy who knows the most about his business, he kept exceptional records. They were all manual, but he knew everything about his business at a time when very few people did. The guy who knows the most the baddest business quite often as the guy that wins, because as you know now, it's truly his power and especially specific impertinent knowledge. So I mean I learned from from people in history, right, and then beyond that I just powered through. Yeah, I love those examples. I think what I love about them is I often say to people that you can be mentored by people you've never met. When we study history, when we look at patents, when we look at connections and start connecting the dots between events that have happened before us, you can actually gone as so much wisdom, in so much insight, even if you never asked Rockefeller the question yourself exactly. I mean, you know, and somebody get Julius Caesar's another one. Yeah, you know what he was able to do and go and how he was able to, you know, lead his armies and one time he was attacked by a vastly larger force and the battlements that he built was just brilliant. Right, Nobody showed him how to do that. He figured it out. So I mean, we have that ability as long as you believe in yourself and you give yourself a chance. If there's someone right now he's listening who's thinking about starting a business, what would be the top three things you think they should think about if they're starting If they thinking about startying something, well, the first thing is they should do something that they love, that is fun, that is something that they're really interested in. And the reason for that my father used to tell me. He used to say, Robert, when you love something, that tells you, oh it's secrets and that's beautiful. And basically, if you know, if you love what you're doing, it's going to um, well, we're going to work harder and that all translates to success. And then let's see here, what would be the second? You have to not be doing it for the money. If if you start a business and you're doing it just to turn a buck, I don't think you'd be successful. You got to start it to be special. And the businesses that I started and none of them even go daddy, did I do it to make money? I did it to make a difference. You know, when you you work to make a difference, you know, you do things that on the surface from a business uh standpoint, it doesn't make sense. But when it comes to really doing something special in getting your idea across and taking care of your customers and so forth, that's that's what you need to do, and you will never do that if you're just doing it for a dollar. The third thing is there's there's two groups of people that you have to you have to energize. The first group as your employees. And your employees, you know, they need to believe in what you're doing and you need to structure it so they can believe in what you're doing that it's special. And again, if you're doing it for money, it's still gonna have difficult time doing that. But if you know, if you have a higher purpose, right, people always do want to aspire to a higher purpose, I believe. So what happens is when you do that with them, it creates enthusiasm. And what do we know about enthusiasm. It's contagious. Yeah, and those the employees then fire up the customers, and then the customers fire up each other. So it'll be those three things. Yeah, those the great answers. I love those three things. There's such great points. What was something that you were passionate about with GoDaddy, Like when you said that I fully agree with you that we should never start business to make money. There has to be a greater goal with it. What was that goal with go Daddy when it started out? Like the part we don't see. Well, when I started, Addie, I had. It had been after I sold Parsons Technology, which was the name of my first business, and I signed a non compete with into it. Not that I couldn't compete with them, I couldn't work for money, yeah, right, for a few years, and they held back a few a few million dollars and when it was up, I just wanted to be back in action again, but I didn't know what I wanted to do. This was back when the Internet was just getting going, like ninety seven, and so I named this business Joe Max's Technologies. I had like thirty six million dollars. I had gotten divorced I mean, I don't blame her the PTSD. I'm lucky she kept me around that long. So I wanted to do something in the internet. So what I did was, I thought I would hire some pretty sharp people and we would start trying things on the internet, and and we and when we did, you know, if it worked, we would continue, and if it didn't, we'd move on. And so I named the Joe Max's Technologies after a dirt road that I drove by on the way to work. I mean, it didn't matter. I mean, we didn't do anything. So our employees would go to Chamber of Commerce meetings and people would ask him, what are you doing to go, Well, we don't know, you know, he said, I've never had a business. Tell me that. And then eventually, as time went on, we decided to start doing websites for people. And these are a way or early really fundamental websites. And we noticed that the website's business would would generate cash, but it couldn't scale because you know, it was just your efforts there that you were you were tied to. I have a rule that if you got the right business, you can make money while you're sleeping. Your business can be successful while you're sleeping. So we then wrote software that would build a website for people they could do it theirselves. We had so many requirements. And then eventually in UH in ninety nine or ninety nine and two thousand, we became a domain name registrar, renamed the company go Daddy, UH just as and and UH. I did that at first as a joke, but it stuck and uh and never did we dream that we'd make our our our bread on domain names. And then there's there's a further story going back. Okay, I would keep track of how much money I had and and and then as and tie that to how successful the business is doing. Now that were remember that were the days of cash burn, right, And so I would started And when I first started, I said, I'm not going to worry about this business until I get to thirty million, and then twenty five, and then twenty twenty and then eighteen fourteen, twelve, ten, eight six. You know, we get down to six million dollars. And this is about you never raised It was only your own money you put into it. Yeah, exactly, exactly. It was always only my own money. I've never really borrowed much from the first business none and Go Daddy none and no partners in. Yeah. So I get down to six million. And one of the things I learned from read about General Grant he kept his own counsel. I kept my own counsel. So I decided to shut Go Daddy down while I still had some some money. And the reason I had to is that dot com boom was so loud that you couldn't buy advertising. I mean, people were paying one hundred dollars for you know, a customer, and the customer might generate two bucks. Well, you're gonna burn up a lot of cash. And I don't care how big your truck is, You're not gonna you know, you're not gonna be able to make ways. Yeah, that's what I did. So I go to Hawaii and I went there to first pay my bills, pay my employees, and seld the assets. Figured out how I'm going to do that. And then so I'm there by myself for a week and as I started thinking about I don't want to shut it down. I just had this feeling I just didn't want to shut it down. The epiphany for me happened with this guy is parking cars and he comes up to me, and he goes, hey, no, mister Parsons, this guy's a little older than me, throwing his keys up in the air, happy as a lark. Right, I'm thinking, what's wrong with this picture? This guy has probably got nothing his parking cars for a living. Look Out, happy and free he is. I got six million dollars that I'm miserable, right, And so I decided then that I would go back and not shut the company down, and I just would write it out and if the company sunk, I'd go down with the ship. So that was probably in Febric March. And later that later then that dot com crash happened, and that dot com crash, Go Daddy was born out of that because I was one of the few guys that was paying my bills and all these companies just went away. I mean I would we would have checks returned every week from different companies that just weren't there anymore, right, And so so we would take and uh, you know, we'd go ahead. And I went from not being able to buy advertising at any price to having people standing in line to give it to me. I had more friends than I thought I had. And then all of a sudden things turned around for us, and that October we became profitable for the very first time and never missed a months since. Wow, that's unbelievable. I mean, it sounds like you've been guided so much by your intuition as well as data, Like you talked about the numbers, you talked about knowing your business, You talked about knowing your numbers. But it sounds like you're also guided intuitively. Would you agree with that? Is that is that true? Is that fair? Or not? Really? You know, you sometimes you hear this saying better lucky than good, and things just happen, and you know, you'd like to believe they happen for a reason. I believe the universe just guiding you, and I believe there's there's an intelligence to it. You know, however you define that intelligence, whether it's you know, a particular form of God or or just the way of the universe, but I believe it's sir. Yeah, that's incredible. What an unbelievable story. I mean, as I'm listening to you, I'm thinking, you know, you have this really positive mindset, you have this really incredible ability to find the good even in challenging times. What's been one of the biggest failures in your life, or you know something that's gone wrong that maybe in business or in another field that you learned a lot from or you took a lot of insight from. I would say one of the regrets I have is, you know, when I came back and I got married and I had kids, as I missed their childhood because I was working, working so hard. You know, back then I had PTSD so bad, I had a flash temper. So it's probably some ways. You know, the hard thing is it's a good thing that I wasn't around. But I have a great relationship with all three of them now. I love them dearly and I look forward to treasure our time together. That's incredible. Yeah, thank you for sharing that. I can. It's interesting to hear about your experience that you weren't there, but you're saying it was actually good. I wasn't there because I had PTSD and I was dealing with that, and I've I've heard in your journey you talk about how psychedelics like a huge part of your coming home. Could you could you walk us through how you got introduced to that and how you open to that. In twenty eighteen, I read Michael Palin's book How to Change Your Mind. I went through it like a bag of peanuts and I and I just told my wife, Renee, who is the love of my life. I never did psychedelics before in my life, never did them anything like that. But I said to her, if this can do it for me, I I mean, I I want to try him. And I mean I got to the point, Jay where somebody could come up to me and say, like at the golf course and say, you were in Vietnam, weren't you. I start crying. Yeah, I mean, it's just it just it gets worse, you know. So she had me hooked up in two weeks with two individuals that again would see me in Hawaii and Uh. On the first day, I did ayahuasca. And it's it's guided, you know. I mean a lot of talk and the therapy that does the healing. Psychedelics make it possible because it'll make you receptive and it make you willing to change. So on the first day it was ayahuasca. On the second day it was magic mushrooms, UH, psilocybin. And you know a little interesting aside. When UH the guide made the he made a teapot, and he said, and he says, I made this teapot holds three cups, and I made him strong, so you'll only need one. I drank all three cups and I ate the tea bags extensione oh, man. I was sailing, and then uh, you know, then a lot, and then on the third day I took a break. And on the fourth day it was LSD and afterwards I was a different guy. I was totally a different guy. The people that worked with me were like, what happened to him? He's so nice, he doesn't have a Temporary's not that intense scary dude anymore, you know. He uh, my son said, told his wife. He said, man, I'm worried my dad's going to die soon. And she goes whine. He goes, well, I think he found that he's going to die soon because he keeps calling and he's so nice and so forth. I mean, it was that type of thing. And of course Renee, my wife noticed it instantly. And the best way I can describe it is after being treated with psychedelics. It had been forty nine years since the war, I finally came home. That's unbelievable. Do you feel do you feel that you went back to being who you were before the war exactly, you know, enriched by everything I learned since. And you know, I've still had the memories of the war. There's times when, you know, when I when I talk about it, I choke up and so forth. But I'm not debilitated by it anymore, but are still very much there of course, of course. Yeah, it sounds like it sounds like that you've kept the parts that have made you who you are and left the parts that defined who it forced you to be. If that feels right, Yeah, for sure, to be honest, just sitting with you today, like you have such a joyful spirit, you have such a like positive outlook on life. You're fun to be around. Like that's all I'm experiencing. That's how I experienced you at PHG when I was there a couple of years ago. And for me to know, it feels like this is who you are, this is who you always were. But naturally the challenges just clouded over and the experience is clouded over that. Yeah, yeah, the windows have been opened. Yeah, it's it's unbelievable. And is that a practice that you have to keep up? Do you go back to Hawaii or to the sentence to continue that practice. Will know it was kind. You know, I've went through the process twice, right, I've went through the process once myself and then once with two of the guys that served with and they both came home. Well, they both came home and somebody, that must be beautiful for you to see that for other people. That Now one of the things that I spend time and money and help out as best I can is um to get psychedelics made legal for therapeutic use. We're very close with MDMA, thank god to Rick Doblin and MAPS and you know the rest. I think it's not too far behind. I tell you, when we do, it's going to be a renaissance. And we deserve that as a people, and our veterans deserve it. Every veteran should be treated with it when they come back. Because the Veterans Administrations says thirty percent of the combat veterans have PTSD. I'd be willing to say one to but thirty percent are really good at pushing it down. That's what I think. Yeah, yeah, no, I mean, and it's it's not surprising. I mean, like you said, like, no one else can relate to what that experience is like, no one else can understand it. And I mean that's that's a lot to carry for the human mind, the human brain, absolutely for sure, when those those two were treated, and maybe you should have seen the tears, I mean the tears, I mean, and it's like, oh, they were carrying somebody were you know, they were there much longer than I was. But you know, they carry a lot acrosses. Yeah, what are some of the you know, from all your experiences in life, You've lived so many different lives, it seems as well, what are some of the mindsets or approaches you think lessons that you think people should carry with them. What are some of the mistakes people make or what are some of the shifts in our mindset we could make to live happier and healthier lives. You need to believe in yourself, definitely, you need to believe in yourself because you know, while there's many books, there's no manual. You know what we talked about looking too far into the future day at a time. And also when you're doing stuff the best you can have fun, have fun. You know, we're more productive when we have fun. Yeah, yeah, yeah, a lot of people today have a lot of self doubt. When you said believe in yourself. When I'm traveling and speaking and coaching people and meeting people, I know this self doubt to be just such a big challenge when you say believe in yourself. And I think so many people, even if they act confident and they act secure inside, there's such a low self esteem situation that we have in the country right now, in the world right now. Like if someone has self doubt or they they're feeling like they don't have potential, they don't believe in themselves, what would you say to them. I would say, there's a couple of things they need to do that. Usually they have self doubt for a reason. Usually they were not encouraged, they were discouraged. Was they were raised, I would think, And that that being the case, I would I would say this, uh, this therapy with psychedelics, what it's available, would be perfect because it would free them from a lot of those shackles. Um and and there's there's something that works just as good and it is legal. It's gone an SGB block. Do you know about it? No? I don't think. Okay, what an SGB block is it's uh as S and G stands for Stelli ganglium and then based in for block and and and what it is is PTSD and all that stuff is because from the amygdala in the front of the mine, okay, and the amygdala manages fight or flight and emotions. Well, what happens is as we go through all these unpleasant events and so forth, it gets out of tilt and the individual stays in a close to a fight or flight type situation, which is what PTSD is and its stabilitating. But the problem is with the human mind. The mind hides its flaws from the person in which it resides. They don't know it. They feel like they're just perfect, except they have self doubt or they have anxiety or their own edge or that sort of thing. That's the amygdala, all right. And so the amygdala communicates with the rest of the body through the Stella ganglion nerves in the neck. And when there's a fight or flight response necessary or be it a real or emotional it releases adrenaline and up and uphrin It speeds the heart up, It dilates the lungs, It tightens the arteries and the extremities to move blood to the core, all those things to get us to survive that have been developed over millennia. Right, it does all that. Well, what has happening is the people that are suffering from this, they're in that state very close and any trigger just pushes him right into it. And they have no control over it. They have no physical control over it, even though they say. You hear people say, I don't know what's wrong with me? Right, Okay, this is what the SGB block does is using it's a medical doctor using ultrasound. Takes about five minutes. They take and shoot the big brother elidacine in the neck right next to the stella Gaian nerves. It numbs them and when it does, the amygdala goes offline. It just shuts down, and then the individual will get a little droopy I talk like a sailor, right, and that sort of thing. And then when it the numbing agent wears off and the eye returns the normal and the voice normal. The amygdala reconnects and it reboots, it resets and it goes back to the way the individual should be, and the difference is profound. All right, now, this is done all over the Country's there's a you can find a website called Stella Centers which will tell you about it. I'm not involved in it at all. I just know about it and I help people get it done. The people it changes their lives. I've helped. I've helped NFL players do it. I've helped veterans. I've helped you know, people that a little kids that are just having trouble and goal and I mean stuff like that. It's amazing. And there's only one downside. And the downside is when it's not permanent. In many cases it'll be six months or a year or two years. But here's what you do when you start sliding back, get it done again. I've had it done four times. I have probably helped one hundred and fifty people get it done. Never had one negative result. And everybody, it's just and they're all veterans too, or just anyone, anyone, Yeah, and they're just thank you, thank you, thank you. You know it is. It is just amazing, Bob. It's it's wonderful to hear your spirit of you know, healing yourself, wanting to help he allow this. I can see how much joy you get in helping other people and seeing them break through. Their challenges and what's holding them back. We end every episod here with what's called the Final five, and these five questions have to be answered in one word to one sentence maximum. Okay, Bob Barston's these are your final five. Question number one, what is the best advice you've ever heard or received? Do what you love? Great answer? Second question, what is the worst advice you've ever heard or received? Oh? My god, well, just words, can't lose. Question number three, what's something you used to value but you don't value anymore? You know, i'd say to a degree money. Question number four, what's something you're trying to learn right now or what's something that you're working on right now that you're excited about. H Well, I'm trying to learn what I can do to get psychedelics legal in a in a medical co exactly. Yeah. Yeah. Fifth and final question, if you could create one law that everyone in the world had to follow, what would it be? This sounds great, but it's and I don't know how you'd make it a law. But I just say, you know, if you love your neighbor, Yeah, that would be beautiful. No, wouldn't it? Yeah, it would make the world a much better place. We wouldn't have to have so many people who have to go to war and come back with PTSD and have to deal with the repercussions of that. Yeah, Bob, it has been such a joy. It's such a pleasure to spend this time with you today. Honestly, I meant everything I said. Your your spirit, your energy, you know, the way you communicate, just just your smile. It's truly just uh, it's infectious. It's very infectious being around you. And I can't begin to imagine the journey you've had to go on to rediscover yourself, to rEFInd yourself, to to allow yourself to be yourself from before, and it's it's unbelievable too to experience it. So thank you so much for this honor and for this opportunity to sit with you and have this conversation. Well, I gotta tell you, it spin absolutely my pleasure. So thank you. Now, you're very kind, Bob. Then, for everyone's been listening or watching, make sure that you share the insights that Bob gave, things that are going to stay with you, Messages that you're going to pass on to a friend. I hope that you'll pass this episode on to others as well, makes you check out everything that Bob's working on as well. Bob, congratulations. I know tonight you have a party to celebrate your new partnership with PXG and Nick Jonas as well. I hope that goes extremely, extremely well, And for everyone's been watching, I hope you come back and listen to more episodes of On Purpose, dedicated to helping you be happier, healthier, and more healed. Thank you so much. If you love this episode, you will enjoy my interview with doctor Daniel Ayman on how to change your life by changing your brain

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