Today, Jay sits down with Benny Blanco, Dave Burd, and Kristin Batalucco for a first-of-its-kind conversation - three best friends building something together in real time. They talk about what that really looks like: how friendship changes when work gets involved, how marriage fits into ambition, where insecurity still shows up, and how messy it can be to create with people you genuinely love. Dave and Kristin tell the story of meeting at a bowling alley and how they almost got in their own way at the beginning. Benny opens up about what it was like to chase success for years and what shifted when he realized it wasn’t giving him what he thought it would. It’s funny, and honest, and gives you a real sense of who they are with each other, not just as collaborators, but as friends figuring life out together.

With Jay's guidance they open up about commitment anxiety, the courage it takes to be emotionally direct, and the power of choosing your partner not playing games, not waiting to be chosen, but stepping forward with clarity. Kristen shares what it means to battle self-doubt while stepping into the public eye. Dave opens up about perfectionism and the tension between ambition and contentment. Benny reflects on how success once held him in a chokehold and how love reshaped his priorities. Together, they reveal that the healthiest relationships aren’t built on avoiding conflict, but on being able to argue passionately and return to love just as quickly.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Be Honest About What You Want in Love

How to Stop Playing Dating Games

How to Turn Conflict Into Deeper Connection

How to Support Your Partner’s Ambition Without Competing

How to Work With Friends Without Ruining the Friendship

How to Fall in Love With New Versions of Your Partner

The strongest connections aren’t built by people who never argue, they’re built by people who know how to come back to each other after they do. Keep choosing openness. Keep choosing courage. Keep choosing each other. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:03 How Their Friendship Began

07:05 Dave and Kristin’s Love Story

11:37 From Dating to Marriage

18:39 When Friendship Grows With Marriage

20:19 Getting Married a Month Apart

28:05 Loving Every Version of Each Other

30:35 Launching a Show Together

35:12 The Loneliness Epidemic 

39:07 Working With Family and Friends

42:13 How They Make Big Decisions

45:27 Pre-Show Nerves and Bathroom Confessions

48:18 Do They Believe in Astrology?

51:10 Friends Don’t Keep Secrets

01:13:28 Separating Work From Your Relationship

01:20:00 Do You Talk About Me When I Leave the Room?

01:23:37 If I Died, Would You Still Hang Out?

Episode Resources:

Website | https://www.friendskeepsecretspodcast.com/ 

YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@friendskeepsecrets 

Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/FriendsKeepSecrets 

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/friendskeepsecrets  

TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@friendskeepsecrets 

X | https://x.com/FKSpodcast

Today, Jay sits down with Benny Blanco, Dave Burd, and Kristin Batalucco for a first-of-its-kind conversation - three best friends building something together in real time. They talk about what that really looks like: how friendship changes when work gets involved, how marriage fits into ambition, where insecurity still shows up, and how messy it can be to create with people you genuinely love. Dave and Kristin tell the story of meeting at a bowling alley and how they almost got in their own way at the beginning. Benny opens up about what it was like to chase success for years and what shifted when he realized it wasn&rsquo;t giving him what he thought it would. It&rsquo;s funny, and honest, and gives you a real sense of who they are with each other, not just as collaborators, but as friends figuring life out together.
With Jay's guidance they open up about commitment anxiety, the courage it takes to be emotionally direct, and the power of choosing your partner not playing games, not waiting to be chosen, but stepping forward with clarity. Kristen shares what it means to battle self-doubt while stepping into the public eye. Dave opens up about perfectionism and the tension between ambition and contentment. Benny reflects on how success once held him in a chokehold and how love reshaped his priorities. Together, they reveal that the healthiest relationships aren&rsquo;t built on avoiding conflict, but on being able to argue passionately and return to love just as quickly.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Be Honest About What You Want in Love
How to Stop Playing Dating Games
How to Turn Conflict Into Deeper Connection
How to Support Your Partner&rsquo;s Ambition Without Competing
How to Work With Friends Without Ruining the Friendship
How to Fall in Love With New Versions of Your Partner
The strongest connections aren&rsquo;t built by people who never argue, they&rsquo;re built by people who know how to come back to each other after they do. Keep choosing openness. Keep choosing courage. Keep choosing each other.&nbsp;
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
JAY&rsquo;S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX
Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe</a> &nbsp;
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! <a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast">https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</a>&nbsp;
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:03 How Their Friendship Began
07:05 Dave and Kristin&rsquo;s Love Story
11:37 From Dating to Marriage
18:39 When Friendship Grows With Marriage
20:19 Getting Married a Month Apart
28:05 Loving Every Version of Each Other
30:35 Launching a Show Together
35:12 The Loneliness Epidemic&nbsp;
39:07 Working With Family and Friends
42:13 How They Make Big Decisions
45:27 Pre-Show Nerves and Bathroom Confessions
48:18 Do They Believe in Astrology?
51:10 Friends Don&rsquo;t Keep Secrets
01:13:28 Separating Work From Your Relationship
01:20:00 Do You Talk About Me When I Leave the Room?
01:23:37 If I Died, Would You Still Hang Out?
Episode Resources:
Website | <a href="https://www.friendskeepsecretspodcast.com/">https://www.friendskeepsecretspodcast.com/</a>&nbsp;
YouTube | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@friendskeepsecrets">https://www.youtube.com/@friendskeepsecrets</a>&nbsp;
Facebook | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/FriendsKeepSecrets">https://www.facebook.com/FriendsKeepSecrets</a>&nbsp;
Instagram | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/friendskeepsecrets">https://www.instagram.com/friendskeepsecrets</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;
TikTok | <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@friendskeepsecrets">https://www.tiktok.com/@friendskeepsecrets</a>&nbsp;
X | <a href="https://x.com/FKSpodcast">https://x.com/FKSpodcast</a>

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

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My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

BENNY BLANCO, DAVE BURD & KRISTIN BATALUCCO: Friends Keep Secrets… Or Do They? (Friendship, Weddings, Love)

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