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We all want peace in our life. We all want healthy relationships. We all want positivity to surround us. Therefore we tend to stay away from toxic and negative people. But sometimes, this need to keep toxic and negative people out of our circle is also making us THE toxic and negative person to others. And we may not realize it because we are doing it unconsciously and unintentionally.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty covers the different types of unhealthy behaviors that make relationships draining and how we can carry ourselves with positive energy and optimistic views.

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Key Takeaways:
00:00 Intro
00:57 “I’m surrounded by negative and toxic people.”
04:50 Type #1: The Complainer
10:53 Type #2: The Canceler
14:32 Type #3: The Casualty
19:23 Type #4: The Critic
24:35 Type #5: The Commander
28:25 Type #6: The Competitor
30:26 Type #7: The Controller

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Do you want to meditate daily with me? Go to <a href="http://go.calm.com/onpurpose">go.calm.com/onpurpose</a> to get 40% off a Calm Premium Membership. Experience the Daily Jay. Only on Calm We all want peace in our life. We all want healthy relationships. We all want positivity to surround us. Therefore we tend to stay away from toxic and negative people. But sometimes, this need to keep toxic and negative people out of our circle is also making us THE toxic and negative person to others. And we may not realize it because we are doing it unconsciously and unintentionally.In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty covers the different types of unhealthy behaviors that make relationships draining and how we can carry ourselves with positive energy and optimistic views.Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty<a href="https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/"> https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/</a>Key Takeaways:<ul><li>00:00 Intro</li><li>00:57 “I’m surrounded by negative and toxic people.”</li><li>04:50 Type #1: The Complainer</li><li>10:53 Type #2: The Canceler</li><li>14:32 Type #3: The Casualty</li><li>19:23 Type #4: The Critic</li><li>24:35 Type #5: The Commander</li><li>28:25 Type #6: The Competitor</li><li>30:26 Type #7: The Controller</li></ul><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/on-purpose-with-jay-shetty/id1450994021">Like this show? Please leave us a review here</a> - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

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My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

We all want peace in our life. We all want healthy relationships. We all want positivity to surround us. Therefore we tend to stay away from toxic and negative people. But sometimes, this need to keep toxic and negative people out of our circle is also making us THE toxic and negative person to others. And we may not realize it because we are doing it unconsciously and unintentionally.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty covers the different types of unhealthy behaviors that make relationships draining and how we can carry ourselves with positive energy and optimistic views.

7 Types of Negative & Toxic People and 5 Steps to Deal With Them

https://api.omny.fm/orgs/e73c998e-6e60-432f-8610-ae210140c5b1/clips/429b5132-0779-46aa-ac2b-afd201777200/transcript

Have you ever felt stuck in a negative relationship cycle?



Have you ever struggled with setting boundaries in your relationships?

Today, Jay welcomes back a community favorite, the renowned psychotherapist, bestselling author, and podcast host Lori Gottlieb, for an insightful chat about love, relationships, and emotional growth. Lori, best known for her book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and as co-host of the popular Dear Therapists podcast, brings her deep wisdom and practical advice that really hits home with listeners.

Lori shares how people often step into love with unrealistic expectations, thanks to social media and pop culture. She reminds us that while the spark of initial chemistry is thrilling, true, long-lasting love thrives on a deeper connection and genuine understanding. One of the highlights is Lori’s take on “idiot compassion” versus “wise compassion.” She breaks down how real compassion means looking at ourselves honestly, recognizing our patterns, and owning our part in the relationship. This is essential for anyone feeling trapped in negative cycles.

As the conversation unfolds, Jay and Lori dive into family dynamics, especially around in-laws and blending families. Lori offers practical tips on how to support your relationship while still showing respect for parents, pointing out that these challenges are usually a couple's issues, not just external ones.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations

How to Practice Wise Compassion

How to Break Negative Patterns

How to Handle Pressure to Rush Relationships

How to Prioritize Clear Communication

How to Avoid Pop Culture Relationship Pitfalls

How to Cultivate Emotional Resilience

Remember, true connection flourishes when we commit to growth, communicate openly, and remain empathetic to both ourselves and others. Every step taken toward understanding and compassion brings you closer to creating a life filled with genuine, lasting connections.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:29 What is Everyone Doing at My Age?
05:08 Why Doing Self Work Matters
08:40 Why You Need to Slow Down to Save Time
13:03 How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationship
17:03 First Date Impressions Aren’t Always Accurate
21:26 How Do You Define Real Human Connection?
24:33 Do You Fully Understand Your Partner?
28:24 Learn to Communicate Your Desires
31:26 This is What Happens When You Don’t Communicate
35:24 Why We’re Unreliable Narrators of Our Story
37:52 Be Consistent with Your Boundaries
42:36 We All Want to Be Liked
45:46 You’re Not Ready to Marry Yet
49:51 Practice Being Your True Self All the Time
52:36 The Blind Spots of Dating
57:08 The Truth About Future Tripping
01:00:10 How Do You Feel About the Other Person?
01:01:33 The 7-Year Mark of Marriages
01:03:50 Can Having Children Save a Marriage?
01:07:35 In-Law Issues is a Couple Issue
01:12:01 The Concept of Feeling Felt
01:16:50 How Long Can You Tolerate Disrespect from Your Partner? 

Episode Resources:
Lori Gottlieb | YouTube
Lori Gottlieb | Instagram
Lori Gottlieb | Website
Dear Therapists Podcast
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Have you ever felt stuck in a negative relationship cycle?
 
Have you ever struggled with setting boundaries in your relationships?
Today, Jay welcomes back a community favorite, the renowned psychotherapist, bestselling author, and podcast host Lori Gottlieb, for an insightful chat about love, relationships, and emotional growth. Lori, best known for her book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and as co-host of the popular Dear Therapists podcast, brings her deep wisdom and practical advice that really hits home with listeners.
Lori shares how people often step into love with unrealistic expectations, thanks to social media and pop culture. She reminds us that while the spark of initial chemistry is thrilling, true, long-lasting love thrives on a deeper connection and genuine understanding. One of the highlights is Lori’s take on “idiot compassion” versus “wise compassion.” She breaks down how real compassion means looking at ourselves honestly, recognizing our patterns, and owning our part in the relationship. This is essential for anyone feeling trapped in negative cycles.
As the conversation unfolds, Jay and Lori dive into family dynamics, especially around in-laws and blending families. Lori offers practical tips on how to support your relationship while still showing respect for parents, pointing out that these challenges are usually a couple's issues, not just external ones.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations
How to Practice Wise Compassion
How to Break Negative Patterns
How to Handle Pressure to Rush Relationships
How to Prioritize Clear Communication
How to Avoid Pop Culture Relationship Pitfalls
How to Cultivate Emotional Resilience
Remember, true connection flourishes when we commit to growth, communicate openly, and remain empathetic to both ourselves and others. Every step taken toward understanding and compassion brings you closer to creating a life filled with genuine, lasting connections.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">00:00 Intro</li>
<li aria-level="1">02:29 What is Everyone Doing at My Age?</li>
<li aria-level="1">05:08 Why Doing Self Work Matters</li>
<li aria-level="1">08:40 Why You Need to Slow Down to Save Time</li>
<li aria-level="1">13:03 How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationship</li>
<li aria-level="1">17:03 First Date Impressions Aren’t Always Accurate</li>
<li aria-level="1">21:26 How Do You Define Real Human Connection?</li>
<li aria-level="1">24:33 Do You Fully Understand Your Partner?</li>
<li aria-level="1">28:24 Learn to Communicate Your Desires</li>
<li aria-level="1">31:26 This is What Happens When You Don’t Communicate</li>
<li aria-level="1">35:24 Why We’re Unreliable Narrators of Our Story</li>
<li aria-level="1">37:52 Be Consistent with Your Boundaries</li>
<li aria-level="1">42:36 We All Want to Be Liked</li>
<li aria-level="1">45:46 You’re Not Ready to Marry Yet</li>
<li aria-level="1">49:51 Practice Being Your True Self All the Time</li>
<li aria-level="1">52:36 The Blind Spots of Dating</li>
<li aria-level="1">57:08 The Truth About Future Tripping</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:00:10 How Do You Feel About the Other Person?</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:01:33 The 7-Year Mark of Marriages</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:03:50 Can Having Children Save a Marriage?</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:07:35 In-Law Issues is a Couple Issue</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:12:01 The Concept of Feeling Felt</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:16:50 How Long Can You Tolerate Disrespect from Your Partner? </li>
</ul>
Episode Resources:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Lori Gottlieb | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiIETTq2It3OzW8_WYRPTyQ">YouTube</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Lori Gottlieb | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/">Instagram</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Lori Gottlieb | <a href="https://lorigottlieb.com/">Website</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists-with-lori-gottlieb-and-guy-winch/id1523340696">Dear Therapists Podcast</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Maybe-Should-Talk-Someone-Journal/dp/0358667216?ref_=ast_author_dp">Maybe You Should Talk to Someone</a></li>
</ul>

Lori Gottlieb: 7 Answers to Dating Questions You’re Afraid to Ask & How to Break Free from Relationship Timelines

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Do you ever try focusing on just one thing at a time?

What’s one way you avoid distractions?

Today, Jay’s diving into a struggle we all know too well: distraction. If you’ve ever found yourself scrolling on your phone without even thinking about it, you’re definitely not alone. Jay breaks down why it’s so hard to stay focused in a world full of constant notifications and packed schedules. But this episode isn’t about making us feel guilty—instead, it’s about giving us simple, doable strategies to actually make focus easier.

Jay’s packed this episode with practical tips, like creating “no-phone zones” at home and setting tech-free times during the day to really be present. One of the standout strategies he shares is the Pomodoro Technique—working in short, focused bursts with breaks in between to keep your brain sharp and productive. Jay’s main message? Real productivity isn’t about doing more, faster—it’s about doing things better. He even shares some unique Ayurvedic advice, like chewing each bite 32 times (yes, really!) to emphasize how slowing down can improve our lives.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Slow Down for Better Productivity

How to Stay Present in Conversations

How to Find Calm by Unplugging

How to Build Stronger Focus Habits

How to Reclaim Your Attention

By setting intentional boundaries, slowing down, and practicing mindfulness, we can take back our attention in a way that enhances productivity, deepens our relationships, and brings peace to our daily lives. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:46 Have You Been Feeling More Distracted?

04:03 What Research Says About the Decline in Focus

06:12 Majority of Us Can’t Multitask

09:00 Doing Things Slower Makes Better Progress

11:43 #1: The Pomodoro Technique

13:38 #2: No Tech Zones, No Tech Times

15:56 #3: Go For a Walk, Stay Off Your Phone

20:34 #4: Finish What You Start

Do you ever try focusing on just one thing at a time?
What’s one way you avoid distractions?
Today, Jay’s diving into a struggle we all know too well: distraction. If you’ve ever found yourself scrolling on your phone without even thinking about it, you’re definitely not alone. Jay breaks down why it’s so hard to stay focused in a world full of constant notifications and packed schedules. But this episode isn’t about making us feel guilty—instead, it’s about giving us simple, doable strategies to actually make focus easier.
Jay’s packed this episode with practical tips, like creating “no-phone zones” at home and setting tech-free times during the day to really be present. One of the standout strategies he shares is the Pomodoro Technique—working in short, focused bursts with breaks in between to keep your brain sharp and productive. Jay’s main message? Real productivity isn’t about doing more, faster—it’s about doing things better. He even shares some unique Ayurvedic advice, like chewing each bite 32 times (yes, really!) to emphasize how slowing down can improve our lives.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Slow Down for Better Productivity
How to Stay Present in Conversations
How to Find Calm by Unplugging
How to Build Stronger Focus Habits
How to Reclaim Your Attention
By setting intentional boundaries, slowing down, and practicing mindfulness, we can take back our attention in a way that enhances productivity, deepens our relationships, and brings peace to our daily lives. 
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:46 Have You Been Feeling More Distracted?
04:03 What Research Says About the Decline in Focus
06:12 Majority of Us Can’t Multitask
09:00 Doing Things Slower Makes Better Progress
11:43 #1: The Pomodoro Technique
13:38 #2: No Tech Zones, No Tech Times
15:56 #3: Go For a Walk, Stay Off Your Phone
20:34 #4: Finish What You Start

4 Simple Habits to Boost Focus & Stop Getting Distracted

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How do you handle negative self-talk?

What helps you overcome self-doubt?

Today, Jay sits down with Grammy Award-winning artist Alicia Keys as she shares her journey of self-discovery, resilience, and holistic living. Alicia founded Keys SoulCare, a skincare line emphasizing holistic well-being, and is a co-founder of the initiative She Is the Music, advocating for gender equality in the music industry. The conversation sheds light into Alicia's evolution from a young girl with dreams to an icon balancing a multifaceted career. Jay and Alicia discuss the highs and lows of fame, navigating self-doubt, and the pressures of public life, providing listeners with valuable insights on managing stress and fostering a positive self-image.

Alicia reflects on her childhood fears and the challenges of finding self-worth, candidly revealing how these experiences shaped her. She emphasizes the importance of staying grounded through practices like affirmations, journaling, and mindful rituals—habits that help her stay true to herself amid a whirlwind career. 

Jay and Alicia then talk about the beauty of affirmations and the importance of letting go of perfectionism, a journey that led Alicia to adopt a more holistic approach to life. In her partnership with husband Swizz Beatz, she finds a harmonious balance of "flow" and "design," where they support each other's growth and freedom. This dynamic extends to their parenting style, where they teach their children gratitude and self-acceptance while instilling a sense of humility and grace.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Embrace Your True Self

How to Overcome Self-Doubt and Fear

How to Find Confidence Within Yourself

How to Turn Negative Thoughts into Positivity

How to Discover Your Inner Strength

How to Set Boundaries for Self-Care

How to Be Kind to Yourself

How to Trust Your Own Choices

The journey through self-doubt, fears, and external pressures highlights the importance of staying grounded, trusting intuition, and letting go of the need to seek others' approval. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
03:54 What Would You Say to Your Younger Self?
05:34 When You Have the Need to Protect Yourself
09:02 From Being Doubtful to Becoming Curious
13:43 What Is Your Affirmation Today?
15:30 Stop Being Mean to Yourself
19:06 Finding the Will to Love Your Own Skin
26:49 Spend More Time with Yourself
32:14 The Gifts and the Gaps
36:19 What Have You Learned From Your Partner?
38:06 Having Healthy Conflict in Your Relationship
45:53 Finding Balance Between Control and Flow
47:51 The Love for Crystals
51:32 Losing the Ability to Trust Yourself
57:15 What Are Your Go-To Rituals to Feel Better?
01:00:08 Teach Your Children to Practice Gratitude
01:03:45 Allow Other People to Speak and Just Listen
01:05:22 Creating Safe Space for Children
01:09:35 Hell’s Kitchen on Broadway
01:15:19 Be Clear with Your Vision
01:22:12 How Have You Protected Yourself from Fame and Success?
01:26:32 Alicia in Final Five

Episode Resources:
Alicia Keys | Website
Alicia Keys | YouTube
Alicia Keys | Instagram
Alicia Keys | Facebook
Alicia Keys | TikTok

How do you handle negative self-talk?
What helps you overcome self-doubt?
Today, Jay sits down with Grammy Award-winning artist Alicia Keys as she shares her journey of self-discovery, resilience, and holistic living. Alicia founded <a href="https://www.keyssoulcare.com/">Keys SoulCare</a>, a skincare line emphasizing holistic well-being, and is a co-founder of the initiative She Is the Music, advocating for gender equality in the music industry. The conversation sheds light into Alicia's evolution from a young girl with dreams to an icon balancing a multifaceted career. Jay and Alicia discuss the highs and lows of fame, navigating self-doubt, and the pressures of public life, providing listeners with valuable insights on managing stress and fostering a positive self-image.
Alicia reflects on her childhood fears and the challenges of finding self-worth, candidly revealing how these experiences shaped her. She emphasizes the importance of staying grounded through practices like affirmations, journaling, and mindful rituals—habits that help her stay true to herself amid a whirlwind career. 
Jay and Alicia then talk about the beauty of affirmations and the importance of letting go of perfectionism, a journey that led Alicia to adopt a more holistic approach to life. In her partnership with husband Swizz Beatz, she finds a harmonious balance of "flow" and "design," where they support each other's growth and freedom. This dynamic extends to their parenting style, where they teach their children gratitude and self-acceptance while instilling a sense of humility and grace.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Embrace Your True Self
How to Overcome Self-Doubt and Fear
How to Find Confidence Within Yourself
How to Turn Negative Thoughts into Positivity
How to Discover Your Inner Strength
How to Set Boundaries for Self-Care
How to Be Kind to Yourself
How to Trust Your Own Choices
The journey through self-doubt, fears, and external pressures highlights the importance of staying grounded, trusting intuition, and letting go of the need to seek others' approval. 
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">00:00 Intro</li>
<li aria-level="1">03:54 What Would You Say to Your Younger Self?</li>
<li aria-level="1">05:34 When You Have the Need to Protect Yourself</li>
<li aria-level="1">09:02 From Being Doubtful to Becoming Curious</li>
<li aria-level="1">13:43 What Is Your Affirmation Today?</li>
<li aria-level="1">15:30 Stop Being Mean to Yourself</li>
<li aria-level="1">19:06 Finding the Will to Love Your Own Skin</li>
<li aria-level="1">26:49 Spend More Time with Yourself</li>
<li aria-level="1">32:14 The Gifts and the Gaps</li>
<li aria-level="1">36:19 What Have You Learned From Your Partner?</li>
<li aria-level="1">38:06 Having Healthy Conflict in Your Relationship</li>
<li aria-level="1">45:53 Finding Balance Between Control and Flow</li>
<li aria-level="1">47:51 The Love for Crystals</li>
<li aria-level="1">51:32 Losing the Ability to Trust Yourself</li>
<li aria-level="1">57:15 What Are Your Go-To Rituals to Feel Better?</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:00:08 Teach Your Children to Practice Gratitude</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:03:45 Allow Other People to Speak and Just Listen</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:05:22 Creating Safe Space for Children</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:09:35 Hell’s Kitchen on Broadway</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:15:19 Be Clear with Your Vision</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:22:12 How Have You Protected Yourself from Fame and Success?</li>
<li aria-level="1">01:26:32 Alicia in Final Five</li>
</ul>
Episode Resources:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Alicia Keys | <a href="https://www.aliciakeys.com/">Website</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Alicia Keys | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCK5X3f0fxO4YnVKVZP8p6hg">YouTube</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Alicia Keys | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/aliciakeys">Instagram</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Alicia Keys | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/aliciakeys/">Facebook</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Alicia Keys | <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@aliciakeys">TikTok</a></li>
</ul>

Alicia Keys: 5 Ways to Overcome Self Doubt & Build Confidence Within

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