When was the last time you looked back and thought, “If only I knew this earlier”?

In this episode, Jay shares the seven life-changing lessons he wishes he’d learned in his teens and twenties—insights that could have reshaped his relationships, career, peace of mind, and sense of purpose. These aren’t just reflections; they’re powerful revelations most of us only discover through struggle, heartbreak, or burnout.

Jay dives into what it truly means to speak with intention, to know when it’s time to let go, and to stop outsourcing your self-worth. From learning to stay quiet in a world that rewards noise to realizing that boundaries are an act of self-love—each lesson is a powerful reminder that growth isn’t always about adding more, but about releasing what no longer serves you.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why Saying Less Makes Your Words Matter More.

Knowing When It’s Time to Walk Away

Why You Should Talk To People, Not About Them.

What Stress Reveals About a Person’s True Nature.

How to Raise Your Standards Without Guilt.

Why Some People Miss the Old You (for the Wrong Reasons).

How to Stop Absorbing Others' Emotions and Expectations.

This episode is for anyone feeling stuck, overlooked, or overwhelmed. Jay reminds you that you don’t get what you deserve — you get what you accept. And that sometimes the most powerful transformation happens when you choose peace over performance, presence over perfection, and truth over approval.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discussed:

00:00 Intro

01:37 Things I Wish I Knew

03:27 Lesson #1: Speak Less, Say More

11:57 Lesson #2: Let Go Before It Drags You Down

17:34 Lesson #3: Talk to Your Partner, Not About Them

21:43 Lesson #4: Understand the Whole Person, Not Just the Parts You Like

28:05 Lesson #5: You Get What You Tolerate, Not What You Deserve

32:52 Lesson #6: People Cling to the Old You Because It Was Easier to Control

36:22 Lesson #7: “Bad at Texting” Often Means You're Not a Priority

When was the last time you looked back and thought, &ldquo;If only I knew this earlier&rdquo;?
In this episode, Jay shares the seven life-changing lessons he wishes he&rsquo;d learned in his teens and twenties&mdash;insights that could have reshaped his relationships, career, peace of mind, and sense of purpose. These aren&rsquo;t just reflections; they&rsquo;re powerful revelations most of us only discover through struggle, heartbreak, or burnout.
Jay dives into what it truly means to speak with intention, to know when it&rsquo;s time to let go, and to stop outsourcing your self-worth. From learning to stay quiet in a world that rewards noise to realizing that boundaries are an act of self-love&mdash;each lesson is a powerful reminder that growth isn&rsquo;t always about adding more, but about releasing what no longer serves you.
In this episode, you&rsquo;ll learn:
Why Saying Less Makes Your Words Matter More.
Knowing When It&rsquo;s Time to Walk Away
Why You Should Talk To People, Not About Them.
What Stress Reveals About a Person&rsquo;s True Nature.
How to Raise Your Standards Without Guilt.
Why Some People Miss the Old You (for the Wrong Reasons).
How to Stop Absorbing Others' Emotions and Expectations.
This episode is for anyone feeling stuck, overlooked, or overwhelmed. Jay reminds you that you don&rsquo;t get what you deserve &mdash; you get what you accept. And that sometimes the most powerful transformation happens when you choose peace over performance, presence over perfection, and truth over approval.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">here.</a>&nbsp;
Join Jay for his first ever, On Purpose Live <a href="http://jayshetty.me/tour">Tour</a>! Tickets are on sale now. Hope to see you there!&nbsp;
What We Discussed:
00:00 Intro
01:37 Things I Wish I Knew
03:27 Lesson #1: Speak Less, Say More
11:57 Lesson #2: Let Go Before It Drags You Down
17:34 Lesson #3: Talk to Your Partner, Not About Them
21:43 Lesson #4: Understand the Whole Person, Not Just the Parts You Like
28:05 Lesson #5: You Get What You Tolerate, Not What You Deserve
32:52 Lesson #6: People Cling to the Old You Because It Was Easier to Control
36:22 Lesson #7: &ldquo;Bad at Texting&rdquo; Often Means You're Not a Priority

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

7 Harsh Truths I Wish I Knew in My 20’s (I Would’ve Found My Purpose QUICK!)

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