What’s one thing you wish you learned earlier in life?

What do you think would’ve changed for you if you learned it sooner?

Today, Jay reflects on the lessons he wishes he’d learned in his twenties and thirties, wisdom shaped by mistakes, growth, and years of inner work. He opens up about how easy it is to get swept up in chasing outcomes or living for other people’s expectations, and how those patterns can quietly pull us away from our true path. Jay also explains why success and happiness are completely different skill sets, and how understanding that early on can save you years of unnecessary frustration.

Jay also talks honestly about what healing really feels like, the side no one prepares you for. He explains that growth doesn’t always look inspiring; sometimes it shows up as exhaustion, confusion, or feeling like everything is falling apart. But that discomfort is often just old patterns breaking down so new ones can take shape. Through empathy, personal stories, and practical insights, Jay walks us through the “decade of firsts,” from first jobs to first heartbreaks, and reminds us that feeling lost isn’t failure. It’s a natural part of becoming someone stronger, clearer, and more aligned with who you’re meant to be.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Hear Your Inner Voice Again

How to Define Success on Your Own Terms

How to Build Confidence Through Self-Trust

How to Turn Rejection Into Insight

How to Break Free From Others’ Expectations

How to Heal Even When It Feels Messy

You’re not behind, you’re growing at the pace your life is asking you to grow. Keep showing up with curiosity, patience, and compassion for yourself. You’re building something meaningful, even on the days it doesn’t feel like it.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:42 #1: Results Are Overrated

04:54 #2: Tune Out The Noise

07:44 #3: Success Doesn’t Equal Happiness

10:30 #4: Confidence Comes From Self-Trust

12:47 Four Habits That Will Transform Your Life

14:10 #5: Rejection Isn’t Personal

17:20 How to Handle Rejection Better

22:32 Four Signs You’re Healing

24:51 Confusion in Your 20s Isn’t Failure

25:29 How to Protect Your Peace

26:07 #6: Anchor to Values, Not Validation

What&rsquo;s one thing you wish you learned earlier in life?
What do you think would&rsquo;ve changed for you if you learned it sooner?
Today, Jay reflects on the lessons he wishes he&rsquo;d learned in his twenties and thirties, wisdom shaped by mistakes, growth, and years of inner work. He opens up about how easy it is to get swept up in chasing outcomes or living for other people&rsquo;s expectations, and how those patterns can quietly pull us away from our true path. Jay also explains why success and happiness are completely different skill sets, and how understanding that early on can save you years of unnecessary frustration.
Jay also talks honestly about what healing really feels like, the side no one prepares you for. He explains that growth doesn&rsquo;t always look inspiring; sometimes it shows up as exhaustion, confusion, or feeling like everything is falling apart. But that discomfort is often just old patterns breaking down so new ones can take shape. Through empathy, personal stories, and practical insights, Jay walks us through the &ldquo;decade of firsts,&rdquo; from first jobs to first heartbreaks, and reminds us that feeling lost isn&rsquo;t failure. It&rsquo;s a natural part of becoming someone stronger, clearer, and more aligned with who you&rsquo;re meant to be.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Hear Your Inner Voice Again
How to Define Success on Your Own Terms
How to Build Confidence Through Self-Trust
How to Turn Rejection Into Insight
How to Break Free From Others&rsquo; Expectations
How to Heal Even When It Feels Messy
You&rsquo;re not behind, you&rsquo;re growing at the pace your life is asking you to grow. Keep showing up with curiosity, patience, and compassion for yourself. You&rsquo;re building something meaningful, even on the days it doesn&rsquo;t feel like it.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">here</a>.
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:42 #1: Results Are Overrated
04:54 #2: Tune Out The Noise
07:44 #3: Success Doesn&rsquo;t Equal Happiness
10:30 #4: Confidence Comes From Self-Trust
12:47 Four Habits That Will Transform Your Life
14:10 #5: Rejection Isn&rsquo;t Personal
17:20 How to Handle Rejection Better
22:32 Four Signs You&rsquo;re Healing
24:51 Confusion in Your 20s Isn&rsquo;t Failure
25:29 How to Protect Your Peace
26:07 #6: Anchor to Values, Not Validation

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

6 Lessons I Wish I Knew in My 20’s & 30’s (This Will INSTANTLY Give You Direction!)

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