How long should it take to fall in love?Is what you’re experiencing the real thing or is it just infatuation?Whether you have just started dating someone and felt love immediately or if you’ve been in a relationship for a long time and still aren’t sure where it’s going, here are 3 ways to find out how long it might take for you to truly fall in love with someone.

How long should it take to fall in love?Is what you’re experiencing the real thing or is it just infatuation?Whether you have just started dating someone and felt love immediately or if you’ve been in a relationship for a long time and still aren’t sure where it’s going, here are 3 ways to find out how long it might take for you to truly fall in love with someone.

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

3 Ways to Know How Long it Takes to Fall in Love

What if the hardest moments in your life weren’t there to break you, but were actually pointing you toward who you’re meant to be?

Today, Jay sits down with renowned psychologist, Columbia professor, and bestselling author Dr. Lisa Miller to explore the powerful intersection of science and spirituality. Together, they unpack one of the most transformative ideas of our time: that spirituality is not reserved for the religious or the enlightened, it is an innate human capacity wired into every one of us. Through groundbreaking neuroscience, Dr. Lisa reveals how our brains are biologically designed to perceive that we are loved, guided, and never truly alone. Jay and Lisa invite us into a new way of living, one where anxiety, heartbreak, disappointment, and uncertainty are no longer viewed as signs that we’ve lost our way, but as invitations into deeper spiritual awakening.

Throughout the episode, Jay and Lisa share profoundly personal reflections on life’s “red doors” and “yellow doors”, the moments when what we desperately wanted fell apart, only to lead us somewhere far more aligned, meaningful, and expansive than we could have imagined. Through intimate stories, spiritual practices, and powerful meditations, they explore how intuition, synchronicity, and inner knowing can guide us toward our true path when we finally learn to listen. Jay opens up about protecting his purpose, discovering his calling beyond societal expectations, and the courage it takes to trust the quiet voice within. Lisa beautifully reframes suffering not as punishment or failure, but as the very catalyst that awakens us to greater love, wisdom, and purpose. This episode is a reminder that some of the greatest breakthroughs in life begin with the moments that break us open.

In this episode you'll learn:

How to Listen to Your Inner Wisdom

How to Turn Pain Into Spiritual Growth

How to Recognize Signs the Universe Is Sending You

How to Feel Guided When Life Feels Uncertain

How to Stop Ignoring Your Intuition

How to Stay Spiritual in a Busy, Modern World

How to Strengthen Your Spiritual Awareness Daily

How to Navigate Depression Through a Spiritual Lens

Maybe the answers you’ve been searching for aren’t outside of you, but in the quiet voice you’ve been too busy, too hurt, or too afraid to trust. Life won’t always go as planned, but sometimes the detours, disappointments, and closed doors are leading you somewhere deeper than success, toward a life that feels aligned, meaningful, and true.

To grab a copy of Lisa’s latest book, The Awakened Brain: The New Science of Spirituality and Our Quest for an Inspired Life, visit https://www.amazon.com/Awakened-Brain-Science-Spirituality-Inspired/dp/198485562X 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX

Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe  

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:58 You Were Never Meant to Walk Alone

03:14 Why This Generation Is Craving Spirituality

05:24 The Life-Changing Benefits of Spirituality

06:11 The Hidden Link Between Spirituality and Depression

08:32 What Does it Mean To Be Spiritual?

10:46 The Shift That Makes Life Feel Inspired Again

17:05 When Life Stops Being a Plan and Becomes an Adventure

20:07 The Part of You You’ve Been Ignoring

21:19 The Missing Piece in Mental Health

22:23 The Two Ways You Actually Know Something

25:04 Why Your Purpose Isn’t Something You Find

29:09 How to Finally Hear Your Inner Voice

36:10 What It Feels Like to Touch Something Higher

40:51 Anxiety As A Catalyst 

43:52 What If Nothing in Your Life Is Random?

46:52 Learning to Trust Yourself on a Deeper Level

51:32 The Unexpected Path That Leads to Love

56:21 The Habit That’s Making You More Judgmental

57:10 Different Beliefs, One Aligned Relationship

01:02:53 The Subtle Sign You’re With the Wrong Person

01:04:59 The Truth About Money and Meaning

01:05:55 The Mistake That Keeps Spiritual People Broke

01:07:16 Why You Feel Stuck (And How to Get Back Into Flow)

01:10:20 How to Actually Ask for Guidance

01:13:06 The Real Source of Energy, Peace, and Clarity

01:14:15 The Awareness You Were Born With

01:16:16 What Happens When Kids Lose Their Intuition

01:18:08 Why Your Home Shapes Your Spiritual Life

01:21:35 Spirituality vs. Religion: What’s the Difference?

01:24:30 Why a Strong Spiritual Core Changes Everything

01:27:29 Lisa on Final Five 

Episode Resources:

Website | https://www.lisamillerphd.com/ 

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/dr.lisamiller/

What if the hardest moments in your life weren&rsquo;t there to break you, but were actually pointing you toward who you&rsquo;re meant to be?
Today, Jay sits down with renowned psychologist, Columbia professor, and bestselling author Dr. Lisa Miller to explore the powerful intersection of science and spirituality. Together, they unpack one of the most transformative ideas of our time: that spirituality is not reserved for the religious or the enlightened, it is an innate human capacity wired into every one of us. Through groundbreaking neuroscience, Dr. Lisa reveals how our brains are biologically designed to perceive that we are loved, guided, and never truly alone. Jay and Lisa invite us into a new way of living, one where anxiety, heartbreak, disappointment, and uncertainty are no longer viewed as signs that we&rsquo;ve lost our way, but as invitations into deeper spiritual awakening.
Throughout the episode, Jay and Lisa share profoundly personal reflections on life&rsquo;s &ldquo;red doors&rdquo; and &ldquo;yellow doors&rdquo;, the moments when what we desperately wanted fell apart, only to lead us somewhere far more aligned, meaningful, and expansive than we could have imagined. Through intimate stories, spiritual practices, and powerful meditations, they explore how intuition, synchronicity, and inner knowing can guide us toward our true path when we finally learn to listen. Jay opens up about protecting his purpose, discovering his calling beyond societal expectations, and the courage it takes to trust the quiet voice within. Lisa beautifully reframes suffering not as punishment or failure, but as the very catalyst that awakens us to greater love, wisdom, and purpose. This episode is a reminder that some of the greatest breakthroughs in life begin with the moments that break us open.
In this episode you'll learn:
How to Listen to Your Inner Wisdom
How to Turn Pain Into Spiritual Growth
How to Recognize Signs the Universe Is Sending You
How to Feel Guided When Life Feels Uncertain
How to Stop Ignoring Your Intuition
How to Stay Spiritual in a Busy, Modern World
How to Strengthen Your Spiritual Awareness Daily
How to Navigate Depression Through a Spiritual Lens
Maybe the answers you&rsquo;ve been searching for aren&rsquo;t outside of you, but in the quiet voice you&rsquo;ve been too busy, too hurt, or too afraid to trust. Life won&rsquo;t always go as planned, but sometimes the detours, disappointments, and closed doors are leading you somewhere deeper than success, toward a life that feels aligned, meaningful, and true.
To grab a copy of Lisa&rsquo;s latest book, The Awakened Brain: The New Science of Spirituality and Our Quest for an Inspired Life, visit <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Awakened-Brain-Science-Spirituality-Inspired/dp/198485562X">https://www.amazon.com/Awakened-Brain-Science-Spirituality-Inspired/dp/198485562X</a>&nbsp;
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
JAY&rsquo;S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX
Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe</a> &nbsp;
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! <a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast">https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</a>&nbsp;
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:58 You Were Never Meant to Walk Alone
03:14 Why This Generation Is Craving Spirituality
05:24 The Life-Changing Benefits of Spirituality
06:11 The Hidden Link Between Spirituality and Depression
08:32 What Does it Mean To Be Spiritual?
10:46 The Shift That Makes Life Feel Inspired Again
17:05 When Life Stops Being a Plan and Becomes an Adventure
20:07 The Part of You You&rsquo;ve Been Ignoring
21:19 The Missing Piece in Mental Health
22:23 The Two Ways You Actually Know Something
25:04 Why Your Purpose Isn&rsquo;t Something You Find
29:09 How to Finally Hear Your Inner Voice
36:10 What It Feels Like to Touch Something Higher
40:51 Anxiety As A Catalyst&nbsp;
43:52 What If Nothing in Your Life Is Random?
46:52 Learning to Trust Yourself on a Deeper Level
51:32 The Unexpected Path That Leads to Love
56:21 The Habit That&rsquo;s Making You More Judgmental
57:10 Different Beliefs, One Aligned Relationship
01:02:53 The Subtle Sign You&rsquo;re With the Wrong Person
01:04:59 The Truth About Money and Meaning
01:05:55 The Mistake That Keeps Spiritual People Broke
01:07:16 Why You Feel Stuck (And How to Get Back Into Flow)
01:10:20 How to Actually Ask for Guidance
01:13:06 The Real Source of Energy, Peace, and Clarity
01:14:15 The Awareness You Were Born With
01:16:16 What Happens When Kids Lose Their Intuition
01:18:08 Why Your Home Shapes Your Spiritual Life
01:21:35 Spirituality vs. Religion: What&rsquo;s the Difference?
01:24:30 Why a Strong Spiritual Core Changes Everything
01:27:29 Lisa on Final Five&nbsp;
Episode Resources:
Website | <a href="https://www.lisamillerphd.com/">https://www.lisamillerphd.com/</a>&nbsp;
Instagram | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/dr.lisamiller/">https://www.instagram.com/dr.lisamiller/</a>

Dr. Lisa Miller: Feeling Lost, Stuck or Anxious? (Use THIS Spiritual Framework to Finally Move Forward With Clarity)

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You know that moment after a breakup when you find yourself going back to their photos. Not all of them, just the best ones. The trips, the laughs, the versions of you that felt happiest together. And before you even realize it, it starts to feel like you lost something perfect. This is about that moment. The quiet spiral where you begin to question your decision, wondering if you made a mistake, where the relationship in your memory starts to feel better than it actually was. Jay breaks down what’s really happening there. Your mind is editing the past, holding onto the highlights while slowly letting go of the reasons it didn’t work. The arguments, the doubts, the patterns that hurt you all start to fade. So what you’re missing isn’t the full relationship. It’s a curated version of it.

Jay unpacks why heartbreak can feel so overwhelming. It’s not just emotional, it’s biological. Your brain responds to the loss like withdrawal, craving the connection it got used to, which is why checking their profile or replaying old conversations can feel almost impossible to resist. Even deeper than that, Jay explains how breakups often tap into something older, patterns of attachment, fears of being left, or the need to feel chosen. When you think you’re missing them, part of what you’re really feeling is the loss of security, identity, and the version of yourself that existed in that relationship.

In this episode you'll learn:

How to Stop Romanticizing Your Ex

How to Break the Late-Night Thought Spiral

How to Let Go Without Losing Yourself

How to Resist the Urge to Check Their Socials

How to Heal Without Reaching Out

How to Rebuild Your Identity After a Breakup

If you’re in that space right now, missing them, questioning everything, going back and forth in your mind, just know this: what you’re feeling is real, but it doesn’t mean the story you’re telling yourself is true. It means you cared, you attached, and now you’re learning how to let go. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX

Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe 

Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast 

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:20 The Version You Miss Isn’t the Whole Truth

07:29 Why Your Mind Rewrites the Past

10:46 The Hidden Patterns That Break Relationships

12:29 What You’re Really Grieving

17:22 The Real Work of Letting Go

19:32 #1: No Contact Rule

21:07 #2: The Full Picture Exercise

22:01 #3: Interrupt the Spiral 

23:38 #4: Rebuild Your Identity

26:09 #5: Grief is Grief

You know that moment after a breakup when you find yourself going back to their photos. Not all of them, just the best ones. The trips, the laughs, the versions of you that felt happiest together. And before you even realize it, it starts to feel like you lost something perfect. This is about that moment. The quiet spiral where you begin to question your decision, wondering if you made a mistake, where the relationship in your memory starts to feel better than it actually was. Jay breaks down what&rsquo;s really happening there. Your mind is editing the past, holding onto the highlights while slowly letting go of the reasons it didn&rsquo;t work. The arguments, the doubts, the patterns that hurt you all start to fade. So what you&rsquo;re missing isn&rsquo;t the full relationship. It&rsquo;s a curated version of it.
Jay unpacks why heartbreak can feel so overwhelming. It&rsquo;s not just emotional, it&rsquo;s biological. Your brain responds to the loss like withdrawal, craving the connection it got used to, which is why checking their profile or replaying old conversations can feel almost impossible to resist. Even deeper than that, Jay explains how breakups often tap into something older, patterns of attachment, fears of being left, or the need to feel chosen. When you think you&rsquo;re missing them, part of what you&rsquo;re really feeling is the loss of security, identity, and the version of yourself that existed in that relationship.
In this episode you'll learn:
How to Stop Romanticizing Your Ex
How to Break the Late-Night Thought Spiral
How to Let Go Without Losing Yourself
How to Resist the Urge to Check Their Socials
How to Heal Without Reaching Out
How to Rebuild Your Identity After a Breakup
If you&rsquo;re in that space right now, missing them, questioning everything, going back and forth in your mind, just know this: what you&rsquo;re feeling is real, but it doesn&rsquo;t mean the story you&rsquo;re telling yourself is true. It means you cared, you attached, and now you&rsquo;re learning how to let go.&nbsp;
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
JAY&rsquo;S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX
Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe</a>&nbsp;
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! <a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast">https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</a>&nbsp;
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:20 The Version You Miss Isn&rsquo;t the Whole Truth
07:29 Why Your Mind Rewrites the Past
10:46 The Hidden Patterns That Break Relationships
12:29 What You&rsquo;re Really Grieving
17:22 The Real Work of Letting Go
19:32 #1: No Contact Rule
21:07 #2: The Full Picture Exercise
22:01 #3: Interrupt the Spiral&nbsp;
23:38 #4: Rebuild Your Identity
26:09 #5: Grief is Grief

Still Thinking About Your Ex? (Use This 2-Step Reset to Stop the Spiral for Good!)

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In this special compilation episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty brings together three powerful voices in the world of fitness and human performance, Dr. Andy Galpin, Dave Asprey, and Senada Greca, to challenge everything we’ve been told about fitness and strength.

This episode isn’t about aesthetics or gym culture. It’s about building real strength that shows up in your life, the kind that lets you pick up your child without pain, lead with energy and focus, and stay independent, capable, and mobile well into your 70s and 80s.

Together, they break down why strength training, not endless cardio, is the real driver of longevity, energy, and mental clarity. They share how to train smarter in less time, fuel your body for real results, and build strength that actually carries into how you move, feel, and live every day.

Each guest brings a unique angle:

Dr. Andy Galpin breaks down why performance is about showing up stronger in everyday life, not just lifting heavier in the gym.

Dave Asprey reveals how to “hack” your workouts for maximum results with minimal time perfect for busy or burnout-prone people.

Senada Greca shares why strength training is the base of everything and how even beginners can build structure, stay consistent, and transform their mindset through movement.

Whether you’re brand new to strength training or just looking to reset your relationship with exercise, this episode is a reminder that strength isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why Building Muscle Protects Your Brain, Bones, and Joints.

How to Train Effectively Even if You Don’t Love the Gym.

The Best Way to Time Your Meals Around Strength Workouts.

How Strength Training Increases Confidence, Clarity, and Leadership.

Why Strength is the Secret to Aging Well and Staying Independent.

This isn’t about looking a certain way. It’s about living in a way that feels strong, steady, and sustainable.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty.

JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX

Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe  

Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast 

What we Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:53 How to Actually Boost Your Health & Longevity

03:39 The Science Of Strength Training

11:36 Hack Laziness Today!

16:09 All You Need is 5 minutes 3 Times A Week 

18:02 Train Your Brain To Overcome Laziness

21:24 Why Strength Training Should Be A Priority

27:15 Take Action & Don't Rely On Motivation 

30:22 Reward Yourself After Challenging Your Body

34:07 Biggest Misconceptions In Strength Training 

35:44 Eat This Right Before & After You Workout!

37:26 How Much Do Genetics Matter?

39:01 Benefits Of Having A Lower Body Fat Percentage

40:01 Is Cardio Important In Strength Training?

In this special compilation episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty brings together three powerful voices in the world of fitness and human performance, Dr. Andy Galpin, Dave Asprey, and Senada Greca, to challenge everything we&rsquo;ve been told about fitness and strength.
This episode isn&rsquo;t about aesthetics or gym culture. It&rsquo;s about building real strength that shows up in your life, the kind that lets you pick up your child without pain, lead with energy and focus, and stay independent, capable, and mobile well into your 70s and 80s.
Together, they break down why strength training, not endless cardio, is the real driver of longevity, energy, and mental clarity. They share how to train smarter in less time, fuel your body for real results, and build strength that actually carries into how you move, feel, and live every day.
Each guest brings a unique angle:
Dr. Andy Galpin breaks down why performance is about showing up stronger in everyday life, not just lifting heavier in the gym.
Dave Asprey reveals how to &ldquo;hack&rdquo; your workouts for maximum results with minimal time perfect for busy or burnout-prone people.
Senada Greca shares why strength training is the base of everything and how even beginners can build structure, stay consistent, and transform their mindset through movement.
Whether you&rsquo;re brand new to strength training or just looking to reset your relationship with exercise, this episode is a reminder that strength isn&rsquo;t a luxury, it&rsquo;s a necessity.
In this episode, you&rsquo;ll learn:
Why Building Muscle Protects Your Brain, Bones, and Joints.
How to Train Effectively Even if You Don&rsquo;t Love the Gym.
The Best Way to Time Your Meals Around Strength Workouts.
How Strength Training Increases Confidence, Clarity, and Leadership.
Why Strength is the Secret to Aging Well and Staying Independent.
This isn&rsquo;t about looking a certain way. It&rsquo;s about living in a way that feels strong, steady, and sustainable.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty.
JAY&rsquo;S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX
Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe</a> &nbsp;
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! <a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast">https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</a>&nbsp;
What we Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:53 How to Actually Boost Your Health &amp; Longevity
03:39 The Science Of Strength Training
11:36 Hack Laziness Today!
16:09 All You Need is 5 minutes 3 Times A Week&nbsp;
18:02 Train Your Brain To Overcome Laziness
21:24 Why Strength Training Should Be A Priority
27:15 Take Action &amp; Don't Rely On Motivation&nbsp;
30:22 Reward Yourself After Challenging Your Body
34:07 Biggest Misconceptions In Strength Training&nbsp;
35:44 Eat This Right Before &amp; After You Workout!
37:26 How Much Do Genetics Matter?
39:01 Benefits Of Having A Lower Body Fat Percentage
40:01 Is Cardio Important In Strength Training?

Jay's Must-Listens: The #1 Way to Feel Stronger, Healthier & More Energized (Follow THIS Simple Weekly Workout Plan) ft. Senada Greca & Dr. Andy Galpin

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