How do you know when you’ve found the one or if you’re even compatible with someone?Whether you’re messaging someone on a dating app, dating someone right now, or you’ve been with someone for a while, knowing why compatibility is important is key.Today we’ll look at 3 reasons why compatibility is more important than chemistry and how you can apply this knowledge to your next relationship or strengthen your current one.

How do you know when you’ve found the one or if you’re even compatible with someone?Whether you’re messaging someone on a dating app, dating someone right now, or you’ve been with someone for a while, knowing why compatibility is important is key.Today we’ll look at 3 reasons why compatibility is more important than chemistry and how you can apply this knowledge to your next relationship or strengthen your current one.

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

3 Reasons Why Compatibility Is More Important Than Chemistry

Today, Jay sits down with cultural icon Hilary Duff for a raw and honest conversation about  growth, identity, and the quiet courage it takes to evolve in public. Having grown up alongside an entire generation, Hilary reflects on what it means to return to music after more than a decade with her sixth studio album, Luck or Something. She opens up about shedding politeness in favor of truth, embracing maturity without losing the joy of her past, and finally feeling rooted in who she is, not just as an artist, but as a woman, a mother, a partner, and a daughter.

Jay and Hilary explore the hidden weight of fame, the loss of anonymity at a young age, and the resilience required to stay grounded in an industry that constantly defines you before you can define yourself. Hilary speaks vulnerably about navigating eating disorders, divorce, co-parenting, estrangement with family, and the reality of loving people through complicated relationships. Through it all, she shares how motherhood reshaped her priorities, how love taught her to accept stability over chaos, and how creativity became a necessary way of reconnecting with herself. Hilary’s reflections reveal a powerful truth: what the world often calls luck is usually years of quiet strength, hard choices, and inner work. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Trust Your Intuition Over “Luck”

How to Grow Without Rejecting Your Past

How to Accept Healthy Love (Even When It Feels Unfamiliar)

How to Break Family Patterns Without Losing Compassion

How to Balance Motherhood and Personal Ambition

How to Hold Joy and Pain at the Same Time

How to Reinvent Yourself Without Losing Who You Are

You are allowed to choose steadiness over chaos, truth over politeness, and peace over performance. Growth isn’t always loud, sometimes it’s simply deciding you don’t want to repeat the same pattern again.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX

Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. 

Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast 

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:04 The Joy of Being Celebrated

02:46 Choosing Truth Over Politeness

05:15 What’s a Childhood Memory That Keeps You Grounded?

06:56 The Truth About Growing Up in the Public Eye

11:38 Learning to Feel at Home in Your Own Skin

14:22 Where Real Confidence Comes From

19:08 Opening Your Heart to Love Again

21:28 Understanding the Weight of Marriage

25:03 Deciding to Fully Commit

26:24 Trusting Your Intuition

27:28 Owning the Work Behind Your Success

30:36 The Burden of Being the Family Peacemaker

36:18 Navigating Divorce with Intention

38:26 Sharing Your Story on Your Terms

43:50 Holding Joy and Hardship at the Same Time

46:44 Healing and Connecting Through Music

51:49 The Hilary Duff Renaissance 

54:50 Staying Attuned to Your Children’s Needs

01:00:59 Building Confidence as a Parent

01:02:26 How Did You Name Your Kids?

01:04:27 Disney-Era “Would You Rather”

01:08:42 Hilary on Final Five 

Episode Resources:

Website | https://www.hilaryduff.com/ 

YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSRmCrFvCPomTqjzwoF9MGw 

Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/HilaryDuff/ 

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/hilaryduff/ 

TikTok | https://x.com/hilaryduff 

X | https://x.com/hilaryduff

Today, Jay sits down with cultural icon Hilary Duff for a raw and honest conversation about&nbsp; growth, identity, and the quiet courage it takes to evolve in public. Having grown up alongside an entire generation, Hilary reflects on what it means to return to music after more than a decade with her sixth studio album, Luck or Something. She opens up about shedding politeness in favor of truth, embracing maturity without losing the joy of her past, and finally feeling rooted in who she is, not just as an artist, but as a woman, a mother, a partner, and a daughter.
Jay and Hilary explore the hidden weight of fame, the loss of anonymity at a young age, and the resilience required to stay grounded in an industry that constantly defines you before you can define yourself. Hilary speaks vulnerably about navigating eating disorders, divorce, co-parenting, estrangement with family, and the reality of loving people through complicated relationships. Through it all, she shares how motherhood reshaped her priorities, how love taught her to accept stability over chaos, and how creativity became a necessary way of reconnecting with herself. Hilary&rsquo;s reflections reveal a powerful truth: what the world often calls luck is usually years of quiet strength, hard choices, and inner work.&nbsp;
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Trust Your Intuition Over &ldquo;Luck&rdquo;
How to Grow Without Rejecting Your Past
How to Accept Healthy Love (Even When It Feels Unfamiliar)
How to Break Family Patterns Without Losing Compassion
How to Balance Motherhood and Personal Ambition
How to Hold Joy and Pain at the Same Time
How to Reinvent Yourself Without Losing Who You Are
You are allowed to choose steadiness over chaos, truth over politeness, and peace over performance. Growth isn&rsquo;t always loud, sometimes it&rsquo;s simply deciding you don&rsquo;t want to repeat the same pattern again.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
JAY&rsquo;S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX
Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">here</a>.&nbsp;
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! <a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast">https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</a>&nbsp;
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:04 The Joy of Being Celebrated
02:46 Choosing Truth Over Politeness
05:15 What&rsquo;s a Childhood Memory That Keeps You Grounded?
06:56 The Truth About Growing Up in the Public Eye
11:38 Learning to Feel at Home in Your Own Skin
14:22 Where Real Confidence Comes From
19:08 Opening Your Heart to Love Again
21:28 Understanding the Weight of Marriage
25:03 Deciding to Fully Commit
26:24 Trusting Your Intuition
27:28 Owning the Work Behind Your Success
30:36 The Burden of Being the Family Peacemaker
36:18 Navigating Divorce with Intention
38:26 Sharing Your Story on Your Terms
43:50 Holding Joy and Hardship at the Same Time
46:44 Healing and Connecting Through Music
51:49 The Hilary Duff Renaissance&nbsp;
54:50 Staying Attuned to Your Children&rsquo;s Needs
01:00:59 Building Confidence as a Parent
01:02:26 How Did You Name Your Kids?
01:04:27 Disney-Era &ldquo;Would You Rather&rdquo;
01:08:42 Hilary on Final Five&nbsp;
Episode Resources:
Website | <a href="https://www.hilaryduff.com/">https://www.hilaryduff.com/</a>&nbsp;
YouTube | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSRmCrFvCPomTqjzwoF9MGw">https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSRmCrFvCPomTqjzwoF9MGw</a>&nbsp;
Facebook | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/HilaryDuff/">https://www.facebook.com/HilaryDuff/</a>&nbsp;
Instagram | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/hilaryduff/">https://www.instagram.com/hilaryduff/</a>&nbsp;
TikTok | <a href="https://x.com/hilaryduff">https://x.com/hilaryduff</a>&nbsp;
X | <a href="https://x.com/hilaryduff">https://x.com/hilaryduff</a>

HILARY DUFF: The Human Behind the Headlines (Her Most Honest Chapter Yet)

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So many of us wake up and immediately feel behind. We reach for our phones, scroll through other people’s lives, and start reacting before we’ve even chosen how we want to feel.

Today, Jay shares a powerful truth: the first 60 to 90 minutes after you wake up are the most programmable moments of your day. Your brain is in a unique, highly impressionable state and instead of using that window intentionally, most of us give it away.

Jay breaks down six simple, science-backed habits that can transform your mornings without extreme routines or unrealistic expectations. He explains why hitting snooze actually makes you more tired, how morning sunlight boosts your energy and improves your sleep later that night, and how just 60 to 90 seconds of cold water can build stress resilience. He also shares the benefits of seven minutes of movement, a short handwritten journaling practice to clear mental clutter, and why delaying your phone for the first hour protects your focus and emotional baseline.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Stop Hitting Snooze for Good

How to Reset Your Nervous System in 90 Seconds

How to Activate Your Brain in 7 Minutes

How to Increase Focus Before 8AM

How to Protect Your First Hour from Distractions

How to Reprogram Your Mind Before the Day Begins

Start with one habit. Let it be simple. Let it be sustainable. Because when you protect your mornings, you strengthen your mindset. And when you strengthen your mindset, you change the direction of your days and eventually, your life.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe 

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:13 Here's Something Nobody Tells You About Your Morning

02:09 Step #1: Stop Hitting the Snooze Button

06:01 Step #2: Sunlight in Your Eyes

09:35 Step #3: The 90-Second Cold Shower

12:59 Step #4: Move for 7 Minutes not 60

16:10 Step #5: The Brain Dump Journal

19:56 Step #6: Delay Phone Scrolling in the First Hour

So many of us wake up and immediately feel behind. We reach for our phones, scroll through other people&rsquo;s lives, and start reacting before we&rsquo;ve even chosen how we want to feel.
Today, Jay shares a powerful truth: the first 60 to 90 minutes after you wake up are the most programmable moments of your day. Your brain is in a unique, highly impressionable state and instead of using that window intentionally, most of us give it away.
Jay breaks down six simple, science-backed habits that can transform your mornings without extreme routines or unrealistic expectations. He explains why hitting snooze actually makes you more tired, how morning sunlight boosts your energy and improves your sleep later that night, and how just 60 to 90 seconds of cold water can build stress resilience. He also shares the benefits of seven minutes of movement, a short handwritten journaling practice to clear mental clutter, and why delaying your phone for the first hour protects your focus and emotional baseline.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Stop Hitting Snooze for Good
How to Reset Your Nervous System in 90 Seconds
How to Activate Your Brain in 7 Minutes
How to Increase Focus Before 8AM
How to Protect Your First Hour from Distractions
How to Reprogram Your Mind Before the Day Begins
Start with one habit. Let it be simple. Let it be sustainable. Because when you protect your mornings, you strengthen your mindset. And when you strengthen your mindset, you change the direction of your days and eventually, your life.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe</a>&nbsp;
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:13 Here's Something Nobody Tells You About Your Morning
02:09 Step #1: Stop Hitting the Snooze Button
06:01 Step #2: Sunlight in Your Eyes
09:35 Step #3: The 90-Second Cold Shower
12:59 Step #4: Move for 7 Minutes not 60
16:10 Step #5: The Brain Dump Journal
19:56 Step #6: Delay Phone Scrolling in the First Hour

6-Step Science-Backed Morning Reset (Boost Focus, Lower Stress & Improve Your Mood All Day!)

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Today, Jay sits down with Benny Blanco, Dave Burd, and Kristin Batalucco for a first-of-its-kind conversation - three best friends building something together in real time. They talk about what that really looks like: how friendship changes when work gets involved, how marriage fits into ambition, where insecurity still shows up, and how messy it can be to create with people you genuinely love. Dave and Kristin tell the story of meeting at a bowling alley and how they almost got in their own way at the beginning. Benny opens up about what it was like to chase success for years and what shifted when he realized it wasn’t giving him what he thought it would. It’s funny, and honest, and gives you a real sense of who they are with each other, not just as collaborators, but as friends figuring life out together.

With Jay's guidance they open up about commitment anxiety, the courage it takes to be emotionally direct, and the power of choosing your partner not playing games, not waiting to be chosen, but stepping forward with clarity. Kristen shares what it means to battle self-doubt while stepping into the public eye. Dave opens up about perfectionism and the tension between ambition and contentment. Benny reflects on how success once held him in a chokehold and how love reshaped his priorities. Together, they reveal that the healthiest relationships aren’t built on avoiding conflict, but on being able to argue passionately and return to love just as quickly.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Be Honest About What You Want in Love

How to Stop Playing Dating Games

How to Turn Conflict Into Deeper Connection

How to Support Your Partner’s Ambition Without Competing

How to Work With Friends Without Ruining the Friendship

How to Fall in Love With New Versions of Your Partner

The strongest connections aren’t built by people who never argue, they’re built by people who know how to come back to each other after they do. Keep choosing openness. Keep choosing courage. Keep choosing each other. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX

Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe  

Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast 

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:03 How Their Friendship Began

07:05 Dave and Kristin’s Love Story

11:37 From Dating to Marriage

18:39 When Friendship Grows With Marriage

20:19 Getting Married a Month Apart

28:05 Loving Every Version of Each Other

30:35 Launching a Show Together

35:12 The Loneliness Epidemic 

39:07 Working With Family and Friends

42:13 How They Make Big Decisions

45:27 Pre-Show Nerves and Bathroom Confessions

48:18 Do They Believe in Astrology?

51:10 Friends Don’t Keep Secrets

01:13:28 Separating Work From Your Relationship

01:20:00 Do You Talk About Me When I Leave the Room?

01:23:37 If I Died, Would You Still Hang Out?

Episode Resources:

Website | https://www.friendskeepsecretspodcast.com/ 

YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@friendskeepsecrets 

Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/FriendsKeepSecrets 

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/friendskeepsecrets  

TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@friendskeepsecrets 

X | https://x.com/FKSpodcast

Today, Jay sits down with Benny Blanco, Dave Burd, and Kristin Batalucco for a first-of-its-kind conversation - three best friends building something together in real time. They talk about what that really looks like: how friendship changes when work gets involved, how marriage fits into ambition, where insecurity still shows up, and how messy it can be to create with people you genuinely love. Dave and Kristin tell the story of meeting at a bowling alley and how they almost got in their own way at the beginning. Benny opens up about what it was like to chase success for years and what shifted when he realized it wasn&rsquo;t giving him what he thought it would. It&rsquo;s funny, and honest, and gives you a real sense of who they are with each other, not just as collaborators, but as friends figuring life out together.
With Jay's guidance they open up about commitment anxiety, the courage it takes to be emotionally direct, and the power of choosing your partner not playing games, not waiting to be chosen, but stepping forward with clarity. Kristen shares what it means to battle self-doubt while stepping into the public eye. Dave opens up about perfectionism and the tension between ambition and contentment. Benny reflects on how success once held him in a chokehold and how love reshaped his priorities. Together, they reveal that the healthiest relationships aren&rsquo;t built on avoiding conflict, but on being able to argue passionately and return to love just as quickly.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Be Honest About What You Want in Love
How to Stop Playing Dating Games
How to Turn Conflict Into Deeper Connection
How to Support Your Partner&rsquo;s Ambition Without Competing
How to Work With Friends Without Ruining the Friendship
How to Fall in Love With New Versions of Your Partner
The strongest connections aren&rsquo;t built by people who never argue, they&rsquo;re built by people who know how to come back to each other after they do. Keep choosing openness. Keep choosing courage. Keep choosing each other.&nbsp;
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
JAY&rsquo;S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX
Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe</a> &nbsp;
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! <a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast">https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</a>&nbsp;
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:03 How Their Friendship Began
07:05 Dave and Kristin&rsquo;s Love Story
11:37 From Dating to Marriage
18:39 When Friendship Grows With Marriage
20:19 Getting Married a Month Apart
28:05 Loving Every Version of Each Other
30:35 Launching a Show Together
35:12 The Loneliness Epidemic&nbsp;
39:07 Working With Family and Friends
42:13 How They Make Big Decisions
45:27 Pre-Show Nerves and Bathroom Confessions
48:18 Do They Believe in Astrology?
51:10 Friends Don&rsquo;t Keep Secrets
01:13:28 Separating Work From Your Relationship
01:20:00 Do You Talk About Me When I Leave the Room?
01:23:37 If I Died, Would You Still Hang Out?
Episode Resources:
Website | <a href="https://www.friendskeepsecretspodcast.com/">https://www.friendskeepsecretspodcast.com/</a>&nbsp;
YouTube | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@friendskeepsecrets">https://www.youtube.com/@friendskeepsecrets</a>&nbsp;
Facebook | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/FriendsKeepSecrets">https://www.facebook.com/FriendsKeepSecrets</a>&nbsp;
Instagram | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/friendskeepsecrets">https://www.instagram.com/friendskeepsecrets</a>&nbsp;&nbsp;
TikTok | <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@friendskeepsecrets">https://www.tiktok.com/@friendskeepsecrets</a>&nbsp;
X | <a href="https://x.com/FKSpodcast">https://x.com/FKSpodcast</a>

BENNY BLANCO, DAVE BURD & KRISTIN BATALUCCO: Friends Keep Secrets… Or Do They? (Friendship, Weddings, Love)

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