How do you know when you’ve found the one or if you’re even compatible with someone?Whether you’re messaging someone on a dating app, dating someone right now, or you’ve been with someone for a while, knowing why compatibility is important is key.Today we’ll look at 3 reasons why compatibility is more important than chemistry and how you can apply this knowledge to your next relationship or strengthen your current one.

How do you know when you’ve found the one or if you’re even compatible with someone?Whether you’re messaging someone on a dating app, dating someone right now, or you’ve been with someone for a while, knowing why compatibility is important is key.Today we’ll look at 3 reasons why compatibility is more important than chemistry and how you can apply this knowledge to your next relationship or strengthen your current one.

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

3 Reasons Why Compatibility Is More Important Than Chemistry

You know that moment after a breakup when you find yourself going back to their photos. Not all of them, just the best ones. The trips, the laughs, the versions of you that felt happiest together. And before you even realize it, it starts to feel like you lost something perfect. This is about that moment. The quiet spiral where you begin to question your decision, wondering if you made a mistake, where the relationship in your memory starts to feel better than it actually was. Jay breaks down what’s really happening there. Your mind is editing the past, holding onto the highlights while slowly letting go of the reasons it didn’t work. The arguments, the doubts, the patterns that hurt you all start to fade. So what you’re missing isn’t the full relationship. It’s a curated version of it.

Jay unpacks why heartbreak can feel so overwhelming. It’s not just emotional, it’s biological. Your brain responds to the loss like withdrawal, craving the connection it got used to, which is why checking their profile or replaying old conversations can feel almost impossible to resist. Even deeper than that, Jay explains how breakups often tap into something older, patterns of attachment, fears of being left, or the need to feel chosen. When you think you’re missing them, part of what you’re really feeling is the loss of security, identity, and the version of yourself that existed in that relationship.

In this episode you'll learn:

How to Stop Romanticizing Your Ex

How to Break the Late-Night Thought Spiral

How to Let Go Without Losing Yourself

How to Resist the Urge to Check Their Socials

How to Heal Without Reaching Out

How to Rebuild Your Identity After a Breakup

If you’re in that space right now, missing them, questioning everything, going back and forth in your mind, just know this: what you’re feeling is real, but it doesn’t mean the story you’re telling yourself is true. It means you cared, you attached, and now you’re learning how to let go. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:20 The Version You Miss Isn’t the Whole Truth

07:29 Why Your Mind Rewrites the Past

10:46 The Hidden Patterns That Break Relationships

12:29 What You’re Really Grieving

17:22 The Real Work of Letting Go

19:32 #1: No Contact Rule

21:07 #2: The Full Picture Exercise

22:01 #3: Interrupt the Spiral 

23:38 #4: Rebuild Your Identity

26:09 #5: Grief is Grief

You know that moment after a breakup when you find yourself going back to their photos. Not all of them, just the best ones. The trips, the laughs, the versions of you that felt happiest together. And before you even realize it, it starts to feel like you lost something perfect. This is about that moment. The quiet spiral where you begin to question your decision, wondering if you made a mistake, where the relationship in your memory starts to feel better than it actually was. Jay breaks down what&rsquo;s really happening there. Your mind is editing the past, holding onto the highlights while slowly letting go of the reasons it didn&rsquo;t work. The arguments, the doubts, the patterns that hurt you all start to fade. So what you&rsquo;re missing isn&rsquo;t the full relationship. It&rsquo;s a curated version of it.
Jay unpacks why heartbreak can feel so overwhelming. It&rsquo;s not just emotional, it&rsquo;s biological. Your brain responds to the loss like withdrawal, craving the connection it got used to, which is why checking their profile or replaying old conversations can feel almost impossible to resist. Even deeper than that, Jay explains how breakups often tap into something older, patterns of attachment, fears of being left, or the need to feel chosen. When you think you&rsquo;re missing them, part of what you&rsquo;re really feeling is the loss of security, identity, and the version of yourself that existed in that relationship.
In this episode you'll learn:
How to Stop Romanticizing Your Ex
How to Break the Late-Night Thought Spiral
How to Let Go Without Losing Yourself
How to Resist the Urge to Check Their Socials
How to Heal Without Reaching Out
How to Rebuild Your Identity After a Breakup
If you&rsquo;re in that space right now, missing them, questioning everything, going back and forth in your mind, just know this: what you&rsquo;re feeling is real, but it doesn&rsquo;t mean the story you&rsquo;re telling yourself is true. It means you cared, you attached, and now you&rsquo;re learning how to let go.&nbsp;
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
JAY&rsquo;S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX
Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe</a>&nbsp;
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! <a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast">https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</a>&nbsp;
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:20 The Version You Miss Isn&rsquo;t the Whole Truth
07:29 Why Your Mind Rewrites the Past
10:46 The Hidden Patterns That Break Relationships
12:29 What You&rsquo;re Really Grieving
17:22 The Real Work of Letting Go
19:32 #1: No Contact Rule
21:07 #2: The Full Picture Exercise
22:01 #3: Interrupt the Spiral&nbsp;
23:38 #4: Rebuild Your Identity
26:09 #5: Grief is Grief

Still Thinking About Your Ex? (Use This 2-Step Reset to Stop the Spiral for Good!)

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In this special compilation episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty brings together three powerful voices in the world of fitness and human performance, Dr. Andy Galpin, Dave Asprey, and Senada Greca, to challenge everything we’ve been told about fitness and strength.

This episode isn’t about aesthetics or gym culture. It’s about building real strength that shows up in your life, the kind that lets you pick up your child without pain, lead with energy and focus, and stay independent, capable, and mobile well into your 70s and 80s.

Together, they break down why strength training, not endless cardio, is the real driver of longevity, energy, and mental clarity. They share how to train smarter in less time, fuel your body for real results, and build strength that actually carries into how you move, feel, and live every day.

Each guest brings a unique angle:

Dr. Andy Galpin breaks down why performance is about showing up stronger in everyday life, not just lifting heavier in the gym.

Dave Asprey reveals how to “hack” your workouts for maximum results with minimal time perfect for busy or burnout-prone people.

Senada Greca shares why strength training is the base of everything and how even beginners can build structure, stay consistent, and transform their mindset through movement.

Whether you’re brand new to strength training or just looking to reset your relationship with exercise, this episode is a reminder that strength isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why Building Muscle Protects Your Brain, Bones, and Joints.

How to Train Effectively Even if You Don’t Love the Gym.

The Best Way to Time Your Meals Around Strength Workouts.

How Strength Training Increases Confidence, Clarity, and Leadership.

Why Strength is the Secret to Aging Well and Staying Independent.

This isn’t about looking a certain way. It’s about living in a way that feels strong, steady, and sustainable.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty.

JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX

Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe  

Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast 

What we Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:53 How to Actually Boost Your Health & Longevity

03:39 The Science Of Strength Training

11:36 Hack Laziness Today!

16:09 All You Need is 5 minutes 3 Times A Week 

18:02 Train Your Brain To Overcome Laziness

21:24 Why Strength Training Should Be A Priority

27:15 Take Action & Don't Rely On Motivation 

30:22 Reward Yourself After Challenging Your Body

34:07 Biggest Misconceptions In Strength Training 

35:44 Eat This Right Before & After You Workout!

37:26 How Much Do Genetics Matter?

39:01 Benefits Of Having A Lower Body Fat Percentage

40:01 Is Cardio Important In Strength Training?

In this special compilation episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty brings together three powerful voices in the world of fitness and human performance, Dr. Andy Galpin, Dave Asprey, and Senada Greca, to challenge everything we&rsquo;ve been told about fitness and strength.
This episode isn&rsquo;t about aesthetics or gym culture. It&rsquo;s about building real strength that shows up in your life, the kind that lets you pick up your child without pain, lead with energy and focus, and stay independent, capable, and mobile well into your 70s and 80s.
Together, they break down why strength training, not endless cardio, is the real driver of longevity, energy, and mental clarity. They share how to train smarter in less time, fuel your body for real results, and build strength that actually carries into how you move, feel, and live every day.
Each guest brings a unique angle:
Dr. Andy Galpin breaks down why performance is about showing up stronger in everyday life, not just lifting heavier in the gym.
Dave Asprey reveals how to &ldquo;hack&rdquo; your workouts for maximum results with minimal time perfect for busy or burnout-prone people.
Senada Greca shares why strength training is the base of everything and how even beginners can build structure, stay consistent, and transform their mindset through movement.
Whether you&rsquo;re brand new to strength training or just looking to reset your relationship with exercise, this episode is a reminder that strength isn&rsquo;t a luxury, it&rsquo;s a necessity.
In this episode, you&rsquo;ll learn:
Why Building Muscle Protects Your Brain, Bones, and Joints.
How to Train Effectively Even if You Don&rsquo;t Love the Gym.
The Best Way to Time Your Meals Around Strength Workouts.
How Strength Training Increases Confidence, Clarity, and Leadership.
Why Strength is the Secret to Aging Well and Staying Independent.
This isn&rsquo;t about looking a certain way. It&rsquo;s about living in a way that feels strong, steady, and sustainable.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty.
JAY&rsquo;S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX
Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe</a> &nbsp;
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! <a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast">https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</a>&nbsp;
What we Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:53 How to Actually Boost Your Health &amp; Longevity
03:39 The Science Of Strength Training
11:36 Hack Laziness Today!
16:09 All You Need is 5 minutes 3 Times A Week&nbsp;
18:02 Train Your Brain To Overcome Laziness
21:24 Why Strength Training Should Be A Priority
27:15 Take Action &amp; Don't Rely On Motivation&nbsp;
30:22 Reward Yourself After Challenging Your Body
34:07 Biggest Misconceptions In Strength Training&nbsp;
35:44 Eat This Right Before &amp; After You Workout!
37:26 How Much Do Genetics Matter?
39:01 Benefits Of Having A Lower Body Fat Percentage
40:01 Is Cardio Important In Strength Training?

Jay's Must-Listens: The #1 Way to Feel Stronger, Healthier & More Energized (Follow THIS Simple Weekly Workout Plan) ft. Senada Greca & Dr. Andy Galpin

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Sometimes the hardest part of healing isn’t what the world did to you, it’s unlearning the version of yourself you became just to survive it.

Today, Jay sits down with Hayden Panettiere for a raw and powerful conversation where she shares the truth behind a life the world thought it knew, but never truly understood. What unfolds isn’t just a story about fame, it’s a powerful reckoning with identity, pain, and resilience. From losing the innocence of a normal childhood to carrying the emotional weight of growing up in the spotlight, Hayden shares how early success came with hidden costs, bullying, isolation, and a lifelong struggle to feel like she truly belonged. This conversation goes beyond the headlines and into the heart of a woman who has spent decades learning how to separate who she is from who the world decided she should be.

As the conversation deepens, Hayden opens up about the hidden battles that shaped her adulthood, including addiction, postpartum depression, and the weight of living her trauma both privately and in public. She reflects on the surreal experience of playing a character whose struggles mirrored her own, where the line between performance and real life pain began to blur. Together, they unpack the patterns, the pressure to please, and the emotions she never had the space to process that kept her stuck in cycles she couldn’t break. Within it all, a powerful truth emerges: healing isn’t linear, and even in the darkest moments, there’s a quiet strength still fighting to rise.

Through grief, loss, and unimaginable challenges, Hayden is learning to reclaim her voice, trust herself again, and step into a new chapter defined not by survival, but by intention.

In this episode you'll learn:

How to Heal When Your Identity Was Shaped by Others

How to Rebuild Self-Trust After Years of Self-Doubt

How to Break Free from Toxic and Abusive Cycles

How to Cope with Anxiety That Feels Never-Ending

How to Navigate Postpartum Depression Without Shame

How to Stop Living for Approval and Start Living for Yourself

How to Let Go of the Need to Fix Everyone

How to Set Boundaries with People You Love

How to Keep Going When Life Keeps Breaking You

If you see parts of yourself in this story, the doubt, the pain, the patterns you wish you could break, know that you’re not alone, and more importantly, you’re not stuck. Healing doesn’t happen all at once, and it doesn’t require perfection.

This Is Me: A Reckoning is Hayden’s memoir where she shares a rare and intimate glimpse into her life behind closed doors, opening up about postpartum depression, addiction and recovery, trauma, domestic abuse, and loss. To get a copy, visit: https://www.amazon.com/This-Is-Me-A-Reckoning/dp/B0G7L8QSTK 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX

Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe  

Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast 

Head to miraclegro.com to check out all of their easy-to-use products and start your growth journey today

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:53 A Childhood Memory That Shaped Your Strength

03:11 Realizing Your Childhood Wasn’t “Normal”

05:03 Feeling Too Much While Trying to Find Where You Belong

08:08 Turning Early Bullying into Inner Strength

12:12 Growing Up Before You Were Ready

14:55 The Moment You Stop Living for Your Family’s Expectations

18:09 Releasing the Need for Everyone’s Approval

22:33 Meeting Your Real Self For the First Time

24:42 Choosing Yourself and Finding Peace

27:07 Finding Strength When You Don’t Feel Safe

31:21 Learning to Rise After Betrayal

35:18 Learning to Trust Yourself Again After Being Let Down

37:04 Staying Steady When Everything Around You Isn’t

39:19 The Cost of Living for Applause

44:21 Letting Yourself Love Again

48:25 Finding Strength Through Anxiety

55:35 The Reality of Postpartum No One Talks About

01:00:27 Losing Everything You Built and Starting Again

01:03:52 The Truth About Postpartum Depression

01:07:41 Letting Go Even When It Hurts

01:14:57 Choosing What’s Best for Your Child

01:17:18 Staying Close Even When You’re Far Apart

01:21:16 Finding the Strength to Leave an Abusive Relationship

01:30:41 Rebuilding Yourself After Trauma

01:35:36 Finding the Courage to Ask for Help

01:37:46 Walking Away and Reclaiming Your Power

Episode Resources:

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/haydenpanettiere/

Sometimes the hardest part of healing isn&rsquo;t what the world did to you, it&rsquo;s unlearning the version of yourself you became just to survive it.
Today, Jay sits down with Hayden Panettiere for a raw and powerful conversation where she shares the truth behind a life the world thought it knew, but never truly understood. What unfolds isn&rsquo;t just a story about fame, it&rsquo;s a powerful reckoning with identity, pain, and resilience. From losing the innocence of a normal childhood to carrying the emotional weight of growing up in the spotlight, Hayden shares how early success came with hidden costs, bullying, isolation, and a lifelong struggle to feel like she truly belonged. This conversation goes beyond the headlines and into the heart of a woman who has spent decades learning how to separate who she is from who the world decided she should be.
As the conversation deepens, Hayden opens up about the hidden battles that shaped her adulthood, including addiction, postpartum depression, and the weight of living her trauma both privately and in public. She reflects on the surreal experience of playing a character whose struggles mirrored her own, where the line between performance and real life pain began to blur. Together, they unpack the patterns, the pressure to please, and the emotions she never had the space to process that kept her stuck in cycles she couldn&rsquo;t break. Within it all, a powerful truth emerges: healing isn&rsquo;t linear, and even in the darkest moments, there&rsquo;s a quiet strength still fighting to rise.
Through grief, loss, and unimaginable challenges, Hayden is learning to reclaim her voice, trust herself again, and step into a new chapter defined not by survival, but by intention.
In this episode you'll learn:
How to Heal When Your Identity Was Shaped by Others
How to Rebuild Self-Trust After Years of Self-Doubt
How to Break Free from Toxic and Abusive Cycles
How to Cope with Anxiety That Feels Never-Ending
How to Navigate Postpartum Depression Without Shame
How to Stop Living for Approval and Start Living for Yourself
How to Let Go of the Need to Fix Everyone
How to Set Boundaries with People You Love
How to Keep Going When Life Keeps Breaking You
If you see parts of yourself in this story, the doubt, the pain, the patterns you wish you could break, know that you&rsquo;re not alone, and more importantly, you&rsquo;re not stuck. Healing doesn&rsquo;t happen all at once, and it doesn&rsquo;t require perfection.
This Is Me: A Reckoning is Hayden&rsquo;s memoir where she shares a rare and intimate glimpse into her life behind closed doors, opening up about postpartum depression, addiction and recovery, trauma, domestic abuse, and loss. To get a copy, visit: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/This-Is-Me-A-Reckoning/dp/B0G7L8QSTK">https://www.amazon.com/This-Is-Me-A-Reckoning/dp/B0G7L8QSTK</a>&nbsp;
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
JAY&rsquo;S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX
Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe</a> &nbsp;
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! <a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast">https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</a>&nbsp;
Head to <a href="http://miraclegro.com/">miraclegro.com</a> to check out all of their easy-to-use products and start your growth journey today
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:53 A Childhood Memory That Shaped Your Strength
03:11 Realizing Your Childhood Wasn&rsquo;t &ldquo;Normal&rdquo;
05:03 Feeling Too Much While Trying to Find Where You Belong
08:08 Turning Early Bullying into Inner Strength
12:12 Growing Up Before You Were Ready
14:55 The Moment You Stop Living for Your Family&rsquo;s Expectations
18:09 Releasing the Need for Everyone&rsquo;s Approval
22:33 Meeting Your Real Self For the First Time
24:42 Choosing Yourself and Finding Peace
27:07 Finding Strength When You Don&rsquo;t Feel Safe
31:21 Learning to Rise After Betrayal
35:18 Learning to Trust Yourself Again After Being Let Down
37:04 Staying Steady When Everything Around You Isn&rsquo;t
39:19 The Cost of Living for Applause
44:21 Letting Yourself Love Again
48:25 Finding Strength Through Anxiety
55:35 The Reality of Postpartum No One Talks About
01:00:27 Losing Everything You Built and Starting Again
01:03:52 The Truth About Postpartum Depression
01:07:41 Letting Go Even When It Hurts
01:14:57 Choosing What&rsquo;s Best for Your Child
01:17:18 Staying Close Even When You&rsquo;re Far Apart
01:21:16 Finding the Strength to Leave an Abusive Relationship
01:30:41 Rebuilding Yourself After Trauma
01:35:36 Finding the Courage to Ask for Help
01:37:46 Walking Away and Reclaiming Your Power
Episode Resources:
Instagram | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/haydenpanettiere/">https://www.instagram.com/haydenpanettiere/</a>

HAYDEN PANETTIERE: The Truth Behind the Headlines (Finally Telling Her Story In Her Own Words)

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