Today, I talk to John and Julie Gottman to discuss how to strengthen relationships. Dr. Julie and John share their thoughts on why we should stop being the person who we think our partners like and start being our genuine selves, what can we do to build and/or improve intimacy with our partner, and how to deal with the changes you and your partner go through without losing the connection and stay committed to each other. 

Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman is a co-founder and President of The Gottman Institute and co-founder of Affective Software, Inc. with her husband John Gottman. For over 40 years they have devoted their life to the research and practice of fostering healthy, long-lasting relationships through the training of clinicians and the creation of transformative products for couples around the world. 

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.comand find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:08 What qualities should we focus on when we start dating a person?
05:25 We are always molding ourselves in accordance to someone else’s preferences
11:09 The role of self-esteem and self awareness in healthy relationships
16:57 What happens when we limit ourselves in meeting people online
24:45 Why asking a ‘big’ question is important in building intimacy?
28:27 How do you deal with your partner and the constant changes they go through?
33:36 Finding new ways to stay connected with your partner
38:58 This is why you need to focus more on the positive aspects of your relationship
42:57 Expressing gratitude and explaining why you’re thankful ads more depth to the moment
50:00 Is there a way to know if a relationship can last?   

Episode Resources
The Gottman Institute
The Gottman Institute | Facebook
The Gottman Institute | Instagram
The Gottman Institute | YouTube
The Gottman Institute | Twitter
The Gottman Institute | Books

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Today, I talk to John and Julie Gottman to discuss how to strengthen relationships. Dr. Julie and John share their thoughts on why we should stop being the person who we think our partners like and start being our genuine selves, what can we do to build and/or improve intimacy with our partner, and how to deal with the changes you and your partner go through without losing the connection and stay committed to each other. 
Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman is a co-founder and President of The Gottman Institute and co-founder of Affective Software, Inc. with her husband John Gottman. For over 40 years they have devoted their life to the research and practice of fostering healthy, long-lasting relationships through the training of clinicians and the creation of transformative products for couples around the world. 
You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at <a href="http://8rulesoflove.com/">8rulesoflove.com</a> or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to <a href="http://jayshettytour.com/">jayshettytour.com</a> and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.
What We Discuss:
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">00:00 Intro</li>
<li aria-level="1">02:08 What qualities should we focus on when we start dating a person?</li>
<li aria-level="1">05:25 We are always molding ourselves in accordance to someone else’s preferences</li>
<li aria-level="1">11:09 The role of self-esteem and self awareness in healthy relationships</li>
<li aria-level="1">16:57 What happens when we limit ourselves in meeting people online</li>
<li aria-level="1">24:45 Why asking a ‘big’ question is important in building intimacy?</li>
<li aria-level="1">28:27 How do you deal with your partner and the constant changes they go through?</li>
<li aria-level="1">33:36 Finding new ways to stay connected with your partner</li>
<li aria-level="1">38:58 This is why you need to focus more on the positive aspects of your relationship</li>
<li aria-level="1">42:57 Expressing gratitude and explaining why you’re thankful ads more depth to the moment</li>
<li aria-level="1">50:00 Is there a way to know if a relationship can last?   </li>
</ul>
Episode Resources
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.gottman.com/">The Gottman Institute</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">The Gottman Institute | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/GottmanInstitute">Facebook</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">The Gottman Institute | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/gottmaninstitute/">Instagram</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">The Gottman Institute | <a href="https://www.youtube.com/user/TheGottmanInstitute">YouTube</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">The Gottman Institute | <a href="https://twitter.com/GottmanInst">Twitter</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">The Gottman Institute | <a href="https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B001IR1ETA/allbooks?ingress=0&amp;visitId=7ee0c232-9264-42eb-85f5-10a6c903843a&amp;store_ref=ap_rdr&amp;ref_=ap_rdr">Books</a></li>
</ul>
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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

2 Ways to Deepen Your Connection with Your Partner & The Key to Strong and Lasting Relationships

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