What’s the biggest lesson you learned this year?

What advice would you give yourself a year ago?

In this special birthday reflection, Jay opens up about the most meaningful lessons he’s learned over the past year. Rather than focusing on milestones or achievements, he dives into the deeper truths that shape how we love, pay attention, and grow within. From realizing that overhelping can sometimes hold others back, to seeing how saying “no” can be one of the most honest forms of respect, Jay invites us to rethink the way we set boundaries, show compassion, and care for ourselves and others.

Jay reminds us that real wealth isn’t measured in material success, but in how we direct our attention, and how often we waste it on distractions, resentment, or things we can’t control. He explains how fulfillment comes from aligning our choices with our values, letting go of envy and ego, and prioritizing kindness over recognition. Jay also shares why people change more when they feel understood than when they’re corrected, and why the endings of our experiences often matter more than the beginnings.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Say No With Confidence

How to Align Success With Your Values

How to Let Go of Ego and Envy

How to Learn From People Who Frustrate You

How to Listen Instead of Correct

Growth is not about perfection, it’s about choosing small, intentional steps each day that move you closer to the life you truly want. The lessons we learn through mistakes, struggles, and reflections are not setbacks, but stepping stones that shape our strength and clarity.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:19 10 Lessons I’ve Learned Over the Past Year

02:34 Lesson #1: Helping Less Can Actually Help More

09:46 Lesson #2: Saying No Is a Complete Sentence

17:19 Lesson #3: The Power of Where You Place Your Attention

20:22 Lesson #4: Success Without Alignment Feels Empty

24:20 Lesson #5: Frustration Is Your Greatest Teacher

25:40 Lesson #6: Kindness is Remembered Longer Than Achievements

27:59 Lesson #7: People Change When They Feel Understood

30:10 Lesson #8: Endings Matter More Than Middles

33:31 Lesson #9: Create Intentional Moments

33:49 Lesson #10: Manage Endings in Conflicts

What&rsquo;s the biggest lesson you learned this year?
What advice would you give yourself a year ago?
In this special birthday reflection, Jay opens up about the most meaningful lessons he&rsquo;s learned over the past year. Rather than focusing on milestones or achievements, he dives into the deeper truths that shape how we love, pay attention, and grow within. From realizing that overhelping can sometimes hold others back, to seeing how saying &ldquo;no&rdquo; can be one of the most honest forms of respect, Jay invites us to rethink the way we set boundaries, show compassion, and care for ourselves and others.
Jay reminds us that real wealth isn&rsquo;t measured in material success, but in how we direct our attention, and how often we waste it on distractions, resentment, or things we can&rsquo;t control. He explains how fulfillment comes from aligning our choices with our values, letting go of envy and ego, and prioritizing kindness over recognition. Jay also shares why people change more when they feel understood than when they&rsquo;re corrected, and why the endings of our experiences often matter more than the beginnings.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Say No With Confidence
How to Align Success With Your Values
How to Let Go of Ego and Envy
How to Learn From People Who Frustrate You
How to Listen Instead of Correct
Growth is not about perfection, it&rsquo;s about choosing small, intentional steps each day that move you closer to the life you truly want. The lessons we learn through mistakes, struggles, and reflections are not setbacks, but stepping stones that shape our strength and clarity.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe <a href="https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe">here</a>.
Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! <a href="https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast">https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast</a> &nbsp;
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:19 10 Lessons I&rsquo;ve Learned Over the Past Year
02:34 Lesson #1: Helping Less Can Actually Help More
09:46 Lesson #2: Saying No Is a Complete Sentence
17:19 Lesson #3: The Power of Where You Place Your Attention
20:22 Lesson #4: Success Without Alignment Feels Empty
24:20 Lesson #5: Frustration Is Your Greatest Teacher
25:40 Lesson #6: Kindness is Remembered Longer Than Achievements
27:59 Lesson #7: People Change When They Feel Understood
30:10 Lesson #8: Endings Matter More Than Middles
33:31 Lesson #9: Create Intentional Moments
33:49 Lesson #10: Manage Endings in Conflicts

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace.
I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

My name is Jay Shetty, and my purpose is to make wisdom go viral. I’m fortunate to have fascinating conversations with the most insightful people in the world, and on my podcast, I’m sharing those conversations with you. New episodes Mondays and Fridays. Please rate and review the podcast if you enjoy it. Live life today ON PURPOSE.

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