Hi everyone, I'm Katie Curic and this is next question. Do you ever wonder what your teenage kids might be talking about when you're not listening? Scary right? Well, my guests today are the host of a very popular gen Z podcast called Teenager Therapy, gyel Atour, Kayla Suarez and Thomas fam These kids, and I do mean kids, are just nineteen years old, but they are wise beyond their years and you're going to soon hear why they I guess, Gyles, since you're more of a flaky person, how do you feel when other people flake on you? It's almost as soon as I make the decision, I think I regret this. If you think you know teens, think again. Their podcast is funny, honest, instructive, real, but most of all vulnerable. Today we're talking about talks, Bottoms, matthewinity, femininity, and the endless pain and struggle of finding yourself when gay. By now, we've all heard about the mental health crisis affecting so many teenagers. My guest today have become a mirror for other teens, and that's helping all of them cope by making them feel less alone. By the way, if you want to get Smarter every morning with a breakdown of the news and fascinating takes on health and wellness and pop culture. Sign up for our daily newsletter, Wake Up Call by going to katiecurreic dot com. Very high tech operation here I can see. So. One of the things I love about teenager therapy is it's really not therapy, and you're not therapists. You're some friends sitting around talking about a lot of different things. So tell me how that in and of itself is therapeutic to listen to, guy, I want it. You start well. Actually, I think at first we didn't realize what could make us so interesting to listen to. That was one of our biggest words, and I think we still feel that insecurity of we're not doing anything special. We really are just sitting down and saying, Hey, what do we want to talk about today? And then we talk about it pretty messily. Sometimes we go off track, or we go back, or we go all over the place, And I realize, I think what makes us sell therapeutic for our listeners is that we have universal issues. At the end of the day, I think the emotions are the same. We all have that shared humanity in that aspect and I think there's so much comfort in knowing that, Okay, they're going through that as well, they're talking about it, they're dealing with it. It's just comforting. And how do you all decide, Kaylea, what you all are going to talk about? It's usually just based on what's going on in our lives. Well, you all have done something like two thirty episodes, right What started as kind of a fun exercise has now turned into a really, you know, a big deal, a podcast that gets a lot of downloads. I think the topics that our audience loves the most is whenever we talk about relationships, friend group drama and what else is a good one? Guys, sex, drugs and rock and roll minus the rock and roll. But we did just talk about drugs, and I think our listeners are really good enjoy it. It's kind of interesting how because we grow up, we have new experience, it's more to talk about. But also there's just always some little tiny switch in the emotion we feel or the way we approached it that's different from the way we would have even just a year ago. So documenting that sometimes means even if we cover the same topic, it's a totally new perspective, right, and it feels like the world is changing so quickly late, you know, I imagine you all must talk a lot about social media and the pressures that come from seeing people quote unquote live their best life. As Oprah would say, I think with that, I know that I try to limit myself. I mean, even with the podcast, you know, episodes air or things are posted on TikTok, I just don't like to look at it. I actively appoint it. Actually, just because social media plays such a huge role now, and I mean especially TikTok. Even myself I fall into the trap of I see these teenagers my age doing these big grand things. They're traveling, and I think to myself, like, oh, I'm just in school right now, you know. But again, I'm just reminding myself that not everything is as it seems on screen. We'll talk a little more about kind of gen z and some of their concerns and the rap they get that might not always be accurate. But but let's go back to the kind of logistics of doing this podcast. It started with five people, right, take me back to the genesis of this, Thomas, how did it happen? So it was actually Guyle's idea, and he was listening to Casey Nisat's Couples Therapy, and he got really inspired by it because it was a married couple, yet he was able to relate to them on such like a deeper level than he had anticipated. And he wanted the same thing but for teenagers, and he got five of his friends. The idea that I pitched to them was, I think it'd be interesting to be able to hear what other teams are going through. And that was what year and you were how old? So we were fifteen years old. I was fifteen, so was everyone else. We were not necessarily all friends with each other, but we knew of each other, and you know, the members were interconnected in different ways. And so I asked my friends, do you want to be part of it? They say yes? And the first episode was published in like September eighteen, twenty eighteen. And what was the first podcast about? Do you remember? It was about our friends? We kind of It was so funny because all we did was we just put a camera with a microphone in the middle, and then we said, you sit on a bed. We did, we did, We sat on a bed and we didn't fit and so it was always so hot in the room, we were sweating. It was after school. We were also tired. Pretty low tech tech. Yeah, it's still very low tech, right. I mean, that's part of the ethos of the podcast is really friends sitting around our being in somebody's bedroom, and that's kind of the ritual. And then you all have dinner together, I know, after every podcast, which is so nice. And and do you think the vibe would totally change if it was in a studio like we're sitting in right now. I feel like it would definitely. I think you'd be a lot cooler, Kayla, in terms of temperature. The set of the bedroom just let's us very intimate, and because it's like a place that it's just his room, so we are all comforted, so it's always your room to room. Yeah. And it's back at home too in Anaheim, So it's just it all feels very natural. When you were putting together the quote unquote cast Guy Elf for the podcast, did you intentionally seek people with different life experiences? I'm curious sort of how you thought about representation when you were putting it together, right, I Mean I was thinking about it at the level that a fifteen year old would possibly you'd expect to think about it, right, I wasn't going into diversity training. I guess I'm expecting a lot from you, But I mean I do remember being like, well, we do want different perspectives, and Thomas was like, yeah, we should have different sexis, like we need a girl perspective. I was like, oh, yeah, we should do that, and we were like okay, Like Thomas, you and me were gay, we need straight people, we need a straight man perspective, and we're like, okay, let's get a girl too. And so we just kind of naturally assembled into a relatively diverse cast because we all actually have pretty different personalities. And I think it's important for listeners to kind of hear themselves in various stories and in various people you know and life experiences. I'm sure that some listeners relate more to Caleb than they do to you, or gay listeners relate to you guys, and probably have some of the same questions or experiences as you two have. And I think another aspect of that is because I didn't envision it to go to where we are now, right, Were you surprised Klein when it really took off. I mean, you guys had you know, it grew pretty quickly. Now you have how many downloads do you get per episode? I'm kind of jealous, actually, around like forty five thousand dollars per episode. Yeah, it's like the podcast I've told over the last four years, I've gotten like over like twelve million starts, and it's been wild. How big it is? I bet it's kind of shocking, right, Yeah. I think it's kind of surprises people because if you go to our YouTube channel that we don't use very much, it has maybe like a couple thousand subscribers, and people like, oh, that's a little podcast. Because podcasts it's all behind the scenes. So where I told them, like how big it actually is, I think it catches people off guard. How has the podcast evolved? Because it's gone from five hosts to three hosts. You all are now twenty, right, or almost five years ago, so you've matured and grown, and I'm curious how you've seen it evolved through the years. I feel that it's very much the same tone, but it's just us who's changing in us giving more mature opinions. Sometimes I think back to when we first started and the opinions that we were just spitting out when we were fifteen years old. It just it pains me to know that it's out there because I don't know what I was saying, and it probably was not great advice or anything. But I think that's kind of what is so beautiful about this podcast is that it kind of represents and shows how much we have grown throughout the years, and it really is a coming of age story told in real time. Where are you in school? Again? Usc? Both of you go Trojans? So how do you do it if you're both in college? I mean, how do you find this regular time? And do you still do it in your bedroom? Thomas? Yes, I think going home just made sense for us. My bedroom has already been set up for that way. Yeah. I think the college thing was not as big of an obstacle as we expected it to be, and we have just been able to share so much about the whole transition from high school to college and our college experiences. Guyelle, why aren't you in school? Yeah? So, how's a big decision? I suppose? I mean I decided not to go to college, Whine, So it was a smart guy, I can tell. And also, this really good for your college applet it was. It really did a lot for my application because it's so funny because my plan was when I was in high school, I was like, I want to create something that's a really big deal, so I don't have to focus on grades as much and I could just let the work speak for myself and hopefully colleges will see that. So I wanted to go to college, and when college decisions came around, the college that I was accepted to was UC Berkeley, which is in the Bay Area. Right, that's a damn good school. It is. It is hard to get into, it isn't it. Yeah, it's pretty hard to get into. So I was surprised. I mean, the plan works because my grades were not like Berkeley standards. I wasn't four point I was like three point three, three point five bees regular classes. But I guess they loved the work that I was doing. And at the time, I was just thinking, well, if I go to school, how am I going to manage? Am I going to be handling that well? And so I thought maybe I just should not go because there's a momentum happening with the podcast. It was growing really quickly, and I thought do I really want to go to school for four years, possibly pause the podcast to slow it down to focus on school, and then come back and have to restart this momentum. And so I made the decision. I think I just want to focus on doing what I already do. I I was going to go to school for marketing and business, and I'm like, I already got the hang of it somewhat. I mean, the work speaks for itself. And so decided not to go to school focus on the podcast. And so that's been my full time job until now until now, meaning well now I also am like working on funny enough. The next step for me is creating a podcast network, my own startup along with Kayla. So now I guess I just fell into the career podcasting, and so I started with teenager Therapy, but now I want to make even more and kind of give birth to a lot of baby podcasts that and do you want them all to be targeted to teenagers or are you open to other things? So it's called Astro Studios, and it's a gen z podcast network that's focused on developing and producing podcasts for young people that are mostly focused around self help and helping teams answer the question what are others going through? It's the same thesis of teenage of therapy that if you share the experiences of real people, real people want to listen. And that's all really what podcasts can be. And so it's those comforting conversations that we really want to capture. Well, when we come back, we're going to talk about gen z of which you are apart and try to figure out what's going on with them. That's right after this. I never do that, but I just thought it was a good segue, and usually segues don't present themselves point starting. I'm just starting the college process, but like there's a lot of like stigma and about like the acceptance rates and the extracurriculars needed, and it's like I almost don't want to tell people where I'm applying because there's like all this judgment. I'm a couple of friends of mine who don't see like colleges are right fit for them, and they will like to go to trade school. 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What isn't I mean, if you look at the data, there's clearly an issue. And I think what we see just from a personal experience is there's this disconnect from communities. But I think something that's a little bit more interesting to me is there's a lot more pressure to be this perfect person. And I think it's really weighing heavily on a lot of young adults because you have things like cancel Culture or Twitter, and you know, these media storms when you make any sort of mistake that I think a lot of young people are feeling a lot of pressure to do as much as possible be a perfect activist or a perfect citizen, a perfect human, perfect student, exactly a perfect student, and it's just not possible, right, And so I think a big problem that I see is we all need to give ourselves a little bit more grace and a little bit more forgiveness and learned that we're all going through these issues and we're figuring out a little by little. And so when you go on social media and see people being attacked for different aspects that you might have not known, judge, it puts a lot of pressure. And it also seems, Kayla, like there's so much built in competition. I mean, the world is competitive place already, but when you have these very concrete ways to weigh your quote unquote popularity through likes and through follows and things like that, is that part of it or what do you think is bugging gen Z? I would say it's a part of it. I mean, it depends on the person that you're talking to. But I think it's just because the growing popularity of social media. You know, I feel like an ab normal amount of teams are now online, starting as young from like thirteen, maybe even twelve or ten, which is so crazy to think about. But you just initially start social media for the fun of it, but then you quickly realize that, oh, a lot of people are getting likes doing this, or they're getting a lot of likes doing that, and so it's just following trends in a way to gain popularity or likes or anything like that. And they're also being exposed to so much so young. Exactly, it's really scary. And I think that goes for a lot of things where teenagers just don't know who to go to for their problems. You know. Of course there's the classic answer of you know, see a therapist or go to a doctor, but a lot of the times that's just not accessible or it's not a conversation that you just casually bring up with your parents, and a lot of people honestly can't afford it. Exactly. Yeah, one other issue. So the answer isn't as simple as just quot to therapy. That's right, right, it starts. I mean it's such a fundamental issue that one of loneliness, and there's one we're lacking community. I mean, you have these big giant cities that feel empty, you feel devoid of community, and genuine interaction. You have dating apps that encourage people to only talk to people online, and you see people be more and more opposed to spontaneous in person connection and conversation. Also, there's something about it where swipe swipe, swipe swipe, It makes people feel so disposable, right, And there's something about that mentality that I think can then seep into real life. When you're on those dating apps, you're constantly looking for the next best thing, right. You know, you can never settle on just one person, because you're like, what if a few more swipes and I meet somebody even prettier or you know, somebody even better. And it's always that mindset that then translates into your real life where you just aren't happy with what you're seeing in person, you never satisfy. The thing of a quality that gen Z doesn't and my eyes feels lacking, is the ability to work on more relationships and not throw them away so easily. I think you know, at times the wrong advice can get passed around of protecting your peace and not letting anyone disturb in anyone that doesn't serve you, you kind of disregard them. But I think a lot of the fulfilling relationships do come from putting in the work to talk about the issues, which I think is why our message resonates, because we just really want to show people vulnerability and talking about your issues openly is what creates meaningful connections. They're not just this instant chemistry tied with that work. I mean, it takes work. What have you noticed, Thomas that you're quiet over there about. Yeah, Well, it's hard to ever feel satisfied and happy with your life if you see people your age already doing the things you want to and it makes you feel bad. It makes you feel kind of hopeless. But I also want to acknowledge that social media has done a lot of good for gen Z as well. It has, I feel like, made us feel very educated on a lot of topics that we otherwise would not have known, and it's a way for us to connect. I mean, even just doing this podcast that wouldn't have been possible without social media. Yeah. I mean, it's the ultimate double edged sword a thing because there are so many good things and so many terribly destructive things as well that come with it. And I think the pandemic only exacerbated what was already percolating in terms of the lack of community and the social isolation that a lot of people are experiencing. You know, it's interesting they're not having these real life experiences because they're living so much of their lives virtually. Yeah. Yeah, I mean that's a concern too, because I don't think there are enough spaces fourteens together and have the sense of community that we want to build and encourage, and so that's a big issue. Something that I actually feel very passionate about is creating more third spaces that are in school or work where as a young adult, as an adolescent, you could go and hang out with your friends and not be fine for loitering or for not being where you're supposed to be. So if your friends don't have houses, where do you and your friends go? Maybe you go to a park, but then it's cold, so you'd rather just stay inside and interact on we used to go you see malls or dad. I mean, there's not much to do. It just feels like where do you go where you just want to feel at peace? Right? Like a big dream of mine is where do teenagers go when they're lonely? I mean, if you don't have people in your school that you enjoy. If you don't have people at home that you enjoy, if you don't have any spaces that you enjoy, where do you go to get that sense of connection or even just to feel at peace, because how do you escape it all in a way that is safe? And I would love to start that with teenager therapy. I think that's a big goal. It's creating more spaces where people can gather and there's young people that go, and you know, that's somewhere you can meet new people that isn't necessarily dating apps. So I think gen z is actually on the same wavelength as you ask. We don't enjoy dating apps. We're tireder of than we want to meet people in person have that interaction. Yeah, I don't know. It's like we say we want human connection, but then when it's presented to us, all of a sudden, we're like, actually, it's because we're not used to it. Yeah. Yeah, everyone's always at Target. Once you get your license, like everybody is, there's nowhere else to go and it's open till ten, So everyone's always at Target. It's crazy, it's actually wild. Yeah, oh yeah, it's like, oh that's team currencies. Yeah, I feel cool basement and good snacks exactly. That's a big thing. I like, can you out in person better than you don't? There's nothing, nothing beats the real thing. When we come back. How can parents connect better with their teens? We'll have some advice for them. I want to be done with teenage times. Is everyone's always on top of you for for like no reason. You look up your parents as a role model, right, and sometimes you don't think your parents are real people. So sometimes they just like open up to you, like the mistakes you've made in your life. Maybe they think, okay, like tag them my parents before and I will say total outsider if I'm make mistake, just kind of tell us about like their high school struggle. So it makes us feel less alone in ours Thomas, how can parents do a better job, especially given the loneliness epidemic? You know, the pressures young people are feeling. How can parents help more? I think, just like emotional availability, I think the reason why a lot of kids hide from their parents is because they don't literally they really don't give them the time or space to be talking about those issues, or if they do, they feel that there's going to be a consequence for it. And I think even just seeing how gen Z believes that they're going to be the next generation of parents that are going to do better, I think the current parents can look at that and it's not too late to become that parent and be able to let your children feel comfortable about sharing their issues with you. I have many parents listen to the show. Do you think parents are learning from your conversations just as as your team listeners are. I know that they have because we've received some comments and like dms about them listening, which is negative or positive. Positive, positive because it helps them understand their child a little bit more, which is always nice to hear because it shows that they're taking some step in the right direction. And I think that's a huge part two of just we would want to see our parents show us that they're also trying to learn, you know, rather than us always having to talk about our feelings. Why don't you know? Why don't you talk about it too? You know? I think a big part is also just leading by example, because I feel vulnerability in a way as contagious. You know, if you see one person talk about their feelings, it makes you more inclined to talk about it. Parents just like to put up this act of they know what they're doing, they're always they're fine, they have all the answers, which I know is not right at all. So I think is being honest about that would would go a long way. What do you think? I agree? I think whenever you know, sometimes we will speak of panels, and one of the questions we get, which is funny, is just how can I have my children feel more comfortable opening up to me? I always give them the same answer that I think vulnerability you can't expect it without giving it in return. So I think to parents, if you want your kids to open up, you have to open up yourself. You have to show when you cry, when you're feeling her, when you're feeling vulnerable. And that's what really gives a message Okay, it's safe, like I can do this too. You're not just this parent, You're this human being. It shows a lot of humanity. I wanted to ask you about one thing that I think is contributing to the generation gap, and that is the change in how we view the LGBTQ plus population. Gender identity and sexual orientation is so much more normalized among young people and judged or criticized or otherwise in the way it was when I was growing up. And I read a statistic recently that said twenty one percent of gen Z self identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or something other than heterosexual. So that's nearly twice as many as millennials, and the gap gets even bigger among older generations like mine. I don't know, I'm just very interested in your perspective on it. Honestly, it's like, how can you not be open minded at this point after everything that's happened. It's almost like we don't really have a choice but to be ourselves and really speak up when we can. Because of the platforms we've had. I think gen Z just has this openness to change that a lot of other generations didn't really have. I mean, it's also because we have so many more perspectives available at all times, so everything becomes normalized so much quicker. But when you're exposed to something you every day, it's hard to be shocked or against it because you're like, oh, yeah, I mean there's more to it, there's more to it. And so really, when it comes to being LGBT. It's just what can you do? No one really cares. You see it everywhere, it's just other people. It's not really something that's a lot on a lot of people's mind. I think it makes a lot of older people uncomfortable. And I'm curious how you view the reaction to the openness. Well, I think it's expected that old generations aren't as open to it. I mean, it's definitely this heartening to see it, and you see bills like in Florida being passed around, and it just makes you wonder how we're making so much progress but backtracking in some of the most important ways. I think a lot of our generation is hoping that as soon as we get into power and these older generations kind of step off and die die out exactly, I mean, you'll start to see a big shift. I mean that's the goal at least. I mean, you're you're seeing a lot more gen Z being able to actually be eligible for office, and so their policies are completely different than the ones that you're seeing in older generations. And so the backlash is weird because you I think there's it's just the natural pushback against new things. I mean, you're use your old way, so it's you're going to stick to it. Well, Thomas, tell me what your hopes and dreams are for the future. What are you hoping to do when you graduate from USC and because we have these two doing astro studios and I'm curious what you're looking forward to. Well, I'm still very committed to the overall message of teenager Therapy and it would be nice to expand this from an American podcast to international podcasts. So I think teenagers everywhere have the same issues. I think it's we are all experiencing very universal problems. But it would just be cool because everyone can bring in such new perspectives and sometimes I wish that we had more because it really is just the three of us and we've all grown up in the same area. I mean, there's so many different life experiences for teenagers everywhere. You know, it'd be cool to do like a day in the life of a teenager. I know people have done that before. They pick a single day and then they give everybody the same assignment. It would be really interesting. I think I think that's the vision, right, Yeah, that is the vision yeah for you. Yeah, Well, I'm really glad that I got a chance to talk to you all. You give me hope for the future, which sounds so cheesy and cliche, but it's true. You know. No, every every couple podcast episodes we say a cliche and we're like, we've accepted it's true. People say it for a reason they really do. Well. 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Hi everyone, I'm Katie Curic and this is next question. Do you ever wonder what your teenage kids might be talking about when you're not listening? Scary right? Well, my guests today are the host of a very popular gen Z podcast called Teenager Therapy, gyel Atour, Kayla Suarez and Thomas fam These kids, and I do mean kids, are just nineteen years old, but they are wise beyond their years and you're going to soon hear why they I guess, Gyles, since you're more of a flaky person, how do you feel when other people flake on you? It's almost as soon as I make the decision, I think I regret this. If you think you know teens, think again. Their podcast is funny, honest, instructive, real, but most of all vulnerable. Today we're talking about talks, Bottoms, matthewinity, femininity, and the endless pain and struggle of finding yourself when gay. By now, we've all heard about the mental health crisis affecting so many teenagers. My guest today have become a mirror for other teens, and that's helping all of them cope by making them feel less alone. By the way, if you want to get Smarter every morning with a breakdown of the news and fascinating takes on health and wellness and pop culture. Sign up for our daily newsletter, Wake Up Call by going to katiecurreic dot com. Very high tech operation here I can see. So. One of the things I love about teenager therapy is it's really not therapy, and you're not therapists. You're some friends sitting around talking about a lot of different things. So tell me how that in and of itself is therapeutic to listen to, guy, I want it. You start well. Actually, I think at first we didn't realize what could make us so interesting to listen to. That was one of our biggest words, and I think we still feel that insecurity of we're not doing anything special. We really are just sitting down and saying, Hey, what do we want to talk about today? And then we talk about it pretty messily. Sometimes we go off track, or we go back, or we go all over the place, And I realize, I think what makes us sell therapeutic for our listeners is that we have universal issues. At the end of the day, I think the emotions are the same. We all have that shared humanity in that aspect and I think there's so much comfort in knowing that, Okay, they're going through that as well, they're talking about it, they're dealing with it. It's just comforting. And how do you all decide, Kaylea, what you all are going to talk about? It's usually just based on what's going on in our lives. Well, you all have done something like two thirty episodes, right What started as kind of a fun exercise has now turned into a really, you know, a big deal, a podcast that gets a lot of downloads. I think the topics that our audience loves the most is whenever we talk about relationships, friend group drama and what else is a good one? Guys, sex, drugs and rock and roll minus the rock and roll. But we did just talk about drugs, and I think our listeners are really good enjoy it. It's kind of interesting how because we grow up, we have new experience, it's more to talk about. But also there's just always some little tiny switch in the emotion we feel or the way we approached it that's different from the way we would have even just a year ago. So documenting that sometimes means even if we cover the same topic, it's a totally new perspective, right, and it feels like the world is changing so quickly late, you know, I imagine you all must talk a lot about social media and the pressures that come from seeing people quote unquote live their best life. As Oprah would say, I think with that, I know that I try to limit myself. I mean, even with the podcast, you know, episodes air or things are posted on TikTok, I just don't like to look at it. I actively appoint it. Actually, just because social media plays such a huge role now, and I mean especially TikTok. Even myself I fall into the trap of I see these teenagers my age doing these big grand things. They're traveling, and I think to myself, like, oh, I'm just in school right now, you know. But again, I'm just reminding myself that not everything is as it seems on screen. We'll talk a little more about kind of gen z and some of their concerns and the rap they get that might not always be accurate. But but let's go back to the kind of logistics of doing this podcast. It started with five people, right, take me back to the genesis of this, Thomas, how did it happen? So it was actually Guyle's idea, and he was listening to Casey Nisat's Couples Therapy, and he got really inspired by it because it was a married couple, yet he was able to relate to them on such like a deeper level than he had anticipated. And he wanted the same thing but for teenagers, and he got five of his friends. The idea that I pitched to them was, I think it'd be interesting to be able to hear what other teams are going through. And that was what year and you were how old? So we were fifteen years old. I was fifteen, so was everyone else. We were not necessarily all friends with each other, but we knew of each other, and you know, the members were interconnected in different ways. And so I asked my friends, do you want to be part of it? They say yes? And the first episode was published in like September eighteen, twenty eighteen. And what was the first podcast about? Do you remember? It was about our friends? We kind of It was so funny because all we did was we just put a camera with a microphone in the middle, and then we said, you sit on a bed. We did, we did, We sat on a bed and we didn't fit and so it was always so hot in the room, we were sweating. It was after school. We were also tired. Pretty low tech tech. Yeah, it's still very low tech, right. I mean, that's part of the ethos of the podcast is really friends sitting around our being in somebody's bedroom, and that's kind of the ritual. And then you all have dinner together, I know, after every podcast, which is so nice. And and do you think the vibe would totally change if it was in a studio like we're sitting in right now. I feel like it would definitely. I think you'd be a lot cooler, Kayla, in terms of temperature. The set of the bedroom just let's us very intimate, and because it's like a place that it's just his room, so we are all comforted, so it's always your room to room. Yeah. And it's back at home too in Anaheim, So it's just it all feels very natural. When you were putting together the quote unquote cast Guy Elf for the podcast, did you intentionally seek people with different life experiences? I'm curious sort of how you thought about representation when you were putting it together, right, I Mean I was thinking about it at the level that a fifteen year old would possibly you'd expect to think about it, right, I wasn't going into diversity training. I guess I'm expecting a lot from you, But I mean I do remember being like, well, we do want different perspectives, and Thomas was like, yeah, we should have different sexis, like we need a girl perspective. I was like, oh, yeah, we should do that, and we were like okay, Like Thomas, you and me were gay, we need straight people, we need a straight man perspective, and we're like, okay, let's get a girl too. And so we just kind of naturally assembled into a relatively diverse cast because we all actually have pretty different personalities. And I think it's important for listeners to kind of hear themselves in various stories and in various people you know and life experiences. I'm sure that some listeners relate more to Caleb than they do to you, or gay listeners relate to you guys, and probably have some of the same questions or experiences as you two have. And I think another aspect of that is because I didn't envision it to go to where we are now, right, Were you surprised Klein when it really took off. I mean, you guys had you know, it grew pretty quickly. Now you have how many downloads do you get per episode? I'm kind of jealous, actually, around like forty five thousand dollars per episode. Yeah, it's like the podcast I've told over the last four years, I've gotten like over like twelve million starts, and it's been wild. How big it is? I bet it's kind of shocking, right, Yeah. I think it's kind of surprises people because if you go to our YouTube channel that we don't use very much, it has maybe like a couple thousand subscribers, and people like, oh, that's a little podcast. Because podcasts it's all behind the scenes. So where I told them, like how big it actually is, I think it catches people off guard. How has the podcast evolved? Because it's gone from five hosts to three hosts. You all are now twenty, right, or almost five years ago, so you've matured and grown, and I'm curious how you've seen it evolved through the years. I feel that it's very much the same tone, but it's just us who's changing in us giving more mature opinions. Sometimes I think back to when we first started and the opinions that we were just spitting out when we were fifteen years old. It just it pains me to know that it's out there because I don't know what I was saying, and it probably was not great advice or anything. But I think that's kind of what is so beautiful about this podcast is that it kind of represents and shows how much we have grown throughout the years, and it really is a coming of age story told in real time. Where are you in school? Again? Usc? Both of you go Trojans? So how do you do it if you're both in college? I mean, how do you find this regular time? And do you still do it in your bedroom? Thomas? Yes, I think going home just made sense for us. My bedroom has already been set up for that way. Yeah. I think the college thing was not as big of an obstacle as we expected it to be, and we have just been able to share so much about the whole transition from high school to college and our college experiences. Guyelle, why aren't you in school? Yeah? So, how's a big decision? I suppose? I mean I decided not to go to college, Whine, So it was a smart guy, I can tell. And also, this really good for your college applet it was. It really did a lot for my application because it's so funny because my plan was when I was in high school, I was like, I want to create something that's a really big deal, so I don't have to focus on grades as much and I could just let the work speak for myself and hopefully colleges will see that. So I wanted to go to college, and when college decisions came around, the college that I was accepted to was UC Berkeley, which is in the Bay Area. Right, that's a damn good school. It is. It is hard to get into, it isn't it. Yeah, it's pretty hard to get into. So I was surprised. I mean, the plan works because my grades were not like Berkeley standards. I wasn't four point I was like three point three, three point five bees regular classes. But I guess they loved the work that I was doing. And at the time, I was just thinking, well, if I go to school, how am I going to manage? Am I going to be handling that well? And so I thought maybe I just should not go because there's a momentum happening with the podcast. It was growing really quickly, and I thought do I really want to go to school for four years, possibly pause the podcast to slow it down to focus on school, and then come back and have to restart this momentum. And so I made the decision. I think I just want to focus on doing what I already do. I I was going to go to school for marketing and business, and I'm like, I already got the hang of it somewhat. I mean, the work speaks for itself. And so decided not to go to school focus on the podcast. And so that's been my full time job until now until now, meaning well now I also am like working on funny enough. The next step for me is creating a podcast network, my own startup along with Kayla. So now I guess I just fell into the career podcasting, and so I started with teenager Therapy, but now I want to make even more and kind of give birth to a lot of baby podcasts that and do you want them all to be targeted to teenagers or are you open to other things? So it's called Astro Studios, and it's a gen z podcast network that's focused on developing and producing podcasts for young people that are mostly focused around self help and helping teams answer the question what are others going through? It's the same thesis of teenage of therapy that if you share the experiences of real people, real people want to listen. And that's all really what podcasts can be. And so it's those comforting conversations that we really want to capture. Well, when we come back, we're going to talk about gen z of which you are apart and try to figure out what's going on with them. That's right after this. I never do that, but I just thought it was a good segue, and usually segues don't present themselves point starting. I'm just starting the college process, but like there's a lot of like stigma and about like the acceptance rates and the extracurriculars needed, and it's like I almost don't want to tell people where I'm applying because there's like all this judgment. I'm a couple of friends of mine who don't see like colleges are right fit for them, and they will like to go to trade school. 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What isn't I mean, if you look at the data, there's clearly an issue. And I think what we see just from a personal experience is there's this disconnect from communities. But I think something that's a little bit more interesting to me is there's a lot more pressure to be this perfect person. And I think it's really weighing heavily on a lot of young adults because you have things like cancel Culture or Twitter, and you know, these media storms when you make any sort of mistake that I think a lot of young people are feeling a lot of pressure to do as much as possible be a perfect activist or a perfect citizen, a perfect human, perfect student, exactly a perfect student, and it's just not possible, right, And so I think a big problem that I see is we all need to give ourselves a little bit more grace and a little bit more forgiveness and learned that we're all going through these issues and we're figuring out a little by little. And so when you go on social media and see people being attacked for different aspects that you might have not known, judge, it puts a lot of pressure. And it also seems, Kayla, like there's so much built in competition. I mean, the world is competitive place already, but when you have these very concrete ways to weigh your quote unquote popularity through likes and through follows and things like that, is that part of it or what do you think is bugging gen Z? I would say it's a part of it. I mean, it depends on the person that you're talking to. But I think it's just because the growing popularity of social media. You know, I feel like an ab normal amount of teams are now online, starting as young from like thirteen, maybe even twelve or ten, which is so crazy to think about. But you just initially start social media for the fun of it, but then you quickly realize that, oh, a lot of people are getting likes doing this, or they're getting a lot of likes doing that, and so it's just following trends in a way to gain popularity or likes or anything like that. And they're also being exposed to so much so young. Exactly, it's really scary. And I think that goes for a lot of things where teenagers just don't know who to go to for their problems. You know. Of course there's the classic answer of you know, see a therapist or go to a doctor, but a lot of the times that's just not accessible or it's not a conversation that you just casually bring up with your parents, and a lot of people honestly can't afford it. Exactly. Yeah, one other issue. So the answer isn't as simple as just quot to therapy. That's right, right, it starts. I mean it's such a fundamental issue that one of loneliness, and there's one we're lacking community. I mean, you have these big giant cities that feel empty, you feel devoid of community, and genuine interaction. You have dating apps that encourage people to only talk to people online, and you see people be more and more opposed to spontaneous in person connection and conversation. Also, there's something about it where swipe swipe, swipe swipe, It makes people feel so disposable, right, And there's something about that mentality that I think can then seep into real life. When you're on those dating apps, you're constantly looking for the next best thing, right. You know, you can never settle on just one person, because you're like, what if a few more swipes and I meet somebody even prettier or you know, somebody even better. And it's always that mindset that then translates into your real life where you just aren't happy with what you're seeing in person, you never satisfy. The thing of a quality that gen Z doesn't and my eyes feels lacking, is the ability to work on more relationships and not throw them away so easily. I think you know, at times the wrong advice can get passed around of protecting your peace and not letting anyone disturb in anyone that doesn't serve you, you kind of disregard them. But I think a lot of the fulfilling relationships do come from putting in the work to talk about the issues, which I think is why our message resonates, because we just really want to show people vulnerability and talking about your issues openly is what creates meaningful connections. They're not just this instant chemistry tied with that work. I mean, it takes work. What have you noticed, Thomas that you're quiet over there about. Yeah, Well, it's hard to ever feel satisfied and happy with your life if you see people your age already doing the things you want to and it makes you feel bad. It makes you feel kind of hopeless. But I also want to acknowledge that social media has done a lot of good for gen Z as well. It has, I feel like, made us feel very educated on a lot of topics that we otherwise would not have known, and it's a way for us to connect. I mean, even just doing this podcast that wouldn't have been possible without social media. Yeah. I mean, it's the ultimate double edged sword a thing because there are so many good things and so many terribly destructive things as well that come with it. And I think the pandemic only exacerbated what was already percolating in terms of the lack of community and the social isolation that a lot of people are experiencing. You know, it's interesting they're not having these real life experiences because they're living so much of their lives virtually. Yeah. Yeah, I mean that's a concern too, because I don't think there are enough spaces fourteens together and have the sense of community that we want to build and encourage, and so that's a big issue. Something that I actually feel very passionate about is creating more third spaces that are in school or work where as a young adult, as an adolescent, you could go and hang out with your friends and not be fine for loitering or for not being where you're supposed to be. So if your friends don't have houses, where do you and your friends go? Maybe you go to a park, but then it's cold, so you'd rather just stay inside and interact on we used to go you see malls or dad. I mean, there's not much to do. It just feels like where do you go where you just want to feel at peace? Right? Like a big dream of mine is where do teenagers go when they're lonely? I mean, if you don't have people in your school that you enjoy. If you don't have people at home that you enjoy, if you don't have any spaces that you enjoy, where do you go to get that sense of connection or even just to feel at peace, because how do you escape it all in a way that is safe? And I would love to start that with teenager therapy. I think that's a big goal. It's creating more spaces where people can gather and there's young people that go, and you know, that's somewhere you can meet new people that isn't necessarily dating apps. So I think gen z is actually on the same wavelength as you ask. We don't enjoy dating apps. We're tireder of than we want to meet people in person have that interaction. Yeah, I don't know. It's like we say we want human connection, but then when it's presented to us, all of a sudden, we're like, actually, it's because we're not used to it. Yeah. Yeah, everyone's always at Target. Once you get your license, like everybody is, there's nowhere else to go and it's open till ten, So everyone's always at Target. It's crazy, it's actually wild. Yeah, oh yeah, it's like, oh that's team currencies. Yeah, I feel cool basement and good snacks exactly. That's a big thing. I like, can you out in person better than you don't? There's nothing, nothing beats the real thing. When we come back. How can parents connect better with their teens? We'll have some advice for them. I want to be done with teenage times. Is everyone's always on top of you for for like no reason. You look up your parents as a role model, right, and sometimes you don't think your parents are real people. So sometimes they just like open up to you, like the mistakes you've made in your life. Maybe they think, okay, like tag them my parents before and I will say total outsider if I'm make mistake, just kind of tell us about like their high school struggle. So it makes us feel less alone in ours Thomas, how can parents do a better job, especially given the loneliness epidemic? You know, the pressures young people are feeling. How can parents help more? I think, just like emotional availability, I think the reason why a lot of kids hide from their parents is because they don't literally they really don't give them the time or space to be talking about those issues, or if they do, they feel that there's going to be a consequence for it. And I think even just seeing how gen Z believes that they're going to be the next generation of parents that are going to do better, I think the current parents can look at that and it's not too late to become that parent and be able to let your children feel comfortable about sharing their issues with you. I have many parents listen to the show. Do you think parents are learning from your conversations just as as your team listeners are. I know that they have because we've received some comments and like dms about them listening, which is negative or positive. Positive, positive because it helps them understand their child a little bit more, which is always nice to hear because it shows that they're taking some step in the right direction. And I think that's a huge part two of just we would want to see our parents show us that they're also trying to learn, you know, rather than us always having to talk about our feelings. Why don't you know? Why don't you talk about it too? You know? I think a big part is also just leading by example, because I feel vulnerability in a way as contagious. You know, if you see one person talk about their feelings, it makes you more inclined to talk about it. Parents just like to put up this act of they know what they're doing, they're always they're fine, they have all the answers, which I know is not right at all. So I think is being honest about that would would go a long way. What do you think? I agree? I think whenever you know, sometimes we will speak of panels, and one of the questions we get, which is funny, is just how can I have my children feel more comfortable opening up to me? I always give them the same answer that I think vulnerability you can't expect it without giving it in return. So I think to parents, if you want your kids to open up, you have to open up yourself. You have to show when you cry, when you're feeling her, when you're feeling vulnerable. And that's what really gives a message Okay, it's safe, like I can do this too. You're not just this parent, You're this human being. It shows a lot of humanity. I wanted to ask you about one thing that I think is contributing to the generation gap, and that is the change in how we view the LGBTQ plus population. Gender identity and sexual orientation is so much more normalized among young people and judged or criticized or otherwise in the way it was when I was growing up. And I read a statistic recently that said twenty one percent of gen Z self identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or something other than heterosexual. So that's nearly twice as many as millennials, and the gap gets even bigger among older generations like mine. I don't know, I'm just very interested in your perspective on it. Honestly, it's like, how can you not be open minded at this point after everything that's happened. It's almost like we don't really have a choice but to be ourselves and really speak up when we can. Because of the platforms we've had. I think gen Z just has this openness to change that a lot of other generations didn't really have. I mean, it's also because we have so many more perspectives available at all times, so everything becomes normalized so much quicker. But when you're exposed to something you every day, it's hard to be shocked or against it because you're like, oh, yeah, I mean there's more to it, there's more to it. And so really, when it comes to being LGBT. It's just what can you do? No one really cares. You see it everywhere, it's just other people. It's not really something that's a lot on a lot of people's mind. I think it makes a lot of older people uncomfortable. And I'm curious how you view the reaction to the openness. Well, I think it's expected that old generations aren't as open to it. I mean, it's definitely this heartening to see it, and you see bills like in Florida being passed around, and it just makes you wonder how we're making so much progress but backtracking in some of the most important ways. I think a lot of our generation is hoping that as soon as we get into power and these older generations kind of step off and die die out exactly, I mean, you'll start to see a big shift. I mean that's the goal at least. I mean, you're you're seeing a lot more gen Z being able to actually be eligible for office, and so their policies are completely different than the ones that you're seeing in older generations. And so the backlash is weird because you I think there's it's just the natural pushback against new things. I mean, you're use your old way, so it's you're going to stick to it. Well, Thomas, tell me what your hopes and dreams are for the future. What are you hoping to do when you graduate from USC and because we have these two doing astro studios and I'm curious what you're looking forward to. Well, I'm still very committed to the overall message of teenager Therapy and it would be nice to expand this from an American podcast to international podcasts. So I think teenagers everywhere have the same issues. I think it's we are all experiencing very universal problems. But it would just be cool because everyone can bring in such new perspectives and sometimes I wish that we had more because it really is just the three of us and we've all grown up in the same area. I mean, there's so many different life experiences for teenagers everywhere. You know, it'd be cool to do like a day in the life of a teenager. I know people have done that before. They pick a single day and then they give everybody the same assignment. It would be really interesting. I think I think that's the vision, right, Yeah, that is the vision yeah for you. Yeah, Well, I'm really glad that I got a chance to talk to you all. You give me hope for the future, which sounds so cheesy and cliche, but it's true. You know. No, every every couple podcast episodes we say a cliche and we're like, we've accepted it's true. People say it for a reason they really do. Well. 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