Is there a secret to making sure you have a boy?

Published Feb 25, 2025, 2:00 PM

Happy Wednesday, listeners! Today, Em and Leah dive into whether living away from family for half the year is actually doable, Leah gets called out by her daughter over Saturday sports, and—can you really hack conception to guarantee a baby boy? Plus, they share their wins and fails of the week.

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I burnt my arm on the air friar last night. Should I? Should I go home? It's infected.

I think you need an eight hour doctor.

Appointment for that. Hello, and welcome to mom Klab. But we are not your regular mother's group.

I'm am Blatschberd and I am joined by my co host and mate, Leah Gulis. Otherwise don't asya Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello, how are you?

I'm good?

How are you?

I'm great? What's going on?

I'm loving this glorious weather where it's like starting to cool down. Now you don't need the aircorn so much anymore.

Oh. Really, I'm going into a period of morning Ah. Yeah, you don't like winter, so no, I hate winter.

You still get those random hot days.

Yeah, I know, but it's like even like this, the mornings are just cooler, like and I must say, ooh, this is a sign of that where we're going. We're heading into winter Woodie season.

I love it.

And then like, are we doing boots this year? Last year we weren't allowed to do boots.

Are we're doing boots?

Well? I always just do snakers. Yeah. I don't follow trends to its I do.

Oh I tried to buy.

So we've got this girl that we're friends with, Hi Eleanor, who is younger than us, ten years younger than.

Us, who always gives us.

Advice, advice have you already gone to I.

Tried to buy those, like those flatform shoes there, so they're thongs, but they're like yeah, chunky.

Yeah, like so I get it.

Yeah, mate, I've never looked silly, stupid, so stupid. I walked out and I said to Lucas, what do you think of these? And he was like, they're not your usual sne It's like.

Oh no, I've got those ones. Like they're like they're chunky, chunky, they're not even sandals, And every time I wear it, I'm like, it's giving. I just had a moon boot, but can't put normal shoes on justice and then you walk around with them and they're so clunky.

Yeah.

Look, you just need you need to be able to own the outfit, the fashion choices that you make. And if you don't own it, then you can't pass it. Like it's not passable. People won't believe, no, that you're a gensy.

No, yeah, exactly.

It looked like it literally looked like someone told her that these were in. She's gone and bought them and isn't working with the rest of her vibe.

Yes, her ancient So you need to believe in your fashion choices otherwise it's not going to work.

Yeah, anyway, so let's get into it.

Yeah, Well, I want to start by telling you a story about this mum that we found and we ran a story on kid Spot. It's this mum and it's such an interesting concept. She has two children and a husband. Yeah, eighteen or nineteen I think so older teens. And she decided to move away. So she lives six months away from her family and then the other six months with the family. And she says that it has made their family dynamics so much better. Her marriage is healthier, and she in herself is mentally like like she's mentally clear, and she says it's the best best decision she's ever made. So just for a little bit of context, she's from Sydney. They had a holiday house in the Sundays and they were doing some renovations as you do, like her, and then she decided that, you know what, I don't want to go back. She sent her husband an email and she was like, I'm not coming back as I was planning to I need a break from the family, and so yeah, she did it, and now it's stuck and I think it's been like three years of doing this.

That's wild to me. Could you do that?

No, I'm so needy, Like I would miss lucas, I would miss the kids. I mean, I think it's different because they're like obviously much older, but like E's two and a half for six months is like, let me do some quick.

Math, like a quarter of her life so far.

But what if they were older, Like, could you do it when they were older, like eighteen or nineteen. Let's assume that they're at UNI and maybe not living at home, or maybe they are.

They're definitely still living at home.

Maybe they are, but like you know, late teens, they like never home.

My mom and dad did go away for six months when I was nineteen.

They went and lived in Italy for six months.

Really yeah, how glorious whereabouts.

All around, all around. I know it was good.

I'm like amazing because I'm going to really bring the mood down. My dad ended up dying, so they never got to have their retirement together.

Not in Italy, no.

No, no, no, dying from cancer later, but they never got to have their retirement together. So that was so that was like their thing. So Mum's like, I'm so glad we you know, like did it.

But at the time, how did you feel being the kid that was left at home?

But I did this is that I did get a boyfriend for just like those six months and he was living in your house.

No, just like keeping company. He wasn't that nice.

He was really good looking though, he yeah it was. I mean I was fine, but I ate a lot of Sara Lee cheesecake.

I think I could do it.

I think I could do it. Like our dream is to eventually, like when the kids are able to and if we were able to keep the house that we've got now and then move to the country whereabouts in the country, oh, like southern Highlands.

This wasn't it. We're gonna need Jerry Gong, Jerring Gong jer.

I told Emily that I was thinking of like Jerry likes Jerring Gong, and she was like Jerry Gong. I just told her to go to her ballates class and leave me alone. But yeah, like we'd like to do it not too far away from the home. So if we needed to come back to Sydney. We could very easily, yeah, like, you know, a couple of hours. But that's our dream and I hope that it does happen for us.

Yeah, but six months, six months, it's a lot of time, and she's away from her husband as well.

Yeah, but I would get lonely.

Yeah, but you don't know their family dynamic, right, Maybe he travels a lot, maybe she doesn't really see him that much.

Maybe she's maybe she's a punish.

The picture the pictures that we ran with the story, she's like having a glorious old times like I aspire to be like Monique.

Or Pop.

The story link in our show notes so you can have a check out her how bloody elated she is.

So check out Monique living her best life.

But yeah, if it works for works for them. I mean I wonder if the husband's not a bit feeling's a bit jibbed.

Having He looks really happy himself. I think he's glad that Moneue's gone for six months.

On that excellent.

All right, let's throw to an ad and we'll talk to you again in a minute. So yeah, yeah, yes, you have gone on the record before. I feel like you've been doing lots of backflips recently. It's true you were like, I'm not going to get my children a smartphone, got Christopher's smartphone. And you also were always against Saturday sports.

Yeah I hate Saturday sports.

I know.

But now you've changed mine.

Because I got called out by my daughter. I don't know, Okay, so let's be clear. I've always avoided sports that require a Saturday game, like soccer, netball, like all of them. But like, my kids are still active doing other sports that's like all year round and not season based, like you know that kind of stuff. So my son has started high school now, and you know, obviously they have to eventually choose a sport and represent the school. And so my son was like, oh, I don't know if I'm going to do that because it's going to be a lot of work. And so I was thinking in my head, I'm like, but a team sport at this age is really important, and I feel like he would really benefit with like the camaraderie and you know, just for.

You to think that the primary school age team is sports are a waste of time, but in high school it's important.

Yeah. If they're not, yeah, like you know, like how many times have you gone to a kid soccer match when they're like seven or eight and they're crying because they didn't get the ball? Like, that doesn't sound like my idea of fun for a Saturday.

No.

Alice did one term of soccer and it was hell.

Yeah, see, anyway, each to their own. It wasn't for me. Yeah, So anyway, I was trying to convince my son. So we're in the car driving and I tried to convince my son that it's actually a good idea for him to choose a sport, and he was like he was throwing all the ex uses that I've always said.

So it was like, but that.

Means that, you know, I'll have to do training in the morning or in the afternoon, and that's going to be hard with your work. I said, no, we'll find a way, you know, Dad and I can like, we'll find a way. And he said, oh, but then that means like Saturday sport. You know, you're going to have to like give up a Saturday so you can take me. And I was like, no, that's fine, that's fine, that's fine. And I turn around and my daughter is just like fuming, like looking at me and like ready to kill me.

Yeah, you're in big trouble.

And the behind it was that she has been pestering me to do silks, like aerial silks, you know when they climb up like Pink at a concert. Now she climbs up and she is so she's so flexible, so bendy, and she would be great at silks, but she's also very accident prone. So I have avoided it for a long time, like, no, we do jazz, we do you know, other things. And so I've used the excuse with her sport. It's on a Saturday. I can't do a Saturday.

And so there I am going, Oh, we can do it. We can make it work, Christopher, for you, my darling. We will make it that.

That's exactly how she took it. So she's looking at me, fuming, and she goes, are you for real? And I went what? And she said, for the past year, you have said to me, absolutely, no way I can do silks because it's on a Saturday, and you refuse to give up your saturdays. So selfish of me for me to do this. And now you're basically saying that he should do it because it will help his friendships and.

I'm like, yeah, she got yeah, okay.

So that was a Thursday. She has jazz on a Friday afternoon. So the next day I put her in her jazz class and I went up to a teacher and I was like, put her in tomorrow's class for silks please. So then she left jazz class and I was like, you're in silks tomorrow.

She was like really. I'm like, well you got me.

There, she totally got me. And you know what, like I didn't mind it. Like now it's been like what two three weeks now where I've gone and I just go and get myself a coffee. I take my book and then I just read for the hour at the local coffee shop. It's okay. Yes, It's in the middle of a Saturday, which is a pain in the bum, and you know tricky when you have something on on a Saturday. You have to navigate your way around it. But you can only avoid it for so long. And I'm at that point where I'm like, I've had a good run. I've had a great run six six years worth of nothing on a Saturday. It's time. It's time for me to step up and be.

Bearing shame good on Maddie good honor.

Yeah, she got me there, and you know I owned it, which was I think the most important lesson of all. Sometimes Mum gets it wrong.

So I want to talk about another article we ran on kids Spot this week, and it's about an expert basically and her theory about how to conceive a baby boy. Right, if you want a baby boy? Yeah, obviously I didn't do it.

She's got three girls, so that's a fail. I just don't think, Lucas, did you try Did you try that way?

No?

I didn't. We didn't try and do anything like.

I don't know if I believe these things, but anyway, let's let's hear a theory.

She thinks the chances of a woman conceiving a male child is or whatever very subtly changes.

It depends on when your cycle you conceive.

So if you conceive slightly earlier in your cycle, you like, because ever so slightly, you're more likely that you'll have a baby boy.

Yeah, what she says.

So, I've known that there's something with the boy sperm, so that is that they are faster, but also die faster. Sorry about that, boys, So what you're better off? Like if you want a boy, you're you are better off trying as soon as you're ovulating, or even slightly before, because they'll get there first and then fertilize the egg before they die, whereas the girls will be like, go shopping. So I came on on my way, just going to fertilizing egg. Oh look a cup of teen. And now they get there and they're like, oh, might as well.

I don't know if I believe it. I think there are just boy and girl sperms.

Well that's that's the so, like that's the theory, but it's been proven wrong. So but then there's also other things where like people I don't know, like sticking your legs up in the air and making the sperm go in faster. There's those kinds of there's all sorts of wack theories. You know what theory does work? Just going at it all month long and then like try your hammer and tongang bang bang, like that's it. Every day is a day and then until you're like surprise, yeah, if you're lucky.

Yeah, if you're lucky.

Luke is an idea for pregnant with Alice on our honeymoon, and I think that's just for the sheer amount of sex.

We hav it. Wow, it was it was. It was an adjustment. It was felt very quick.

Yeah. Yeah, so that was a bit of a fear of mine. I did not want to fall pregnant straight away. I wanted to have that good year or two years where it's just us and we get to go traveling and doing all that. And I'm glad we did that.

Yeah, I like in hinds like not that I would change anything, obviously if I could make sure that I still had the same child, but a little bit later, yeah, I may have done that, but obviously you're happy.

You're happy in your family life.

Yeah, it's great.

So you know, you just.

You've been dealt with girl girl girl a little Russian for bush go dolls.

There you go.

To each other.

I don't think I don't care when we have sex in my cycle.

I don't reckon it's got a boy in him.

I reckon they've all died off already.

I don't think he's girl dad. Yeah, girl dad vibes.

He's a very good girl dad.

He is. He's excellent.

Yeah, from the stories you've told me, apart from the time when your kids stole money from the Busca.

That was such a good time. She gave it back that was not such a good time. That's okay, what are your wins and vails?

Okay, so I've got a good little win, which was a win at the time, but it's an ongoing win, okay. And that is Remember when I took that all that time off.

Oh yeah, yeah, I do remember, so.

In that time, well, I also do it. It's another little tradition of mine that I do. And every year people say, oh, you've inspired me. And that is at the end, just before the beginning of a term, I have one day set aside where I just cook up a storm of like frozen meals for like for those busy weeks where you just like don't know what's for dinner, and also lunch box lunch box prep it Like, yes, it's a pain in the ass at the time, but it saves you. So like I'm making like banana bread, donuts, like puff pastry, pizza scrolls, muffin, anything freezable and then I just have a little like a tub in the freezer and I just chuck them all in there. So on the days where I'm like, oh, I haven't made any lunchboxes or the kids are like, I don't want another sandwich tomorrow. I just go in that frazer and I get whatever, and then it defrosts overnight and it's perfectly like fresh the next day. Lunchbox prep is huge. You're laughing because you don't do it.

No, no, I'm laughing. I'm going to not do my own fail.

I'm going to piggyback off another parent's fail that they told me that.

This has reminded me of. Yeah.

So we've got these mates and their son has just started school this year, and they tried to do the frozen sandwich thing like it was frozen.

Yeah, I'm not a fan of frozen.

For whatever reason, it did not defrost, and he came home he's.

Like, Dad, you gave me an eye sandwich, poor kid.

If that had jam in, it would have been nice, like an ice cream cake frozen.

That made me laugh.

Yeah, well, anyway, that's that's my that's my win, the lunch box prep.

Okay, great, do you have a fail? Yeah?

I do. Okay, it's a really bad fail on like I laugh, but it's like I'm heartbroken that I've done this, and that is that like your credit cards, you know, when you like earn points, and like all of our points have been going to like quantus points. So I've been earning a shitload of Quantus points and like we're saving it up, so hopefully, like we'll go away and you know, you can book your little trips here they upgrade, you know whatever. And I had had like a decent amount of points.

What did you do to the point.

Well, the other week I needed to go and do some grocery shopping, but I had no money because it was like two days before payday. Yeah, so I was like, oh, okay, So I went and I went to our credit card points and I ordered an Aldi one hundred dollars bout your Okay. I thought, okay, that'll get me by this week. And that's fine, that's fine. And when it came, I had three vouchers that arrived and I was like, well, I'm not good at maths, but I don't think that's one hundred dollars. I think they've like they've short changed me. Yeah, and so I was like, no, how do you divide one hundred dollars into three different gift cards? And so it had no amount written on it. So I had no idea how much each one was. So I was like, Okay, this is going to be a painy bum, I'm going to have to ring these cards now to find out what's going on. And then I'm smart, I looked up what my purchase was. I ordered three one hundred dollar Aldi cards with our quantus, which means there's going to be no upgrade, there's going to be no hole, there's not going to be no holiday, nothing. And then I had to like break the news to Jerry.

Oh did he get pissed? No, No, he was.

Like it was like that's fine. I'm like yeah, but like you know, now we don't have that many points to deal with, and he was like, we buy enough that we will get those points back very quickly, like on Jerry. So, yeah, that was a fail my part.

Yeah, that would be disappointing. I can imagine.

I was very happy when I went to the Aldi checkout and I was like, no money out of my accounts, three of them.

So my win this week was it is something good that the we're coming into winter because it's getting dark in the mornings.

Yes I don't like that.

No me either, but but there has been one win.

Eve always wakes up like at like five am or earlier, as soon as she hears a bird or yeah, yeah, okay, but she her cot is up against the wall and there are shutters on the windows, and I have now taught her that if she opens the shutters and if it's still dark, you go back to bed, it's not time for getting up. So she's doing that, Like at five am. Before she'd be like, it's morning, it's morning. And now it's starting to work in my favor because she thinks it's still nighttime.

Until the next daylight saving comes and then you're screwed again.

Yeah, but then she'll be like three, and it will be easier to be like, no, you can't come out until like after six o'clock, or I'll get in one of those you know, those alarm clocks or whatever.

Yeah, but for a two year old, it's it's working. Yeah, it's working. Yeah. I'm going to write it all through winter. Thank you. That's it from us today.

We will be back in your Ears this Friday for our Advice Needed episode. If you have any questions you'd like answered, please flick them through to Mumclub at news dot com. That are you, or you can get us on our socials which is at mum Club. Podcast and TikTok and Insta are probably your best bets. Otherwise, have a beautiful Wednesday and we will talk to you again soon.

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