Answers to the Gender Madness with Christine Sneeringer

Published Feb 18, 2025, 6:00 AM
Perhaps the biggest question of this cultural moment is how gender confusion should be resolved and whether it’s even possible to resolve it. On Tuesday's Mornings with Eric and Brigitte, Christine Sneeringer of Worthy Creations, will discuss transformation over transition—mindset shifts over attempting to change the physical body through hormones and/or surgery.

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I saw a clip for what is most likely a new show or movie or something on, and it was of two characters. One came to the door was what appeared to be a woman, and a father opens the door and said, oh, hi, I'm sorry you came at a bad time. I'm expecting my son. And the person in there said, dad, it's me. And this is what parents, some parents, grandparents, family members have experienced in this cultural moment. And that's why we thought it was important for us to discuss it with Christine Sneeringer, who is with Worthy Creations. And Christine. This is not an isolated issue, unfortunately for many who are saying, wait, I had a son, but now they're asking me to call them a different name or vice versa. Is is this is this occurring?

Yeah. Oh for sure. It's occurring. Interestingly, historically, it's been half a percent of the population that was wanting to transition from male to female. But in recent phenomena, in the last few years, it's been a 5,000% increase in teenage girls saying they want to transition that.

As a parent, I hear these things and I'm like, I don't even know how I would react as a parent. I mean, that's part of the issue here, isn't it, that there's kids have always tried to shock their parents? I don't think there's anything different there. But this is more than just a shock. It's a, it's a, it's a punch to the gut that parents aren't ready for isn't it?

It absolutely is. And that's one reason I just want to give you guys, you know, a credit for, for having a conversation about something that's really challenging for families, because what I have found is when the church doesn't talk about things like this, then everybody only gets their information from the world from a secular perspective. And we need to remember that God created male and female. We were created in his image. We don't want to lose sight of who we are and and take our cues from the from the world because they're they're saying there's I mean, when I researched for this book, there was one person who said, there's 72 genders and other ones like it's infinite number of genders. Like, nobody can decide how many genders there are. And now you're probably familiar with that documentary called What Is a Woman? Which they never could answer the question on the show. And Matt Walsh went to professors and, you know, people all over our country and asked, what is a woman? He even went to a women's march and talked to women and said, can you just tell me what is a woman? And three women were like, we don't really know. And so we're I mean, we need to have these conversations. I mean, you know, our Supreme Court, one of our Supreme Court justices, before she was confirmed, was asked the question and said, well, I'm not a biologist. I can't answer that. And so they're confusing children, you know, like thinking, boy, men can have babies and all kinds of stuff. And so, yes, it is it is divisive in families for sure. And so that's why we need to talk about it to, to give encouragement and hope to those who have a family member or a loved one, and to those who may be struggling in their body. And you know that I know how that feels. And so I don't want to hijack the conversation. You know, for your question, I.

Wanted to go. That's where I wanted to go next. How does this hit home with you?

Well. And okay. Thank you. I just set you up for that. But I knew we were going there, and. And the thing is, though, I like I don't want to talk about this. I remember when the Lord, like, kind of pivoted me from, you know, talking about homosexuality for many years to gender. I was like, I go, Lord, do I ever get to be normal, you know, or to, you know, do anything easy? Because I the gender issue has become more vitriolic and divisive than even the gay issue was for many years when we saw the culture wars between homosexuals and Christians and all that. And so now we're shifting to another culture war. And for me, I it actually made sense when I felt like the Lord calling me into that. But at the time, I wasn't really excited. I wanted to like, can I dial it down and do something less controversial for once? But I grew up, you know, hating my body. I mean, for over 20 years, like starting in toddlerhood and. But my gender dysphoria, I want to be clear, my gender dysphoria. And it wasn't even that wasn't a word back then when I was growing up in the 70s. We never heard of that. But my gender confusion, let's just say, was born out of trauma. I grew up in a home where there was domestic violence, from my dad to my mom and from my older brother to me, and I was also physically, verbally and sexually abused. And so, you know, I never saw women treated with kindness and love and respect. And so I didn't want to grow up to be like my mom, who I perceived as a victim and someone who was weak. So that so those were the messages I got, you know, just in my own family. And I, you know, children, we don't understand that your family or your family's scenario becomes your normal how you see things. And then it takes a long time sometimes to realize, wait a minute, that's just my family. That's not all men. But I had painted all men with a broad brush as abusive, and I and I painted my own gender as a liability. So, you know, coming to faith is where I started to embrace who God made me to be. But that didn't happen till I was a young adult. So I for many years I hated my gender. I went by Chris. I hated my name because Christine is a clearly feminine name, whereas there are some names like Kelly or Tracey or Stacey can be a boy or a girl. Christine was, I don't know, you know, a man named Christine. But so I went by Chris because that could be either. So it's kind of like a form of social transition, you know, as I was a child. But although that wasn't a thing growing up. Social transition.

So your family around you, how were they reacting to how you were playing out, the confusion and the emotions that were going on inside you, or was that even a thing?

Well, I think, you know, I don't remember much in terms of like being scolded for being so masculine. So I so I found, you know, a lot of, um, a big outlet for me was sports, and I was just like a just a total jock. Although even in my neighborhood, I only played with the neighborhood boys because I have a younger sister. And she is what I call. I don't even know how to define this, but it's just fufu, you know, like, I don't know if you guys know the definition of that, but to me that's just somebody who's super feminine, right? So she's playing with Barbies and the whole, you know, dolls and all that. And I was like riding bikes over ramps with the boys, cops and robbers, cowboys and Indians. Although that might not be politically correct to play anymore. But we're playing all those kind of games and even like football. And I played on a Little league baseball team, and I was the only girl on my team because we didn't have a female version, like there wasn't a softball league in the 70s. And so I think the pushback came when and you guys, I'm just going to be really real. So as I developed my female body, I didn't want, you know, breasts that come with the female body. I was like, no, I don't want this. And so I, I can't really say what I was going to say. Like, I kind of ran around like boys sometimes with my shirt off. I mean, you know, and so there was just a disdain for my femaleness that, um, I don't know, it just there was a lot of confusion and I, I think in my family there was so much hurt, abuse. Like, I don't know that my mom could have been much help to me because she's trying to survive, like.

Dealing.

With her own, like a real tough marriage.

When and maybe again, coming from the outside of this, it may be a little confusing to me, but what I see is different now from from your story, from what Now is that we're talking about a lie. And a lot of what we see now from this confusion is that people are believing a lie. So there there might not be any issue like parents are going, I don't know where this came from. Right. We've raised our children in the church, or we've raised our children, you know, in a safe environment. And we're not sure why this is happening. And from what I can see, it's coming because people are believing a lie, that this can be different than what it really is.

I'm glad you said that. And because I did want to make the point that what we're seeing now isn't so much born out of trauma. Now, there can be some people who are it's, you know, born out of trauma. Their their gender confusion. But you're right today. But you have to understand, too. It's not like they necessarily know they're believing a lie. But kids are being confused. And, um, there's there's, uh, some of the big factors that are influencing this. Social media is a real big one. You know, uh, peer influences. Um, but also we have let some things into the schools. You know, there's something called social emotional learning and different things that we've led into the schools. And you've probably have seen the clips on, on YouTube where you have parents saying, I'm going to read from my book in my child's library. And, and sometimes the school board cuts the mic because they're like, you can't say that in here. And they're like, well, why is my eight year old have access to a book that I can't even read? You know, so we we haven't done a good job of, for example, just in schools alone. But the other thing where it's also coming from is, is our, um, academia like universities with the kind of, you know, the, the victim oppressor, you know, language. And, um, where it teaches boys to be ashamed of boys, like, because you're a white guy, as far as I can tell. Right. You're a white man. Yes. And you're considered. Sorry. I mean.

It is Tuesday.

Well, I was like, I don't know, he could have some kind of minority like, percentage or something. But you look like a white male to me. And, um. But white men are the ones that, you know, kind of, like, are hated sometimes in society because they're like, oh, you're the oppressor. You know, this kind of stuff. So it's been happening on several fronts, but I would like to give you an anecdote that would help bring it home, if I may. So a friend of mine, she's a pastor's wife up in Stuart, and she told me that at her church, there's a school resource officer who, you know, attends the church. And he said that he watches this every year in the high school where these ninth grade girls come in and you're trying to figure out, like, ninth grade, you know, you're still I mean, there's you just want to fit in, you want to find your group and all this kind of stuff. And and what happens? You got these clubs on campus, you know, the. They call them different things. Gay straight alliance or whatever. But, um, that seemed like a fun group. And they have like parties and offer food and all this. And so they kind of scoop up some of these girls that are like a little bit lost and confused and don't have, you know, their friend group and their identity more solid, and they're just looking to fit in. And then if you're part of that group, you may not have ever had any discomfort in your body prior, but it's like you start to get exposed to these ideas. And the first one is, well, you have to be our ally. And you know that that word has been redefined, that if you're not an ally, that makes you a bully, you know? And so nobody wants to be a bully. So, like, of course I want to be an ally. But the but then the ally, they've stepped that up where if you have if you're going to be an ally, you have to promote what we believe. You can't just say I'm your friend. You have to say I'm going to espouse. Although a child wouldn't say a spouse, but you know what I'm saying? I'm going to like, share and be an advocate for these ideas. And so it's like it's very subtle, but you and I can see that it's a lie and it's deception, but some of it's based on just wanting to fit in or even wanting to be popular because these kids that are coming out, we tell them, you're so courageous. We we celebrate them like we did. I'm going to tell you, this guy's 2014. We did that with, uh, 20, 2015 with Bruce Jenner. 2014 is when there was a cover story on time magazine that said Transgender Tipping Point. 2015 was the year of Bruce Jenner, where he came out. Diane Sawyer TV show, ABC 2021 of the most watched shows. And then he got the ESPN Courage Award. He became woman of the year and he was being celebrated. And that's what these kids want. But we're also ignoring underlying comorbidities, which means, like other issues that these children may be experiencing, that may also be setting them up to wanting to go down a road that is going to lead them to some drastic places if they start pursuing this because of, you know, doing permanent harm to your body, that's why it's so dangerous.

Kristine Sneeringer is in studio with us. Answers to Gender Madness is the resource that you've written, in case so now let's say a youth has been exposed to all that and the confusion. And now they come home and they say, I'm no longer a girl. I want you want you to call me by a male's name. What? What does a parent. What does a family do?

That's a great question. It's happening more and more. And so the first thing is you, the parent, needs to slow down the child because by the time the child comes and says, you know, these are my new pronouns, this is my new name. I mean, the parents are on their back feet, like trying to figure this out. And what what most parents do or not most. Okay. Um, some parents will just rush the child to a professional. The problem is, even the mental health community has been co-opted by gender ideology. So the therapist will say, these are the you know, these are the new pronouns. You got to affirm this and they'll say things like, you know, wouldn't you rather have a a live son than a dead daughter? And it's emotional blackmail there. So you need to say to your child, I am so glad you told me. Thank you for telling me. Affirm that relationship and their trust in telling you. And then you say, I don't know a lot about this, but I but I want to learn. And so if you just be patient with me while I learn. And because I want to walk with you through this journey. So because you don't want to say things like dismissive, like, oh, don't be ridiculous, of course you're a boy, you know? Um, you don't want to do that because then they feel invalidated and they're not going to trust you anymore. So you want to build rapport? I and you don't I? You really don't want to affirm, for example, the new gender and start using the pronouns, which is what some therapists will tell you to do. You don't want to do that because you are at that point you're affirming a lie and you know their delusion. So but that can get that can get, you know, contested. When you say, I'm sorry, son, I'm not going to call you that. I have a friend who's a mom who told her she had twin boys and one of them is transitioning. He's like 30, though. He started his, you know, in his mid 20s, I guess. But they would argue about this. And she said, son, when you come home, you know, in our house you're going to present as a, as a man, you know, as far as if he came back to live at home And he was like, you know, he said, if you're okay with. She said, at no point am I ever going to see you as as a female, you're the you're the son I raised. And if you're okay with being more than a pronoun to me, you know which I love that phrase. You are more than a pronoun. And so that was a really helpful conversation they had where he was like, okay, you know, like I'm I'm just going to we're going to agree to disagree and I'm not going to try to, you know, uh, force you into something that you don't feel comfortable. Um, and so, I mean, I know some people say, you know, Christian out of Christian charity, we should, you know, uh, comply with their wishes. But I think you are helping somebody down to a really bad place. If you start complying and you're denying biological reality. Certainly God's intention and design and you're not serving that person.

It comes back to what the truth is, and you need to stand on that. But at the same point you need wisdom. And the thing I would say is prayer. Pray, pray, pray, fall on your knees and pray for wisdom. Pray for your. Pray for your child today, not not down the road. If issues come, pray for them today that they would understand who they are in Christ. Because this is ultimately stance of where we stand when it comes to who our Heavenly Father is and how he sees us. And that's where the confusion all gets blurry, because that's where the enemy wants it to become blurry. If you want more information about this, we've just really we've scratched the surface here. A quick guide to some help for you in navigating this confusion. This Q and A answers to gender madness. We've got a link to it on our website. Eric and Bridget.

Org and a link to Worthy Creations. Christine is available for to come and speak because this is an issue that is obviously so important in this cultural moment. So find out about worthy creations and this resource that Eric and Bridget.

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