Well, you're listening to Moody Radio 89.3 on this fine Saturday morning, and has been our case for the past few months now. Jeff Bercaw is sitting in with us for this Saturday. Good morning Jeff.

Well, you're listening to Moody Radio 89.3 on this fine Saturday morning, and has been our case for the past few months now. Jeff Bercaw is sitting in with us for this Saturday. Good morning Jeff.

Good morning sir.

Good morning sir.

You know, as we talk about this topic, we've spent a lot of time talking about honoring our wives, and we're going to move into kind of transition into honoring our sons. But during all these seasons, they're learning from us, aren't they?

You know, as we talk about this topic, we've spent a lot of time talking about honoring our wives, and we're going to move into kind of transition into honoring our sons. But during all these seasons, they're learning from us, aren't they?

Absolutely. And the thing about it is, part of it is to walk the way everlasting. You know, love. Psalm one one walk along that road, that beautiful brook, the stream with him, and he takes us through those valleys. You know, that's solid good theology that we obviously we get up from the word alone. At the same time, from our human side, we are experiencing loss. We're experiencing grief. And as men with our wives, particularly, we, it's good for us to be strong with them. But also it's good for us, frankly, to take that time to grieve with him as well and not not have to be that rock all the time. But but kind of be that gentle one who understands what they're going through. How can I understand what my wife is going through if I all the time act as if nothing's affecting me? And how is she going to know me if she can't see those things as I go through them? Now, I understand God doesn't want me to be down in the middle, falling apart, you know, despairing. Because first of all, he gives us hope. That's beyond that, beyond all understanding. But at the same time that grieving together, I thank God for Gethsemane as Jesus modeled for us what real men do at times, and that is go to our God on our knees and say, help, Lord. My favorite prayer from King David in the Old Testament. Help Lord and sharing that with our wives, but frankly, also our sons. Learning that you know what? Real men go through problems and it's okay to express it. Sad face is good for the heart of a man. is, as we learn in Ecclesiastes.

Absolutely. And the thing about it is, part of it is to walk the way everlasting. You know, love. Psalm one one walk along that road, that beautiful brook, the stream with him, and he takes us through those valleys. You know, that's solid good theology that we obviously we get up from the word alone. At the same time, from our human side, we are experiencing loss. We're experiencing grief. And as men with our wives, particularly, we, it's good for us to be strong with them. But also it's good for us, frankly, to take that time to grieve with him as well and not not have to be that rock all the time. But but kind of be that gentle one who understands what they're going through. How can I understand what my wife is going through if I all the time act as if nothing's affecting me? And how is she going to know me if she can't see those things as I go through them? Now, I understand God doesn't want me to be down in the middle, falling apart, you know, despairing. Because first of all, he gives us hope. That's beyond that, beyond all understanding. But at the same time that grieving together, I thank God for Gethsemane as Jesus modeled for us what real men do at times, and that is go to our God on our knees and say, help, Lord. My favorite prayer from King David in the Old Testament. Help Lord and sharing that with our wives, but frankly, also our sons. Learning that you know what? Real men go through problems and it's okay to express it. Sad face is good for the heart of a man. is, as we learn in Ecclesiastes.

We're talking about our sons here, and how do we help them to pursue Christ? It starts in our own life. We need to be pursuers if we're going to teach someone to pursue, if we're going to model that, we have to start there. That means there's a lot of different things we have to be working in our own hearts about, doesn't it?

We're talking about our sons here, and how do we help them to pursue Christ? It starts in our own life. We need to be pursuers if we're going to teach someone to pursue, if we're going to model that, we have to start there. That means there's a lot of different things we have to be working in our own hearts about, doesn't it?

Absolutely. One of the awesome things about our walk with Christ, he modeled for us. He teaches us. He empowers us to do this. And that is he takes us through the death of Christ, the death of self, a learning that the things around us, this is not our home, it's our home is with him and he takes us through that. So then we can then experience that joy of being with him and understanding and seeing him as men. One of the great joys and opportunities is to model that for our children. We've been talking about modeling that with our wives, and so often it has to do with like a selfless nature putting them first. Of course, as God tells us to do that in Ephesians chapter five. But there's also that first Peter three, where he teaches us with our wives and frankly, with our children to live with them in an understanding way. There's a great passage where God tells us as kings, the wise king knows his flocks, and that word knows is very intimate, very intimate. And so I think a big part of honoring our sons is, first of all, realizing it's going to be hard for me to know him if I don't know myself, if I don't understand, yes, my strengths, but also my weaknesses. Absolutely.

Absolutely. One of the awesome things about our walk with Christ, he modeled for us. He teaches us. He empowers us to do this. And that is he takes us through the death of Christ, the death of self, a learning that the things around us, this is not our home, it's our home is with him and he takes us through that. So then we can then experience that joy of being with him and understanding and seeing him as men. One of the great joys and opportunities is to model that for our children. We've been talking about modeling that with our wives, and so often it has to do with like a selfless nature putting them first. Of course, as God tells us to do that in Ephesians chapter five. But there's also that first Peter three, where he teaches us with our wives and frankly, with our children to live with them in an understanding way. There's a great passage where God tells us as kings, the wise king knows his flocks, and that word knows is very intimate, very intimate. And so I think a big part of honoring our sons is, first of all, realizing it's going to be hard for me to know him if I don't know myself, if I don't understand, yes, my strengths, but also my weaknesses. Absolutely.

He tells us he's the way, the truth and the life. Yes. As guys, a lot of times we have a problem with that truth side of it. Don't we have a problem telling the truth? In a lot of things we try to cover things up, cover up who we are, cover up mistakes we've made in our family. We struggle with the truth sometimes, don't we?

He tells us he's the way, the truth and the life. Yes. As guys, a lot of times we have a problem with that truth side of it. Don't we have a problem telling the truth? In a lot of things we try to cover things up, cover up who we are, cover up mistakes we've made in our family. We struggle with the truth sometimes, don't we?

We do. One of I enjoy humorous commercials, you know, and it's typically unfortunately, it entails some sort of injurious attitude toward the man who's on the set. And one of my favorites is a particular soft drink where it's guys are just getting hammered by different things, and they're like, I'm good, I'm cool, you know? And and you know what? We we need to be guys. We need to be able to say, you know what? I'm okay. I get knocked down and get back up by God's grace. And at times, though, it's also good to come along our sons and say, look, I understand, you know, I remember at times when I have been there just recently, you know, and give them the hope that if they're struggling with something, they're not some weak male or they're not some little boy, but they're they're someone as a male who is going through things that really kind of define our humanity. Jesus models this, which is one of the reasons I love Chozen so much, because it just shows that humanity of Christ and the different aspects that that Jesus has taught us as men to kind of walk that that faith in him and through him and for him, it's very, very significant.

We do. One of I enjoy humorous commercials, you know, and it's typically unfortunately, it entails some sort of injurious attitude toward the man who's on the set. And one of my favorites is a particular soft drink where it's guys are just getting hammered by different things, and they're like, I'm good, I'm cool, you know? And and you know what? We we need to be guys. We need to be able to say, you know what? I'm okay. I get knocked down and get back up by God's grace. And at times, though, it's also good to come along our sons and say, look, I understand, you know, I remember at times when I have been there just recently, you know, and give them the hope that if they're struggling with something, they're not some weak male or they're not some little boy, but they're they're someone as a male who is going through things that really kind of define our humanity. Jesus models this, which is one of the reasons I love Chozen so much, because it just shows that humanity of Christ and the different aspects that that Jesus has taught us as men to kind of walk that that faith in him and through him and for him, it's very, very significant.

Well, the other thing he did was though, he told us the truth about who we were, who we are, and we have a hard time telling our sons that sometimes we have a hard time speaking to them the truth in love. I think it's a real balance that we kind of miss a lot, don't we?

Well, the other thing he did was though, he told us the truth about who we were, who we are, and we have a hard time telling our sons that sometimes we have a hard time speaking to them the truth in love. I think it's a real balance that we kind of miss a lot, don't we?

That's exactly right. And understandably at times, you know, hey, we as men, as sinners, as broken men, we will struggle at times with pride or we will struggle a time with, at times with. I don't even know how to respond to this. It's totally natural and totally understandable. It's just that as we progress forward, as we progress forward in our relationship with our sons, which really starts very early on, by the way, we are constantly coming alongside to say, it's okay that you fell. It's okay that you didn't quite get that door closed all the way. You know, it's okay that you're not quote unquote perfect, by the way. I can understand what that feels like every day.

That's exactly right. And understandably at times, you know, hey, we as men, as sinners, as broken men, we will struggle at times with pride or we will struggle a time with, at times with. I don't even know how to respond to this. It's totally natural and totally understandable. It's just that as we progress forward, as we progress forward in our relationship with our sons, which really starts very early on, by the way, we are constantly coming alongside to say, it's okay that you fell. It's okay that you didn't quite get that door closed all the way. You know, it's okay that you're not quote unquote perfect, by the way. I can understand what that feels like every day.

Well, you talk to us about speaking the truth in love. Clarify an Clarifying offense versus flattery and how to find more favor. What are we talking about here?

Well, you talk to us about speaking the truth in love. Clarify an Clarifying offense versus flattery and how to find more favor. What are we talking about here?

Well, there's a proverb in Proverbs chapter 28 where he actually says, if we rebuke our brother, that translation sometimes gets kind of stuck with some folks because it almost sounds like we're supposed to point our finger and tell them how bad they are, right? That's not what that means. It's I share the offense that they are actually involved in, whether it's me personally or with somebody else, and I'm open about that. And instead of kind of like stepping around it for quote unquote peace, I'm open with them about the personal offense and it says if we do it that way, if we share the offense versus flatter, which means, oh, everything's fine, you know, I'm good, we're okay. And it's just not true. We will actually have a closer relationship if we're open with them. I've experienced that in deep friendships in my life when I've been open about what what is going on between us and not not dancing around it, so to speak, and avoid it. It's absolutely true. And by the way, Scripture interprets Scripture. So we see in Matthew 1815 he says, if your brother offends you, go tell your brother. He doesn't say, dance around it. I love Jesus examples. You know, you dudes fell asleep. I'm just over here. All I asked you to do is stay awake. And when I read that, I went, you know what? So often his guys, we kind of go, oh, that's okay. It's no big deal. You know, water off the back of a duck and all that kind of stuff. And we do that so much. I think that it's it's disingenuous. It's not you know, it's not real.

Well, there's a proverb in Proverbs chapter 28 where he actually says, if we rebuke our brother, that translation sometimes gets kind of stuck with some folks because it almost sounds like we're supposed to point our finger and tell them how bad they are, right? That's not what that means. It's I share the offense that they are actually involved in, whether it's me personally or with somebody else, and I'm open about that. And instead of kind of like stepping around it for quote unquote peace, I'm open with them about the personal offense and it says if we do it that way, if we share the offense versus flatter, which means, oh, everything's fine, you know, I'm good, we're okay. And it's just not true. We will actually have a closer relationship if we're open with them. I've experienced that in deep friendships in my life when I've been open about what what is going on between us and not not dancing around it, so to speak, and avoid it. It's absolutely true. And by the way, Scripture interprets Scripture. So we see in Matthew 1815 he says, if your brother offends you, go tell your brother. He doesn't say, dance around it. I love Jesus examples. You know, you dudes fell asleep. I'm just over here. All I asked you to do is stay awake. And when I read that, I went, you know what? So often his guys, we kind of go, oh, that's okay. It's no big deal. You know, water off the back of a duck and all that kind of stuff. And we do that so much. I think that it's it's disingenuous. It's not you know, it's not real.

Our time has just zoomed on by as it usually does. Jeff will be back in a couple of weeks and we'll continue on on how do we honor our sons? How do we model this, this pursuit of Christ? And if you want to hear this again or share it with others, you can always go to our page. Just text the word listen (561) 737-6035 and we'll send you the link to the podcast. This is Moody Radio South Florida 89.3.

Our time has just zoomed on by as it usually does. Jeff will be back in a couple of weeks and we'll continue on on how do we honor our sons? How do we model this, this pursuit of Christ? And if you want to hear this again or share it with others, you can always go to our page. Just text the word listen (561) 737-6035 and we'll send you the link to the podcast. This is Moody Radio South Florida 89.3.