Values First Therapy

The Inverted Family

A father needs to lead and protect

Overcoming the inverted family

Break 1

What's the solution?

How can parents be tougher?

Dr. Johann D’Souza joins Doug to discuss the inverted family. They unpack the dynamic of the anxious mother and explore the importance of the father taking a leading role in protecting and guiding his family amid the pressures of the culture.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Maria - My granddaughter is 28. She said to me, 'I choose to have you out of my life'. What do I do? (32:28)

 

Resources:

https://www.johanndsouza.com/neversmartphone

Dr. Johann D&rsquo;Souza joins Doug to discuss the inverted family. They unpack the dynamic of the anxious mother and explore the importance of the father taking a leading role in protecting and guiding his family amid the pressures of the culture.
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Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Maria - My granddaughter is 28. She said to me, 'I choose to have you out of my life'. What do I do? (32:28)</li>
</ul>
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Resources:
<a href="https://www.johanndsouza.com/neversmartphone">https://www.johanndsouza.com/neversmartphone</a>

Marriage Unhindered is a sincere exploration of the joys and challenges within the realm of marriage. Hosted by the seasoned Doug Hinderer, this one-hour, caller-based show is scheduled to air Monday through Friday at 5PM CT, and will offer listeners an authentic journey into the complexities of marital relationships.

Marriage Unhindered is a sincere exploration of the joys and challenges within the realm of marriage. Hosted by the seasoned Doug Hinderer, this one-hour, caller-based show is scheduled to air Monday through Friday at 5PM CT, and will offer listeners an authentic journey into the complexities of marital relationships.

Marriage Unhindered

Husband hid pornography problem

Discovering my husband's past

 Loneliness 

Break 2

Deceit and valid marriages

Communicating your loneliness

How can I pray for you?

What should you do when you learn something shocking about your spouse that happened many years ago? How should you deal with loneliness in marriage? Doug answers these questions and more.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Mark - Responding to the email about an invalid marriage: Deceit alone is not going to make a marriage invalid. (36:06)

 

Resources:

 

Marriage Unhindered

https://www.marriageunhindered.com/

 

The Forgiveness Institute

https://internationalforgiveness.com/

 

Marriage Unhindered shows on forgiveness

https://relevantradio.com/?cat=26671&s=Forgiveness

 

Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

https://www.amazon.com/Eight-Dates-Essential-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/1523504463

 

Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage

https://www.amazon.com/Lessons-Transform-Your-Marriage-Strengthening/dp/1400050197

What should you do when you learn something shocking about your spouse that happened many years ago? How should you deal with loneliness in marriage? Doug answers these questions and more.
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Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Mark - Responding to the email about an invalid marriage: Deceit alone is not going to make a marriage invalid. (36:06)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
&nbsp;
Marriage Unhindered
<a href="https://www.marriageunhindered.com/">https://www.marriageunhindered.com/</a>
&nbsp;
The Forgiveness Institute
<a href="https://internationalforgiveness.com/">https://internationalforgiveness.com/</a>
&nbsp;
Marriage Unhindered shows on forgiveness
<a href="https://relevantradio.com/?cat=26671&amp;s=Forgiveness">https://relevantradio.com/?cat=26671&amp;s=Forgiveness</a>
&nbsp;
Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Eight-Dates-Essential-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/1523504463">https://www.amazon.com/Eight-Dates-Essential-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/1523504463</a>
&nbsp;
Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage
<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Lessons-Transform-Your-Marriage-Strengthening/dp/1400050197">https://www.amazon.com/Lessons-Transform-Your-Marriage-Strengthening/dp/1400050197</a>

When You Discover Your Spouse’s Past

Beware of scammers

Al-Anon and an AA

Marriage Works

Managing wife's anger

Greg Schutte joins Doug to share why married couples need a commitment to change throughout their marriage.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Pat - How do I handle my granddaughter getting married to another woman? (8:10)
Andy - My wife and I are having a hard time due to her drinking and every time it happens it creates an argument. (13:13)
Sharon - Comment for Andy: I recommend Al-Anon and an AA meeting. (25:20)
Barbara - I work in drug and alcohol rehabilitation and it runs in my family. You must go to these meetings as soon as possible. (26:53)
Mary - I have been married for 40 years and we have been to counseling for many years. We have had low intimacy for the last few years and now he is wanting to be sexually active. (28:58)
Tom - I have a daughter and a new born and I feel anger coming out of my wife. I don’t know how to manage it. What should I do? 40:27

 

Resources:

Building a Eucharistic Marriage

https://www.eucharisticmarriage.org/

 

Marriage Works! Ohio

https://trustmarriage.com/

Greg Schutte joins Doug to share why married couples need a commitment to change throughout their marriage.
&nbsp;
Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Pat - How do I handle my granddaughter getting married to another woman? (8:10)</li>
<li>Andy - My wife and I are having a hard time due to her drinking and every time it happens it creates an argument. (13:13)</li>
<li>Sharon - Comment for Andy: I recommend Al-Anon and an AA meeting. (25:20)</li>
<li>Barbara - I work in drug and alcohol rehabilitation and it runs in my family. You must go to these meetings as soon as possible. (26:53)</li>
<li>Mary - I have been married for 40 years and we have been to counseling for many years. We have had low intimacy for the last few years and now he is wanting to be sexually active. (28:58)</li>
<li>Tom - I have a daughter and a new born and I feel anger coming out of my wife. I don&rsquo;t know how to manage it. What should I do? 40:27</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
Building a Eucharistic Marriage
<a href="https://www.eucharisticmarriage.org/">https://www.eucharisticmarriage.org/</a>
&nbsp;
Marriage Works! Ohio
<a href="https://trustmarriage.com/">https://trustmarriage.com/</a>

Choosing Growth Throughout Marriage

Catholic Catch

20 best ways to find a date in real life

4 Things to look for when you are dating

Ask the right questions

Don't you trust me?

Fr. Rob Ryan and Fr. John LoCoco join Doug to discuss an upcoming singles night at St. Benedict Catholic Church in Chicago. Doug also talks about the challenges of dating and what to look for in a future spouse.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Lisa - If you are a female, go to where the men are: the lakes, the beach and hiking. (21:12)
Bobby - It’s hard to tell a spouse you don’t like who they hang around with because you might be suggesting they are similar to that group. They might say 'you don’t trust me?' (39:20)
Elma - Is it ok to date a widower of only one month? (42:30)
Maureen - I used to be a professional matchmake. For Catholics: what a great time to check out the singles at confession. (46:45)

 

Resources:

 

Catholic Catch Singles Trivia Pre-Registration

https://forms.cloud.microsoft/pages/responsepage.aspx?id=o-0BRmklpkqOCzBfwpVBLl-LqlRwJghFqZHL9AOb2yNUNDVNSzUzWEdUMzQzRDlTRU5aT0FPSzdFQyQlQCNjPTEu&route=shorturl

 

20 best ways to find a date in real life
Sign Up for a Fitness Class / dance lessons
Attend Community Events
Take a Class That Interests You
Say Yes to Social Invitations
Become a Regular Somewhere such as a coffee shop
Volunteer for a Cause
Join a Sports League
Attend Networking Events
Explore Bookstores and Libraries
Take Part in Group Travel or Tours
Attend Live Music Events
Join a Hobby Group
Take Dance Lessons
Attend Faith-Based or Spiritual Events
Sign Up for a Public Speaking or Improv Class
Explore Outdoor Activities
Register for Workshops or Seminars
Become an Active Member of Your Neighborhood
Attend Friend-of-a-Friend Gatherings
Focus on Living a Full Life

 

4 Things to look for when you are dating
Does the person ask questions about you and listen for the answers?
Do they treat people of lesser status well?
Are they reliable?
Are they a person of virtue and trying be a better person?

 

Ask the right questions
What brought you here?
Wat sparks your curiosity?
Who are the people you like to hang out with?
What are your hobbies?
What do you spend most of your time thinking about?
What is something you believe that most people will disagree with?
What does a life well-lived look like to you?

Fr. Rob Ryan and Fr. John LoCoco join Doug to discuss an upcoming singles night at St. Benedict Catholic Church in Chicago. Doug also talks about the challenges of dating and what to look for in a future spouse.
&nbsp;
Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Lisa - If you are a female, go to where the men are: the lakes, the beach and hiking. (21:12)</li>
<li>Bobby - It&rsquo;s hard to tell a spouse you don&rsquo;t like who they hang around with because you might be suggesting they are similar to that group. They might say 'you don&rsquo;t trust me?' (39:20)</li>
<li>Elma - Is it ok to date a widower of only one month? (42:30)</li>
<li>Maureen - I used to be a professional matchmake. For Catholics: what a great time to check out the singles at confession. (46:45)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
&nbsp;
Catholic Catch Singles Trivia Pre-Registration
<a href="https://forms.cloud.microsoft/pages/responsepage.aspx?id=o-0BRmklpkqOCzBfwpVBLl-LqlRwJghFqZHL9AOb2yNUNDVNSzUzWEdUMzQzRDlTRU5aT0FPSzdFQyQlQCNjPTEu&amp;route=shorturl">https://forms.cloud.microsoft/pages/responsepage.aspx?id=o-0BRmklpkqOCzBfwpVBLl-LqlRwJghFqZHL9AOb2yNUNDVNSzUzWEdUMzQzRDlTRU5aT0FPSzdFQyQlQCNjPTEu&amp;route=shorturl</a>
&nbsp;
20 best ways to find a date in real life
<ol>
<li>Sign Up for a Fitness Class / dance lessons</li>
<li>Attend Community Events</li>
<li>Take a Class That Interests You</li>
<li>Say Yes to Social Invitations</li>
<li>Become a Regular Somewhere such as a coffee shop</li>
<li>Volunteer for a Cause</li>
<li>Join a Sports League</li>
<li>Attend Networking Events</li>
<li>Explore Bookstores and Libraries</li>
<li>Take Part in Group Travel or Tours</li>
<li>Attend Live Music Events</li>
<li>Join a Hobby Group</li>
<li>Take Dance Lessons</li>
<li>Attend Faith-Based or Spiritual Events</li>
<li>Sign Up for a Public Speaking or Improv Class</li>
<li>Explore Outdoor Activities</li>
<li>Register for Workshops or Seminars</li>
<li>Become an Active Member of Your Neighborhood</li>
<li>Attend Friend-of-a-Friend Gatherings</li>
<li>Focus on Living a Full Life</li>
</ol>
&nbsp;
4 Things to look for when you are dating
<ol>
<li>Does the person ask questions about you and listen for the answers?</li>
<li>Do they treat people of lesser status well?</li>
<li>Are they reliable?</li>
<li>Are they a person of virtue and trying be a better person?</li>
</ol>
&nbsp;
Ask the right questions
<ol>
<li>What brought you here?</li>
<li>Wat sparks your curiosity?</li>
<li>Who are the people you like to hang out with?</li>
<li>What are your hobbies?</li>
<li>What do you spend most of your time thinking about?</li>
<li>What is something you believe that most people will disagree with?</li>
<li>What does a life well-lived look like to you?</li>
</ol>

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