Holiday arguments: a review

Dating a single dad

Break 1

Family Boundaries 

Break 2

Messages on husband's devices

Bless the efforts not just success

What do you do when your future father-in-law is getting in between you and your fiancé? Should you talk to your daughter about concerns you have with her 11-year-old? Should you be concerned that your daughter is dating a single dad? Doug goes to the mail bag.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Brenda - I am a single mother and I think that it takes a lot of discernment. It’s hard because my son’s feelings matter as well if he gets attached to a guy and I break up. (19:56)

 

Resources:

Prior Propper Planning is Critical

https://relevantradio.com/2026/07/prior-propper-planning-is-critical/

What do you do when your future father-in-law is getting in between you and your fianc&eacute;? Should you talk to your daughter about concerns you have with her 11-year-old? Should you be concerned that your daughter is dating a single dad? Doug goes to the mail bag.
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Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Brenda - I am a single mother and I think that it takes a lot of discernment. It&rsquo;s hard because my son&rsquo;s feelings matter as well if he gets attached to a guy and I break up. (19:56)</li>
</ul>
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Resources:
Prior Propper Planning is Critical
<a href="https://relevantradio.com/2026/07/prior-propper-planning-is-critical/">https://relevantradio.com/2026/07/prior-propper-planning-is-critical/</a>

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Marriage Unhindered is a sincere exploration of the joys and challenges within the realm of marriage. Hosted by the seasoned Doug Hinderer, this one-hour, caller-based show is scheduled to air Monday through Friday at 5PM CT, and will offer listeners an authentic journey into the complexities of marital relationships.

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Avoiding arguments over the holidays

Adult children living at home

My son-in-law drinks too much

Doug shares tips for surviving the 4th of July picnic with family while avoiding arguments.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Doug - At the family functions there is an emphasis on the drinking during the 4th. I can’t drink because my dad is an alcoholic so I want to know what I should do. (29:27)
Jane - My son in law's father died from alcohol and I find that he drinks too much. What should I do? Should I say something? (38:42)
Julie - For the 4th I always use leading questions like you do in the beginning of your show that are not threatening at the dinner table. (44:23)
Judy - My husband was an alcoholic and I want to say having beer and wine around isn’t the solution if the problem is hard stuff. But prayer is the best thing to do. (46:16)

 

Resources:

Reasons we argue at family gatherings
Family knows where the hot buttons are
We tend to regress when we are around family
Holidays are loaded with expectations
The weather adds fuel to the fire

 

8 tips to avoid unnecessary arguments
Decide before you arrive, what person you want to be
Know your triggers – What topics usually get you hooked?
Stop trying to change people at the picnic table
Use some short boundary statements
Lower the temperature instead of raising it
Change the topic
Change the setting
Come up with a code word for you and your spouse to use

Doug shares tips for surviving the 4th&nbsp;of July picnic with family while avoiding arguments.
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Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Doug - At the family functions there is an emphasis on the drinking during the 4th. I can&rsquo;t drink because my dad is an alcoholic so I want to know what I should do. (29:27)</li>
<li>Jane - My son in law's father died from alcohol and I find that he drinks too much. What should I do? Should I say something? (38:42)</li>
<li>Julie - For the 4th I always use leading questions like you do in the beginning of your show that are not threatening at the dinner table. (44:23)</li>
<li>Judy - My husband was an alcoholic and I want to say having beer and wine around isn&rsquo;t the solution if the problem is hard stuff. But prayer is the best thing to do. (46:16)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
Reasons we argue at family gatherings
<ol>
<li>Family knows where the hot buttons are</li>
<li>We tend to regress when we are around family</li>
<li>Holidays are loaded with expectations</li>
<li>The weather adds fuel to the fire</li>
</ol>
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8 tips to avoid unnecessary arguments
<ol>
<li>Decide before you arrive, what person you want to be</li>
<li>Know your triggers &ndash; What topics usually get you hooked?</li>
<li>Stop trying to change people at the picnic table</li>
<li>Use some short boundary statements</li>
<li>Lower the temperature instead of raising it</li>
<li>Change the topic</li>
<li>Change the setting</li>
<li>Come up with a code word for you and your spouse to use</li>
</ol>

Prior Propper Planning is Critical

Mary Bowan on no-fault divorce

What is an insupportable marriage?

What's the point of getting married?

Irreconcilable differences

Are you a victim of a no-fault divorce? Today, Mary Bowan joins Doug to discuss her efforts to overturn the no-fault divorce law in Texas.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Patrick - I went through a no-fault divorce and my wife threatened to say 'cruel and unusual punishment' which just means she is mean to me. (23:46)
Karen - This happened to me and they called it irreconcilable differences. It feels like your spouse and court are against you. It’s been 22 years and you feel like you made a mistake. (36:07)
Steve - I want to support and let’s get this done in Texas! (38:00)
Stan - I went through one and I want to tell you that this should be a class lawsuit. I don’t know how you can do this on your own. (39:06)
Frank - What hope do you have for people who are happily married what signs should we look for to prevent this? (41:00)
Tony - My wife alienated my daughter from me and would turn my kids against me and now my kids are getting divorced. I am a stander as well. (45:33)

 

Resources:

https://www.texasnofault.com/

Are you a victim of a no-fault divorce? Today, Mary Bowan joins Doug to discuss her efforts to overturn the no-fault divorce law in Texas.
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Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Patrick - I went through a no-fault divorce and my wife threatened to say 'cruel and unusual punishment' which just means she is mean to me. (23:46)</li>
<li>Karen - This happened to me and they called it irreconcilable differences. It feels like your spouse and court are against you. It&rsquo;s been 22 years and you feel like you made a mistake. (36:07)</li>
<li>Steve - I want to support and let&rsquo;s get this done in Texas! (38:00)</li>
<li>Stan - I went through one and I want to tell you that this should be a class lawsuit. I don&rsquo;t know how you can do this on your own. (39:06)</li>
<li>Frank - What hope do you have for people who are happily married what signs should we look for to prevent this? (41:00)</li>
<li>Tony - My wife alienated my daughter from me and would turn my kids against me and now my kids are getting divorced. I am a stander as well. (45:33)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
<a href="https://www.texasnofault.com/">https://www.texasnofault.com/</a>

Standing up against No-fault divorce

Should I change my name after my divorce?

The burden of a chronic illness

Pornography & free consent in marriage 

Should you change your name after a divorce? What do you do when your wife has a chronic, incurable illness, and most of the responsibilities at home fall on you and your children? How do you cope when your wife feels guilty and worries about the burden placed on you? Do struggles with pornography make it difficult to give full consent to marriage? Doug goes to the mailbag answering these questions and more.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Pete - My friend is so hurt from his separation that he is withdrawing from everything in his life. What do we do? (9:34)
Ronda - Regarding a name change after divorced, you should do what makes you feel more comfortable. (13:44)
Rose - I kept my name after the divorce because I wanted to have the same name as my kids. (17:02)
Jeff - My wife had an ex-husband and had kids with me and now they have the old husband’s name. It’s a mess. (22:46)
Mary - I kept mine because I am a stander and we are still married in the eyes of God. (25:24)
Sarina - My mom changed her name and that’s how I met my husband. (38:05)
Mary - It’s important to realize that marriage is sacrificial and it doesn’t always lead to happiness (39:48)
Angelica - I was married for 16 years and I took my name back because my in laws didn’t like me. I didn’t think it was fair and I explained it to my son. (41:49)

 

Resources:

 

https://www.federalregister.gov/documents/2026/05/13/2026-09479/excepted-fertility-benefits?mc_cid=583286c936#open-comment

 

It’s Your Turn Now

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=urgp4IiOXDk

 

Reclaimed: Win the War of Freedom, Self-Mastery, and Holy Purity

https://scepterpublishers.org/products/reclaimed-win-the-war-of-freedom-self-mastery-and-holy-purity?srsltid=AfmBOorMA4RbYh_WzayDVdBX3vpx7hGA7-OpnEEYKLuUlxpeZ4EPp1lp&variant=46653355524273

Should you change your name after a divorce? What do you do when your wife has a chronic, incurable illness, and most of the responsibilities at home fall on you and your children? How do you cope when your wife feels guilty and worries about the burden placed on you? Do struggles with pornography make it difficult to give full consent to marriage? Doug goes to the mailbag answering these questions and more.
&nbsp;
Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Pete - My friend is so hurt from his separation that he is withdrawing from everything in his life. What do we do? (9:34)</li>
<li>Ronda - Regarding a name change after divorced, you should do what makes you feel more comfortable. (13:44)</li>
<li>Rose - I kept my name after the divorce because I wanted to have the same name as my kids. (17:02)</li>
<li>Jeff - My wife had an ex-husband and had kids with me and now they have the old husband&rsquo;s name. It&rsquo;s a mess. (22:46)</li>
<li>Mary - I kept mine because I am a stander and we are still married in the eyes of God. (25:24)</li>
<li>Sarina - My mom changed her name and that&rsquo;s how I met my husband. (38:05)</li>
<li>Mary - It&rsquo;s important to realize that marriage is sacrificial and it doesn&rsquo;t always lead to happiness (39:48)</li>
<li>Angelica - I was married for 16 years and I took my name back because my in laws didn&rsquo;t like me. I didn&rsquo;t think it was fair and I explained it to my son. (41:49)</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Resources:
&nbsp;
<a href="https://www.federalregister.gov/documents/2026/05/13/2026-09479/excepted-fertility-benefits?mc_cid=583286c936#open-comment">https://www.federalregister.gov/documents/2026/05/13/2026-09479/excepted-fertility-benefits?mc_cid=583286c936#open-comment</a>
&nbsp;
It&rsquo;s Your Turn Now
<a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=urgp4IiOXDk">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=urgp4IiOXDk</a>
&nbsp;
Reclaimed: Win the War of Freedom, Self-Mastery, and Holy Purity
<a href="https://scepterpublishers.org/products/reclaimed-win-the-war-of-freedom-self-mastery-and-holy-purity?srsltid=AfmBOorMA4RbYh_WzayDVdBX3vpx7hGA7-OpnEEYKLuUlxpeZ4EPp1lp&amp;variant=46653355524273">https://scepterpublishers.org/products/reclaimed-win-the-war-of-freedom-self-mastery-and-holy-purity?srsltid=AfmBOorMA4RbYh_WzayDVdBX3vpx7hGA7-OpnEEYKLuUlxpeZ4EPp1lp&amp;variant=46653355524273</a>

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