Fear of abandonment 

Examples of people pleasing 

Common traits of people pleasing

Break 1

Spouse involvement in people pleasing

Trauma response 

Break 2

What to do if you are people pleaser

Respect in a conversation 

If you find yourself becoming a people pleaser, it’s important to recognize the underlying fear of abandonment and the tendency to depend on others for your self-worth. Building a stronger sense of self involves setting boundaries, developing confidence, and learning to validate your own needs instead of constantly seeking approval.

 

Listener questions and comments:
Pam - I tend to be a people pleaser. I say 'I'm sorry' a lot and my son is the same way. I tell him he doesn't have to do that all the time. (6:31)
Amy - Your spouse could make you a people pleaser because of their volatile reaction. (20:19)
Michael - How come the people pleasers can't get together? I keep being drawn to the same type of person in relationships. It starts out good, but they end up being yellers and screamers. (36:27)
Stephanie - I have noticed one of my friends who was adopted is a strong people pleaser. I have an adopted daughter that's a people pleaser as well. How do I help her? (39:13)

If you find yourself becoming a people pleaser, it&rsquo;s important to recognize the underlying fear of abandonment and the tendency to depend on others for your self-worth. Building a stronger sense of self involves setting boundaries, developing confidence, and learning to validate your own needs instead of constantly seeking approval.
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Listener questions and comments:
<ul>
<li>Pam - I tend to be a people pleaser. I say 'I'm sorry' a lot and my son is the same way. I tell him he doesn't have to do that all the time. (6:31)</li>
<li>Amy - Your spouse could make you a people pleaser because of their volatile reaction. (20:19)</li>
<li>Michael - How come the people pleasers can't get together? I keep being drawn to the same type of person in relationships. It starts out good, but they end up being yellers and screamers. (36:27)</li>
<li>Stephanie - I have noticed one of my friends who was adopted is a strong people pleaser. I have an adopted daughter that's a people pleaser as well. How do I help her? (39:13)</li>
</ul>

Marriage Unhindered is a sincere exploration of the joys and challenges within the realm of marriage. Hosted by the seasoned Doug Hinderer, this one-hour, caller-based show is scheduled to air every Saturday from 11am – 12pm CT, and will offer listeners an authentic journey into the complexities of marital relationships.

Marriage Unhindered is a sincere exploration of the joys and challenges within the realm of marriage. Hosted by the seasoned Doug Hinderer, this one-hour, caller-based show is scheduled to air every Saturday from 11am – 12pm CT, and will offer listeners an authentic journey into the complexities of marital relationships.