What do you do when marriage therapy is not working? What do you do when your parents receive a decree of nullity and start dating other people? Doug answers these questions and more. PLUS: Mary at the Crossroads of History.   Listener questions and comments: Pepper - I have done a lot of therapy and it was not going well. My therapist friend told me to 'do what the therapist tells you'. I hadn't been because it seemed silly. But you have to do it because it makes a huge difference. (20:00)   Resources:   Mary at the Crossroads of History https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/mary-at-the-crossroads-of-history   Rekindled Hearts https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/rekindled-hearts-book   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Whose responsibility is it that you are in a good marriage? Doug continues to share common phrases that can help each spouse take responsibility in strengthening their marriage.   Listener questions and comments: Michelle - My husband is in recovery for drug and alcohol addiction right now and he has taken on the addiction of working and I want to navigate through this while he can’t fulfill my needs emotionally. (19:00) Chris - I struggle with telling my wife that I trust her. She will have an outburst and threaten me. How can I get better at trusting her? (32:38) Matt - What do I do if I’m in a marriage that makes me want to satisfy my wife and her children but will force me to turn away from God? (38:19) Sylvia - I’m a recovering alcoholic. There is hope and your family will come around. (46:38)   Resources: Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/   Phrases to instantly strengthen your marriage I appreciate you. I am sorry. I believe in you. How can I help? You make me happy! I trust you. I’m proud of you. Let’s talk about it. I’m grateful for us. What do you think? I love you. I’m here for you. I admire you. Thank you for being you. We can do this.

Doug shares phrases that will instantly strengthen your marriage.   Listener questions and comments: John - I had a stroke and my wife is my caregiver. She is struggling to take care of me. How do I help her help me? (23:59)   Resources: Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/   Phrases to instantly strengthen your marriage I appreciate you. I am sorry. I believe in you. How can I help? You make me happy! I trust you. I’m proud of you. Let’s talk about it. I’m grateful for us. What do you think? I love you. I’m here for you. I admire you. Thank you for being you. We can do this.

The holiday season is here and with it comes stress and anxiety. Today on Marriage Unhindered, Dr. Johann D’Souza joins Doug to discuss the concept of Optimal Work and how it can reduce anxiety in your life.   Listener questions and comments: Deedee - If you lack prudence do you end up with depression or anxiety? (24:34) Zizi - How do I let God take care of all my worries so I don't worry and stay up all night? (27:13)   Resources: Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Values First Therapy https://www.valuesfirsttherapy.com/

Courtney Brown joins Doug to discuss how to pass on the major themes of the Theology of the Body to junior high aged children.     Resources: Ruah Woods Institute https://www.ruahwoodsinstitute.org/

Doug answers an email from a problematic marriage as the wife is lonely and unhappy and the husband is selfish.   Doug  explores how to survive and even thrive a Thanksgiving with relatives and family members who you don't like   Listener Questions and Comments: Doug answers email: Schedule time to have this conversation and say "I'm lonely and that you're concerned about your change of heart regarding children and worried about her future".  Also state your problem succinctly  and less is more.  (19:42) Barbara: I have had 2 annulments. I am at the point where I want to get married again. I am dating someone. What should do in order not to rush things? (31:24 )Break 2 What to do if wife lusts after another man at Church and have feelings of jealousy and driving a wedge between the couple.  (38:29) Doug gives advice on how to keep things civil during Thanksgiving (39:47) What to do about daughter in law who doesn't want kids and hates the Church? (47:21)

Doug is joined by marriage therapist Greg Schutte, MSW, LISW-S, for a thoughtful conversation on how to bring gratitude into marriage and into all of our relationships. Together they explore practical ways to cultivate thankfulness, strengthen emotional connection, and build a home grounded in appreciation and grace.   Listener Questions and Comments: (12:47) Mary: Shares that her son and daughter-in-law have told her she cannot bring God into their home. She asks how to move forward when her daughter-in-law doesn’t want to speak with her and they are unable to see their grandchild, despite the couple being married 10 years.   (24:20) Ron: Asks how to distinguish between a matrimonial marriage and a sacramental marriage. He’s been married 41 years and references beginning with an engagement encounter.   (35:57) Jane: Wants advice on how to approach her daughter’s non-practicing Catholic fiancé about completing a marriage preparation program, including how to share it with him online and what to say to encourage them. Resources: Catholic Therapists https://catholictherapists.com/   Catholic Psychotherapy https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Dr. Sean Tobin joins Doug to discuss the role the devil plays in disrupting harmony in marriage.   Listener questions and comments Sarah - When I get in fights with my husband, he will say, 'the devil made me do it.' It sounds like a scapegoat to me. (29:10) Deedee - I was married to a man from the Middle East, and I’m Hispanic. Our cultures have different levels of affection. What should we do about this? (37:16) David - I am divorced, but I am staying faithful to my marriage because I believe it was sacramental. She put a protection order against me. How do I get through to her without breaking it? (45:52)   Resources: Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle  

Doug responds to letters about a controlling wife and a lazy husband, reflects on the role of shared values in marriage, and considers how men can keep their identity in family life. He also takes on a heartfelt question from a wife supporting her husband through parenting challenges and financial stress.   Listener questions and comments: Bobby – After my divorce, I’ve realized how essential it is to marry someone with the same core values. (17:13) Mike – Can a man keep his identity without getting lost in his wife? (24:26) Addison – My husband feels like a bad father because of our autistic son and money struggles. How can I best support him? (34:54) Doug - When it comes to giving in, the key is communicating how important an issue really is. (41:09)   Resources: Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Doug invites author Leila Miller to discuss a powerful and often overlooked reality — the men and women who suffer the pain of divorce yet choose to remain faithful to their vows. Together, they explore stories of hope, steadfast love, and the deeper meaning of commitment even when a marriage ends in separation.   Listener Questions and Comments:   Mary: Shares how her father remained faithful to his vows even after her mother left and obtained an annulment. As the oldest of seven children, she credits her father’s daily Rosary and faithfulness with saving her soul. (21:56) Patrick: Describes himself as a “stander” — someone who remains faithful to marriage vows after divorce without seeking annulment — and reflects on the challenges and misconceptions that come with that choice. (25:17) Mike: Raises concerns about young people’s reluctance to marry due to the high costs of weddings and asks for thoughts on how to overcome these barriers. (29:38)     Resources:  CFMR: https://catholicsformarriagerestoration.com/   Leila Miller: https://www.leilamiller.net/ https://www.amazon.com/dp/0997989327/ref=cm_sw_r_fa_dp_U_Co5EEb40NF6EJ?fbclid=IwAR28wrf8nNEkRoZwVENtRanjxAEuY7Xah8PuqKvUweuM7aNWcTwddgVg-CM   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Dr. Aaron Kheriaty joins Doug to discuss the Christian meaning of human suffering, especially in marriage. Listener questions and comments: Susan - I have an update on my husband, who left me for his mistress. (21:34) Laurel - I lost my husband to divorce. What should I do with the pain and frustration when I should have helped him years before? (28:52 ) Chris - My wife and I experienced turbulence in our engagement, and ever since, we have struggled with forgiveness. (35:51) Teresa - I have been working with Fr. Allen in Southern California, and there aren't many counselors. Where should I go? (42:00)   Resources: Doce Me Passionem Tuam https://www.passionemtuam.org/   Aaron Kheriaty, MD https://www.aaronkheriaty.com/   The Forgiveness Institute https://internationalforgiveness.com/   Catholic Therapists https://catholictherapists.com/   Catholic Psychotherapy https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Damon Owens joins Doug to discuss Communio and the work they are doing with bishops in California to strengthen marriages.     Resources: Damon Owens https://flow.page/damonowens   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Dr. Christine Bacon joins Doug to discuss her book - The Super Couple. PLUS: 6 faulty assumptions of a super marriage.   Listener questions and comments: Kimberly - My husband was in a substance abuse program and I didn't know about it. I found out the hard way. How do I help him from a spouse's point of view. He's not Catholic and he's adamant to divorce me but also wants to be a better father. (18:30) Rosie - How can I mend the relationships in my family? (29:13) Colleen - During my marriage I was abused but we persevered and got help and now we are better! (40:13)   Resources: Dr. Christine Bacon https://www.drchristinebacon.com/radio   The Super Couple: A Formula for Extreme Happiness in Marriage https://www.amazon.com/Super-Couple-Formula-Happiness-Marriage/dp/163393201X   6 Faulty Assumptions They got married "the right way." They learned "super" from their parents. They never endured any major struggles. They were never attracted to others besides their spouse. They couldn't possibly be married to pessimists. They were more alike than different.

Doug opens the mail bag. How can I help a friend whose 60-year-old husband think he’s a woman? When is it ok for me to be angry with my spouse? Is my husband working a lot because he’s trying to avoid me? Doug answers these questions and more.   Listener questions and comments: Penelope - My daughter is trans and I would like to point out the encourage groups through the Church. It’s great for family members like me who have to love these confused youth. (23:44) Dulce - What prayer should I be praying for a husband who works so much for free and is overworking himself? (26:38) Sal - How do I navigate my life after losing my wife? (30:12)   Resources:   EnCourage https://couragerc.org/encourage/   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

What does it mean to be joined together in matrimony? What is the difference between natural and sacramental marriage? Fr. Robert Altier joins Doug to tackle these questions and more.   Listener questions and comments: Robert - If the wife concealed the fact that she was infertile, is that grounds for an annulment? (12:22) Susie - We were married by a protestant minister as non-practicing Catholics. What is the status of our marriage? (23:53) Patrick - What does the Church think about prenuptials? Does the Church frown on that? (29:44) George - Two people are 70. Can they be married if they cannot consummate the marriage? They are open to adopt. (35:55) Richard - If mental illness is not diagnosed until after marriage, is the marriage valid? (39:19) Amy - Is it true that someone who cannot conceive won’t be married by a priest? (41:34)   Resources:   Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   God’s Plan for your Marriage https://godsplanforyourmarriagebook.com/

Have you ever found yourself focusing on your spouse’s defects? Doug discusses the dog biscuit theory of marriage and shares how to drive out the negativity in a relationship by focusing on what positive behaviors your spouse possesses.   Listener questions and comments: Janet - I have a 30-year-old son who is trying to marry. He had a problem with alcohol and he met somebody who works at a bar and this girl is posting revealing photos on her Instagram. What should I do? (38:27) Julie - You are totally right about forgiveness. I was cheated on and found videos of it. I went to counseling thinking I was the problem only to find out it was him. It was only after talking with God that I was able to forgive my ex-husband for what he had done. (42:04)   Steps to turning from the negative to the positive Catch the negative thought Make a different choice Rewrite the story Reward yourself 3 steps to putting the Dog Biscuit Theory into practice Beware of fault finding and criticism Look for what’s right Reward that behavior Repeat Action steps Share appreciations Say please and thank you Make small gestures Cultivate moments of kindness Rewrite the story Be kind

Dr. Stephanie Kafie joins Doug to discuss the health dangers of artificial contraception and the advantages of Natural Family Planning.   Listener questions and comments: Christina - Where does birth control come from? why was it invented? (21:20) Rita - I have been married for 25 years and use NFP. I am getting closer to menopause what are my options? (23:57) Liz - I used NFP to get pregnant. I had low progesterone and found out by using NFP and it fixed the problem so I could conceive. (37:18) Cecilia - I want to share how I taught my children about this. (41:57) Rhonda - I was given folic acid when my body really needed folate which is the natural version. (45:48)   Resources:   Marquette Method https://www.marquettemethod.com/   Marquette Method of NFP: Getting Started Guide https://www.vitaefertility.com/what-is-the-marquette-method-of-nfp/   Totally Yours: The Catholic Natural Family Planning Handbook https://www.totallyyoursfamilymedicine.com/nfpbook

Doug unpacks the importance of shared passions and interests in a relationship. He shares how finding out what your shared passions and interests are, leads to strong friendship and better marriages.   Listener questions and comments: Chris - When I ask my wife about her day it usually is bland. How do we get past the small talk? (30:10) Anna - My son confessed that he cheated on his wife a few years ago. He confessed to the priest but he never told her. He feels like if he says it to her, it will end the marriage. (41:11) Angelica - My neighbor doesn’t like my dogs and it makes me feel angry. How can I handle this anger? (49:58)

Monica Hinderer joins Doug to finish their discussion on how parents can teach good communication skills to give children confidence and self-reliance.   Episode guide Expanding our children’s vocabulary (4:30) Teenage emotions after a divorce (14:52) Practicing gratitude and kind words (21:08) Handling disagreements with respect (30:37)   Listener questions and comments: Adrianna - My older children are really into video games and they won’t go to daily Mass with me. What should I do? (40:20)

Michael Pakaluk joins Doug to discuss the news of the opening of Ruth Pakaluk’s cause for canonization.

Doug unpacks the difference between love and emotional connection. He shares what love is and how to reignite the emotional connection in your marriage through asking open ended questions, showing appreciation, and making a bids for connection.   Listener questions and comments: Suzie - How do I respond to a husband who says 'I'm a guy and I don’t talk about that', and he shuts down. What do I say to him? (40:57)   Building a strong emotional connection Ask open-ended questions Show appreciation Make bids for connection   Recipe for success Know your spouse’s inner world Ask your spouse questions inviting them to be vulnerable Notice the positive and let your spouse know Look at your spouse when they make a bid for connection Make and respond to lots of bids for connection

Is alcohol having a negative impact on your marriage? Is it difficult to talk to your spouse about their drinking problem? Today, Doug shares how alcohol can harm marriages. He also discusses marital intimacy when age or illness makes intercourse impossible.   5 types of intimacy Spiritual intimacy Emotional intimacy Intellectual intimacy Physical intimacy Recreational/social intimacy

Doug explores the marriages of St. Adelaide and St. Gangulphus and reflects on Our Blessed Mother’s protection of families under the title Mother of Fairest Love. JL Marti joins the conversation to share insight on the beauty and strength of Fairest Love. Resources:   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/   Home - Fairest Love Family Project

Are you concerned about your child's ability to communicate? Monica Hinderer joins Doug as they continue their discussion on how to turn our children into excellent communicators.   Listener questions and comments: Rae - What if the person is talking too much and he just repeats himself and I can never get a word in. He gets offended because 'he wasn't done'. (18:35) Gerrard - When I speak to my kids I use the same method with my employees. I communicate a purpose and then the need. (23:36) Maribel - Do you have any training for parents who need to control their emotions? (45:46)

Doug continues to discuss how to strengthen the emotional connection with your spouse. He also tackles the question of what to do if your spouse accuses you of being too religious.   Listener questions and comments: Maryalice - I am meeting guys who are single or divorced and they are not empathetic but very selfish. They just talk about themselves. Before people are married shouldn’t they have figured out that they are selfish people? (27:28) Suzanne - I remarried two years ago and it’s been challenging. I feel like there are a lot of things I can’t tell my husband. (32:22) Deedee - What does the gospel say about to how to stay married? (41:25)   Resources:   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/   Catholic Therapists https://catholictherapists.com/   Key elements for a strong emotional connection Trust Respect Empathy Communication Friendship   Ways to connect emotionally with your spouse Talk openly and often Do things together Practice empathy and curiosity Show appreciation Build daily rituals of connection Be open and vulnerable

Do you feel as emotionally safe with your spouse today as when you were married? Are you concerned your hearts are drifting apart? Are you afraid to be emotionally vulnerable? Today, Doug unpacks the importance of emotional connection in marriage and how to regain it if you’ve lost it.   Listener questions and comments: Ron - We're having difficulty because my wife doesn't believe in matrimonial marriage. The vows that we took with each other don't apply to her as they do to me. We’ve been married for 41 years. (23:08) Peter - I'm a caregiver for my wife. She has dementia and it's getting worse.  It's like she doesn't believe in me and I have no emotional help. How do I deal with this? (30:00) Dick - After 46 years of marriage, we've been different all this time. I'm more social than she is. How do I bring back the fun-loving person I knew 46 years ago? (37:20) Zach - After you have a child with your wife and she becomes a different person, how do you remind her of how much fun you used to have? We have been married for 2 years. (41:17) Lori - My marriage of 28 years has been good. There have been some bumps, but we're best friends more than anything. (45:07)   Resources:   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/   Catholic Therapists https://catholictherapists.com/   Key elements for a strong emotional connection Trust Respect Empathy Communication Friendship

Doug shares highlights from his Pilgrimage to Rome. He also goes to the mailbag. How can you pass the faith on without coming on too strong? How can you help a married son whose marriage is in trouble but he doesn’t want help? How do you fix communication problems? Doug answers these questions and more.   Listener questions and comments: Gina - My daughter left the Church and she is going to therapy but she is getting worse. What can I do to help her? (44:45)   Resources:   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/   Catholic Therapists https://catholictherapists.com/   Fight Right https://www.amazon.com/Fight-Right-Successful-Conflict-Connection/dp/0593579658   Seven Principals to make marriage work https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718   Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled https://www.amazon.com/Marriage-Rules-Manual-Married-Coupled/dp/1592407455   5 Steps to overcoming pride Awareness Obedience Embracing constructive criticism Service Prayer

What happens if you lose faith in your husband? What do you do if there is physical abuse in your marriage? What do you do when you learn secrets about your spouse's past? Doug answers these questions and more. Plus: The Friday Rant! Listener questions and comments: Rebecca - My husband is going through a midlife crisis and has left the family. What should I do? (20:03) Erica - Why would adultery at any time during marriage not count for an annulment? (37:41) Resources: Rekindled Hearts - Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle

Guest host Monica Hinderer is joined by her guest Fr. Joe Hinderer to continue their discussion on the importance of sibling relationships in childhood and beyond. They discuss conflict and how to repair relationships by respecting boundaries and leaving the door open to reconciliation.   Listener questions and comments: Dee - I have a sibling who took money from my mother and I had to fix the issue. How do I deal with hurt after forgiving? (18:59) Sheila - How do you deal with brother and sister in-laws? They come with their own problems along with their spouse. (32:23) Diane - I have an older sister and a younger brother and I’m the only one who talks to both of them. The other two don’t talk to each other. (42:39)

Guest host Monica Hinderer is joined by Julie Larkin to discuss inner child work and how to deal with emotional wounds. They share the value of true affirmation and forgiveness, pointing to God’s unconditional love.   Listener questions and comments: Jose - I have been angry at my mother and I find it difficult. She used to treat me with violence. I still live at home at 32. (23:51) Gloria - I am a speech therapist and I have seen that some of my students have a hard time with picking up on social cues and discerning emotions in others. Do you think therapy could help them? (28:35) Mary - I started healing through the JPII center and I have found that my pain is from my absent father. (38:00) Jackie - I found great comfort after leaning into my faith after trauma from childhood. (43:51) Eli - What program for mental health coaching is reliable? (47:49)   Resources: Vita Optimum Counseling and Consulting https://www.vitaoptimumcounseling.com/   Girl Talk https://www.girltalk.org   Born Only Once, Third Edition: The Miracle of Affirmation https://www.amazon.com/Born-Only-Once-Third-Affirmation/dp/1498288154

Jonathan Marcotte joins Doug to discuss the impact of childhood attachment wounds in marriage.   Listener questions and comments: John - I have an anxiety disorder that upsets my wife, and it causes tension in our marriage. What advice do you have that can help us? (24:09) Maria - Sometimes my husband makes comments that can be demeaning, and I tend to shut down. What should I do? (36:55)   Resources:    Sacred Ground Psychotherapy https://www.sgpsych.com/   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Guest host Monica Hinderer is joined by her guest Stephanie Sullivan to discuss how to maintain relationships through conversion.   Listener questions and comments: Joni - My daughter was raised Catholic but got married to a Baptist in her husband's Church, but recently she said she wants to talk to the priest after a year of marriage. (24:04) Mary - My husband was not Catholic when I got married. I would say that I don’t suggest it for those considering marrying someone who isn't Catholic. (46:19)

Dr. Mario Sacasa joins Doug to discuss the challenges of dating in the current culture, and they explore possible solutions. Listener questions and comments: Janelle - I want to offer some encouragement as a single woman to young men. (29:49) Walt - I've been married for 35 years. I met my wife at a pro-life movement. This is a good place to meet. (36:34) Brett - How do you overcome fear in dating? What’s a normal way to ask a girl out? (40:03) Deborah - What do you think about arranged marriages? (43:20) Sarah - Not everyone is meant to find a mate in this world. (45:41)

Guest host Monica Hinderer is joined by her brother Fr. Joe Hinderer to discuss the importance of sibling relationships in childhood and beyond.   Listener questions and comments: Mary - I long for closer relationships with my siblings and it has caused me tremendous suffering. They don't know how to reciprocate. (15:36) Julie - Sometimes with boys there is a violent transition from closely bonded brothers to separated adults and I am wondering if you have a comment on this. (23:54) Haley - How do I balance responding to a prodigal sibling situation. If and when they come back, how do I forgive them? (29:02) Jo - You said that healthy relationships with siblings will help you. What about kids who have no siblings? What can we do to help with that? (35:11) Dana - I have two older sisters, and they don't talk to me because I voted for Trump. What should I do? (43:01)

Doug shares phrases you can say to your spouse that will breathe new life into your marriage.   Listener questions and comments: Dan - There is a tiny fraction of a second to make a decision, and say 'I feel this' and 'I feel that', and step back and evaluate before screwing up. (19:35) Dave - I'm having marital issues, and we're about to separate. We have been together for 14 years, and my adult stepchildren hate me. (36:35)   Resources: Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Phrases that will help your marriage I appreciate you when you do this. I feel… How can we improve our relationship? I understand where you’re coming from. What can I do to make things better? I apologize for_________________. Can we talk more about this?

Guest host Monica Hinderer shares 7 tools to help your children build resilience.   Listener questions and comments: Addison - I have an autistic son and I am wondering what advice you could give on how to teach him resilience. (18:37) Jane - My daughter is 10 and she is going through a phase of challenging everything. She won’t take responsibility and doesn't like being reminded about things. (22:40) Olga - My husband’s criticism of our son is not constructive. How do I approach him? (28:04) Michael - How do you handle a kid who does a really poor job so you don’t make them do it anymore? (35:19) Elizabeth - My daughter is using an audio resource to help her with her homework in college. Should I be concerned? (42:39) Richard - My son hasn’t talked to me in a year and I need some help. He said he would be neutral in the divorce but he picked a side. (46:10)   Resources:   Raising Resilient Children https://ifstudies.org/blog/raising-resilient-children   Raising Mentally Strong Children http://bit.ly/4q9wmJ1

Doug goes to the mailbag. What does the Church teach regarding intimacy when you are beyond childbearing years? What should you do when teasing goes too far? How do you develop virtuous friendships even after you have been married a while? Doug answers these questions and more.   Listener questions and comments: Frank – How do I go to confession when it is difficult to find a priest? (21:55) Sandy - I have been married for 22 years. Before we got married, my husband had a sexual relationship with another person while we were dating. He also had an affair 4 years into our marriage. What should I do? (25:04) Anna - My husband is enmeshed with his family. It got really bad, and he filed for divorce 2 1/2 years ago, but decided to work on our marriage. We went to therapy, but he’s not applying anything. What should I do? (40:10)   Resources:   The Forgiveness Institute https://internationalforgiveness.com/   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Doug unpacks 10 ways you know you have found the one. Doug also shares common misconceptions and practical steps to help you understand if the person you are dating is the right one to spend the rest of your life with. PLUS: The Friday rant!   Resources:   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/   Reasons you know you have found the one You enjoy spending time together. You have open and honest communication with vulnerability. Your core virtues and values align. Mutual trust and respect are firm foundations in the relationship. You can navigate conflicts constructively. You support each other’s personal growth. They bring out the best version of you. Your friends and family notice your happiness. Moments apart strengthen your relationship. Your relationship is balanced, healthy, and secure.   Common misconceptions It must be love at first sight. Having doubts doesn’t mean they are not the one.   Practical steps to understand if this is the one Reflect on your relationship dynamic. Seek feedback and insight. Consider professional relationship counseling. Recognize healthy relationship patterns and red flags. Know how and when to trust your instincts.

Are you concerned about your child's ability to communicate? Monica Hinderer joins Doug discussing how to teach children to communicate with confidence.   Listener questions and comments: Michelle - I love your station. You guys are the best. (48:01)   Resources:   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Dr. Edward Sri joins Doug to discuss his book: Men, Women, and the mystery of Love.   Listener questions and comments: Melissa - I have been with my 'partner' for 18 years and we are not married. We have children but I wonder if he really loves me. (21:10) Diane - I got Divorced and one of his problems was he didn't have any family and I assumed having kids and me was enough, but it wasn’t. (35:03) Catherine - You never answered the question of whether she is living in mortal sin. (40:24)   Resources: Men, Women & Mystery of Love https://paulinestore.com/men-women--mystery-of-love-practical-insights-from-john-paul-ii-5815-171681.html   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

 Doug invites author Leila Miller to discuss a powerful and often overlooked reality — the men and women who suffer the pain of divorce yet choose to remain faithful to their vows. Together, they explore stories of hope, steadfast love, and the deeper meaning of commitment even when a marriage ends in separation. Listener Questions and Comments: (22:05) Mary: Shares how her father remained faithful to his vows even after her mother left and obtained an annulment. As the oldest of seven children, she credits her father’s daily Rosary and faithfulness with saving her soul. (25:23) Patrick: Describes himself as a “stander” — someone who remains faithful to marriage vows after divorce without seeking annulment — and reflects on the challenges and misconceptions that come with that choice. (29:48) Mike: Raises concerns about young people’s reluctance to marry due to the high costs of weddings and asks for thoughts on how to overcome these barriers.     Resources:  CFMR: https://catholicsformarriagerestoration.com/   Leila Miller: https://www.leilamiller.net/ https://www.amazon.com/dp/0997989327/ref=cm_sw_r_fa_dp_U_Co5EEb40NF6EJ?fbclid=IwAR28wrf8nNEkRoZwVENtRanjxAEuY7Xah8PuqKvUweuM7aNWcTwddgVg-CM   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Conflict is a part of married life, but can you still have a good marriage if you argue from time to time? Today, Doug shares how conflict can actually improve your marriage.   Listener questions and comments: Maria - My husband will ask pin pointed questions and I’ll give him the answer but he will respond with his own answer and its feeling very confrontational. (13:00) Deedee - What causes a man to stonewall? (42:23) Lily - Give me something else because none of this works. My husband won’t have a conversation. (45:38)   Resources:   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Dr. Aaron Kheriaty joins Doug discussing the Christian meaning of human suffering, especially in marriage. Listener questions and comments: Susan - I have an update on my husband who left me for his mistress. (21:42) Laurel - I lost my husband to divorce. What should I do with the pain and frustration when I should have helped him years before. (29:58) Chris - My wife and I experienced turbulence in our engagement and ever since, we struggle with forgiveness. (36:59) Teresa - I have been working with Fr. Allen in Southern California and there aren't a ton of counselors. Where should I go? (43:08)   Resources: Doce Me Passionem Tuam https://www.passionemtuam.org/   Aaron Kheriaty, MD https://www.aaronkheriaty.com/   The Forgiveness Institute https://internationalforgiveness.com/   Catholic Therapists https://catholictherapists.com/   Catholic Psychotherapy https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Are you having communication issues in your marriage or with your children? Monica Hinderer joins Doug discussing essential communication skills parents should teach their children.   Listener questions and comments: Jen - How do I prompt my husband who is a bit ADD and absent minded? (23:23) Steve - If you don’t write it down I’ll forget it. (37:09) Michael - How do you address the guardian angel if they are neither male or female? (38:16) Pete - I’m a Cubs fan and my wife is Sox fan. is it wrong to pretend to like her team to get rewarded? (40:21) Pete - How do you address communication loss in a friendship. (41:10) Tine Marie - I had a fever for several days and the Lord healed me through the intercession of the Blessed Mother. (46:11)   Resources:   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Doug goes to the mailbag. What is the true meaning of Ephesians 5? PLUS: The struggles of a 30-year-old who has failed to launch, and what to do about a husband who drinks and drives with children in the car.   Listener questions and comments: Sarah - Why is God saying this to women but not saying it to men? Why is it not the same across the board? (20:57) Deedee - Why is it so difficult to be married. What are the challenges for unmarried people? (37:16)   Resources: Catholic Therapists https://catholictherapists.com/   Catholic Psychotherapy https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Damon Owens joins Doug to discuss Communio and the work they are doing with bishops in California to strengthen marriages.     Resources: Damon Owens https://flow.page/damonowens   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Have you ever used ChatGPT to better understand your spouse? Have you used AI to help you understand your spouse's emotions? Today, Doug discusses the harm ChatGPT is doing to marriages.   Listener questions and comments: John - My friend used ChatGPT to do therapy but he kept it from his girlfriend. It led to the end of their relationship. (21:34) Angelica - I used AI to be playful with my husband. (35:55)   Resources:   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/

Have you found the secret to a happy marriage? What advice would you give your children on their wedding day? Today, Doug continues to unpack marriage advice from 20 older men. PLUS: The Friday rant.   Listener questions and comments: Lorna - What do you do when your spouse is a narcissist? We have been married for 30 years and have adult children. (12:01) Paul - Marriage is a chance for sacrifice. (19:46) Nancy - My husband worked in construction, and he worked on the side. He made a living and took care of our 14 children. (38:37) Deedee - I’m a widow. Is it possible to have a good second marriage compared to your first husband? (44:18)   Resources:   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/   Advice from older men Argue to understand, not to win. Be complete people as individuals. Remember that creativity is key. Prioritize each other. Let go of selfishness. Respect your spouse even if it means passing up a good joke. Have each other’s backs. Learn to cook for each other. Reaffirm your commitment. Check in with each other. Let them vent. Stay faithful. Mind your money. Pick your battles. Be generous with signs of affection. Be best friends. Remember that she is important. Retain your individuality. Kiss like you mean it. Marry the right person. Doug’s advice: The man has the last word: ‘Yes, dear.’

How do you correct your children without criticizing them? Monica Hinderer joins Doug discussing how constant criticism harms your children and how focusing on your child’s unique strengths is part of the solution to raising confident children.   Listener questions and comments: Len - You guys do a great job. What made Monica want to go into her dad’s profession? (18:16) Bob - On low self-esteem: I think low self-esteem is a virtue. It seems like the best people have had low self-esteem. (20:48) Peter - I'm a parent of four. When my three little girls were young, a lady told me 'don't be too hard on them because if so, they'll jump into another man’s arms too early’. (25:54) Marie - I have a son who is 49 years old. He's very adamantly opposed to me and is angry with me. I'm not sure why. (36:44) Sharon - My father was very critical and he was an alcoholic, even though he was very well-achieved. (43:06) Deedee - What if that child grew up to be an overachiever, after growing up in an overly critical home? (48:25)   Resources: Catholic Therapists https://catholictherapists.com/   Catholic Psychotherapy https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/   Negative outcomes of criticism   Low self esteem Perfectionism Negative self-talk Difficulty accepting compliments Tendency towards being hypercritical Becoming hyper defensive Becoming people pleasers Becoming too self-reliant Social anxiety Comparing  Constant apology

Doug shares how to have a happy marriage according to the advice from 20 older men. Listener questions and comments: Vito - I know the secret: Include the Lord in everything in your marriage. (11:07) Christie - Seriously you need to pray for your spouse and with your spouse. It’s hard to stay mad when you pray with and for them. Also, have two bathrooms if possible. (12:35) Peter - My wife and I were married for 55 years. We went to marriage counseling and talked about things before we got married. We had lots of discussion before and during the marriage. (15:07) Erika - 25 years of marriage taught me not to go to bed mad. You say goodnight and you say I love you. (20:08) Kimmie - When you fight, always think before you say something because you can't take something back. (22:27) Dan - I think that codependency is the key to a happy marriage. (24:37) Michelle I have been married for 41 years. I think physical intimacy is important throughout the marriage. (27:52) Mary - What do you do as far as a man desiring the marital act when there are factors that make it impossible for us. (38:24) Keith - What if both people are Catholic but there is a medical issue and the woman can’t perform? (43:12)   Resources:   Marriage Unhindered https://www.marriageunhindered.com/   Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle   Happy Marriage for Life https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/   Advice from older men Argue to understand, not to win. Be complete people as individuals. Remember that creativity is key. Prioritize each other. Let go of selfishness. Respect your spouse even if it means passing up a good joke. Have each other’s backs. Learn to cook for each other. Reaffirm your commitment. Let them vent. Be faithful.