(5:14) – Doug discusses: Feel –> Think ->  Do Which occurs in Marriage (22:20) Break 1 Dug discusses a book called Resilient Relationships and 6 features of a good relationships and how it relates with the four different kinds of love. (28:11) Doug shares his list. 1. Commitment – 2. Empathy – 3.  Humility – 4. Forgiveness. (34:39) Break 2 (35:40) Cindy - my husband and I like to use humor a lot. It tends to soften things even when we are mad, we try to use it (41:06) - Top Complaints husbands and wives have about the other one.

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Part 2: Bob Atwell re-joins Doug to discuss divorce. (16:36) Break 1 Caller – Anne – Oregon - Should I divorce my husband? I get different opinions from different priests. I married a man who is Catholic but now, 30 years later God is not in his life. He is a narcissist. Everything is all about money and football. Caller – Belle - My husband and I are living like roommates. I want to go to counseling, but he does not. There is no romance and he is emotionally unavailable. How can you help? Caller – Matt - Do you know anyone who can help? I have been falsely accused and my kids were taken away and I can't take them to Church. (37:27) Break 2 Joe - The good that comes from counseling. My wife and I were going through marriage counseling and I was diagnosed with ADD and then everything made more sense and it really helped our marriage survive. Doug and Bob – Closing comments.

Bot Atwell joins Doug to discuss growing up in a divorced home. (19:36) Break 1 Linda - Divorce affects even grown children. Divorce is very hard. Linda is divorced. Susanna - What about children that grew up / are growing up in a situation where the parents are always fighting? (33:51) Gavin - Widower - Any information on children that grow up in single parent household where the other parent is deceased. (36:55) Break 2 Teresa - Was married for 38 years and husband just left. Has 7 kids. Husband was molested as a kid. What saved wife was rejoice married ministries. Leslie - Wants to comment on staying together for the kids. Make a commitment to work on the marriage. (43:25) Advice for parents who are considering divorce and advice for children who have divorced parents.

(8:28) #4 No marriage can last or survive without forgiveness (16:47) Break 1 (22:31) Heroic love of a wife (25:36) Caller - Mary Alice - I was married long ago and it ended in divorce and annulment. My biggest mistake was he was not Catholic. (31:38) Caller - Richard - Seeking help is so true. My wife and I have been married 14 years and we went into Marriage therapy which helped out so much. Cross of infertility. Blessing of foster kids (36:12) Break 2 (38:54) Clare - When is it appropriate to call it quits in a marriage and think of divorce. My husband separated 9 months ago and is having an affair. Emotionally abusive. What should I do?

How does the sacrifice of Jesus on the Cross relate to Marriage? Doug emphasizes 6 points to help your marriage thought this show. (10:51) – Steve - I've been married for 37 years; I'm going through a lot of pain.  We haven't had much of a marriage for 16 years, been through counseling, retrouvaille.  My wife doesn't want to live as husband/wife anymore.  What to do? (18:34) Break 1 (23:59) – Jim - Two marriages that were exceptionally good.  Mom/Dad were 59 years, and I was married for 52 years, and they were both joyful events.  My wife passed away 4 months ago. (31:30) Break 2 Mary - How I could best train my husband to be a better husband? Been married 17 years, we were both in our 40s, don't have children. (36:13) Martha - I was wondering where and when emotional abuse has occurred, what view does the Catholic Church have in terms of divorcing b/c of that? Pamela - We've been married 42 years, got married young.  He was verbally abusive, had an affair, but we stayed together.  25 years in, I discovered the affair. Jennifer - My husband and I hare having an argument about selling our house or keeping it, and what are we to do? Come back next week to get the rest of the 6 tips from Doug!

(0:00) Segment 1 (4:57) Email - How do I know what to let go of... (8:51) Email - Silent treatment.... (11:41) The need to become securely attached to our spouse (17:37) Segment 2 (18:20) The different attachment styles - negative and positive (24:15) Health benefits of a healthy attachment style (28:49) How to listen to your spouse (32:07) Segment 3 (33:11) Caller - Mary - How can I be a better listener to my husband? (36:19) Caller - Ed - My wife and I hug 5x a day and God is the head of my marriage (37:38) What NOT to do when communicating with your spouse (45:45) 5 questions to ask your spouse on date night, if you’re feeling brave

(5:01) – Doug helps Shannon discern who to Marry? (10:22) – Doug discusses how emotions and behaviors are connected in a relationship. (14:32) Break 1 (16:10) - How to improve your marriage without the help of your spouse? Doug shares 4 secrets. Becky - Loves the title of the show today! (23:37) – (Continued) How to improve your marriage without the help of your spouse? Doug shares 4 secrets. (33:21) Break 2 Doug answers an email about how to find a good Catholic therapist.  https://www.catholictherapists.com/ Barbara - Marriage advice - Do 3 kind acts a day for your spouse (37:46) - Doug Shares how to find out what will be bad for your marriage. Joanie - Parents fell in love at 13 and 15. Wants to give testimony

(0:00) Segment 1 (3:28) Marriage Unhindered Website and Marriage Tune Up Course (6:34) Signs of an emotionally unavailable spouse (12:47) Caller - Shannon – Does her anxiety mean she was rushing into getting married? (20:27) Break (21:00) Segment 2 (22:53) Client that had issues with being emotionally unavailable had childhood trauma (27:42) Caller - Bridgette – Son’s marriage ended what should she do? (33:14) Break (33:30) Segment 3 (33:42) How to live with a spouse who is emotionally distant (39:42) Use “I” Statements formula to communicate what we need (43:52) Caller - Michael – Separated and wondering if there is anything he can do to save the marriage

(0:00) Introduction (2:12) Segment 1: Forgiveness (5:07 ) Story of forgiveness through affairs. Forgiveness is a commandment (17:23) Segment 2 – St Augustine quote (19:04) Call – Glen - 'I forgive you, but I don't forget' (28:28) Drop the weights of past hurts (34:05) Segment 3 - Internationalforgivness.com (39:23) Call - Fay - Story of Forgiveness (42:20) Call - Jane - Asked about forgiveness and justice (44:50) St. John Paul's story of forgiveness

(0:33) intro (5:43) - Storge – Affection (9:06) – Gratitude and it’s importance Focus on the Positive (12:08) Francesca – Allowance for husband and wife to lessen financial arguments (19:16) Break 1 (25:42) - Email – Woman married to a narcissist for 40 years (33:35) Break 2 (39:34) - Phone Call – Friend married to narcissist who is addicted to Porn. Is this a sacramental marriage?

 (5:58) Agape Love and characteristics of saints Sandra - Taking care of 2-1/2-year-old grandson with special needs. Wants to make sure that she navigates things correctly with her husband throughout this time. (15:58) Doug talks about how saint Rita can help with our relationships. (18:12) Break 1 Diana - Would like to comment on how marriage has helped her grow in virtue. Cathy - Wants to know about counselors and help for her marriage – Doug recommends a Great site for people who are needing a good Catholic theorist https://www.catholictherapists.com/ (24:12)Monica, a licensed therapist, comes on the show to talk about addiction in relationships and how to handle them. Reach Monica Hinderer at Monicahinderer.com Here are some books recommended by Monica to help you with addiction in your relationship. Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening: Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening: Robert J. Meyers, Brenda L. Wolfe: 9781592850815: Amazon.com: Books Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change: Amazon.com : beyond addiction book (34:04) Break 2 Doug helps a young listener about how to navigate “affection” in a relationship. “Knowing the Love of God” by Reginald Garrigou-Lagrange. (43:46) Doug talks about a three-part formula on how to talk with your spouse in a gentle way.

4 different kinds of Love (19:47) Break 1 Greg - called in to thank Doug for a great show Look for a person who can fight fair (35:18) Break 2 Amy called in to ask if we grow out of issues if married young (42:07) – Kailee called about dating older man who had been married twice already. Best of the week – Into the Fool Proof Test – Ask your family and friends.

(2:38) Forgiveness isn’t optional, it’s a commandment. (12:07) Scott - Wanted to comment about forgiveness. It is a choice. (13:03) – Paul - Comment about forgiveness. Married for 32 years. Wife's idea of calling a truce. (19:41) Break 1 (21:48) - 4 Steps in the forgiveness process. (30:51) – Sandra - How to deal with the betrayal of husband having an 'emotional affair'? Married 35 years. (37:10) Break 2 (38:22) Doug reads an email about Pornography in a listener’s marriage and gives advice about how to deal with this issues in your marriage. (47:52) Doug Recommends some sites to help people overcome porn addiction:  integrityrestored.com catholicinrecovery.com purityispossible.com fightthenewdrug.com thekingsmen.org soulsandhearts.com

(3:10) – Conflict cannot be eliminated; it must be managed (9:44) – email. Wife writing in about the way they correct the children (17:20)– The way the devil attacks spouses (20:29) Break 1 Deep love and friendship (32:08) - email. Wife growing in her faith. Husband does not practice. Break 2 (37:56) Call. Mel. “For someone who is a distancer, how can I improve my relations.” (46:48) Scott - In my experience not being able to open up has to do with Childhood dysfunction.

Struggling in your marriage? You found the right show. Marriage Unhindered is here to help you navigate your relationship. Today we cover everything from patience to "gentle conversations" Check it out!  David - Married 34 years and very happy and would like to share some experiences. Natalie - I am divorced and feel guilty about what happened. How do I deal with this? (18:08) Break 1 Young Thomas asks a question about not rushing into a relationship. Mary - Mother of 6. Married for 31 years. Oldest child, who is a doctor, is not dating the right guy. Needs advice on how to handle. (30:40) Anne - Having difficulty adjusting to husband's retirement.  (35:28) Break 2 (36:57) “Gentle Conversations” Doug shares a pro tip in how to communicate in your marriage. Marci - Married for 10 years and then separated for a year due to infidelity. Was able to work through it and is back together. Gail - Wants to relate that she has been married for 37 years. Husband was a difficult person when first married. Husband has stayed through her losing her leg and son becoming a quadriplegic. (45:46) Grace - Struggling. Moved to Atlanta when married. Wants to get back to family environment up North.