This week I was over the moon to be speaking with my dear friend Kelsey Grant. Kelsey is an absolute goddess on all things relationships, intimacy, and sex! We got really real on intimacy in every way, how sex relates to connection and visa versa. We got into the juiciest parts of relationship and shared our own pasts on the highest highs and lowest lows - commitment, patterns, past hurts, cheating, breaking up, growing and knowing ourselves.

Episode Highlights

5min: Sexual intimacy and communication - whats the link?

8min: The vulnerability in sex - can you hide yourself and still enjoy climax?

10min: The differences between men and women when it comes to sex and connection.

12min: Integrity, cheating and shame.

14min: Pleasure and growth, how we change over time.

17min: Connection to self and ghosting, looking at it from both sides. When Mark was like a “Mt Everest Basecamp” of red flags

20min: Honesty in dating - are you dating just to date - to find a partner - to just have fun?

21min: Narcissism is a massive buzzword at the moment, but is it really narcissism?

25min: Taking responsibility in relationships and in life. You aren’t responsible for anyone else’s behaviour, but you are responsible for your own.

29min: The power dynamic in ‘saving’ someone.

32min: Breaking up and moving into a new relationship.

34min: Infidelity, the pain, the grief and the healing.

39min: Finding self love through our suffering.

43min: Mark’s ‘yoghurt and granola breakup’ story, what breakups are here to teach us.

54min: Kelsey’s relationship with a well known public figure - the deeper the connection the deeper the triggers and fears.

56min: Finding safety when we are in fear from past triggers.

59min: Trust and friendships with the opposite sex, does your partner trust your opposite sex friends?

1.06min: Family enmeshment and intimate relationships, they don’t gel!

1.10min: Getting started in making connections when you’re single - building the relationship skill set .

Episode Notes

Kelsey Grant - My entire life has been focused around relationships and how to get the love you want. As I’ve grown and shifted my ideas of what I wanted evolved as I did. The person I have grown into has given me access to learning, experimenting and through direct experience understand that which I was searching for in a relationship.

When I found it I thought that was it. I was done. That area of my life was complete. There was one catch though. I hadn’t yet learned how to really love myself. So the relationship ended. The universe works in mysteriously incredible ways. The breakup was exactly what I needed to actually for once look at my relationship to myself and understand I was at cause for all I was experiencing. I finally had to take a real look at my self confidence, self esteem, self worth and self love.

Through my journey of self love I was able to repair relationships of all kinds in my life, build my self esteem and self worth to levels they had never been before and ultimately begin to be the love I had be so intensely searching for in another. Once I was able to build this relationship with myself my love life flourished along with all the other areas of my life.

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