Talking points: fatherhood, abandonment, depression, coping

Every so often, I'll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what the men's work at ManTalks is actually like. This week I wanted to feature a client who struggles with something I'm deeply familiar with: knowing what the work is AND doing that work, but nothing's really felt "resolved".

Together, we uncover some of what's been keeping his progress in what feels like stasis. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and what my guest wants to work on
(00:04:26) - What’s disruptive for you about being rejected?
(00:08:35) - The complexities of divorce
(00:13:52) - “I don’t really get angry”
(00:19:07) - Movement, at times, requires anger
(00:26:21) - Talking to your 8-year-old self
(00:30:35) - What 8-year-old-you might say back
(00:33:24) - The Homework

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Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. 

Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify

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Talking points: fatherhood, abandonment, depression, coping
Every so often, I'll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what the men's work at ManTalks is actually like. This week I wanted to feature a client who struggles with something I'm deeply familiar with: knowing what the work is AND doing that work, but nothing's really felt "resolved".
Together, we uncover some of what's been keeping his progress in what feels like stasis. Listen in.
(00:00:00) - Intro and what my guest wants to work on (00:04:26) - What’s disruptive for you about being rejected? (00:08:35) - The complexities of divorce (00:13:52) - “I don’t really get angry” (00:19:07) - Movement, at times, requires anger (00:26:21) - Talking to your 8-year-old self (00:30:35) - What 8-year-old-you might say back (00:33:24) - The Homework
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This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: <a href="https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/">https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/</a>
Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: <a href="https://mantalks.com/mslp/">https://mantalks.com/mslp/</a>
Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: <a href="https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/">https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/</a>
Check out some free resources: <a href="https://training.mantalks.com/Quit">How To Quit Porn</a> | <a href="https://training.mantalks.com/Anger">Anger Meditation</a> | <a href="https://training.mantalks.com/how-to-lead-in-your-relationship">How To Lead In Your Relationship</a>
Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out <a href="https://mantalks.com/the-alliance">The Alliance</a> and join me today. <a href="https://training.mantalks.com/how-to-lead-in-your-relationship"></a>
Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on <a href="https://mantalks.com/applepodcasts">Apple Podcasts</a>, <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/the-mantalks-podcast">Stitcher</a>, or <a href="https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/mantalks-podcast-1242514">Podchaser</a>. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the <a href="https://mantalks.com/">ManTalks Community</a>, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mantalks-podcast-inspiring/id1015078747?mt=2">Apple Podcasts</a> | <a href="https://mantalks.com/googlepodcasts">Google Podcasts</a>  | <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/7pERITPtcg832IOwgZCF6x?si=7cgdOfmNQ8u2rZ4ovTP92A">Spotify</a>
For more episodes, visit us at <a href="https://mantalks.com/">ManTalks.com</a> | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/ManTalks.ca/">Facebook</a> | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mantalks/?hl=en">Instagram</a> | <a href="https://twitter.com/mantalks">Twitter</a>

The ManTalks podcast features conversations between one of the leading men’s work facilitators and philosopher, Connor Beaton, and world class guests with expertise in mindset, life purpose, psychology, relational communication, sexual intimacy, business and spirituality. 

For more information about ManTalks go to: http://www.mantalks.com

The ManTalks podcast features conversations between one of the leading men&rsquo;s work facilitators and philosopher, Connor Beaton, and world class guests with expertise in mindset, life purpose, psychology, relational communication, sexual intimacy, business and spirituality.&nbsp;
For more information about ManTalks go to: http://www.mantalks.com

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Men's Work Session - Confronting Unresolved Abandonment

Talking points: evolution, psychology, relationships, sexuality

The field of evolutionary psychology has been on my mind a lot lately, but it can be hard to separate the real science from the stuff with an agenda. To that end, I sat down with David C. Geary to dig into the basics, and how even a little knowledge about things like sexual dimorphism and intrasexual aggression can bring a better understanding to modern relationships.

Listen to this one if you want a solid intro to the existence and effects evolution might have on selecting a partner, friendships, overall culture, and more.

(00:00:00) - Intro, defining evolutionary psychology, and what it has to offer in the context of modern relationships
(00:04:59) - The main pillars of sexual selection
(00:09:01) - Describing human sexual dimorphism, brain differences, and possible evolutionary benefits 
(00:21:07) - Why boys tend to be more interested in how objects work in space
(00:28:22) - Why would men have evolved a larger lung capacity? 
(00:30:38) - We don’t compete for mates in the same ways anymore, but are attraction cues the same?
(00:35:06) - Defining intrasexual aggression
(00:44:28) - The evolutionary case for vulnerability
(00:49:28) - David’s take on modern dating
(00:56:29) - What an evolutionary vulnerability really means
(01:02:25) - How are dating and relationships going to shift in the future?

David C. Geary is a cognitive scientist and evolutionary psychologist with interests in mathematical cognition and learning as well as the biological bases of sex differences. After receiving his Ph.D. in 1986 from the University of California at Riverside, he held faculty positions at the University of Texas at El Paso and the University of Missouri, first at the Rolla campus and then in Columbia. Dr. Geary is currently a Curators' Distinguished Professor and a Thomas Jefferson Fellow in the Department of Psychological Sciences and Interdisciplinary Neuroscience Program.

Dr. Geary has written four sole-authored books; Children's mathematical development (1994), Male, female: The evolution of human sex differences (1998, second edition, 2010, third edition 2021), The origin of mind: Evolution of brain, cognition, and general intelligence (2005), and Evolution of vulnerability: Implications for sex differences in health and development (2015), as well as one co-authored book, Sex differences: Summarizing more than a century of scientific research (Ellis et al., 2008).

Connect with David

-Google Scholar: https://scholar.google.com/citations?hl=en&user=bVcpj60AAAAJ

-Quillette: https://quillette.com/author/david-c-geary/

-Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/male-female

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify

For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok

Talking points: evolution, psychology, relationships, sexuality
The field of evolutionary psychology has been on my mind a lot lately, but it can be hard to separate the real science from the stuff with an agenda. To that end, I sat down with David C. Geary to dig into the basics, and how even a little knowledge about things like sexual dimorphism and intrasexual aggression can bring a better understanding to modern relationships.
Listen to this one if you want a solid intro to the existence and effects evolution might have on selecting a partner, friendships, overall culture, and more.
(00:00:00) - Intro, defining evolutionary psychology, and what it has to offer in the context of modern relationships (00:04:59) - The main pillars of sexual selection (00:09:01) - Describing human sexual dimorphism, brain differences, and possible evolutionary benefits  (00:21:07) - Why boys tend to be more interested in how objects work in space (00:28:22) - Why would men have evolved a larger lung capacity?  (00:30:38) - We don’t compete for mates in the same ways anymore, but are attraction cues the same? (00:35:06) - Defining intrasexual aggression (00:44:28) - The evolutionary case for vulnerability (00:49:28) - David’s take on modern dating (00:56:29) - What an evolutionary vulnerability really means (01:02:25) - How are dating and relationships going to shift in the future?
David C. Geary is a cognitive scientist and evolutionary psychologist with interests in mathematical cognition and learning as well as the biological bases of sex differences. After receiving his Ph.D. in 1986 from the University of California at Riverside, he held faculty positions at the University of Texas at El Paso and the University of Missouri, first at the Rolla campus and then in Columbia. Dr. Geary is currently a Curators' Distinguished Professor and a Thomas Jefferson Fellow in the Department of Psychological Sciences and Interdisciplinary Neuroscience Program.
Dr. Geary has written four sole-authored books; Children's mathematical development (1994), Male, female: The evolution of human sex differences (1998, second edition, 2010, third edition 2021), The origin of mind: Evolution of brain, cognition, and general intelligence (2005), and Evolution of vulnerability: Implications for sex differences in health and development (2015), as well as one co-authored book, Sex differences: Summarizing more than a century of scientific research (Ellis et al., 2008).
Connect with David
-Google Scholar: <a href="https://scholar.google.com/citations?hl=en&amp;user=bVcpj60AAAAJ">https://scholar.google.com/citations?hl=en&amp;user=bVcpj60AAAAJ</a>
-Quillette: <a href="https://quillette.com/author/david-c-geary/">https://quillette.com/author/david-c-geary/</a>
-Psychology Today: <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/male-female">https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/male-female</a>
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Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: <a href="https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/">https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/</a>
Check out some free resources: <a href="https://training.mantalks.com/Quit">How To Quit Porn</a> | <a href="https://training.mantalks.com/Anger">Anger Meditation</a> | <a href="https://training.mantalks.com/how-to-lead-in-your-relationship">How To Lead In Your Relationship</a><a href="https://mantalks.com/mslp/"></a>
Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out <a href="https://mantalks.com/the-alliance">The Alliance</a>. 
Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on <a href="https://mantalks.com/applepodcasts">Apple Podcasts</a>, <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/the-mantalks-podcast">Stitcher</a>, or <a href="https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/mantalks-podcast-1242514">Podchaser</a>. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the <a href="https://mantalks.com/">ManTalks Community</a>, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mantalks-podcast-inspiring/id1015078747?mt=2">Apple Podcasts</a> | <a href="https://mantalks.com/googlepodcasts">Google Podcasts</a>  | <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/7pERITPtcg832IOwgZCF6x?si=7cgdOfmNQ8u2rZ4ovTP92A">Spotify</a>
For more episodes, visit us at <a href="https://mantalks.com/">ManTalks.com</a> | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/ManTalks.ca/">Facebook</a> | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mantalks/?hl=en">Instagram</a> | <a href="https://twitter.com/mantalks">Twitter</a> | and yes, even <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@mantalks">TikTok</a>

David C. Geary - The Evolution Of Sex Differences In The Brain & Vulnerability

Talking points: mindset, relationships

The biggest video I launched in 2023 is called "De-Sexualizing My Brain Changed My Life". Naturally, I've gotten a lot of followup comments and questions about what my life has looked like since I started that process. TL;DR: it's a good thing. Here's why.

(00:00:00) - Intro and noting some of the comments that have been made
(00:01:26) - This isn’t about becoming a monk, it’s about having better control and influence
(00:04:58) - Remember, social media is there to grab your attention. It’ll use sex for that
(00:06:52) - I am WAY less stressed—and for one significant reason
(00:08:59) - I have much, much cleaner conversations with women AND it reinforces the relationship I’m in
(00:11:07) - It’s led to the woman that I’m with feeling safer

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify

For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok

Talking points: mindset, relationships
The biggest video I launched in 2023 is called "De-Sexualizing My Brain Changed My Life". Naturally, I've gotten a lot of followup comments and questions about what my life has looked like since I started that process. TL;DR: it's a good thing. Here's why.
(00:00:00) - Intro and noting some of the comments that have been made (00:01:26) - This isn’t about becoming a monk, it’s about having better control and influence (00:04:58) - Remember, social media is there to grab your attention. It’ll use sex for that (00:06:52) - I am WAY less stressed—and for one significant reason (00:08:59) - I have much, much cleaner conversations with women AND it reinforces the relationship I’m in (00:11:07) - It’s led to the woman that I’m with feeling safer
<hr>
Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: <a href="https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/">https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/</a>
Check out some free resources: <a href="https://training.mantalks.com/Quit">How To Quit Porn</a> | <a href="https://training.mantalks.com/Anger">Anger Meditation</a> | <a href="https://training.mantalks.com/how-to-lead-in-your-relationship">How To Lead In Your Relationship</a><a href="https://mantalks.com/mslp/"></a>
Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out <a href="https://mantalks.com/the-alliance">The Alliance</a>. 
Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on <a href="https://mantalks.com/applepodcasts">Apple Podcasts</a>, <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/the-mantalks-podcast">Stitcher</a>, or <a href="https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/mantalks-podcast-1242514">Podchaser</a>. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the <a href="https://mantalks.com/">ManTalks Community</a>, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mantalks-podcast-inspiring/id1015078747?mt=2">Apple Podcasts</a> | <a href="https://mantalks.com/googlepodcasts">Google Podcasts</a>  | <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/7pERITPtcg832IOwgZCF6x?si=7cgdOfmNQ8u2rZ4ovTP92A">Spotify</a>
For more episodes, visit us at <a href="https://mantalks.com/">ManTalks.com</a> | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/ManTalks.ca/">Facebook</a> | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mantalks/?hl=en">Instagram</a> | <a href="https://twitter.com/mantalks">Twitter</a> | and yes, even <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@mantalks">TikTok</a>

Life After De-Sexualizing My Brain (And What To Do)

Talking points: porn, masculinity, culture, redpill, relationships, dating, anxiety, mental health, loneliness

Every January, we get a spike of newcomers to the podcast, and this year I decided to give them a warm welcome by compiling some of the hardest-hitting and most popular episodes of the year.

If you're new to the show, dig in and see what convos mattered most to the community. If you're a longtime listener, now may be the chance to catch something you missed!

(00:00:00) - Stirling Cooper on how porn impacts a man in the bedroom
(00:04:46) - Advice for talking to your son about porn
(00:10:43) - Scott Galloway on how the conversation around men is shifting, and why
(00:13:21) - The knock-on effects of what men are struggling with
(00:10:26) - Again, NOT saying this is wrong, but what are we creating further down the line?
(00:11:40) - You can already see some consequences in the data
(00:19:13) - A new definition of masculinity
(00:26:42) - Scott on why guys like Andrew Tate are so popular
(00:31:21) - Jillian Turecki on helping a partner through hardship, grief, and regret
(00:39:17) - What goes into choosing a partner—and why we sometimes choose the wrong one
(00:49:19) - The Disneyfication of modern relationships 
(00:52:20) - John Delony on the correlation between body disconnection and anxiety
(00:56:16) - John’s definition of anxiety
(01:00:53) - Do men have different things generally making them anxious?
(01:05:09) - Loneliness CAUSES anxiety

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify

For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok

Talking points: porn, masculinity, culture, redpill, relationships, dating, anxiety, mental health, loneliness
Every January, we get a spike of newcomers to the podcast, and this year I decided to give them a warm welcome by compiling some of the hardest-hitting and most popular episodes of the year.
If you're new to the show, dig in and see what convos mattered most to the community. If you're a longtime listener, now may be the chance to catch something you missed!
(00:00:00) - Stirling Cooper on how porn impacts a man in the bedroom (00:04:46) - Advice for talking to your son about porn (00:10:43) - Scott Galloway on how the conversation around men is shifting, and why (00:13:21) - The knock-on effects of what men are struggling with (00:10:26) - Again, NOT saying this is wrong, but what are we creating further down the line? (00:11:40) - You can already see some consequences in the data (00:19:13) - A new definition of masculinity (00:26:42) - Scott on why guys like Andrew Tate are so popular (00:31:21) - Jillian Turecki on helping a partner through hardship, grief, and regret (00:39:17) - What goes into choosing a partner—and why we sometimes choose the wrong one (00:49:19) - The Disneyfication of modern relationships  (00:52:20) - John Delony on the correlation between body disconnection and anxiety (00:56:16) - John’s definition of anxiety (01:00:53) - Do men have different things generally making them anxious? (01:05:09) - Loneliness CAUSES anxiety
<hr>
Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: <a href="https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/">https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/</a>
Check out some free resources: <a href="https://training.mantalks.com/Quit">How To Quit Porn</a> | <a href="https://training.mantalks.com/Anger">Anger Meditation</a> | <a href="https://training.mantalks.com/how-to-lead-in-your-relationship">How To Lead In Your Relationship</a><a href="https://mantalks.com/mslp/"></a>
Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out <a href="https://mantalks.com/the-alliance">The Alliance</a>. 
Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on <a href="https://mantalks.com/applepodcasts">Apple Podcasts</a>, <a href="https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/the-mantalks-podcast">Stitcher</a>, or <a href="https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/mantalks-podcast-1242514">Podchaser</a>. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the <a href="https://mantalks.com/">ManTalks Community</a>, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mantalks-podcast-inspiring/id1015078747?mt=2">Apple Podcasts</a> | <a href="https://mantalks.com/googlepodcasts">Google Podcasts</a>  | <a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/7pERITPtcg832IOwgZCF6x?si=7cgdOfmNQ8u2rZ4ovTP92A">Spotify</a>
For more episodes, visit us at <a href="https://mantalks.com/">ManTalks.com</a> | <a href="https://www.facebook.com/ManTalks.ca/">Facebook</a> | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/mantalks/?hl=en">Instagram</a> | <a href="https://twitter.com/mantalks">Twitter</a> | and yes, even <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@mantalks">TikTok</a>

Men's Work Session - Confronting Unresolved Abandonment

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