You're a bitch and that's why we lack community. A brutal essay has exposed how we've all become selfish in the name of self-care, and some of us are feeling a little bit attacked. Mia, Jessie and Em Vernem discuss the idea of the small favour economy and why asking your friend for a rise to the airport is more valuable than you realise.

Plus, is anyone else feeling increasingly tricked by artificial intelligence? You're not alone. We tell you the sneaky ways even real estate agents are using AI for marketing tactics. And Em Vernem shares her own hilarious experience of being fooled by AI.

Also, it's time to 'lock in' and 'crash out'. We explain the new vocab you're about to see everywhere.

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you’re a bitch, and that’s why we lack community
Why Tot Celebrity Ms. Rachel Waded Into the Gaza Debate
'I was raised in a "guess family" then married into an "ask family". It blew my mind.'
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We all have 6 different types of friends in our lives. Which one are you?

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Executive Producer: Emeline Gazilas

Audio Producer: Leah Porges

Video Producer: Josh Green

Junior Content Producers: Coco & Tessa

Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

You're a bitch and that's why we lack community. A brutal essay has exposed how we've all become selfish in the name of self-care, and some of us are feeling a little bit attacked. Mia, Jessie and Em Vernem discuss the idea of the small favour economy and why asking your friend for a rise to the airport is more valuable than you realise.
Plus, is anyone else feeling increasingly tricked by artificial intelligence? You're not alone. We tell you the sneaky ways even real estate agents are using AI for marketing tactics. And Em Vernem shares her own hilarious experience of being fooled by AI.
Also, it's time to 'lock in' and 'crash out'. We explain the new vocab you're about to see everywhere.
<a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribe/?utm_source=shownotes&amp;utm_medium=podcast&amp;utm_campaign=mmol">Support independent women's media</a>
Recommendations
Mia recommends&nbsp;<a href="https://www.youtube.com/@msrachel">Ms Rachel</a> on Youtube.
Jessie recommends <a href="https://go.skimresources.com?id=53410X1291869&amp;xs=1&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.netflix.com%2Fau%2Ftitle%2F81700898">American Manhunt: Osama Bin Laden</a> on Netflix
Em recommends <a href="https://go.skimresources.com?id=53410X1291869&amp;xs=1&amp;url=https%3A%2F%2Ftbhskincare.com%2Fproducts%2Fbody-spritz%3F">TBH skincare body spritz&nbsp;</a>
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<li aria-level="1">Listen to our latest episode: <a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/family-dynamic-dilemmas/?utm_source=shownotes&amp;utm_medium=podcast&amp;utm_campaign=mmol">When Your Family Is The Problem</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Listen: <a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/">A Child Care Worker, An Arrest &amp; The Backlash Against Male Educators</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Listen: <a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/leaderboard-of-cool/?utm_source=shownotes&amp;utm_medium=podcast&amp;utm_campaign=mmol">The Leaderboard Of Cool</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Listen: <a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/bezos-wedding">The Bezos Wedding Was A Very Rich Text</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Listen:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/diary-of-a-ceo-feminism">Absolutely Everything Is Feminism&rsquo;s Fault!</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Listen:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/dilemma-inheritance-fight/?utm_source=shownotes&amp;amp;utm_medium=podcast&amp;amp;utm_campaign=mmol">An Inheritance Dilemma and A Surprise Third Baby</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Askers v Guessers: <a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/adelaide-mother-confronts-school-bully/">The Bully, The Mum &amp; The Aftermath Of A Viral Video</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Parenting Out Loud: <a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/this-glorious-mess/parenting-out-loud-ms-rachel-controversy">The Ms Rachel Controversy &amp; The Great Kids Vs Friendships Debate</a></li>
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What to read:&nbsp;
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<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://personalscriptures.substack.com/p/youre-a-bitch-and-thats-why-we-lack">you&rsquo;re a bitch, and that&rsquo;s why we lack community</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2025/05/14/arts/television/ms-rachel-gaza-israel.html">Why Tot Celebrity Ms. Rachel Waded Into the Gaza Debate</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/ask-and-guess-culture/">'I was raised in a "guess family" then married into an "ask family". It blew my mind.'</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/family-rent-sydney/">'I applied for a rental home as a single parent. The agent's response crushed me.'</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/save-money-while-renting/">How to save money while renting, but still have nice things.</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/flaking-on-social-events/">Flakiness is out of control at the moment.</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/different-types-of-friends/">We all have 6 different types of friends in our lives. Which one are you?</a><a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/how-to-stop-being-people-pleasers/"></a></li>
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Group Executive Producer: Ruth Devine
Executive Producer: Emeline Gazilas
Audio Producer: Leah Porges
Video Producer: Josh Green
Junior Content Producers: Coco &amp; Tessa
Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Australia's #1 podcast for women is where smart women come for good conversation — with an occasional side serve of chaos. Covering news, pop culture and big ideas, plus the small stuff that matters, Mamamia Out Loud is hosted by journalists and authors Mia Freedman, Jessie Stephens and Holly Wainwright. It's your daily dose of conversation that's like catching up with your best, funniest and sharpest friends in the group chat, offering conversation at its most addictive.

Australia's #1 podcast for women is where smart women come for good conversation &mdash; with an occasional side serve of chaos. Covering news, pop culture and big ideas, plus the small stuff that matters, Mamamia Out Loud is hosted by journalists and authors Mia Freedman, Jessie Stephens and Holly Wainwright. It's your daily dose of conversation that's like catching up with your best, funniest and sharpest friends in the group chat, offering conversation at its most addictive.

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You’re A Bitch, And That’s Why We Lack Community

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