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There's a new species of male that's captured Amelia's attention. He's a literature loving, matcha drinking, standup guy that seems to capture the female gaze perfectly. Except: none of it's real. The Performative Man is faking it. La Lester explains.
Plus, we have to revisit the Coldplay kiss cam cheating scandal. The latest update changes EVERYTHING, and now? Well, now Jessie wants to renew her wedding vows.&nbsp;
And, welcome to The Great Lock In. It's your chance to put the last remaining months before the New Year to good use. But a certain Stacey Hicks confesses she would much prefer to Lock Out instead. So, why do all our goals suddenly feel urgent, and what's a lazy gewl to do when everyone's obsessed with self-optimisation?
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<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/what-is-shrekking/">'I date men less attractive than me. Here's what people get wrong.'</a></li>
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<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/coldplay-concert-affair/">It was the 'affair' that broke the internet. Nobody saw Astronomer's next move coming.</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/coldplay-concert-affair-my-story/">'Like the woman we&rsquo;re thinking about after the "affair" video, I was the wife who was left behind.'</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/long-distance-betrayal/">'I confronted my cheating partner. Then my phone pinged with something I never saw coming.'</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/how-to-fix-brain-rot/">'I grew up being called the smart girl. No one warned me what could happen next.'</a></li>
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Why Every Goal Suddenly Feels Urgent (and What Lazy Gewls Do Next)

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