Happy Monday, Outlouders — we’ve got a juicy little treat for you. Usually reserved for subscribers, we’re dropping this one into your feed because… well, you deserve it.

As the seasons change, so apparently must our entire wardrobes. Again. It’s a lot.

In this episode, Mia and Jessie are joined by the glorious Amelia Lester to unpack the pressure to be 'effortlessness'. 

We’re talking:


The ‘I Woke Up Like This’ lie. Nope, your hair did not do that on its own.


Why pretending not to try is somehow the most work of all


How the effortless aesthetic has crept into fashion, parenting, relationships, work… you name it, it's got to be without a hint of trying.

It’s a full-time job to look like you’re not working at anything. And we’re officially over it.

The End Bits

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Happy Monday, Outlouders &mdash; we&rsquo;ve got a juicy little treat for you. Usually reserved for subscribers, we&rsquo;re dropping this one into your feed because&hellip; well, you deserve it.
As the seasons change, so apparently must our entire wardrobes. Again. It&rsquo;s a lot.
In this episode, Mia and Jessie are joined by the glorious Amelia Lester to unpack the pressure to be 'effortlessness'.&nbsp;
We&rsquo;re talking:
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The &lsquo;I Woke Up Like This&rsquo; lie. Nope, your hair did&nbsp;not do that on its own.
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Why pretending not to try is somehow the most work of all
</li>
<li data-start="726" data-end="828">
How the effortless aesthetic has crept into fashion, parenting, relationships, work&hellip; you name it, it's got to be without a hint of trying.
</li>
</ul>
It&rsquo;s a full-time job to look like you&rsquo;re not working at anything. And we&rsquo;re officially over it.
The End Bits
<a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/subscribe/?utm_source=shownotes&amp;utm_medium=podcast&amp;utm_campaign=mmol&amp;utm_content=black-friday&amp;code=OUTLOUDFRIDAY">Support independent women's media</a>
<a href="https://www.outloudlive.com.au/">Get your tickets to the Mamamia Out Loud Live 2025 All or Nothing Tour Presented By Nivea Cellular&nbsp;</a>
<a href="https://www.mamamiaoutloud.com.au/store">Don't miss out on your merch for Mamamia Out Loud</a>
What To Listen To Next:&nbsp;
<ul>
<li aria-level="1">Listen to our latest episode: <a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/today-at-apple-mamamia-out-loud-10-years">This Special Live Show Recording Spilt 10 Years of Tea</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Listen:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/changing-careers-vera-wang/?utm_source=shownotes&amp;utm_medium=podcast&amp;utm_campaign=mmol">The Exact Science To Keep On Enjoying Your Job</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Listen:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/liberal-party-diss-track-leaving-labor">A Very 2025 Diss Track. No Notes.</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Listen:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/clare-stephens/?utm_source=shownotes&amp;utm_medium=podcast&amp;utm_campaign=mmol">Clare Stephens - We Have Questions</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Listen:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/jojo-siwa-mickey-rourke-celebrity-big-brother/">A Reality TV Showdown &amp; Coachella's Three Levels Of Cool</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Listen: <a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/the-age-of-diagnosis-and-de-diagnosis/">I&rsquo;d Like To Give My Diagnosis Back</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Listen:&nbsp;<a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/rules-of-friendship-catch-ups/?utm_source=shownotes&amp;utm_medium=podcast&amp;utm_campaign=mmol">The Three Rules For Friendship Catch-Ups</a><a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/hot-mess-woman-bridget-jones"></a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Listen:<a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/the-ick-of-old-friends-the-most-hated-woman-on-the-internet/"> The "Ick" Of Old Friends &amp; The Most Hated Woman On The Internet</a></li>
<li aria-level="1">Listen: <a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/podcasts/mamamia-out-loud/the-white-lotus-season-3-finale/?utm_source=shownotes&amp;utm_medium=podcast&amp;utm_campaign=mmol">"We're Not OK" - The White Lotus Season 3 FinaleSubscribe</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/au/channel/mamamia/id6442502456?ign-itscg=80085&amp;ign-itsct=pod_cha_mamam332_NA">Connect your subscription to Apple Podcasts&nbsp;</a></li>
</ul>
Sign up to the<a href="https://mamamiaoutloud.substack.com/"> Mamamia Out Loud Newsletter</a> for all our recommendations and behind-the-scenes content in one place.&nbsp;
What To Read:&nbsp;
<ul>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/mamamia-out-loud-live-tickets/">Everything you need to know about the Mamamia Out Loud ALL OR NOTHING TOUR coming May 2025</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/gold-or-silver-jewellery-skintone/">There's a foolproof way to figure out if you're a gold or silver jewellery girly.</a></li>
<li aria-level="1"><a href="https://www.mamamia.com.au/effortless-style-myth/">The 'effortless style' myth is the reason you can't get dressed.</a></li>
</ul>
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Feedback? We&rsquo;re listening. Send us an email at outloud@mamamia.com.au
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Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Australia's #1 podcast for women is where smart women come for good conversation — with an occasional side serve of chaos. Covering news, pop culture and big ideas, plus the small stuff that matters, Mamamia Out Loud is hosted by journalists and authors Mia Freedman, Jessie Stephens and Holly Wainwright. It's your daily dose of conversation that's like catching up with your best, funniest and sharpest friends in the group chat, offering conversation at its most addictive.

Australia's #1 podcast for women is where smart women come for good conversation &mdash; with an occasional side serve of chaos. Covering news, pop culture and big ideas, plus the small stuff that matters, Mamamia Out Loud is hosted by journalists and authors Mia Freedman, Jessie Stephens and Holly Wainwright. It's your daily dose of conversation that's like catching up with your best, funniest and sharpest friends in the group chat, offering conversation at its most addictive.

A weekly podcast that's smart, often silly and sometimes surprising.

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Another Little Treat: The Tyranny Of Looking Like You Haven't Tried

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