In this deeply personal solo episode of Leading You, Julie unpacks a quiet but powerful crisis many high performers face: the moment they realise they’ve become a stranger to themselves.

This isn’t just about burnout. It’s about identity. About tying our worth to achievement, KPIs, and how much we can juggle without falling apart.

Julie shares her own story of hitting that wall—and the uncomfortable but life-changing reflection that followed. If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Who am I when I’m not delivering, achieving, or proving?”—this episode is for you.

Whether you’re in a season of change, navigating self-doubt, or simply feeling disconnected from your leadership voice, this is a powerful invitation to pause, reflect, and reset.

In this episode, we cover:
The subconscious patterns that keep high achievers in proving mode
Why leadership burnout is more about disconnection than capacity
What happens when you outgrow your identity—but keep wearing the same jacket
The real cost of shrinking to fit outdated versions of yourself
The power of pressing pause and asking: Who am I now?
Practical prompts to help you reconnect with your true leadership identity
Why clarity creates courage—and how to find yours

 

Episode Timestamps:
00:00 – Introduction and episode context
01:00 – The dangerous link between achievement and identity
02:15 – Why high performers get stuck in the “doing equals value” loop
03:45 – The moment I realised I didn’t know myself outside of my work
05:00 – How proving becomes a silent addiction for many leaders
06:30 – The concept of “oversized jackets” and outdated self-images
08:15 – When we outgrow roles but stay because of fear or guilt
09:30 – The emotional and energetic cost of shrinking to fit
10:45 – What happens when we finally press pause and reflect
11:30 – The questions I asked to reconnect with my leadership self
12:15 – How clarity gives you the courage to choose differently
13:00 – Shifting from performance to presence in leadership
14:00 – A call to stop apologising for outgrowing where you are
15:00 – Wrap-up, reflection prompt, and next steps

 

Links:
Get the Clarity Compass Mini Program

Connect with Julie:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/
Instagram:@juliehydeleads
Website: https://juliehyde.com.au

In this deeply personal solo episode of Leading You, Julie unpacks a quiet but powerful crisis many high performers face: the moment they realise they&rsquo;ve become a stranger to themselves.
This isn&rsquo;t just about burnout. It&rsquo;s about identity. About tying our worth to achievement, KPIs, and how much we can juggle without falling apart.
Julie shares her own story of hitting that wall&mdash;and the uncomfortable but life-changing reflection that followed. If you&rsquo;ve ever asked yourself, &ldquo;Who am I when I&rsquo;m not delivering, achieving, or proving?&rdquo;&mdash;this episode is for you.
Whether you&rsquo;re in a season of change, navigating self-doubt, or simply feeling disconnected from your leadership voice, this is a powerful invitation to pause, reflect, and reset.
In this episode, we cover:
<ul>
<li>The subconscious patterns that keep high achievers in proving mode</li>
<li>Why leadership burnout is more about disconnection than capacity</li>
<li>What happens when you outgrow your identity&mdash;but keep wearing the same jacket</li>
<li>The real cost of shrinking to fit outdated versions of yourself</li>
<li>The power of pressing pause and asking: Who am I now?</li>
<li>Practical prompts to help you reconnect with your true leadership identity</li>
<li>Why clarity creates courage&mdash;and how to find yours</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Episode Timestamps:
<ul>
<li>00:00 &ndash; Introduction and episode context</li>
<li>01:00 &ndash; The dangerous link between achievement and identity</li>
<li>02:15 &ndash; Why high performers get stuck in the &ldquo;doing equals value&rdquo; loop</li>
<li>03:45 &ndash; The moment I realised I didn&rsquo;t know myself outside of my work</li>
<li>05:00 &ndash; How proving becomes a silent addiction for many leaders</li>
<li>06:30 &ndash; The concept of &ldquo;oversized jackets&rdquo; and outdated self-images</li>
<li>08:15 &ndash; When we outgrow roles but stay because of fear or guilt</li>
<li>09:30 &ndash; The emotional and energetic cost of shrinking to fit</li>
<li>10:45 &ndash; What happens when we finally press pause and reflect</li>
<li>11:30 &ndash; The questions I asked to reconnect with my leadership self</li>
<li>12:15 &ndash; How clarity gives you the courage to choose differently</li>
<li>13:00 &ndash; Shifting from performance to presence in leadership</li>
<li>14:00 &ndash; A call to stop apologising for outgrowing where you are</li>
<li>15:00 &ndash; Wrap-up, reflection prompt, and next steps</li>
</ul>
&nbsp;
Links: Get the&nbsp;<a href="https://programs.juliehyde.com.au/programs/claritycompass/">Clarity Compass Mini Program</a>
Connect with Julie: LinkedIn: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/" data-href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/">https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-hyde/</a> Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/juliehydeleads/" data-href="https://www.instagram.com/juliehydeleads/"> @juliehydeleads</a> Website:&nbsp;<a href="https://juliehyde.com.au">https://juliehyde.com.au</a>

Want to know the secret to confident and successful leadership?

Every week, Leading You showcases leadership of all kinds and you get the scoop on how to be an effective, modern leader who makes an impact.

There’s one thing we all have in common. We’re all leaders. First and foremost, you’re a leader of you. You don’t need a title to be a leader. Leadership is a mindset which anyone can adopt to create influence. The more leaders the world has, the better it will be.

I'll let you into something I know to be true - You can’t be a leader of others unless you’re a leader of self first. So if you want to have impact that leads to prosperity and happiness, it all starts with you. With your mindset and personal leadership toolbox, which Leading You will help you build up.

Leading you is hosted by Julie Hyde, an entrepreneur, corporate drop out and passionate leader. Julie knows one thing: you can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you respond. It’s why Leading You is important.

Each week, guests share their secret sauce. They reveal their roadmaps to success. How they’ve stayed anchored to who they are, insights into their courage and resilience and how to be emotionally and behaviourally agile. It’s a conversation, not an interrogation, and you’ll hear the human side of household names.

Want to know the secret to confident and successful leadership?
Every week, Leading You showcases leadership of all kinds and you get the scoop on how to be an effective, modern leader who makes an impact.
There’s one thing we all have in common. We’re all leaders. First and foremost, you’re a leader of you. You don’t need a title to be a leader. Leadership is a mindset which anyone can adopt to create influence. The more leaders the world has, the better it will be.
I'll let you into something I know to be true - You can’t be a leader of others unless you’re a leader of self first. So if you want to have impact that leads to prosperity and happiness, it all starts with you. With your mindset and personal leadership toolbox, which Leading You will help you build up.
Leading you is hosted by Julie Hyde, an entrepreneur, corporate drop out and passionate leader. Julie knows one thing: you can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you respond. It’s why Leading You is important.
Each week, guests share their secret sauce. They reveal their roadmaps to success. How they’ve stayed anchored to who they are, insights into their courage and resilience and how to be emotionally and behaviourally agile. It’s a conversation, not an interrogation, and you’ll hear the human side of household names.

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Leading You

Want to know the secret to confident and successful leadership?
Every week, Leading You showcases leadership of all kinds and you get the scoop on how to be an effective, modern leader who makes an impact.
There’s one thing we all have in common. We’re all leaders. First and foremost, you’re a leader of you. You don’t need a title to be a leader. Leadership is a mindset which anyone can adopt to create influence. The more leaders the world has, the better it will be.
I'll let you into something I know to be true - You can’t be a leader of others unless you’re a leader of self first. So if you want to have impact that leads to prosperity and happiness, it all starts with you. With your mindset and personal leadership toolbox, which Leading You will help you build up.
Leading you is hosted by Julie Hyde, an entrepreneur, corporate drop out and passionate leader. Julie knows one thing: you can’t control what happens to you but you can control how you respond. It’s why Leading You is important.
Each week, guests share their secret sauce. They reveal their roadmaps to success. How they’ve stayed anchored to who they are, insights into their courage and resilience and how to be emotionally and behaviourally agile. It’s a conversation, not an interrogation, and you’ll hear the human side of household names.

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